You’re Not Doing That Tonight

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m dating a man that has a beautiful personality and we clicked the moment we met but there’s a side to him that I just saw for the first time and I don’t know if I’m with the right man. He always smells amazing because he has lots of body oils, lotions and potions that he uses every day. He uses a lot more than I do so I used to joke him about his products. Then one day, I had bad cramps and he gave me a hot oil massage to ease the pain and it worked........................

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It is the Strawberry Letter. Thank you, neph you subject
you're not doing that tonight. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm dating
a man that has a beautiful personality, and we clicked
the moment we met. But there's a side to him

(00:43):
that I just saw for the first time, and I
don't know if I'm with the right man. He always
smells amazing because he has lots of body oils, lotions
and potions that he uses every day. He uses a
lot more than I do, so I used to joe
him about his products. Then one day I had bad

(01:05):
cramps and he gave me a hot oil massage to
ease the pain and it worked. I was hooked until
one night I got a massage and got up to
go to the bathroom, and I slipped on the wood
floor and almost broke my ankle because I was so greasy.
He prefers to be oiled up and glistening all of
the time. He said it is because he's a chocolate

(01:28):
brother and he's always ashy. But I think it's a fetish.
He's always in the bathroom longer than I am, and
it takes him longer to get dressed. I could deal
with that. But what got my attention and has me
second guessing him. It's what went down Saturday. My boyfriend's
co worker and wife came to visit, and his wife
was limping. She says she heard her leg having sex.

(01:51):
I tried to change the subject, but then my boyfriend
blurted out that he could help her get rid of
her leg pain. He said, she said that would be great.
My boyfriend told her to take off her pants and
lie on the lounger on the patio. Everyone seemed okay
with this, except for me. I reminded him that he

(02:11):
works for the government, not a spot. He said, he
has massage both of them before, so it's no big deal.
I told him he wasn't doing it again and he
got mad, so they left. Was he just being helpful
or was I right to stop him? Well, I mean
it sounds to me like he was being helpful, but

(02:33):
you stopped him anyway. I'm just trying to figure out
what you're trying to figure out about him. You said
so many good things about him in the letter. He
has a beautiful personality. You guys clicked the moment you met.
He always smells amazing. He gives you massages when you're
not feeling well and it works and you love it.
And he's also helpful with others and that should be

(02:56):
all good, right, or you would think it would be
all good. He's well groomed, he's not ash by ashy.
But now here you are trying to regulate and say
something's wrong with him. You know, on the slide you're
trying to say something about him. It sounds like a decent, caring,
professional man who's good at what he does and the

(03:19):
people around him appreciate what he does. Yes, he works
for the government, but apparently he's a good masseuse as well.
I say, please stop making problems where there are none.
This man takes care of himself and the others around him.
That should be a good thing. And that's why everyone's
okay with this, well everyone but you. I think you're

(03:39):
kind of cramping his style a little bit because you
broke the party up, and I think you just need
to chill. It's not that serious, Steve, What letter do
we read? A different? Is something missing? You're craving the style?
Seems like what you you? What? This lotter? Crazy? This

(04:07):
is that a guy crazy? Rode all over it? You're crazy?
He crazy? It ain't crazy? What this don't make no
damn sense. I'm dating the man. That's a beautiful personality. Clicked.
We clicked the moment we met. There's the side of
here and I just saw for the first time. And
I don't know if I'm with the right man. You ain't.

(04:28):
You ain't with the right man. Never just let I
just read I went Charley talking about you're cramping this down.
Give him a chance. He's wonderful. What this is crazy?
He always smells amazing because he has lots of body oars, lotions, potions, potions.
Black dudes don't do potions. There's little stuff in here.

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He got body oars, lotions, potions, potion. We got started
looking at this boy. He uses a lot more than
I do. I used to joke him about the product well,
and then one day I had bad crimps. He gave
me a hot all massage. She's a paint and it worn't.
I was hooked. After one night I got a massage.

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You got him go to the bathroom. I slipped on
the wooden floor, almost broke my ankle because I was
so greedy. He prefers to be all up and glistening
all the time, he said, because he's chocolate brother. He's
always ashing. But I think it's a fetish. Oh, it's
way on the fetish left. Oh it's wind fish, I

(05:33):
like baby. Oh, I gotta fit it. That's fittshed. No,
there's something else right here. He's always in the bathroom
long and I am, and takes him longer to get dressed. Oh, okay,
gotta start. That ain't normal, But okay, I could deal
with that. Or what got my attention has me second

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guess him? It's what went down, said my boyfriend's co
worker and his wife came to visit, and his wife
was limping. She said she hurt her leg having sex.
Who the hell, you're just not meeting at your house

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from a co worker and a wife that's limping. And
she got the audacity to just come out and tell
you I heard my leg having sex. Where did he
have her leg off too? Where she limping? Okay, when
we come back, I'm gonna tell you what's wrong with
this now? All right? All right, coming up, we'll have

(06:36):
part two of Steve's response at twenty three minutes after
the hours Today's Strawberry letter. Subject is you are not
doing that tonight. Okay, we'll get back into it right
after this. You're listening morning show. All right, Come on, Steve,
let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is you're not

(06:57):
doing that tonight. Yeah, you ain't doing that tonight. Now,
Shirley gave her response. Were on two different programs with
this letter right here, because I think this whole letter crazy,
and he got it getting real crazy at the end. Now,
I don't know high he helpful, crazy ass mash they

(07:17):
clicked the moment they met. I just saw him, and
I don't know if I'm with the right man. He
smells amazing, A lot of oils, lotions and postions right there,
A black dude is okay with oars and lotions. Black
dudes don't normally mess with postions. Okay, so now you
got this which slash wall off living at your talk

(07:40):
about damn posts. Black ass out of there for something
after with no damn man. I had some bad cramps
one tall. He gave me a hot oil massage and
it worked and I was hooked. And then one night
I got a massage. I get him go to the bathroom.
I slipped on the wooden floor almost broke my ankle
because it was so greasy. He prefers to be alled

(08:01):
up and glistening all the time, he said, because he's
a chocolate brother and he don't want to look ashy.
But I think it's fetish or this is way more
than a fetish look. Girl. He's always in the bathroom
longer than I am and takes him longer to get dressed.
That's a little bit different right there. But if you
could deal with it, okay, I could deal with that.
But what got my attention when he asked me second

(08:22):
guess him, it's what went down said, now here's where
the letter takes a turn that I don't know how
anybody would overlook this, but I want my boyfriend's co
worker and his wife came to visit. Now, this is
who you hang out with, it work co working wife.
They came to visit. His wife was limping. Now somebody

(08:45):
must have said, why you limping? She said she heard
her leg having sex. Now, you know, anybody else would
have made up anything else. Ain't nobody fitting to tell
that girl. I was going down to steps and slipped
or anything. I was on some ice, I was on
some baby. All in the bathroom. You could have said anything,

(09:07):
but I heard my leg having sex. That was debate remark.
I tried to change the subject, but then my boyfriend
blurted out that he could help her get rid of
her leg pain. He said this to his co worker's
girlfrid She said that would be great. Yeah, this is

(09:33):
co worker's wife. She said that would be great. My
boyfriend told her take off her pants and lay on
the lounger on the one. He's helpful, Steve. What man
can say in front of his girl to another woman
that's married to his co worker, which is another dude,

(09:57):
take off your pants and lay with your clothes on here,
government worker. Yeah, he ain't got a massage parlor. He
ain't got a table at the house that he traveled with.

(10:19):
He'll do house call. My boyfriend told her, take off
your pants and lay on the lounger on the patio.
He go the next part. Everybody seem okay with it.
So this was cool with the lady who was married
to his co worker. Take your pants off and go

(10:41):
out that ladder. Okay, the husband his boy co worker, Yeah, man,
my wife can take her pants off and go lay
on your lounge. By boy, miss me, you don't see
this little swinging thing going on. He bought them over
there to swing. He bossed them over there a swing,

(11:02):
and you just didn't You didn't get it. I heard
my leg having set. Were gonna say that. You knew
I was gonna say, because it's what it is. Everybody
seemed okay with this except me. I reminded him. You
work for the government, not a spot he had. You're
gonna be working you you He could do more than

(11:22):
one thing, but this wind though, when you start doing
this for other people, that's when you start doing this
for other women and in front of their husbands. On
the iPad him, you told this woman take her pants off,
it's not hold up. Then he told her, I've massage

(11:43):
both of them before, so it ain't no big deal.
What women hold up? Dog? He didn't massage the wife before,
but he didn't massage the husband before too. Hey man,
let me tell you something's done. A couple couple of
massages with my wife. Rude number one, ain't no man

(12:05):
rubbing huh? And came no, and came no man rubbed me.
A woman can rub me, and a woman can rub huck.
We came no man rubbed huh and ca't no man
rubbed me. You can't hear your thumbs on the back
of my thash. You can't do that. That ain't that

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ain't what we're doing. Tom you called me whatever you
want to call me. They missed the rule. I woman
talking about him. You're the massage huh and him yeah,
And they was both fine with it. I told him
he wasn't doing it again, and he got mad, so
they left. They left because now I ain't gonna be
the swing and they thought it was gonna because she

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won't even go along with the massage. Lord Sheef, and
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