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Speaker 1 (00:01):
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Speaker 2 (00:20):
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We got it for you here. It is Prawberry Letter.

Speaker 3 (00:26):
Thank you nephew.

Speaker 1 (00:27):
Subject he's working off the money he owes me.

Speaker 3 (00:31):
Dear Stephen Shirley.

Speaker 1 (00:33):
I'm forty eight years old and I've been taking care
of my twenty six year old daughter and her husband
for three years. I'm a registered nurse and I got
my son in law job and laundry at the hospital
I work in. He's got a college degree, but he
refuses to apply himself and get a job because he
doesn't like the starting salary. He thinks he's supposed to
be balling out the gate with his little degree.

Speaker 3 (00:56):
My daughter, on the.

Speaker 1 (00:57):
Other hand, is in dental school and she will graduate
next to May. That's the only reason that I chip
in to make sure they have a roof over their heads.
My son in law is a little handsome guy, and
he knows it. He's charmed all of the ladies at
the hospital, so they do most of his work for him.
I collect his check at the end of every week

(01:17):
because I should not have to take care of them.
My daughter has a problem with how I handle things,
but she can either accept my help or divorce this
dead beat. The other day, my son in law had
been drinking and he called me and said he didn't
like his job and he wanted to quit. I told
him that would be fine, but he'd have to come
up with the way to cover their monthly mortgage. He

(01:37):
got very upset and hung up. My daughter called me
later and said that I was being very controlling and
that I was using her husband to pay back the
money they owe.

Speaker 3 (01:46):
Me as a couple. She said, I owe.

Speaker 1 (01:50):
Her husband a lot of money because I've been taking
most of his paychecks. I don't see how my educated
daughter doesn't understand what's going on here. She's with a
dead beat that owes me money, and she's defending him.
What do I do next? Cut them off and let
them figure it out. Please advise you definitely need to
give them a deadline to make some kind of changes

(02:12):
or get out. I mean, it's called tough love, but
they have a way of making you feel guilty about
making them grow up and being responsible.

Speaker 3 (02:21):
I'm sure if he.

Speaker 1 (02:22):
Wasn't married to your daughter, you would have handled this
a different way.

Speaker 3 (02:25):
Anyway.

Speaker 1 (02:26):
I can't believe how entitled and unappreciative they are.

Speaker 3 (02:30):
Your house, your rules. I mean, it's as simple as that.

Speaker 1 (02:33):
You're not obligated to do anything, but like you say,
you're providing them with a roof over their heads because
your daughter is finishing up dental school. You got her
husband the job he has now, and he hasn't bothered
to even look for another job. But it's talking about
quitting the one he has that makes no sense, and
he's proving that he can't take care of your daughter
or himself. Let them know that you are giving them

(02:57):
until May when your daughter graduates, to move out or
get themselves together, unless they're ungrateful attitudes requires them to
be asked out sooner. I think you need to have
a family meeting and remind them how just how good
they do have it.

Speaker 3 (03:14):
Tommy, But.

Speaker 2 (03:19):
How much did he owe you? I mean this is
every check going to you. I mean, we we can't
seem to catch up. Well, so how much does he
owe you?

Speaker 4 (03:29):
And what?

Speaker 2 (03:30):
How did he get in this rut that he owes
you this much money?

Speaker 4 (03:34):
And I got it?

Speaker 2 (03:35):
Okay, he got a degree, his wife, your your your
daughter has uh is in dental school. So she about
to come up in a minute. But so he can,
he can always get his te figs.

Speaker 4 (03:45):
We know that. But what I'm trying to figure out
what do he owe you? Though? What?

Speaker 1 (03:49):
What?

Speaker 4 (03:49):
How much do he owe you? And he lived they
live at your house.

Speaker 2 (03:52):
But he's sexy and he work at the hospital, which
she because you are our inn, you are registered nurse.
He works there and you know what, everybody like him.
He's sexy. And you know what, you think he's sexy
to him? You like him, you like I know, I
know for sure sure that ain't never stopping nothing before

(04:13):
it's been going on. We know what she won't shure,
especially okay, especially the strawberry. She want him, She want him.
You want you want what your daughter got and you
can't have it. But since you can't have it, guess what,
you know what you're doing? He gonna have to pay me.
I want all my money as soon as he get
his check. Now, what what job is it that gives

(04:36):
somebody else's check to somebody?

Speaker 4 (04:40):
Who'll do that? Why can't have my own check? Why?

Speaker 2 (04:43):
Why my check ain't automatic? All these checks is automatic.

Speaker 4 (04:45):
Now, ain't it. I'm just saying.

Speaker 2 (04:47):
I'm just saying, So, who is this lady that that
that's in position that she could just go grab somebody
check when it's at the end of the week or
the end of the two weeks, and you can just
take that money.

Speaker 4 (04:58):
But I don't get this.

Speaker 3 (04:59):
Part her house?

Speaker 4 (05:01):
Wow? Wow, do I make sense?

Speaker 2 (05:04):
Don't call er?

Speaker 4 (05:05):
How do you just get somebody check like this? How
you get somebody money.

Speaker 3 (05:09):
When you're living at their house? House?

Speaker 2 (05:11):
I guess.

Speaker 4 (05:11):
So I'm gonna say.

Speaker 2 (05:16):
I'm gonna say it as plain as I can say.
Them white folks don't know that. They don't know he
live over there with them.

Speaker 4 (05:24):
This is his check.

Speaker 2 (05:26):
Now, I understand that as a man, you're supposed to
pay for where you stay. You're supposed to pay for
your family. So if that's your wife, you pay, But
you're taking his money immediately. So how much money does
he owe you? And when does he not owe you anymore.
I'm just I'm just looking at it.

Speaker 3 (05:42):
Put that in the letter. They've been there three years.
Don't forget that she's been taking care of him for
three years.

Speaker 2 (05:46):
Oh you know how many checks that he is never
gonna get out. He's never gonna win, He's never gonna
get out.

Speaker 3 (05:54):
He needs to get out.

Speaker 2 (05:56):
He needs to start selling his sex inisted second with
these girls at the job.

Speaker 4 (06:03):
And that's how you make some extra money.

Speaker 2 (06:05):
I'm just saying, if you saw it selling your sexy
on the side, like all up in the in the
hospital and at the hospital, there's a lot of rooms.

Speaker 4 (06:14):
There's a lot of rooms. There's a lot of it's
a lot of rooms.

Speaker 2 (06:16):
With the people ain't doing nothing in Go in there,
unload your sexy. Charge five hundred for your sexy, get
you some paper.

Speaker 4 (06:26):
What what how much y'all thinks?

Speaker 3 (06:30):
Sect you come the male prostitute?

Speaker 2 (06:32):
Now what a male prostitute?

Speaker 4 (06:37):
Orderly that work?

Speaker 3 (06:38):
All right? Listen, we'll have more.

Speaker 1 (06:44):
On this Strawberry letter at twenty three minutes after the
our Today's Strawberry Letter subject he's working off the money
he owes me.

Speaker 3 (06:51):
We'll get back into it right after this you're listening
hard morning show.

Speaker 4 (06:57):
Here we go.

Speaker 1 (06:57):
We're going to recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is
he's working off the money he owes me. Forty eight
year old woman wrote in she's been taking care of
her twenty six year old daughter and her husband for
three years.

Speaker 3 (07:09):
She's a registered nurse.

Speaker 1 (07:11):
She got her son in law job and the laundry
room at the hospital where she works. He's got a
college degree, but she says he doesn't want to apply
himself and get a job because he doesn't like the
starting salary of any of these jobs. He thinks he's
just supposed to be balling out the gate with his degree.
Her daughter, on the other hand, is in dental school.
She'll finish up in May. They're upset because the mom

(07:34):
takes the money. She takes the son in law's check
every week. They paid the mortgage. I'm assuming she takes
care of them, and he'd been drinking. One time he
called the mom and said he didn't like his job
and he wanted to quit, and she said that would
be fine, that that would be fine. The daughter is

(07:56):
mad because she says the mother is using her husband
to pay back the money they owe as a couple,
and it's kind of a big mess because she said
that her husband owes her a lot of money, that's
why she's been taking most of his paychecks. And she
thinks that her son is a dead beat. Her son
in law is a deadbeat, and she doesn't understand why

(08:16):
her daughter doesn't see this. So she's asking should she
cut them out or let them figure it out themselves?

Speaker 3 (08:23):
And that's where we are, Junior.

Speaker 5 (08:25):
Yeah, yeah, cut them off, put them on, because you're
enabling just behave three years.

Speaker 4 (08:31):
You take the chase for three years.

Speaker 5 (08:33):
And you can't understand why he don't want to do
nothing with his degree because you keep paying it.

Speaker 4 (08:38):
He doesn't have to come on. Okay, what's going on.

Speaker 5 (08:42):
Down in this laundry room?

Speaker 4 (08:44):
That's her the sheets in that gut.

Speaker 5 (08:47):
What's the excuses if we use it every time he
gets paid and he got an age?

Speaker 4 (08:51):
Listen, you know I'm telling you right now.

Speaker 3 (08:53):
Listen to the month's.

Speaker 5 (08:54):
Colored clothes and he's white clothes, and his hospital and
the scrubs. You know, we have a whole lot of
problems down here. You know I'm talking about he told
me I messed up because I didn't use the time
I used down.

Speaker 4 (09:03):
Here, That's what I did. I messed up.

Speaker 5 (09:05):
I'm having some problems that stress. Yeah, job is killing me.
I'm telling you, I gotta have help every single day.

Speaker 4 (09:13):
You know. This fabric softening is a.

Speaker 5 (09:14):
Lot, this fabric softening down here, Mama, you don't standing
with him.

Speaker 4 (09:21):
I'm going through a lot down here, and I just
need help you.

Speaker 5 (09:24):
Matter of fact, you know, while I'm on the phone
with you, do you know when they use cold water?

Speaker 4 (09:30):
Cause they ain't told me nothing down here. They just
hide me.

Speaker 5 (09:33):
And I'm just down here, and I'm gonna tell you
another thing when when that dry on is hot in here.
It's a lot, it's a lot of problems. So I
just I'm just gonna have to just give you a
little bit of my check. Now I'm gonna take it off,
but I'm just telling you just keep aing his mortgage
for us. This sounds crazy, It's absolutely crazy. There's no
way in the world this man don't know what he's doing.

Speaker 3 (09:54):
So if you keep.

Speaker 5 (09:55):
Paying for it, he's gonna keep doing it. And guess
what your daughter is taking enough for him.

Speaker 3 (10:01):
Yeah, it's a problem.

Speaker 4 (10:03):
She didn't tell you.

Speaker 5 (10:05):
How you gonna do him like that, and here in
the background, babe, do you use tie the game?

Speaker 4 (10:12):
Oh, it's that's all they do. He practices at home,
trying to get it right at.

Speaker 3 (10:16):
Work, laundry, doing the laundry at home.

Speaker 5 (10:22):
Yeah, hey, do we use family on these times?

Speaker 4 (10:25):
What about these times? I'm down here? Watch?

Speaker 5 (10:28):
He got way too many problems and he won't use
his degree, he lays.

Speaker 3 (10:33):
That's what her mom is saying. He's a deadbeat. That's
what she's saying.

Speaker 5 (10:37):
Absolutely, if he's a deadbeat, why is the question do
we cut him off?

Speaker 4 (10:40):
The question? Yes, you cut him off?

Speaker 3 (10:42):
Yeah, yeah, absolutely need somewhere. I agree, I agree, I agree.
So so so.

Speaker 5 (10:49):
We were gonna do we using may tag of Whirlpool,
which was man, you know.

Speaker 4 (10:59):
You got you straight with that game though, that game
powder or liquid liquid game boy, I've been using the pad.
They're gonna find me.

Speaker 3 (11:16):
Some towels.

Speaker 2 (11:17):
They make powder, They do make powder, but that but
that liquid calling my my drawers is incredible with that
game on over sharing. Oow, so I'm the only person
washed drawers. I'm the only one wash draw Yeah, I'm

(11:38):
just saying that she.

Speaker 1 (11:39):
Needs to give him a deadline to get out definitely.
She's trying to wait till her daughter graduates from dental
school in May.

Speaker 3 (11:47):
In May.

Speaker 2 (11:48):
Yeah, hey, you know what I know? This is during
the letter time. Hey, what y'all watch? Watch your drawers
in what kind of First of all? None of yeah,
I mean y'all can't share that. No, I think I
think people would know how you watch your drawings? How
y'all watch y'all draw game time?

Speaker 4 (12:11):
What I don't I don't do no washing, my wife washing.

Speaker 2 (12:15):
Oh the.

Speaker 4 (12:18):
Conversation. See there, I don't even go in there. I
don't know. Really, you don't go.

Speaker 5 (12:25):
It on, so I can't do in it.

Speaker 4 (12:28):
Yours could be dirty?

Speaker 3 (12:30):
What did you do when you were singing?

Speaker 4 (12:32):
Could be dirty?

Speaker 3 (12:34):
When you were single?

Speaker 4 (12:35):
You didn't?

Speaker 2 (12:36):
You didn't.

Speaker 5 (12:36):
Oh yeah we have different washing machine, Dan, Yeah, oh okay,
that was gang all right, all right.

Speaker 1 (12:43):
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Speaker 3 (12:54):
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