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January 25, 2024 13 mins

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm fifty four years old and I'm married to my third husband. I have a tendency to get bored in relationships, so I was really trying to make my marriage work. I get hit on by men at least three times a week and I always have to flash my diamond ring so men know I'm taken. I guess it's my cute dimples and my sweet voice. Each one of my husbands told me that it's the baby talk that drove them crazy. Whatever it is, I know I can always get a man. But my current husband is boring and he's not into explicit videos or role playing. We've only been married two years and he's already stopped flipping me around when we're intimate..................................................

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
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Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you.

Speaker 3 (00:23):
Here.

Speaker 2 (00:24):
It is Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you nephew. Subject do I stay or move?

Speaker 3 (00:29):
On?

Speaker 1 (00:29):
To number five? There's Stephen Shirley. I'm fifty four years
old and I'm married to my third husband. I have
a tendency to get bored in relationships, so I was
really trying to make my marriage work. I get hit
on by men at least three times a week, and
I always have to flash my diamond ring so men
know I'm taken. I guess it's my cute dimples and

(00:50):
my sweet voice. Each one of my husbands told me
that it's the baby talk that drove them crazy. Whatever
it is, I know I can always get am but
my current husband is boring and he's not into explicit videos.
Or role playing. We've only been married two years and
he's already stopped flipping me around when we're intimate. I

(01:12):
was telling my sister how plain our sex is, and
he overheard me on the phone. He went off yelling
and screaming at me. He threw my past and up
in my face. He said that I'm in the I'm
the problem in all of my failed relationships because I
want to stay young and do things young women do.
My sisters heard everything that he said to me and

(01:34):
told me to get out of the house to clear
my head. I met her at a cafe and we
had some drinks, and then in walked the man of
my dreams. He had on a number five jersey, but
he was not playing no games at all. That night
he had me twisted up all kinds of ways at
his house and he made me forget about my marriage.
I've called him number five and we've been messing around

(01:57):
for like three months. He wants me to leave my
husband for him. My husband never apologized for the way
he talked to me, so if we break up, it
won't be my fault. I feel like I should be
single and just do me for a while. Should I
try to make this third marriage work or move on
to number five? Have you ever tried to make your

(02:18):
marriage or any of your marriages work for that matter,
Because it seems like when the bad times come, when
you get bored and all that and bad times are
going to come into marriage. We all know that you're
ready to give up and just move on.

Speaker 2 (02:32):
You quit.

Speaker 1 (02:33):
That's really sad because if you're only around for the
good times, you're never going to be happy, never, because
that just isn't how marriage works. So here you are
ready to quit yet again. I love that you don't
even consider for a moment what your husband said might
be true. He said, you're the problem because you want
to stay young and do what young women do. Well,

(02:55):
what's going to be different with you if you divorce
husband number three and get with this guy you just
met nothing, If you don't put any effort into it,
you'll just get bored all over again. You said that
you get you have a tendency to get bored in relationships.
I mean, do you even love your husband? I don't
even You haven't mentioned that, not one time in this

(03:17):
whole letter. And what's gonna happen if you do leave
him and go for number five, the man who had
you flipped around. You know, after you met him for
one night, how long will it take you to get
bored with him? You can't leave a whole marriage based
on a one night's stand. That's never gonna work, ma'am.
It's just never gonna work.

Speaker 2 (03:37):
Steve, I didne wrote so many notes down right here.

Speaker 3 (03:42):
Yeah, let the finished this up.

Speaker 2 (03:46):
I just don't.

Speaker 3 (03:47):
I just have so many things that's I really don't
need to read this letter. But it's just nothing in
this letter makes any sense at all. You're fifty four
years old and married to my third husband. I have
a tendency to get bored in relationship. I was really
trying to make my marriage work, really, and then right
after that statement right there, all that she negates everything.

(04:10):
Right after this, I was really trying to make my
marriage work. I get hit on by men at least
three times a week, and I have to flash my
diamond rings so me and know I'm taking no. See,
the reason you get hit on by men three times
a week is because.

Speaker 2 (04:24):
You look like that. You look like that, you draw.

Speaker 3 (04:29):
Listen to me, Whatever you put out is what comes
back to you. You put out, Look at me, listen
to me, see me, watch me, And that's what men do.
We hunted, So we do you, we do, see you,
we do look at you, we do, won't you?

Speaker 2 (04:42):
That ain't nothing new.

Speaker 3 (04:44):
If all the women acted the way you act, they
could all get hit on three times a week. But
you married, though, Where are you? Where you always getting
hit on three times a week? All right, here we go.
I guess it's my cue dimples in my sweet voice.

Speaker 2 (05:02):
That could be part of it. That could be.

Speaker 3 (05:05):
Each one of my husbands told me that this the
baby talk that drove them crazy.

Speaker 2 (05:10):
That's the listening talk to somebody's TV. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yes,
that baby talk driving crazy.

Speaker 3 (05:17):
But that baby talk don't keep them, don't do it,
cause see, how do we do all this baby talking?
We gotta do some grown folks stuff. And we got
many bills up in here. Hey, we need to save
some money, you know. But you got you, you got
at one point in time, you got you gotta move on,
all right? Anyway? I know I can always get a man,

(05:37):
Yes you can, but you can't keep one. You are
on husband number three at fifty four. Getting a man
is one thing, Keeping them is another. Now you can
make mistakes and pick the wrong man. I gotten that,
But damn, all you talking about is you get bored
in your relationship.

Speaker 2 (05:57):
All relationships hit the boring point.

Speaker 3 (06:00):
They all get you, all get all getting regular after
a while.

Speaker 2 (06:04):
All of them do.

Speaker 3 (06:06):
Ain't nobody, So man, my marriage is just feel with
excitement the whole time. No, it's not these days when
you be sitting there going wild. But now I want
to get boring for you. You think you I can
always get him in, but you can't keep one. My
current husband is boring and he's not into explicit videos
of role play.

Speaker 2 (06:24):
No, I won't do that.

Speaker 3 (06:26):
Explicit videos and role playing what you want to play?

Speaker 2 (06:31):
I don't want to.

Speaker 3 (06:32):
Be a pirate tonight. I don't want to wear a patch.
I don't want to parent in the bedroom tonight.

Speaker 1 (06:38):
All right, all right, Steve, hang on, we'll have part
two of your response coming up at twenty three minutes
after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter subject do I stay
or move?

Speaker 3 (06:48):
On?

Speaker 1 (06:48):
To number five? We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening hard morning show. All right, Steve, come on,
let's recap today's crazy Strawberry letter. But the subject is
do I move or do I stay or move on
to number five?

Speaker 3 (07:05):
Look, lady been married three times, she's fifty four years old.
She's complaining that all her relationships get boring. And you know,
she says that she get hit on three times a
week by men.

Speaker 2 (07:15):
She has to flash her diamond rings. So men, no,
she taken.

Speaker 3 (07:19):
But see, they wouldn't know you was available if you
weren't acting a certain way. Then you like that, so
now you want to flash your ring. It's the way
you acting is drawing. I'm telling you you attract what
you put out. That's what you're doing. Whatever it is.
I know I can always get a man. Oh that's cool.
Most women can. He's keeping them. That's the problem. See
a lot of women can go out here. Most women
can go out here and get a man today, keeping

(07:41):
them that's another problem. But my current husband is born.
He's not into explicit videos or role player. He ain't
into that. He don't like that. Okay, and we've only
been married two years and now here we go, and
he's already stopped flipping me around when we are intimate,
So he didn't already stopped flipping you around. I was
telling my sister how play our sex is you know

(08:04):
why he stopped flipping you around? Cause when he flipped
you around, he know what he gonna get. You know what, lady,
you ain't all you think you are. Maybe all this
flipping sex where you got to have, maybe it ain't
that good. Maybe you need to work on some most
stable moves because flipping ain't your thing no more.

Speaker 2 (08:20):
You're fifty four.

Speaker 3 (08:23):
Have you ever thought about why he stopped flipping? Maybe
you don't flip the same no more. Most some own
bios when she get fifty four, she aint gonna be
flipped like this no more.

Speaker 2 (08:31):
And she a professional flipper.

Speaker 3 (08:33):
But I can bet you when some own bios turned
fifty four, she ain't gonna be a flipped like that
no more.

Speaker 2 (08:38):
Not he a coming, Nacha. She ain't in the Olympics
no more. Not here coming coming, come and Chi coming nacha.

Speaker 3 (08:45):
You can call him what you gonna call her, but
you ain't gonna call her no damn Ja. You get
all this stuff, you don't know. Nobody flipped at fifty
four like they used to. He overheard me on the phone.
He went off yelling, screaming at me, and he threw
the past and he said, your problem is all your
fair relationships, because I want to stay young and do
things young women do, but you can't do it no more.

(09:07):
Young women like to get flipped, but they good at flipping.
See flipping your old lass nights different flip you one time,
you help go out ship you one time. Then you
get a Charlie Hall tried to flip your last week.
You hit your two folk against the head boy. Now
you complain and stuff tied of flipping you. I want

(09:28):
to stay young and do things that young women do.
You fifty four, you can do some things, you just
can't do them the same way. My sister heard everything
he said and told me to get out the house,
clear my head. I met her at a cafe and
we had some drinks, and then in walked the man
of my dream. He had on the number five jersey.

Speaker 2 (09:47):
I be damned.

Speaker 3 (09:48):
Reggie Bush walked in, Charles White walk in. These are
all the number fives our lives. Yeah, but it was
not playing no games at all that night. So you
just saw him one time. Now you're at his house.

(10:08):
He had me twisted up all kinds of ways in
his house, and he made me forget about my marriage.

Speaker 2 (10:14):
Wow.

Speaker 1 (10:15):
Wow, just like that one night, Sam.

Speaker 3 (10:18):
I call him number five and weve been messing around
for like three months. He wants me to leave my
husband for him. My husband never apologized for the way
he talked to me, so if we break up, it
won't be my fault. Okay, okay, I see this coming.
I see this coming. I feel like I should be
single and just do me for a while.

Speaker 2 (10:37):
You gonna be single, Don't worry.

Speaker 3 (10:39):
You ain't got to wish. Don't worry about it this coming.
Should I try to make this third marriage work or
move on the number five? I strongly suggest you move
on the number five. You've been at number five house
for three months now, so what you're writing us for?

Speaker 2 (10:52):
Should you move on? You're over that now. You're probably
texting on the way to the house. Now.

Speaker 3 (10:58):
You ain't gonna be able to keep number five either,
because number five gonna get tired.

Speaker 2 (11:01):
Of flipping you.

Speaker 3 (11:02):
Because relationships have to be about molding flipping, and when
you get in a real relationship, it turns into what
the relationship is, how we have a relationship together in
all things, not just flipping. Do you know you spend
the most of your time in your life not having sex?
Do you know that the majority of your hours will

(11:22):
be spent not having sex.

Speaker 2 (11:25):
I believe that. Please understain and lady, I got something.
Tell you. Your husband's right, it's you. The problem is
you and you ain't learned a damn thing.

Speaker 3 (11:43):
Yeah, staying young is great, but at one point you
have to mature because you are changing as a person.
Any people that don't change as they get older, you are.
You are dealing with a fool. You ain't gonna ever
have nothing. You know what breaks you up? What attracts
you to me and is your baby talk. You know

(12:03):
what make him leave, your baby ways because you was
a silly, little simple I like that.

Speaker 1 (12:09):
Say that again?

Speaker 2 (12:10):
That was good.

Speaker 3 (12:11):
You can attract them with your baby talk. For what
makes him leave is your baby ways, So you can
keep on with your little God got hey, baby, American
Express is gonna close the card.

Speaker 2 (12:24):
I do want to close the car? Yeah, well we
gotta make a payment. Oh, I want you to flip me.

Speaker 3 (12:31):
Hey, hey, hey, American Express on a flip too. They
want to slip a check over to him. Yeah, you
got thirty days. We gotta we gotta flip some money
over there. So, lady, you're never gonna have nothing. I
strongly suggest you leave this husband and go on to
number five because you ain't acting like a wife no way,
and to be good riddles. Maybe your man can find

(12:52):
somebody that want to be married and treat him right.
Because you ain't gonna do nothing. You ain't never have nothing.
Number five you send me boy, wait till number thirty
two come through.

Speaker 1 (12:59):
That dope bra volks your domain.

Speaker 2 (13:02):
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Speaker 1 (13:04):
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