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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
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Speaker 2 (00:22):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on time.
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 3 (00:27):
Thank you nephew.

Speaker 1 (00:28):
Subject big and hot for the wrong reasons. Here Stephen Shirley.
My husband and I have been together for almost fifteen years.

Speaker 3 (00:37):
And we used to be very active sexually, but it.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
Has slowed down a lot in the past two years
because we've both gained a lot of weight. I've told
him I don't feel sexy most of the time and
I am dealing with some health issues because of the
weight gain. I suggested we work out, and whenever we try,
he makes it sexual. He makes everything said. I also

(01:01):
suggested that we finally get the king sized bed that
we've been needing for years. He loves to cuddle up
under me in our queen bed, our ceiling fan in
the room is broken, so imagine how hot it is
with two oversized people in a smaller bed. He lies
there every night wanting to spoon, and his hand is

(01:21):
usually under my boobies and his naked body is pressed
up against mine. I am usually drenched from head to
toe several times throughout.

Speaker 3 (01:32):
The night, and he wants to be intimate when we
wake up.

Speaker 1 (01:35):
I'm sick of it, and I told him to fix
the fan and get a bigger bed for us. I
showed him several beds with good financing that we can
go look at. He said a king bed would make
it harder to cuddle, and I'm already running from him
in the queen bed. He's ignoring the elephant in the room. Literally.
He is a big man, and that body heat is unbearable.

(01:58):
At night, we can't seem to get to the gym,
and he goes and buys junk food whenever I cook
healthy meals. I still love him to death, and I
want him to be healthy and I'm trying and he's not.
I'll give it to him every day in every way
if he will work on his weight with me. Granted,
he's six ' three, so he's carrying the weight. Well,

(02:19):
but he's wide since he won't agree to do anything
I've asked him to. Should I go against his wishes
and order us a king size bed?

Speaker 3 (02:29):
Well, first of all, I just got to say.

Speaker 1 (02:31):
This is so sweet.

Speaker 3 (02:33):
I mean, this is really really sweet.

Speaker 1 (02:35):
I know you're frustrated right now because I just had
to say that.

Speaker 3 (02:42):
I really did, because.

Speaker 1 (02:43):
I love the fact that your husband still finds you
sexy and attractive and desirable, even though you don't feel
that way about yourself. Yes, no matter that you've gained
weight and a lot of it, you say, he still
wants to cuddle with you and be close to you
and be intimate with you. And when the love is
still there, because you say you love him to death,

(03:04):
when the love is still there, I think you guys
have something to work with here. Usually we get strawberry
letters where the husband and wife are complaining that they
don't look the same, you know, as when they first met,
so they're thinking about cheating, and you know the weight
is a turn off all of that, but not your man.
And that's a good thing. But you have to be
comfortable too, you have to be respected too. I say,

(03:27):
if you can afford it. Go ahead and order the
king bed and let him know that you are serious
about changing and getting healthy. If he loves you, and
I think he does according to what you've said in
this letter, you know, have a serious talk with him
and you guys, find a way where you can both
get what you want and be happy.

Speaker 3 (03:45):
Life is too short, Steve.

Speaker 2 (03:49):
Well. Charlie opened her letter with this is so sweet.

Speaker 3 (03:55):
It's so sweet.

Speaker 4 (03:58):
I don't know what damn letter you read. I saw
the pain and agony all through.

Speaker 2 (04:05):
This damn letter. Two people been together fifteen years.

Speaker 4 (04:12):
You used to have a very very active sexually, but
then to slow down a whole lot in these last
two years.

Speaker 2 (04:21):
Why because we've both both of.

Speaker 4 (04:25):
Us have gained a lot of weight. Now, when a
woman writes that in you best to believe we talking
some weight.

Speaker 2 (04:37):
Here. I will speculate on how.

Speaker 4 (04:40):
Wide I think this situation is as we moved throughout
the letter, I've told him I don't feel sexy most
of the time, and I'm dealing with some health issues
because of the weight. Can I recommend that both of
you immediately go to Walmart dot com start yourself off

(05:01):
with some elevate youth. I cannot tell you a better
way to try to start your health regiments by getting
your mitochondrias and fed on the cellular level and give
yourself the energy that want to work out. But until
you try elevate you, let's just deal with the level

(05:22):
dealing with some health issues because of the weight game. Well,
what health issues do we have.

Speaker 2 (05:28):
When we gain weight?

Speaker 4 (05:30):
Joint pain is one of the things that becomes to health.
Inflammation is one of the things that happened with wealth.
High blood pressure comes with you great gain, doubt comes
with weight game. Pre diabetic and predisposed to diabetes come

(05:53):
from weight, lack of control of your insulin level due
to weight gain, snacking, craving, All of that is because
the insulin is gone.

Speaker 2 (06:05):
Shot crazy? Can you get well now?

Speaker 4 (06:10):
I suggested we work out, and whenever we try, he
make that second. Oh, you thought you was gonna bring
yoga into the house and do it down with dog
and he backed.

Speaker 2 (06:19):
Then he thought that was pulling.

Speaker 4 (06:24):
You thought you was gonna lay on this floor and
have him hold your ankles and you do a sit
up when you come up here.

Speaker 2 (06:30):
Guess what he got some way?

Speaker 3 (06:32):
Hang on, Steve, hang on.

Speaker 2 (06:34):
Yeah, we'll be back to this ain't.

Speaker 3 (06:36):
Gonna get no good end to this coming up. I
think this is a sweet letter coming up.

Speaker 1 (06:42):
Part two of the Strawberry Letter is Steve's response at
twenty three minutes after the hour. The subject is big
and hot for the wrong reasons. We'll get back into
it right after this.

Speaker 3 (06:52):
You're listening hard morning show.

Speaker 1 (06:56):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letter.
Big and hot for the wrong reasons.

Speaker 4 (07:02):
Yeah, these two people been together fifteen years. Used to
be really sexual action. Now they've gained a lot of weight,
both of us. This lady say, we've gained a lot
of weights. Say she don't feel sexy most of the time,
and she's dealing with some health issues because of the
weight gain.

Speaker 2 (07:18):
Inflammation, doubt ar the writers.

Speaker 4 (07:21):
Diabetes, pre diabetic, high potension, high blood pressure, cholesterol levels
is shot, insulin levels is going through the roof.

Speaker 2 (07:31):
It could be any one of those numbers.

Speaker 4 (07:34):
Erectile dysfunction ain't hit him yet because he ready, But
here's the problems of him. You suggest that we work
out whenever we try he make that SENSI Well, y'all
had a sentially active life and it just slowed down.
Slowed you down because of the weight. I think you're
the big of it too, That's why you wrote the letton.

(07:55):
I think you dealing with a problem where both of
you are rather well. But you said street, so he
carries it there. He's just whe So what do you
know that in your house is six foot three and wives, Well,
I'm thinking right off.

Speaker 2 (08:09):
The refrigerator.

Speaker 4 (08:12):
You're married to a penmost. Your man is a frigidad.
Your man is a fighter. Your man is a sub zero.
You are married to William the refrigerator, Perry. He's running back,

(08:33):
That's what she just says.

Speaker 2 (08:35):
But now I also.

Speaker 4 (08:37):
Suggested that we finally get that king sized bed we've
been needing for years. He loves to color up under
me and our queen bed and our ceiling man in
the room is broken.

Speaker 2 (08:47):
Uh oh, now we got problem here.

Speaker 4 (08:49):
We've got two white ass people trying to sleep in
the queen's size bed that he liked because he cuddled,
and one of his hands is always under your breast.
You wake up in the middle of the night you drenched.
But I'm telling you right now, the stealing fan in
the room is broken.

Speaker 2 (09:07):
You have got to get that damn fan.

Speaker 4 (09:10):
Figure I don't know what that costs, but I'm gonna
tell you right now, you fan is cheaper than the bed.
You have got to get some ass circulating in that
room with y'all two big ass in that little last bed.
And when you got two real big people in the
queen side bed, it's no longer queen side.

Speaker 2 (09:31):
Y'all is on the cotton.

Speaker 4 (09:34):
Y'all is in that damn near sleeping in a sleeping bag.
Because I know, lady, you didn't say how much, but
you said you all.

Speaker 2 (09:42):
Have gained a lot overweight.

Speaker 4 (09:47):
Whoom, she said, So imagine how hard it is with
two oversized people in a smaller bed. Can't do that,
can't do that you want? I I don't know what
that's like. I've been in I've been in a hot
room by myself. I slept by myself in my attic.

Speaker 2 (10:08):
I know it's hot.

Speaker 4 (10:09):
I didn't have nothing on me, not even couples.

Speaker 2 (10:15):
I know, I know where in the hell I could
be in there. And then he want to cuddle under you.

Speaker 4 (10:18):
You don't get your fat ass off of me right
now and take your hand up, Shelley.

Speaker 2 (10:24):
This ain't no sweet letter is sweet? What is wrong
with you?

Speaker 3 (10:29):
They love each other. They can work it out.

Speaker 4 (10:32):
This is too fat ass people, that's overheating at night.

Speaker 2 (10:35):
It's what this letter is about.

Speaker 4 (10:38):
And you just sound sweet eight day ass right out.
This damn bed is what they've been done hot. The
hell of queen's side bed ain't big enough no more.
You know how much wait there to game queens eide
nice side day. It's too small now. And then that
damn ceiling fan is roke. So then you say he

(10:59):
lies there every night.

Speaker 2 (11:00):
Wanting to spoon boo sleeve. He ain't no spoon.

Speaker 4 (11:05):
He's a ladle. There's a difference between a spoon and
a ladle. He that thing that you dip punch with.
He ain't no damn spoon. I'm sick of it. I've
told him.

Speaker 2 (11:18):
To fix the fan and get a bigger bed for heddey.
He can't fix that, man. You know what happened.

Speaker 4 (11:24):
If he's standing up on the end of that bed
trying to reach up there and fich that fan, what happened.
He gonna flip that little twenty side bed on and
bust that whole damn window. You stand on the edge
of the bed and your ass is overweight, You're gonna
flip that mirror over here. Can you please feel me
when you get up there and see. I've showed him

(11:45):
several beds with good financing that we can go look at.
You got to get a big bed, but you need
some reinforcements. You need to get some celind the flocks
up under that fox frame. I'm gonna tell you that
right now because those son aink y'all gonna keep it
much lower because y'all wait too much. He said king
bed would make it harder to color king size bed.

(12:06):
Y'all have to get that thing finance, and I don't
know how y'all money at that they write.

Speaker 2 (12:11):
I'd buy you the bed if.

Speaker 4 (12:12):
I thought it would help, but y'all big ass got
to lose weight because I don't give it damn what
you already.

Speaker 2 (12:18):
H y'all ass out at Queen's bed.

Speaker 4 (12:20):
If we buy the king side bed, all y'all gonna
do is eat y'all ass out there.

Speaker 2 (12:24):
I don't know what y'all. Y'all gonna to sleep in
the floor at the watch.

Speaker 4 (12:27):
Yeah, y'all just big ass gonna be down in the
floor with y'all comfort to spread out just from window
to window then y'all wiley, y'all white ass all around
that this is about weight loss. Y'all gotta lose some
damn weight.

Speaker 3 (12:40):
Tell him where to elevate you.

Speaker 4 (12:41):
And then if you're talking about he's ignoring the elephant
in the room, now he ain't. Y'all is the elephant both, y'all,
y'all is the two elephants in the room and in
the level. Anyway, I'd give it to him every day
if he'll work on his way.

Speaker 1 (12:57):
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