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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if
you need advice on relationships, on sex, on work, on parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM
dot com by clicking submit Strawberry Letter. We could be
reading your letter live on the air, just like we're
gonna read this one right here, right now. You never
know it could I said, it could be your buckle
(00:25):
off and hold on tight. We got it for you here.
It is the straw very letter. That's sexy Tommy, or
to him, it's not a little scary, right, little docta
in that way? Yeah, all right. Subject. He tells his
(00:47):
sister everything, Dear Stephen Shirley, My husband and I have
been together for six years and married for two. His
sister and I worked together in high school, and after
we graduated, we lived together until I started dating her brother.
It was awkward because she was all up in our
business and even walked in on us having sex. Once
I was ready to move out, and he suggests it
(01:09):
we get an apartment together. His sister was at our
apartment every night for the first week, claiming she was
afraid to stay alone. I put an end to that quickly,
and she ended up resenting me, so now that I'm
married to her brother, she comes at me rude and
wrong a lot. He asked me to take to look
(01:30):
over her, and he says she's jealous because I have
a man and she doesn't. On the other hand, he
keeps bringing her into our relationship by telling her all
of our business. She made a stride remark about me
being a knemix, saying she hopes I don't pass out
during sex because I won't take iron pills. I let
that slide, but I yelled at my husband later. She
(01:51):
told my mother in law not to expect any grand
baby soon because I still want my husband to wrap
it up during sex. It's been one after another, but
the final straw was when I overheard my husband telling
her that he wishes I was a bit more submissive
and not a headstrong black businesswoman in pursuit of a career.
(02:13):
He's told me that too, but he knows I'm not
slowing down anytime soon, and I'm about to open another
salon suite for nails. It seems like the two of
them team up to hate on me together, and at
this point he gossips to her like a woman. Why
does he feel the need to share so much with
his sister when he knows she's hateful? Is he a
hater too? You know? The way I see it is this,
(02:35):
you have two huge problems. You have your husband and
yes you have your hating sister sister in law, his
hating sister, and there is a reasonable amount of jealousy
on her part. But one thing for sure, you don't
have to guess about what your husband told his sister.
He told her that he wishes you were more submissive
and you were not a headstrong black businesswoman in pursuit
(02:57):
of a career. Now whatever that means. You heard him
say it with your own ears, and you said, he
told you the same thing, but you're not slowing down.
Why would he tell his sister in law that? It's
the question, you know, why does he tell her anything? Clearly,
you know there's a problem here. It's both communication and resentment.
(03:20):
And why aren't you guys, meaning you and your husband
talking about this. He resents the fact that sounds like
that you work too much, you're a boss, and you
know you resent him for telling his sister everything. His
sister does not respect your marriage boundaries. But then again,
your husband just invites her in so she feels like
she has free reign and can say whatever she wants.
(03:42):
He's wrong for that. But I still think the problem
between you two is communication. You're both frustrated with each other,
him because you work and you're headstrong, he says, and
you know you guys are gonna have to try and
work this out. You're frustrated and resent him because he
tells his sister everything. I just think if you guys
could really hear each other, you could probably reach some
(04:04):
sort of compromise. Your problems aren't that bad, though, I'm
gonna tell you that honestly, your problems aren't that bad.
I mean, at least you guys aren't cheating on each
other and stuff like that. But if you guys could
just sit down and have a conversation, I think a
lot of this stuff could be cleared up and keep
his sister. Tell him please to keep his sister out
(04:24):
of the marriage. Steve, Well, he else his sister everything.
I know exactly why he does this. I'll save it
for the end case. There's a woman out there that's
struggling with this with her man, which it is a
lot of this happened. My husband and I've been together
six years, married for two His sister and I worked
(04:47):
together in high school, and after we graduated we lived together.
So now this is a twenty year old or twenty
four year old couple. If you graduated at eighteen and
he'd been together six years, we're looking at about twenty five.
(05:09):
His sister and I worked together in high school, and
after we graduated, we lived together until I started dating
her brother. So it was after they graduated they lived together.
Let's say another year they started dating a brother, and
it got a little awkward because she was all up
in their business and even walked in on us having sex.
(05:29):
Months all right, I was ready to move out, and
he suggested that we get an apartment together. So now
this was his idea, his idea, This is a critical
piece of this letter. This was his idea to move
out to get a problem together. But his sister came
over to the y'all's department every night for the first week,
claiming that she was afraid to stay alone because you
(05:52):
and the sister. You and the sister were roommates for
a while. I put it into that quickly, and she
send it up, ended up resenting me. You moved out
because she was all up in your business. She didn't
want you to move out, but it was her husband's idea.
After you said you wanted to move out. It was
your husband's idea, her brother's idea to say, hey, let's
(06:15):
get an apartment together. Now the resentment started, and now
you're married to her brother. She comes at you rude
and wrong a lot. And the reason she comes at
you rude and wrong a lot is because she's lonely,
bitter and needs a relationship of her. Oh, I don't
mind his devil's playground. You ain't got a relationship you own.
(06:37):
You got time to get another people business, that's all. Yeah,
that's true. All right. We'll have part two of Steve's
response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
Today's subject he tells his sister everything. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening show, all right,
(06:57):
Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject
is he tells his sister everything. Well, he does all
the time. You and the girl with friends in high school,
y'all work together, y'all such good friends. Y'all got an
apartment together until you started dating her brother. Y'all been
together six years now, and because you started dating her
(07:20):
brother got a little awkward. She stayed in your business
and walked in on y'all having sex one time. Well,
you said, enough of this, I'm moving out. I can't
take this no more. The brother, which is your husband
now decides, hey, let's get out an apartment together. You said, okay,
but every day to the first week, she was over
there every night because she said she couldn't sleep alone.
(07:40):
I remember now, this was your husband, her brother's idea,
get the party. And the reason she's in y'all's business
that she comes at you rude now because she resents
you because you wouldn't stop to her coming over. She
comes at you rude. It wrong a lot because she's lonely, bitter,
in need a relationship of her own. He asked me
(08:02):
to look over her and says she's jealous because you
got a man and she don't. I just said that,
but that that don't help your situation out. On the
other hand, he keeps bringing her entire relationship by telling
her all y'all bids. She made a snide remark about
me being a Nimick, saying she hope I don't pass
(08:23):
out doing sex because I won't take iron peel. I
don't take iron peels myself. Uh damn Neil, but not
quite iron. I don't know off going to sleep immediately
and passing out, it's the same thing. But I had
(08:45):
that experience before. I uh, I let that slide. But
then you yell at your husband later. She told your
mother in law not to expect any grant baby soon
because I still want my husband to wrap it up
doing sex. Now. Your husband just running his mouth need
me and iron peel. You know you're making him were
(09:08):
a condom. He's just running his damn mount. I'm gonna
tell you why that is in a minute. Is a second.
It's been one thing after another, but the final straw
when you overheard your husband telling his sister that he
wishes I was a bit most submissive and not a
headstrong black business woman in pursuit of her career. That's
interest or he told me that too, But he know
(09:31):
I'm not slowing down anytime soon. I'm about to open
up another salon sweet for Neil now, she saying, seems
like the two of them team up to hate me together,
and at this point he gossips to her like a woman.
Why does he feel the need to share so much
with his sister when he knows she's hateful? It's he
a hater too. Well, let me answer all those questions.
(09:53):
Number one. Obviously, this goes back to their past. They
were very close growing up. Now here's what your husband.
Your man is a sister boy. That's the same thing
as a mama's boy. He said, he tucked up under
his sister. Sometimes you can be closer to your sister
(10:16):
than your mother if you all grow up close in
the relationship, even as a child. And there are a
lot of sister boys out there, which is almost as
bad as a mama except sister boy is an unknown term,
so you don't know what to call. But I just
gave me. You're married to a sister boy. He was
(10:38):
so close to his sister growing up that closeness has
remained and they're friends and friends tell each other everything.
That's why I was never friends with my sister because
what I was doing in no way I could repeat
your my sister, You, on the other half, had the
(11:00):
direct opposite. So now let me introduce you to a
new term. Your man is a sister. Boy, he's closer
to his sister than his mother, and sometimes he latches
own to not the apron streams, but the friendship. All right,
And now let me share something else with you. You ask,
why does he feel the need to share so much
(11:20):
with his sister when he knows she's hateful. The answer
to that question is your man, listen to this one careful,
has at least one unmanly characteristic, because running your private
business about your woman to other people is not respected
(11:41):
or known as a manly characteristic. So your man has
one unmanly characteristic, and it's a dangerous characteristic to have,
because now he running his mouth, he gossip. See, you
can't gossip about your woman to your boys, because we
(12:01):
know not to do that. I ain't sitting up with
my boys. I'm a man. My girl will be talking
about this and she where it is, and she say this,
and I don't do that, and I show can't do
that to know other woman. So now you got a
dangerous situation. Lastly, but not late, not not last but
not You ask him when he knows she's hateful, it
is he a hat too? They are both haters, and
(12:24):
you saw the signs of this before you married you,
but you married him anyway. You knew they was too
close before you got man. You saw the sign. You
knew who he was before you married it. He'd been
scared of his sister and his mama the whole time.
So now you got a sister's boy. Congratulations, good luck.
But you can't put a stop to this by saying,
(12:45):
if you tell one more damn thing, I'm gonna slap
all the flavor out your mom. Sister boy, all right,
like sister boy, all right? Hit us up on Instagram
at Steve Harvey FM dot com and if you want
to come, I'm on today's Strawberry Letter. You can also
check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now coming
(13:05):
up next to his sports talk with Junior and he's ready,
so you'd be ready right after them. You're listening to
the Stave Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if
you need advice on relationships, on sex, on work, on parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM
dot com by clicking submit Strawberry Letter. We could be
reading your letter live on the air, just like we're
gonna read this one right here, right now. You never
know it could I said, it could be your buckle
(00:25):
off and hold on tight. We got it for you here.
It is the straw very letter. That's sexy Tommy, or
to him, it's not a little scary, right, little docta
in that way? Yeah, all right. Subject. He tells his
(00:47):
sister everything, Dear Stephen Shirley, My husband and I have
been together for six years and married for two. His
sister and I worked together in high school, and after
we graduated, we lived together until I started dating her brother.
It was awkward because she was all up in our
business and even walked in on us having sex. Once
I was ready to move out, and he suggests it
(01:09):
we get an apartment together. His sister was at our
apartment every night for the first week, claiming she was
afraid to stay alone. I put an end to that quickly,
and she ended up resenting me, so now that I'm
married to her brother, she comes at me rude and
wrong a lot. He asked me to take to look
(01:30):
over her, and he says she's jealous because I have
a man and she doesn't. On the other hand, he
keeps bringing her into our relationship by telling her all
of our business. She made a stride remark about me
being a knemix, saying she hopes I don't pass out
during sex because I won't take iron pills. I let
that slide, but I yelled at my husband later. She
(01:51):
told my mother in law not to expect any grand
baby soon because I still want my husband to wrap
it up during sex. It's been one after another, but
the final straw was when I overheard my husband telling
her that he wishes I was a bit more submissive
and not a headstrong black businesswoman in pursuit of a career.
(02:13):
He's told me that too, but he knows I'm not
slowing down anytime soon, and I'm about to open another
salon suite for nails. It seems like the two of
them team up to hate on me together, and at
this point he gossips to her like a woman. Why
does he feel the need to share so much with
his sister when he knows she's hateful? Is he a
hater too? You know? The way I see it is this,
(02:35):
you have two huge problems. You have your husband and
yes you have your hating sister sister in law, his
hating sister, and there is a reasonable amount of jealousy
on her part. But one thing for sure, you don't
have to guess about what your husband told his sister.
He told her that he wishes you were more submissive
and you were not a headstrong black businesswoman in pursuit
(02:57):
of a career. Now whatever that means. You heard him
say it with your own ears, and you said, he
told you the same thing, but you're not slowing down.
Why would he tell his sister in law that? It's
the question, you know, why does he tell her anything? Clearly,
you know there's a problem here. It's both communication and resentment.
(03:20):
And why aren't you guys, meaning you and your husband
talking about this. He resents the fact that sounds like
that you work too much, you're a boss, and you
know you resent him for telling his sister everything. His
sister does not respect your marriage boundaries. But then again,
your husband just invites her in so she feels like
she has free reign and can say whatever she wants.
(03:42):
He's wrong for that. But I still think the problem
between you two is communication. You're both frustrated with each other,
him because you work and you're headstrong, he says, and
you know you guys are gonna have to try and
work this out. You're frustrated and resent him because he
tells his sister everything. I just think if you guys
could really hear each other, you could probably reach some
(04:04):
sort of compromise. Your problems aren't that bad, though, I'm
gonna tell you that honestly, your problems aren't that bad.
I mean, at least you guys aren't cheating on each
other and stuff like that. But if you guys could
just sit down and have a conversation, I think a
lot of this stuff could be cleared up and keep
his sister. Tell him please to keep his sister out
(04:24):
of the marriage. Steve, Well, he else his sister everything.
I know exactly why he does this. I'll save it
for the end case. There's a woman out there that's
struggling with this with her man, which it is a
lot of this happened. My husband and I've been together
six years, married for two His sister and I worked
(04:47):
together in high school, and after we graduated we lived together.
So now this is a twenty year old or twenty
four year old couple. If you graduated at eighteen and
he'd been together six years, we're looking at about twenty five.
(05:09):
His sister and I worked together in high school, and
after we graduated, we lived together until I started dating
her brother. So it was after they graduated they lived together.
Let's say another year they started dating a brother, and
it got a little awkward because she was all up
in their business and even walked in on us having sex.
(05:29):
Months all right, I was ready to move out, and
he suggested that we get an apartment together. So now
this was his idea, his idea, This is a critical
piece of this letter. This was his idea to move
out to get a problem together. But his sister came
over to the y'all's department every night for the first week,
claiming that she was afraid to stay alone because you
(05:52):
and the sister. You and the sister were roommates for
a while. I put it into that quickly, and she
send it up, ended up resenting me. You moved out
because she was all up in your business. She didn't
want you to move out, but it was her husband's idea.
After you said you wanted to move out. It was
your husband's idea, her brother's idea to say, hey, let's
(06:15):
get an apartment together. Now the resentment started, and now
you're married to her brother. She comes at you rude
and wrong a lot. And the reason she comes at
you rude and wrong a lot is because she's lonely,
bitter and needs a relationship of her. Oh, I don't
mind his devil's playground. You ain't got a relationship you own.
(06:37):
You got time to get another people business, that's all. Yeah,
that's true. All right. We'll have part two of Steve's
response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
Today's subject he tells his sister everything. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening show, all right,
(06:57):
Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject
is he tells his sister everything. Well, he does all
the time. You and the girl with friends in high school,
y'all work together, y'all such good friends. Y'all got an
apartment together until you started dating her brother. Y'all been
together six years now, and because you started dating her
(07:20):
brother got a little awkward. She stayed in your business
and walked in on y'all having sex one time. Well,
you said, enough of this, I'm moving out. I can't
take this no more. The brother, which is your husband
now decides, hey, let's get out an apartment together. You said, okay,
but every day to the first week, she was over
there every night because she said she couldn't sleep alone.
(07:40):
I remember now, this was your husband, her brother's idea,
get the party. And the reason she's in y'all's business
that she comes at you rude now because she resents
you because you wouldn't stop to her coming over. She
comes at you rude. It wrong a lot because she's lonely, bitter,
in need a relationship of her own. He asked me
(08:02):
to look over her and says she's jealous because you
got a man and she don't. I just said that,
but that that don't help your situation out. On the
other hand, he keeps bringing her entire relationship by telling
her all y'all bids. She made a snide remark about
me being a Nimick, saying she hope I don't pass
(08:23):
out doing sex because I won't take iron peel. I
don't take iron peels myself. Uh damn Neil, but not
quite iron. I don't know off going to sleep immediately
and passing out, it's the same thing. But I had
(08:45):
that experience before. I uh, I let that slide. But
then you yell at your husband later. She told your
mother in law not to expect any grant baby soon
because I still want my husband to wrap it up
doing sex. Now. Your husband just running his mouth need
me and iron peel. You know you're making him were
(09:08):
a condom. He's just running his damn mount. I'm gonna
tell you why that is in a minute. Is a second.
It's been one thing after another, but the final straw
when you overheard your husband telling his sister that he
wishes I was a bit most submissive and not a
headstrong black business woman in pursuit of her career. That's
interest or he told me that too, But he know
(09:31):
I'm not slowing down anytime soon. I'm about to open
up another salon sweet for Neil now, she saying, seems
like the two of them team up to hate me together,
and at this point he gossips to her like a woman.
Why does he feel the need to share so much
with his sister when he knows she's hateful? It's he
a hater too. Well, let me answer all those questions.
(09:53):
Number one. Obviously, this goes back to their past. They
were very close growing up. Now here's what your husband.
Your man is a sister boy. That's the same thing
as a mama's boy. He said, he tucked up under
his sister. Sometimes you can be closer to your sister
(10:16):
than your mother if you all grow up close in
the relationship, even as a child. And there are a
lot of sister boys out there, which is almost as
bad as a mama except sister boy is an unknown term,
so you don't know what to call. But I just
gave me. You're married to a sister boy. He was
(10:38):
so close to his sister growing up that closeness has
remained and they're friends and friends tell each other everything.
That's why I was never friends with my sister because
what I was doing in no way I could repeat
your my sister, You, on the other half, had the
(11:00):
direct opposite. So now let me introduce you to a
new term. Your man is a sister. Boy, he's closer
to his sister than his mother, and sometimes he latches
own to not the apron streams, but the friendship. All right,
And now let me share something else with you. You ask,
why does he feel the need to share so much
(11:20):
with his sister when he knows she's hateful. The answer
to that question is your man, listen to this one careful,
has at least one unmanly characteristic, because running your private
business about your woman to other people is not respected
(11:41):
or known as a manly characteristic. So your man has
one unmanly characteristic, and it's a dangerous characteristic to have,
because now he running his mouth, he gossip. See, you
can't gossip about your woman to your boys, because we
(12:01):
know not to do that. I ain't sitting up with
my boys. I'm a man. My girl will be talking
about this and she where it is, and she say this,
and I don't do that, and I show can't do
that to know other woman. So now you got a
dangerous situation. Lastly, but not late, not not last but
not You ask him when he knows she's hateful, it
is he a hat too? They are both haters, and
(12:24):
you saw the signs of this before you married you,
but you married him anyway. You knew they was too
close before you got man. You saw the sign. You
knew who he was before you married it. He'd been
scared of his sister and his mama the whole time.
So now you got a sister's boy. Congratulations, good luck.
But you can't put a stop to this by saying,
(12:45):
if you tell one more damn thing, I'm gonna slap
all the flavor out your mom. Sister boy, all right,
like sister boy, all right? Hit us up on Instagram
at Steve Harvey FM dot com and if you want
to come, I'm on today's Strawberry Letter. You can also
check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now coming
(13:05):
up next to his sports talk with Junior and he's ready,
so you'd be ready right after them. You're listening to
the Stave Harvey Morning Show.
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