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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEARVFM dot com by
clicking Submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
You never know. Muggle up and hold on tight. We
got it for you here. It is draw Mary Lenna,
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Nephew. Subjects ye he let her plan my party. Dear
Stephen Shirley. I've been married for three years and I
met my husband at my nephew's birthday party. He had
dropped off a bunch of tables and chairs in his
pickup truck, and he spoke to me in the parking
lot as he left. He told me that day that
he was going to marry me. I got butterflies because
(00:48):
he was tall and bald, and he looked through my
soul when he talked to me. We stayed outside talking
for so long that I was late to the party.
A few days after the party, we went out on
a first state and he admitted that his ex wife
is a party planner, and she owns an upscale events company,
and he helps her with the business because he owns
(01:10):
a small percentage of it. He says they're good friends
and have a good co parenting relationship. We got married
eight months after we met, and we've had our ups
and downs with his ex wife. She's cordial, but we've
never clicked. My husband told me she's not an outgoing
person and she doesn't have a lot of girlfriends. Because
(01:30):
of that, I have to endure her calls to my
husband whenever she wants to vent over a business matter.
I honestly think she should only call him when there's
an issue with their son, but I try not to
nag him. But where I draw the line is having
her plan my fortieth birthday party. I turned forty on
October second, and my husband had a small dinner cater
(01:53):
in our community clubhouse. The next night, he threw me
a surprise party at a lounge, and I was truly
surprised in more ways than one. The party was beautifully
done and everyone wore black and gold, but the party
planner wore an all gold dress to upstage me. It
was his ex wife. He allowed this woman to plan
(02:15):
my birthday party. This is unacceptable. He doesn't see the
harm in it? Am I being a brat?
Speaker 2 (02:22):
Oh boy?
Speaker 3 (02:24):
Wrong?
Speaker 1 (02:24):
Wrong, wrong, on just so many levels. This was just dumb.
What was your husband thinking. You don't let your ex
wife plan your current wife's birthday party, especially if they
don't get along, so you had no idea she was
going to help him, meaning he didn't tell you because
I know you would have shut the whole thing down
(02:45):
if he had told you that his ex knew everything though,
because well she had to know everything so she could
plan it and then through, you know, just throw it
in your face and try to upstage you, which she
did with her all gold after everybody had to wear
black and gold. This is the one time he should
not have led his ex wife plan the party because
(03:06):
it was for you. And again, and you and his
ex don't get along, so anything could have happened and
your party would have been ruined. Also, this had nothing
to do with her. This was supposed to be all
about you celebrating turning forty. The crazy thing is, though
you knew what he did and what they did together
before you guys got married, he was still in business
(03:29):
with his ex and he still helped her because he
owns part of the business. He said, So, I mean,
you know, the only thing I could tell you at
this point is that your husband, of course, was wrong.
You know that he did a very stupid thing. He
needs to find a way to fix this immediately. He
needs to become a silent partner with his wife from
(03:51):
now on in this business, Steve.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
It's a couple of things in here. You met him,
he was gonna marry you eight months lady, y'all get married.
You know, hell, he was tall, he was bald. I
get it. You know, I get it. I'm tall, I'm bald.
I get I get it. I get it. You got it.
You saw what you wanted it and have it eight
(04:19):
months later you did it. Yeah, okay, cool? Uh.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
I just don't know.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
I don't.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
I really don't. The problem.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
In his letter, his ex wife is a party planner.
She owns an upscale events company, and he helps her
with the business because he owns a small percentage of it.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
But they're divorced.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
He said, they're good friends and they have a good
co parenting relationship. Well, y'all got married, and y'all in
had you ups and downs with his ex wife. You
gonna have that. The ex wives is exies for a reason.
Listen to me, she's pardi. But we've never clicked, ain't
you ain't finna click? She don't click with nobody. Your
(05:05):
husband told you she's not an outgoing person. She don't
have a lot of girlfriends. Because of that, I have
to endure her calls to my husband whenever she wants
to vent over a business matter. I honestly think she
should only call when there's an issue with that son,
but I try not to nag you.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Well, if he's part of.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
Owner in the business and they own this business together,
I think you're gonna have to own up to this
little piece of baggage that he has. He's a co
business owner with his ex wife, so I think he's
gonna have to deal with that issue, and then they're
gonna talk about the sun.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
But where you draw the line is her fortieth.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
Birthday party she planned your forty.
Speaker 4 (05:50):
God said, God, yeah, boy, all of this leads down
to that fortieth party.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
I guess you knew nothing about it.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
But when we come back, we'll get into what happened
at that party and what made you know that she
planned what was at that part.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
That was so hurt? But not you? What did she do?
Good Lord of mercy happeners.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
All right, listen, we're gonna have part two of Steve's
response to today's Strawberry letter coming up at twenty three
minutes after the hour. You don't want to miss it.
Today's Strawberry letter, subject he let her plan my party.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
hard morning show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap
(06:56):
today's Strawberry letter, the subject he let her plan my party?
Speaker 3 (07:01):
Yeah, she married this tall, handsome ball man, such a
such a group of us, you know you couldn't help Yeah,
and good looking, you know you couldn't help it. You
got sprung, you saw, yeah, eight months all that's in
the letter somewhere. And he had a pickup truck too,
(07:22):
that did it right there? To pick up truck, Well,
pick what you need to pick me up? You know
what I'm saying. You got to pick up truck. You
need to put something in the back. You know what
I'm saying. Yeah, it's got all that room back down.
Won't you put this in the back of that down?
Yea anyway, they got married. Now he has an ex
wife and they own part of this big event playing
(07:43):
company together and they have a little child. Uh, never
really click with the wife because she's just not an
outgoing person. He told you his wife don't have a
lot of friends, So y'all ain't never really clicked. Y'all
don't have jeups and downs with the ex wife because
of everything. So anyway, and you have to endure when
(08:06):
she calls her husband to vent over.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
The business matter.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
And I honestly think she should only call him when
there's an issue with their son. Well, you can't realistically
expect that he came with the baggage. He told you
they had a business together, and he's a small percentage
on us. So I think he's gonna have to bite
the bullet on that one. And so those are gonna
be some phone calls. That's okay, I got that here
your problem. But where you draw the line is having
(08:30):
her plan my fortieth birthday party.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
I turned fortieth on October second.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
My husband had a small dinner catered in our community
club house.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
Okay, that was good. He did that and had a
small dinner some friends over. It's small.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
You ain't got no, she ain't got no friends. You know, well,
it's not for her. But you had a dinner party
at the clubhouse. My bad, wrong woman.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
But then the.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Next night, though, he threw you a surprise party at
a lounge, and I was surprised in more ways. And
the party was beautifully done, all right, now cool? Everybody
wore black and gold, but the party planner wore an
all gold dress to upstage me. Yeah, she did that dish,
(09:15):
came out with that all gold dress on. Only thing
black she had on was some shoes, unless she found
some gold shoes too. Christian Lubiton's with the red bottle.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
Yeah, what did you have on? Though? Let's talk about you.
You told everybody to go black.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
You want, you want that little black ass dressed with
the little but you wore gold jewelry. You in there
looking like everybody else. That's what really happened. You wore
that little tight black dress. But she came in with
a tight her gold dress. Yeah tighter. What else was
at the party that you let it know? It wasn't you? Well,
(09:56):
you don't really care for ham and cheese, right, had
a whole lot of ham and cheese. Yeah, you don't
like angel food cake, But your cake was angel food.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
She just in that got cake all around her mouth
is so good.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
Yeah, you don't really like orange juice, but mimosas was
flowing from a fountain.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Yeah, she had played this party. Now. Everybody else was
loving the party.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
But you can't believe the dress she had on. Oh lord,
it's the dress she had on. She was in there
with it right and tight. The problem is though, See,
you ain't got no babies. See she had a baby,
still got a little bit of baby wait on her.
But she had found some spanks that could help her,
(10:50):
and she had them spanks on too. But you knew
they were spanks, but nobody else knew. She looked real
put together. This party was a disaster, your dumb ann.
Her husband let her plan at the party, and she
came to the party. First of all, y'all ain't cool.
Why is she at the party? Is she the party planner?
(11:13):
She didn't have to go to the party. She ain't
your girlfriend. Y'all ain't cool? Why is the ex wife
at your party? Ain't no way I could pull that on.
It ain't no way closer. That don't ever happened to
me was my daughter got married from my first marriage.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Oh yeah, we were all there. Yeah, y'all who you
were nervous that night?
Speaker 2 (11:42):
I sat between her and if you're on the.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
Front, rook, you were nervous that night.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
The rehearsal dinner the night before. I needed that to
be over.
Speaker 4 (11:52):
I'm afrazy, but they were cool though.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
They were cool, super cool. First time they ever met,
first time they ever talked. I'm sitting there the whole time.
Why are y'all.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Talking, sweating, pulling?
Speaker 3 (12:07):
Please, we don't need to compare nothing this food and
had her at the party and invited her to the party.
He's so damn stupid.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
It was bound to happen.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
See, I think that all he can do. No, you're
not being a brat. That's a common thing for a
woman to feel that way, another woman playing in her party,
especially his ex. You're not being a brat. He offers
you an apology, he should just say, hey, baby, I
didn't know it would affect you that way. I'm deeply sorry.
I was just trying to do the best I can.
I know she's really good at it, And no matter,
(12:41):
don't don't say that, dog, don't say I know she's
really good at don't say she good at anything. Say
I should have left that heifer at the divorce court.
And I'm sorry I have any you know, but she
has a child of ours. God, I wish she'd just.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Go away all right. Sorry, it won't happen again.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Believe your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram at
Steve Harvey FM, and check us out on the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app Free never sounded
so good coming up next to his junior with Sports Talk.
Right after this, you're listening to Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEARVFM dot com by
clicking Submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
You never know. Muggle up and hold on tight. We
got it for you here. It is draw Mary Lenna,
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Nephew. Subjects ye he let her plan my party. Dear
Stephen Shirley. I've been married for three years and I
met my husband at my nephew's birthday party. He had
dropped off a bunch of tables and chairs in his
pickup truck, and he spoke to me in the parking
lot as he left. He told me that day that
he was going to marry me. I got butterflies because
(00:48):
he was tall and bald, and he looked through my
soul when he talked to me. We stayed outside talking
for so long that I was late to the party.
A few days after the party, we went out on
a first state and he admitted that his ex wife
is a party planner, and she owns an upscale events company,
and he helps her with the business because he owns
(01:10):
a small percentage of it. He says they're good friends
and have a good co parenting relationship. We got married
eight months after we met, and we've had our ups
and downs with his ex wife. She's cordial, but we've
never clicked. My husband told me she's not an outgoing
person and she doesn't have a lot of girlfriends. Because
(01:30):
of that, I have to endure her calls to my
husband whenever she wants to vent over a business matter.
I honestly think she should only call him when there's
an issue with their son, but I try not to
nag him. But where I draw the line is having
her plan my fortieth birthday party. I turned forty on
October second, and my husband had a small dinner cater
(01:53):
in our community clubhouse. The next night, he threw me
a surprise party at a lounge, and I was truly
surprised in more ways than one. The party was beautifully
done and everyone wore black and gold, but the party
planner wore an all gold dress to upstage me. It
was his ex wife. He allowed this woman to plan
(02:15):
my birthday party. This is unacceptable. He doesn't see the
harm in it? Am I being a brat?
Speaker 2 (02:22):
Oh boy?
Speaker 3 (02:24):
Wrong?
Speaker 1 (02:24):
Wrong, wrong, on just so many levels. This was just dumb.
What was your husband thinking. You don't let your ex
wife plan your current wife's birthday party, especially if they
don't get along, so you had no idea she was
going to help him, meaning he didn't tell you because
I know you would have shut the whole thing down
(02:45):
if he had told you that his ex knew everything though,
because well she had to know everything so she could
plan it and then through, you know, just throw it
in your face and try to upstage you, which she
did with her all gold after everybody had to wear
black and gold. This is the one time he should
not have led his ex wife plan the party because
(03:06):
it was for you. And again, and you and his
ex don't get along, so anything could have happened and
your party would have been ruined. Also, this had nothing
to do with her. This was supposed to be all
about you celebrating turning forty. The crazy thing is, though
you knew what he did and what they did together
before you guys got married, he was still in business
(03:29):
with his ex and he still helped her because he
owns part of the business. He said, So, I mean,
you know, the only thing I could tell you at
this point is that your husband, of course, was wrong.
You know that he did a very stupid thing. He
needs to find a way to fix this immediately. He
needs to become a silent partner with his wife from
(03:51):
now on in this business, Steve.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
It's a couple of things in here. You met him,
he was gonna marry you eight months lady, y'all get married.
You know, hell, he was tall, he was bald. I
get it. You know, I get it. I'm tall, I'm bald.
I get I get it. I get it. You got it.
You saw what you wanted it and have it eight
(04:19):
months later you did it. Yeah, okay, cool? Uh.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
I just don't know.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
I don't.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
I really don't. The problem.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
In his letter, his ex wife is a party planner.
She owns an upscale events company, and he helps her
with the business because he owns a small percentage of it.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
But they're divorced.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
He said, they're good friends and they have a good
co parenting relationship. Well, y'all got married, and y'all in
had you ups and downs with his ex wife. You
gonna have that. The ex wives is exies for a reason.
Listen to me, she's pardi. But we've never clicked, ain't
you ain't finna click? She don't click with nobody. Your
(05:05):
husband told you she's not an outgoing person. She don't
have a lot of girlfriends. Because of that, I have
to endure her calls to my husband whenever she wants
to vent over a business matter. I honestly think she
should only call when there's an issue with that son,
but I try not to nag you.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Well, if he's part of.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
Owner in the business and they own this business together,
I think you're gonna have to own up to this
little piece of baggage that he has. He's a co
business owner with his ex wife, so I think he's
gonna have to deal with that issue, and then they're
gonna talk about the sun.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
But where you draw the line is her fortieth.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
Birthday party she planned your forty.
Speaker 4 (05:50):
God said, God, yeah, boy, all of this leads down
to that fortieth party.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
I guess you knew nothing about it.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
But when we come back, we'll get into what happened
at that party and what made you know that she
planned what was at that part.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
That was so hurt? But not you? What did she do?
Good Lord of mercy happeners.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
All right, listen, we're gonna have part two of Steve's
response to today's Strawberry letter coming up at twenty three
minutes after the hour. You don't want to miss it.
Today's Strawberry letter, subject he let her plan my party.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
hard morning show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap
(06:56):
today's Strawberry letter, the subject he let her plan my party?
Speaker 3 (07:01):
Yeah, she married this tall, handsome ball man, such a
such a group of us, you know you couldn't help Yeah,
and good looking, you know you couldn't help it. You
got sprung, you saw, yeah, eight months all that's in
the letter somewhere. And he had a pickup truck too,
(07:22):
that did it right there? To pick up truck, Well,
pick what you need to pick me up? You know
what I'm saying. You got to pick up truck. You
need to put something in the back. You know what
I'm saying. Yeah, it's got all that room back down.
Won't you put this in the back of that down?
Yea anyway, they got married. Now he has an ex
wife and they own part of this big event playing
(07:43):
company together and they have a little child. Uh, never
really click with the wife because she's just not an
outgoing person. He told you his wife don't have a
lot of friends, So y'all ain't never really clicked. Y'all
don't have jeups and downs with the ex wife because
of everything. So anyway, and you have to endure when
(08:06):
she calls her husband to vent over.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
The business matter.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
And I honestly think she should only call him when
there's an issue with their son. Well, you can't realistically
expect that he came with the baggage. He told you
they had a business together, and he's a small percentage
on us. So I think he's gonna have to bite
the bullet on that one. And so those are gonna
be some phone calls. That's okay, I got that here
your problem. But where you draw the line is having
(08:30):
her plan my fortieth birthday party.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
I turned fortieth on October second.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
My husband had a small dinner catered in our community
club house.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
Okay, that was good. He did that and had a
small dinner some friends over. It's small.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
You ain't got no, she ain't got no friends. You know, well,
it's not for her. But you had a dinner party
at the clubhouse. My bad, wrong woman.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
But then the.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Next night, though, he threw you a surprise party at
a lounge, and I was surprised in more ways. And
the party was beautifully done, all right, now cool? Everybody
wore black and gold, but the party planner wore an
all gold dress to upstage me. Yeah, she did that dish,
(09:15):
came out with that all gold dress on. Only thing
black she had on was some shoes, unless she found
some gold shoes too. Christian Lubiton's with the red bottle.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
Yeah, what did you have on? Though? Let's talk about you.
You told everybody to go black.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
You want, you want that little black ass dressed with
the little but you wore gold jewelry. You in there
looking like everybody else. That's what really happened. You wore
that little tight black dress. But she came in with
a tight her gold dress. Yeah tighter. What else was
at the party that you let it know? It wasn't you? Well,
(09:56):
you don't really care for ham and cheese, right, had
a whole lot of ham and cheese. Yeah, you don't
like angel food cake, But your cake was angel food.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
She just in that got cake all around her mouth
is so good.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
Yeah, you don't really like orange juice, but mimosas was
flowing from a fountain.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Yeah, she had played this party. Now. Everybody else was
loving the party.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
But you can't believe the dress she had on. Oh lord,
it's the dress she had on. She was in there
with it right and tight. The problem is though, See,
you ain't got no babies. See she had a baby,
still got a little bit of baby wait on her.
But she had found some spanks that could help her,
(10:50):
and she had them spanks on too. But you knew
they were spanks, but nobody else knew. She looked real
put together. This party was a disaster, your dumb ann.
Her husband let her plan at the party, and she
came to the party. First of all, y'all ain't cool.
Why is she at the party? Is she the party planner?
(11:13):
She didn't have to go to the party. She ain't
your girlfriend. Y'all ain't cool? Why is the ex wife
at your party? Ain't no way I could pull that on.
It ain't no way closer. That don't ever happened to
me was my daughter got married from my first marriage.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Oh yeah, we were all there. Yeah, y'all who you
were nervous that night?
Speaker 2 (11:42):
I sat between her and if you're on the.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
Front, rook, you were nervous that night.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
The rehearsal dinner the night before. I needed that to
be over.
Speaker 4 (11:52):
I'm afrazy, but they were cool though.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
They were cool, super cool. First time they ever met,
first time they ever talked. I'm sitting there the whole time.
Why are y'all.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Talking, sweating, pulling?
Speaker 3 (12:07):
Please, we don't need to compare nothing this food and
had her at the party and invited her to the party.
He's so damn stupid.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
It was bound to happen.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
See, I think that all he can do. No, you're
not being a brat. That's a common thing for a
woman to feel that way, another woman playing in her party,
especially his ex. You're not being a brat. He offers
you an apology, he should just say, hey, baby, I
didn't know it would affect you that way. I'm deeply sorry.
I was just trying to do the best I can.
I know she's really good at it, And no matter,
(12:41):
don't don't say that, dog, don't say I know she's
really good at don't say she good at anything. Say
I should have left that heifer at the divorce court.
And I'm sorry I have any you know, but she
has a child of ours. God, I wish she'd just.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Go away all right. Sorry, it won't happen again.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Believe your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram at
Steve Harvey FM, and check us out on the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app Free never sounded
so good coming up next to his junior with Sports Talk.
Right after this, you're listening to Harvey Morning Show.
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