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Speaker 1 (00:26):
Letter thanking a for you subject Where should I sit?
Dear Steven Shirley, I'm a fifty five year old married
woman and my husband is currently going through a very
disrespectful stage of life. He thinks he's a scholar and
a comedian, and he is flirtatious with younger women, my
son's girlfriend in particular. I've heard my husband congratulate my
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son on pulling someone so fine and asking questions like
where does she work work out? And is her mama
as fine as she is? I thought it was father
son bonding, but he has gotten worse. We had Memorial
Day get together and my son's girlfriend came over with
her little girl. Excuse me, The little girl was attached
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to me because she said I reminded her of her grandmother.
The girlfriend was walking around with the plate on the
patio and all the seats were taken, and she asked
my husband where should I sit. My super ignorant husband
said I know where you can sit, and I almost
jumped up and tackled him. He had a dirty old
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man look on his face and the girlfriend was smiling
from ear to ear, so I loudly told him to
sit his ass down somewhere. Immediately, he got bristly with
me and we had a screaming match in front of
our guests. He said he wasn't flirting and it was
a joke. I took a lot. I take a lot
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of mess from him, but I don't have to tolerate
this in my house. My son is in support of
this father because maybe he doesn't know my husband was
implying something nasty when he said that to his girlfriend.
My husband is waiting for me to apologize, and I
did not do anything wrong. The girl was at our
house again last night and she was acting funny too.
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What's going on with my husband? Did I overreact or
is my husband playing me for a fool? Please help well,
I don't think your husband's playing you for a fool.
I don't think that. Did you overreact? Well maybe you did,
but you know, I just tell you don't second guess
yourself if you think something was going on, if you
were feeling something. You know how we are with our
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intuition and all of that. We know how with other
women are at our house and if they're flirting with
our men and all of that. I mean, you know,
you probably were right about your husband's response to his
son's disrespectful girlfriend. Where do I sit? And he goes?
I know where you can sit? Did he show her
a seat or did he just say that? You said
he had a dirty old man look on us. I
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just think you know it was too bad your husband
was flirting with this young lady and allowed this kind
of foolishness to go down. And the fact that you
guys got into a screaming match at the house. What
was that about? No, I mean, I think he was
feeling guilty at this point because he knew that he
was flirting with this young girl. I don't think there's
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no other way for you to take it except that
he was low key, I don't know, kind of hitting
on her. I just say, who does this type of
thing in front of their wife at the house. I
think he was out of order, and no, you shouldn't
be expected to apologize to him. You weren't the one
who said this to the guest. Your husband was, and
he flipped it. Now you're feeling guilty. Now you're feeling
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like you should apologize, and you overreacted. I think you're
dead on your spot on and I think you need
to talk to your son too, because he sided with
his dad, your husband, against you on this one.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
Steve Sladad agree with a lot of things, and Shirley
has given some answers that I have been in total
agreement with. I think she does a fine job with
her segment on the Strawberry Letter, but sometimes she fails
in her obligation miserably, and this is the one time
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that I think she has failed. Surely you made some
statements in this I can't believe you made it. The
girl has not been disrespectful in here at all.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
The girl ain't did nothing.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
Nothing by saying where should I sit with not being disrespectful?
Let me go through this letter so I can save
this marriage before surely end another one.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
To break up. You might as well.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Uh you fifty six years old lady, And she says
her husband's currently going through a very disrespectful stage of life. Yes,
sir has a girlfriend. And you've heard your son, your
husband congratulate your son. I'm pulling somebody so fine, asking
questions like where she work out, and that's her. Mama's
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fine as she is. Now, let me say something. When
my sons come home with a fine one. You know,
I'm on their I'm on their Instagram with them. Dad,
don't want you to meet this girl, well what she
look like, because I know they know so that they
got an ig page and all this heit And I'm
looking at me and I'll live vicariously through my boys,
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because I mean, boy, I'm talking about who come on,
Come through, boy, come through songs. You know I've said
stuff like you better be a Harvey showing what you're
working with. Come on, boy, I see you lord, and
have mercy.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Girl.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
I've asked a little girl, girl, you ever had thanks
giving us and some well off people house?
Speaker 2 (06:00):
You know, stuff like that. You know, But so I
know what he's doing. Uh.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
I thought it was father's son bonding, but he has
gotten worse. I had a mamoil day gathering. Son's girlfriend
came over with her little girl. The little girl was
attracted to me because she said, you reminded her of
her grandmother. The girlfriend was walking around with a plate
on the patio and all the seats were taken, and
she asked my husband, where should I sit? That wasn't
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being disrespectful, you said. She was walking around the patio
and all the seats were taken. She said where should
I sit? My superdiggaant husband said, I know where you
can sit. God, though I almost jumped up the taculty,
we come back.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
I straightened it.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Out at twenty three minutes after the hour. We'll come
back to recap the Strawberry letter right after this. You're
listening Morning show, All right, come on, Steve, Let's recap
today's Strawberry letter. The subject is where should I.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
This woman who's fifty five is married to this man,
she said, going through a very which what does she
call it? Disrespectful stage of life, and especially when it
comes to his son's girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
He bought over to the house and she banged.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
She fined, so he asked her questions like where you
work out?
Speaker 2 (07:19):
You know. Uh you know, is your mama as fine
as she is?
Speaker 3 (07:27):
Hell yeah, hell yeah, I tell you right now, Yeah,
I can tell you right now here. Yes, she find
And daddy thought that, and you thought it was father's
son bonding but didn't.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Got worse.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
The girl came over from memorw They bought a little girl.
The little girl was attracted to her mother because the
lady wrote the letter, because your mind of her grandmama.
And the girlfriend was walking around with a plate on
the patio and all the seats were taken. The lady said,
all the seats was taken, so she asked my husband
where should I sit? My super ignorant husband said, I
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know where you can sit. Oh, I know where you
can sit. I know how I said it, sit, So
you want to sit?
Speaker 2 (08:12):
Huh? I almost jumped up and tackled him.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
He had a dirty old man look on his face,
and the girlfriend was smiling from ear to ear. He's
flattering his son's girlfriend publicly in front of everyone. Now
it's this bad judgment. Yep, it's just being done in portaste, yep.
But he's doing it in front of everybody, so he
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don't really see the harm in it. So I loudly
told him to sit his ass down some way. Immediately
he got bristly with me, hold up, nod, Hell are
you hollering at? And we had a screaming match in
front of our guests. He said he wasn't flirting and
it was a joke. Now I believe that he wasn't flirting,
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but it was a joke.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
Now. Was it in poor taste? Yes?
Speaker 3 (09:09):
Was the timing of it bad, yes, But this joke
was done in front of everybody. He ain't pulling off
to the side trying to meet up with the girl.
He did this in front of everybody. I take a
lot of mess from him, but I don't have to
tolerate this at my house. My son is in support
of his father because maybe he don't know my husband
was implying something nasty when he said that to his girlfriend. No,
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he wasn't implying something nasty. He was implying something riscal.
He not being nasty with his son's girlfriend. Your husband
shouldn't have said it that way, and his poor taste
and bad timing. But I know people that tell bad
distaste for jokes all the time, and I really think
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this is one of those times. And he ain't upset
with his father because he know where his father coming from.
And plus you don't know what you you're not pretty too.
It's a conversation to him and his daddy have when
you ain't around, because father and sons conversation is not
for the mothers. I can just tell y'all that right now,
what I say to Winter, Jason and Stevie that this
cannot be said in front of his sisters and his mama.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
So he didn't let one out in front of you.
That's what happened.
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Now, Shirley says, trust your heart and everything, and this
disrespectful girl walking around your house. The girl has done nothing.
She just walking around straight up fighting. And if you
got to be penalized.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
For being f.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
No, you now that's exactly what you said.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
Yeah I did.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
I did because she asked. She didn't have to. She
walking around with a plate, flouncing around all the seats
are taken.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
No, she flounce around because she fine, it ain't flouncing
it just do what it do.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
It's shaped like that, couldn't move like that.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
He flirts with younger women, and his girlfriend in particular,
so he was flirting.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
No, Sureley, listen that's what.
Speaker 4 (11:16):
Said.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
He wasn't flirting and it was a joke. I take
a lot of mess for him, but I tolerate this.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
To mi, my son is a part of his father
because he don't know my husband applying something nasty when
he said that to his girlfriend. My husband is waiting
for me to apologize, and I did not do anything wrong.
The girl was at our house again last night and
she was acting funny too.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
The reason she.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
Acted funny was because the last time she was over there,
y'all had a screaming and shouting match, and she feels
like it was at her because everything was directed at her.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Oh whatever we're doing that, she's sitting up.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
All the barbecue. Now, little fine mama that came up
in there, you know, see his mama.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
The girl that wrote the letter, she' been.
Speaker 3 (12:07):
In fifty five, mamul day outing. There was all jealousy.
Fifty five look good on a lot of.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
You're listening morning show? All right, so here we are,
We're back. The Strawberry letter subject today was where should
I sit? It was from a fifty five year old
woman who wrote in because her husband is currently going
through She called a disrespectful, very disrespectful stage of life.
He's being very flirtatious with younger women and his son's
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girlfriend in particular, they had a barbecue. The young lady
was there carrying a plate and she asked where could
she sit, and the woman said her super ignorant husband said, oh,
I know where you can sit.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
And it started a very loud fight and argument in
front of all the guests guests, and I realized, I said,
I know the guy. That was distasteful what he said
in the time it was all but people make distaste
for jokes all the time, they just don't know it.
But I don't think this man is trying to make
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a pass at the girl. I think he's just like
doing a dirty old man joke and it's just a
wrong place in time.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
Yeah, his house, in front of his wife is his
son's girlfriend, and in front of everyone, he said it.
Speaker 3 (13:28):
And in front of everybody. But then she jumped up
and went off on the man in front of everybody.
They had a loud screaming match, and I think that
she should have said, excuse me, can I talk to
you for a second and pull him to the side
and check him.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
But I was going to say he said what he
said in front of everyone, right, but she got.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Pull him to the side, Listen to me, Listen to me.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
His intent he thought he was being funny in a joke,
bad timing, poor choice of jokes, distasteful, but the way
to check him was not in front of everybody.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
She was wrong, respected her, she felt disrespected.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
The wife did in front of the son is not offend, okay.
Speaker 4 (14:16):
Sekund So if the married couple had a daughter who
came with a fine boy and the boyfriend said where
should I sit?
Speaker 1 (14:32):
And the wife said, I know where you can sit?
Speaker 2 (14:36):
Then how with the That's not what this story is.
That's not what this story is.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
This you guys trying to flip it it.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
Flip it from y'all flipping it.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
We're not shut up, tommy, We're not flipping.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
It at all.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
There's no such thing as a dirty old woman, has
a such thing as a dirty old man.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Y'all don't.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
In this letter.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
That's not what y'all do. So you do, though, what
was the I know where you could sit?
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Exactly? That's why she got it right there in front
of everybody coming up at the top of the hour. Crap,
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