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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
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by clicking on submit Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 2 (00:14):
We could be reading your letter live on the.

Speaker 1 (00:16):
Air, just like we're going to read this one right here,
right now, and you never know, it could be yours.

Speaker 3 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tape
you gut it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter, all.

Speaker 1 (00:26):
Right, Thank you, nephew. Subject he will be buried next
to his mama. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been married for
almost thirty years, so my husband and I started planning
for the future and making sure our two adult children
won't be straddled with any debt after we die.

Speaker 2 (00:43):
I told my husband that we should do a will,
and he told.

Speaker 1 (00:46):
Me that he already has one, and he did it
about fifteen years ago.

Speaker 2 (00:50):
He said, when he.

Speaker 1 (00:51):
Was helping his parents do one, his dad suggested that
he do one too, so he did. He said it
slipped his mind to tell me right then, but he
said he always told me that he was going to
be buried next to his mama and his dad would
be on the other side of his mama. I do
remember him telling me, but it was always when we
were joking around im. When we were joking around, I

(01:14):
do remember him telling I do remember telling him a
while back that I was going to kill him if
he didn't start stop bothering me, and he said that
if I do, just make sure he's buried next to
his mama. He has always been a big mama's boy,
and it never bothered me because I'm.

Speaker 2 (01:30):
A daddy's girl.

Speaker 1 (01:31):
The only time his mother irritated me was when she
would tell us how to plan for the future and
how to save our money. This must be how she
wrangled him into doing a will. He pulled the will
out of a safe deposit box under our bed and
let me read it. He plans to leave the house,
his savings, his car, and everything else to our two daughters.
Then at the bottom of the third page, I read

(01:53):
that he is to be buried next to his mother,
and his plot is already paid for. I would think
he'd want to be buried next to me, but when
I asked him, he said he'd rather lie next to
his parents. Eternally does it matter where he is buried
or should.

Speaker 2 (02:07):
He be buried next to me? Wow?

Speaker 1 (02:12):
Why are we even talking about death right now? But
this is what you gotta do. You do have to
plan for it, I suppose. And it's one thing to
be a mama's boy in life, but I never even
thought about a mama's boy being a mama's boy in death.
I mean, does anybody think about that? I guess Once

(02:33):
a mama's boy, always a mama's boy.

Speaker 2 (02:35):
Humh.

Speaker 1 (02:36):
And one would think one would think that you would
want to be married buried next to your wife. I mean,
that seems to be the normal thing, the end of story.
I mean, that's pretty much standard procedure. But even your
mom wants to be buried next to her husband.

Speaker 2 (02:55):
But you want to be buried next to your mom.

Speaker 1 (02:58):
Now, if you were divorced at the time of death, okay,
then you could be buried next to your mom.

Speaker 2 (03:03):
That seems reasonable and whatever.

Speaker 1 (03:07):
But what a slap in your face that he wants
to be married next to his mom. First, you guys
have been married to each other for thirty years, and
he made the will fifteen years ago without your knowledge.
I mean, there's no excuse for that something that big
would not have slipped anyone's mind. And I can't believe
he told you it slipped his mind.

Speaker 2 (03:28):
No way. So many people don't do wills.

Speaker 1 (03:31):
And then and then after they're gone, it's just a
huge family mess.

Speaker 2 (03:36):
People are fighting over everything.

Speaker 1 (03:38):
So I'm glad you guys had a presence of mine
to draw up a will and want to make sure
that you take care of your kids.

Speaker 2 (03:44):
But this should have.

Speaker 1 (03:45):
Been done as husband and wife together, not like your
husband did it without you and just with his parents.
So my suggestion is for you guys to get together,
tell him how you feel, and do a brand new
will with you guys getting buried next to each other.
I mean, I think that's the proper thing to do,
and they should. It should be no other way as

(04:06):
far as I'm concerned. I don't know if your husband's
going to agree with that, but you got to give
it a shot and let him know how you feel.

Speaker 4 (04:12):
Steve Boy, we get letters every now and there where
I truly don't care about, and this is one of them.
And so I don't know how many times I'm gonna
say I don't give a damn in this response of mine,
but I don't, and I don't know how to handle this.

(04:36):
This seems I don't. I don't think anybody's really thought
this out. I've never seen you know this, right, what
y'all talking about. You've been married almost thirty years, and
then you and your husband say you started planning for
the future, making sure our two adult children won't be
straddled with any debt after we die. That's y'all's planning.

(05:00):
Y'all playing for the future's death. Y'all playing for the
futures to make sure when y'all die, y'all two a debt,
children ain't straddled with no debt. That's the plan. Ain't
no we retiring, ain't no we we going on trips,
were gonna go see the world. There's no uplifting this

(05:21):
lad at all. This is all misery. I told your husband.
You said, you told your husband. We all to do
a wheel. He said, I already did one about fifteen
years ago. Oh oh, he said he was helping his
parents do one. His dad suggested he did one two,
so he did it. Then he said it slipped his
mind to tell you right there, okay, because the dude

(05:44):
tail you normally don't draw up a wheel in a day.
Normally you don't. But if it slipped his mind, he
didn't tell you. But he always told you that he
was gonna be buried next to his mama, and uh
and next to his mama, and his dad would be
on the other side of his mama.

Speaker 3 (06:07):
Okay, I can't tell you how much. I won't give
a damn right now.

Speaker 4 (06:12):
About where they did these people up and put them
off or where they gonna lay down or huh.

Speaker 3 (06:16):
I don't even know.

Speaker 4 (06:17):
I just hope y'all live a long, healthy life. I
would say that to you. I really want you to
live a long, healthy life because I want to live one.
But y'all looking forward to dyning too damn much for
me in this letter. This is just like a depressing
ass letter. So we'll get into the rest of it
when I come back.

Speaker 3 (06:34):
All right, hang up some more, dine.

Speaker 1 (06:36):
We'll have part two, it seems, response to today's Strawberry
letter at twenty three minutes after the hour.

Speaker 2 (06:43):
The subject is he will be buried next to his mama.
That's the subject. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening hard morning show, All right, Come on.

Speaker 1 (06:56):
Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter of the subject is
he will be buried next to his mama.

Speaker 4 (07:04):
Well, here we go with this depressing ass letter. Right here,
these are people that's planning for the future, and all
their plans is wrapped around dying. So here we go.
Let's get on back into this depressing letter. They've been
married thirty years. They was talking about their future. The
wife decided that we should have a will. He told
her already got one. I made it fifteen years ago,

(07:27):
and she was a little throwed off and in the
wheel he said that, Well, he just told her that
he had always wanted to be buried next to his
mama and his daddy was gonna be on the other
side of his mama. And I do remember him telling
him telling you this, but it was always when we
were joking around. Well, homeboy wasn't playing. I do remember

(07:51):
telling him a while back that I was gonna kill
him if he didn't stop bothering me. And he said
that if I do, just make sure he's buried next
to his mom. See, I don't know if y'all listen
everything in this letter, man, it's about this death and
this burial.

Speaker 3 (08:09):
I don't like people like this, I'm gonna.

Speaker 4 (08:12):
Kill you one day. Well if you do, now, make
sure you bury me next to my mama, cause my
daddy gonna be on the other side of my mama.

Speaker 3 (08:21):
Okay.

Speaker 4 (08:22):
He has always been a big mama's boy, and it
never bothered me because I'm a daddy's girl.

Speaker 3 (08:29):
Lady, that's different.

Speaker 4 (08:32):
It's different from being a mama's boy and a daddy's girl.

Speaker 3 (08:35):
That's different.

Speaker 4 (08:37):
And you're stupid for being putting up with this all
these years thinking it was the same because you was
a daddy's girl. Mama's boy different than daddy's girl. You
better believe.

Speaker 1 (08:47):
Break it down.

Speaker 2 (08:48):
Break it down.

Speaker 4 (08:49):
Well, a mama's boy, first of all, a daddy's girl.
She lives under the protection of her father. She can
go to her daddy and get anything. She kind of
got the daddy wrapped around the finger. It's not her
wrapped around the daddy's finger. She loves her daddy, she'll
do anything for him, but she knows she can go
to her daddy for anything.

Speaker 3 (09:09):
That's a daddy's girl.

Speaker 4 (09:12):
A mama's boy is beholden to mama first and foremost
and everything. And even though he take a wife the
mama steal first m Now that sounded like daddy girl
to you, and I'm giving you the short version of it,
So now you have a problem. The only time his
mother irritated me was when she would tell us how

(09:35):
to plan for the future and how to save y'all's money,
probably so when y'all die, she'll know what to do.
This must be how she wrangled him into doing a will.
She just told you his father said you should do
one two, but you're gonna put it off on this lady, right.

(09:56):
This must be how he wrangled she wrangled him into
doing it. The wheel out of a safe deposit box
under our bed.

Speaker 3 (10:04):
Let me say something to y'all.

Speaker 4 (10:06):
If you have a safe that you can pull out
under your bed that ain't a safe, matter of fact,
that ain't safe at all, they.

Speaker 3 (10:16):
Can pull it off from under your bed.

Speaker 4 (10:18):
Put it in their car, and go to their house
and work all open it in the garage. Y'all. So
did some pole mess right here? You got your safety
deposit box under your bed. Ooh, ain't nobody gonna think
to look under their.

Speaker 3 (10:39):
Okay, And he let me read it.

Speaker 4 (10:41):
He plans to leave the house, his savings, his car
and everything else to our two daughters. Then at the
bottom of the third page, I read that he is
to be buried next to his mama. This is the
fourth time in this letter. You then told me that
this ragged add as mama's boy. It's gonna get uried

(11:02):
next to his mama. Why are you still surprised at this?

Speaker 3 (11:06):
Damn you don't think she should be in shocked for
a shock.

Speaker 4 (11:11):
I read that he is to be very next to
his mother, and his plot is already paid for, So
then he died. You ain't got to pay for that.
You don't see the upside in this. I would think
he'd want to be very next to me. Well he
don't you that already threatened to kill the man.

Speaker 3 (11:30):
In the letter. You're nagging the man, You're telling him
what he all to do.

Speaker 4 (11:35):
Now you're mad at him for having a wheel already,
and you think he.

Speaker 3 (11:39):
Want to be married very next to you for what?

Speaker 4 (11:43):
But when I asked him, he said he would rather
lie next to his parents eternally. I got news for
all y'all foods in this letter. You're not gonna be
laying next to nobody eternally. As a matter of fact,
when you laying there, you ain't even gonna be aware
of him.

Speaker 1 (11:58):
What y'all think that is.

Speaker 4 (12:00):
I don't know if you really think what they was
doing back in Egypt, or you could get a tomb
and pack all this gold in that which you and
take it with you. They found out, they asked, don't
get nothing nowhere with them. Y'all are stupid. I can't
stand this letter. I don't care where he gets his
rat ass buried. I really don't like I said. I

(12:21):
wish everybody health and happiness and longevity in this letter,
but y'all are looking forward to dying way too much
for me, So damn it.

Speaker 3 (12:29):
Let's just get it over with. Where are y'all gonna die?

Speaker 4 (12:33):
Don't get up out of here. I don't care where
he get it burried. I don't give damn if he
gets buried. Next is mammy his damn daddy. I don't
get care if they get married on the pecan tree
in damn Louisiana.

Speaker 3 (12:45):
I don't care where you get better.

Speaker 4 (12:48):
You just get your ass in the ground and let's
get it over.

Speaker 2 (12:54):
Your comments to Strawberry letter, try to go to heaven.

Speaker 3 (12:57):
I don't give a damn what holy ground you put me.

Speaker 1 (13:00):
And Steve Harvey f M coming up next in his
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Speaker 2 (13:05):
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