October 27, 2022 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 29 year old married makeup artist and my husband is a handsome businessman. We got married a month ago and I was hesitant because I saw signs of him being a groupie. Groupie may not be the right word, but he is intrigued by celebrities. When we watch TV, he talks like a woman would, saying stuff about the actress’ hair and outfit. Here’s why I can’t understand my husband…...........
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
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know it could be yours. So write us. We'd love
(00:22):
to help you, and we would love to help buckle
up and hold on tight. We got it for you here.
It is Strawberry Letter subject. I'm married a groupie. Dear
Stephen Shirley. I'm a twenty nine year old married makeup
artist and my husband is a handsome businessman. We got
married a month ago and I was hesitant because I
saw signs of him being a groupie. Groupie may not
(00:45):
be the right word, but he is intrigued by celebrities.
When we watch TV, he talks like a woman would,
saying stuff about the actress's hair and outfit. Here's why
I can't understand my husband. We are planning a trip
to well l and he's been calling his cousin, who's
a publicist in LA, to find out what clubs are
popping and which restaurant will have the celebrities in it.
(01:08):
I think it is okay to want to get the
LA experience, but that's not for him to set up.
That's my job. He jokes that if he runs into
one of his Hollywood girlfriends like Truci, Caruci, Tran or Sierra,
he will leave me standing on the street. I have
the best sense of humor, but this isn't funny to me.
If I said that about Michael B. Jordan, he would
(01:30):
be very upset. The other night, we were having dinner
and lots of drinks. He opened up and admitted that
he fantasizes about various black actresses. While we're intimate. I
went as low as I could and I admitted that
I slept with the famous comedian three years before we
got married. Shocked, he asked if I was joking and
(01:53):
I said no. He got up from the table and
left me sitting there. I drove so he had to
call an uber. It's been an ongoing argument since that
night because he can't believe I slept with a celebrity
and never told him. I told him it was sex
with a normal man, but he just happened to be famous.
(02:13):
That made it worse? Did it hurt his ego more
because I had sex with a celebrity? Please help? Okay, really, really,
this is crazy. Your problem may have started about celebrities,
but you rule are just trying to hurt each other now,
it seems. And if you keep that up, your marriage
is going to be in trouble. It's too soon for
all of that. It's only been a month. This is
(02:36):
really petty stuff. You're fighting over celebrities, okay. And rule
number one in case you don't know, is don't try
to get back at your man by telling him you
slept with someone famous or not. But I don't know.
It seems like since he's so into celebrities, it may
have been okay if you had told him he was famous.
(02:56):
I don't know. But men are They're not able to
get past when you tell them you slept with someone, okay,
especially if you slept with a lot of people and
all of that. So just you know, word to the wise,
don't do that anymore. It doesn't matter if it was
three years or thirty years ago. That's just not what
you say. And yes, since you asked, you did hurt Zeco,
But I know you were hurt too about his fan
(03:19):
boying out over all of his celebrity crushes Kruchi, Tran
and Sierra. He said he would leave you standing on
the street if he saw them. Ouch. That does hurt.
So you hit him back hard with your sleeping with
the celebrity thing. The problem is is that you guys, again,
are just fighting over petty stuff. These things are not
worth losing your marriage over. He's into celebrities. You're not
(03:42):
that into celebrities. That's the whole problem in your marriage. Celebrities.
I mean, you know, you guys can still go to
La have a great time. There's plenty of stuff to
see there besides celebrities, but that is the LA experience.
If you've never been before, you do want to go
with a celebrit These go and hang out where they go.
(04:03):
You know, Sierra, by the way, is in Denver with
her husband, Russell Wilson. So you know, I don't see
this as a major problem, but I see it growing
into a bigger problem if you guys don't nip it
in the bud right now. Steve, this let us so stupid. Yeah,
(04:25):
the letter really is her husband though, the problem is him.
This twenty nine year old married makeup artist, and you say,
your husband's a handsome business man. They've been married a
month ago, and she said she was hesitant because she
saw signs that he was a groupie, because he's intrigued
(04:46):
by celebrities. Now, this is a tale tale when we
watch TV, he talks like a woman who was saying
stuff about the actor's hand outfit. Oh, that is called
a glitch. That's what's called a glitch in a man.
When you as a woman saying he talks like a
(05:07):
woman wood saying stuff about actress hand outfit, then that's
a glitch. And then she goes on to say, here's
why I can't understand my husband. Y'all planner trip to La.
He's been calling his cousin, who's a publicist in lady
to find out the club just popping, which restaurant will
have celebrities in it. I think it's okay to want
(05:28):
to go to La, but that's not for him to
set up. That's my job. He jokes that if he
runs into one of his Hollywood girlfriends, like or whoever
that lady is trying and Sierra, he gonna leave me
standing in the street. I can't believe he said this
to his wife, and it don't stop that. This is
how dumb this dude is. I have the best sense
(05:50):
of humor, but this isn't funny to me. And if
I said that about Michael B. Jordan, he'd be upsetting.
Other night, they having dinner and they had a lot
of dreams. He opened up admitted that he fantasizes about
various black actresses while we're intimate. What wait a minute,
he said that to you to his wife, lady, I
(06:11):
don't even know why you married this guy. The signs
of that you saw early on, they must have been glaring,
because for him to said of being say this and
now I went as low as I could, and I
admit that I slept with a famous comedian three years ago.
Now that's when I quit listening to the letter damned
in black out. Yeah, I said, what where we're going
with this deal? But then you said three years ago?
(06:32):
And I said, okay, cool, can't be me. But then
scared me though, when you said a famous comedian, I'm
pretty sure Tommy locked up in a couple. That's what
was going hang't gunna see We'll have Vert two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour,
Today's Strawberry Letters subject I married a groupie. We'll get
back into it right after this. You're listening to Steve
(06:54):
Harvey Morning Show, like, come on, famous comedian. Let's recap
today's Strawberry Letter. The subject there is I married a groupie.
Yeah you did, lady. You got a man that has
a glitch. When you're watching TV. He talks like a
woman who was saying stuff about the actress hand out
and then y'all playing on a trip to La. He
(07:15):
got a cousin that's the public this he's been calling
him to ask of what clubs is popping and where
do the celebrities have on. Then he told you if
he ran up into one of the celebrity crutches, he'll
leave crushes. He'll leave you standing in the middle of
the street. I don't know who says this today, wife,
but this food did. Now you said that y'all was
having drinks one time, and he opened up and admitted
(07:37):
that he fantasizes about various black actresses while we're intimate.
I can't believe this guy right here, man, this boy's stupid.
I went as low as I could, and I admitted
that I slept with a famous comedian three years before
we got married. Immediately I went into shock because I'm thinking.
(08:04):
She then wrote to Steve Harvey morta show, what could
this be about? But then she said, three years before
we got married and they only been married a month.
So the cool that released me. I'm pretty sure Tommy
locked up. But Tommy, that releases you too, So shock.
He asked if I was joking. I said, hell, now,
I ain't playing. I slept with him. He got up
(08:27):
from the table and left me sitting there. Well, he
did say. Now, he did say if he saw his
favorite female crush, he would leave you in the middle
of the street. So his coping skills is leaving. He
got off from the table, he left you sitting there.
I drove, so he had to call Uber. Been an
on argument, on going argument since that night. He can't
(08:51):
believe I slept with the celebrity and never told him.
I told him it was sex with the normal man.
But he just happened to be famous, that's all. It
was just sex with a normal man. He just happened
to be famous. That made it worse. Did it hurt
(09:11):
his ego? More because I had sex with a celebrity,
Please help it hurt his ego because he's stupid. See,
he wants to tell you about his fantasize or what
other women. While y'all intimate, He tells you if he
see a certain woman in the street, he'll run to
or leave you standing there. But the moment you open
(09:34):
up and you're honest by something you did, you crushed him.
And the reason you crushed him is because he knows
he will never be a select So now in his mind,
his stupid ass, because that's what he wants. He now
know that's what you want. His was a fantasy, yours
(09:59):
was reality. Oh that's a cold slap in the face. Oh,
when you're thinking about who you can sleep with, your
wife turned around and tell you who she done slept with?
Whoa thinking and doing this two different things. The letter
actually turned out to be good. I have no answer
for you in this letter because I really don't care.
I don't because he has everything that's coming his way.
(10:22):
All this is getting up walking from the table, threatened
to leave you in the middle of the street if
he met sire, and all this here. Hey man, dog,
you now you got to deal with everything you did.
And the reason you wrote this letter is because you've
been annoyed and upset with him so many times. Now
he upset. He got what he got coming. He deserved
right right to be where he is because he started this.
(10:48):
Sometimes you have to leave a man laying in the
bed that he made time. Sometimes you have to leave
a man laying in the bed that he mate stop
trying to make the bed up. Letter, hear it. You
can't make a bed or while he in it. This
is an enjoyable letter. Thank you for writing me. It's
(11:12):
a teaching moment. It gives us a chance to look
at it and thank to ourselves. You know what, I
bet not ever do that. Yes, famous comedian, you know
what I'm saying. This is a glorious moment. I'm so grateful.
(11:33):
It ain't me Lord him, thank you Lord. Yeah, now
she said this letter. I slept with a famous comedian
one time, who I would refuse to mention because we
own this show. Then we wouldn't even have read this
damn letter. We would have picked another one immediately. No
(11:55):
hould have sent this right over the Ricky smiling D. L.
Hugley and let y'all have it. Man, somebody sent this
letter about y'all. We took your name out, which white out.
So that's really it. I don't really have nothing else
to say about this. Let us this dude is a
complete fool and idiot. And you know the I don't
(12:18):
know what to tell you. It's only been married a month. Yeah,
and already this thing came over. Yeah that's that's the yea.
So now he's stupid. All he's gonna try to do
is top you now, but he can't because don't know,
the celebrities won't him. And again, Sierra is in Denver
with her husband Russell Wilson. He gonna be out in
(12:39):
the la y'all ain't gonna be able to Joel y'all said.
He gonna be nose up against the window, having car
like a dog, got his head hanging out to window. Yeah,
doing all of that. Yeah. Well, I hope they make it.
It's only been a month. They're not. It's disastrous right now. Yeah,
(13:01):
it's too petty. Yeah, all right, Well post your comments.
Thank you Steve on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on demand now coming up at forty six
minutes after the hour, it is Junior and Sports Talk.
Right after this, you're listening to The Day Harvey Morning
(13:23):
Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never
know it could be yours. So write us. We'd love
(00:22):
to help you, and we would love to help buckle
up and hold on tight. We got it for you here.
It is Strawberry Letter subject. I'm married a groupie. Dear
Stephen Shirley. I'm a twenty nine year old married makeup
artist and my husband is a handsome businessman. We got
married a month ago and I was hesitant because I
saw signs of him being a groupie. Groupie may not
(00:45):
be the right word, but he is intrigued by celebrities.
When we watch TV, he talks like a woman would,
saying stuff about the actress's hair and outfit. Here's why
I can't understand my husband. We are planning a trip
to well l and he's been calling his cousin, who's
a publicist in LA, to find out what clubs are
popping and which restaurant will have the celebrities in it.
(01:08):
I think it is okay to want to get the
LA experience, but that's not for him to set up.
That's my job. He jokes that if he runs into
one of his Hollywood girlfriends like Truci, Caruci, Tran or Sierra,
he will leave me standing on the street. I have
the best sense of humor, but this isn't funny to me.
If I said that about Michael B. Jordan, he would
(01:30):
be very upset. The other night, we were having dinner
and lots of drinks. He opened up and admitted that
he fantasizes about various black actresses. While we're intimate. I
went as low as I could and I admitted that
I slept with the famous comedian three years before we
got married. Shocked, he asked if I was joking and
(01:53):
I said no. He got up from the table and
left me sitting there. I drove so he had to
call an uber. It's been an ongoing argument since that
night because he can't believe I slept with a celebrity
and never told him. I told him it was sex
with a normal man, but he just happened to be famous.
(02:13):
That made it worse? Did it hurt his ego more
because I had sex with a celebrity? Please help? Okay, really, really,
this is crazy. Your problem may have started about celebrities,
but you rule are just trying to hurt each other now,
it seems. And if you keep that up, your marriage
is going to be in trouble. It's too soon for
all of that. It's only been a month. This is
(02:36):
really petty stuff. You're fighting over celebrities, okay. And rule
number one in case you don't know, is don't try
to get back at your man by telling him you
slept with someone famous or not. But I don't know.
It seems like since he's so into celebrities, it may
have been okay if you had told him he was famous.
(02:56):
I don't know. But men are They're not able to
get past when you tell them you slept with someone, okay,
especially if you slept with a lot of people and
all of that. So just you know, word to the wise,
don't do that anymore. It doesn't matter if it was
three years or thirty years ago. That's just not what
you say. And yes, since you asked, you did hurt Zeco,
But I know you were hurt too about his fan
(03:19):
boying out over all of his celebrity crushes Kruchi, Tran
and Sierra. He said he would leave you standing on
the street if he saw them. Ouch. That does hurt.
So you hit him back hard with your sleeping with
the celebrity thing. The problem is is that you guys, again,
are just fighting over petty stuff. These things are not
worth losing your marriage over. He's into celebrities. You're not
(03:42):
that into celebrities. That's the whole problem in your marriage. Celebrities.
I mean, you know, you guys can still go to
La have a great time. There's plenty of stuff to
see there besides celebrities, but that is the LA experience.
If you've never been before, you do want to go
with a celebrit These go and hang out where they go.
(04:03):
You know, Sierra, by the way, is in Denver with
her husband, Russell Wilson. So you know, I don't see
this as a major problem, but I see it growing
into a bigger problem if you guys don't nip it
in the bud right now. Steve, this let us so stupid. Yeah,
(04:25):
the letter really is her husband though, the problem is him.
This twenty nine year old married makeup artist, and you say,
your husband's a handsome business man. They've been married a
month ago, and she said she was hesitant because she
saw signs that he was a groupie, because he's intrigued
(04:46):
by celebrities. Now, this is a tale tale when we
watch TV, he talks like a woman who was saying
stuff about the actor's hand outfit. Oh, that is called
a glitch. That's what's called a glitch in a man.
When you as a woman saying he talks like a
(05:07):
woman wood saying stuff about actress hand outfit, then that's
a glitch. And then she goes on to say, here's
why I can't understand my husband. Y'all planner trip to La.
He's been calling his cousin, who's a publicist in lady
to find out the club just popping, which restaurant will
have celebrities in it. I think it's okay to want
(05:28):
to go to La, but that's not for him to
set up. That's my job. He jokes that if he
runs into one of his Hollywood girlfriends, like or whoever
that lady is trying and Sierra, he gonna leave me
standing in the street. I can't believe he said this
to his wife, and it don't stop that. This is
how dumb this dude is. I have the best sense
(05:50):
of humor, but this isn't funny to me. And if
I said that about Michael B. Jordan, he'd be upsetting.
Other night, they having dinner and they had a lot
of dreams. He opened up admitted that he fantasizes about
various black actresses while we're intimate. What wait a minute,
he said that to you to his wife, lady, I
(06:11):
don't even know why you married this guy. The signs
of that you saw early on, they must have been glaring,
because for him to said of being say this and
now I went as low as I could, and I
admit that I slept with a famous comedian three years ago.
Now that's when I quit listening to the letter damned
in black out. Yeah, I said, what where we're going
with this deal? But then you said three years ago?
(06:32):
And I said, okay, cool, can't be me. But then
scared me though, when you said a famous comedian, I'm
pretty sure Tommy locked up in a couple. That's what
was going hang't gunna see We'll have Vert two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour,
Today's Strawberry Letters subject I married a groupie. We'll get
back into it right after this. You're listening to Steve
(06:54):
Harvey Morning Show, like, come on, famous comedian. Let's recap
today's Strawberry Letter. The subject there is I married a groupie.
Yeah you did, lady. You got a man that has
a glitch. When you're watching TV. He talks like a
woman who was saying stuff about the actress hand out
and then y'all playing on a trip to La. He
(07:15):
got a cousin that's the public this he's been calling
him to ask of what clubs is popping and where
do the celebrities have on. Then he told you if
he ran up into one of the celebrity crutches, he'll
leave crushes. He'll leave you standing in the middle of
the street. I don't know who says this today, wife,
but this food did. Now you said that y'all was
having drinks one time, and he opened up and admitted
(07:37):
that he fantasizes about various black actresses while we're intimate.
I can't believe this guy right here, man, this boy's stupid.
I went as low as I could, and I admitted
that I slept with a famous comedian three years before
we got married. Immediately I went into shock because I'm thinking.
(08:04):
She then wrote to Steve Harvey morta show, what could
this be about? But then she said, three years before
we got married and they only been married a month.
So the cool that released me. I'm pretty sure Tommy
locked up. But Tommy, that releases you too, So shock.
He asked if I was joking. I said, hell, now,
I ain't playing. I slept with him. He got up
(08:27):
from the table and left me sitting there. Well, he
did say. Now, he did say if he saw his
favorite female crush, he would leave you in the middle
of the street. So his coping skills is leaving. He
got off from the table, he left you sitting there.
I drove, so he had to call Uber. Been an
on argument, on going argument since that night. He can't
(08:51):
believe I slept with the celebrity and never told him.
I told him it was sex with the normal man.
But he just happened to be famous, that's all. It
was just sex with a normal man. He just happened
to be famous. That made it worse. Did it hurt
(09:11):
his ego? More because I had sex with a celebrity,
Please help it hurt his ego because he's stupid. See,
he wants to tell you about his fantasize or what
other women. While y'all intimate, He tells you if he
see a certain woman in the street, he'll run to
or leave you standing there. But the moment you open
(09:34):
up and you're honest by something you did, you crushed him.
And the reason you crushed him is because he knows
he will never be a select So now in his mind,
his stupid ass, because that's what he wants. He now
know that's what you want. His was a fantasy, yours
(09:59):
was reality. Oh that's a cold slap in the face. Oh,
when you're thinking about who you can sleep with, your
wife turned around and tell you who she done slept with?
Whoa thinking and doing this two different things. The letter
actually turned out to be good. I have no answer
for you in this letter because I really don't care.
I don't because he has everything that's coming his way.
(10:22):
All this is getting up walking from the table, threatened
to leave you in the middle of the street if
he met sire, and all this here. Hey man, dog,
you now you got to deal with everything you did.
And the reason you wrote this letter is because you've
been annoyed and upset with him so many times. Now
he upset. He got what he got coming. He deserved
right right to be where he is because he started this.
(10:48):
Sometimes you have to leave a man laying in the
bed that he made time. Sometimes you have to leave
a man laying in the bed that he mate stop
trying to make the bed up. Letter, hear it. You
can't make a bed or while he in it. This
is an enjoyable letter. Thank you for writing me. It's
(11:12):
a teaching moment. It gives us a chance to look
at it and thank to ourselves. You know what, I
bet not ever do that. Yes, famous comedian, you know
what I'm saying. This is a glorious moment. I'm so grateful.
(11:33):
It ain't me Lord him, thank you Lord. Yeah, now
she said this letter. I slept with a famous comedian
one time, who I would refuse to mention because we
own this show. Then we wouldn't even have read this
damn letter. We would have picked another one immediately. No
(11:55):
hould have sent this right over the Ricky smiling D. L.
Hugley and let y'all have it. Man, somebody sent this
letter about y'all. We took your name out, which white out.
So that's really it. I don't really have nothing else
to say about this. Let us this dude is a
complete fool and idiot. And you know the I don't
(12:18):
know what to tell you. It's only been married a month. Yeah,
and already this thing came over. Yeah that's that's the yea.
So now he's stupid. All he's gonna try to do
is top you now, but he can't because don't know,
the celebrities won't him. And again, Sierra is in Denver
with her husband Russell Wilson. He gonna be out in
(12:39):
the la y'all ain't gonna be able to Joel y'all said.
He gonna be nose up against the window, having car
like a dog, got his head hanging out to window. Yeah,
doing all of that. Yeah. Well, I hope they make it.
It's only been a month. They're not. It's disastrous right now. Yeah,
(13:01):
it's too petty. Yeah, all right, Well post your comments.
Thank you Steve on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on demand now coming up at forty six
minutes after the hour, it is Junior and Sports Talk.
Right after this, you're listening to The Day Harvey Morning
(13:23):
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