May 29, 2024 • 12 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm forty seven years old and my husband is seventy four. I used to work for him and we became close over the years, but we never had any romantic interest in each other. His wife passed in 2021 from pneumonia, and I was there for him. I made sure he ate and took his medicine. I got a few ladies from my church to assist me with cleaning out his wife's closets so he could move on. It was a process that took a full year. He told me he was used to seeing me every day, not just at work. He said he liked how I took care of him, and he asked me to have sex.....................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARBFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
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it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
You heard a buckle up and hold on tight. We
got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you, nephew. Subject if I had a dollar for
each time? All right, Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm forty seven
years old and my husband is seventy four. I used
to work for him and we became close over the years,
but we never had any romantic interest in each other.
His wife passed in twenty twenty one from pneumonia, and
(00:46):
I was there for him. I made sure he ate
and took his medicine. I got a few ladies from
my church to assist me with cleaning out his wife's
closets so he could move on. It was a process
that took a full year. He told me he was
used to seeing me every day, not just at work.
He said he liked how I took care of him,
(01:06):
and he asked me to have sex. He said it
just like that. After a few days of processing what
he said, I decided to let him have a little
taste because I felt like he needed it. After we
made love, he was hooked and he had to see
me every day. I told him he had to make
an honest woman out of me because the rumors started
to swirl around the office. We got married, and it
(01:29):
wasn't the romantic wedding that I'd always dreamed about. He
was financially stable, and he was great in bed for
an old man. The only thing I'm having trouble with
is him calling me his deceased wife's name while we
are having sex. If I had a dollar for every
time it has happened, i'd be a millionaire. He loves
to have sex, and at his age, I'm shocked at
(01:51):
how much stamina he has. But every time he's about
to finish, he says her name. He told me that
he tries to say my name, but he can't help it.
He said, it's hard to erase thirty five years of memories.
He's more comfortable taking me out in public, and he's
finally wearing his wedding ring, So it's starting to feel real.
(02:12):
Will my husband ever love me? Or will this always
be a marriage of convenience to him? Well, he's seventy
four and he's done the same thing for so long,
so I suppose there is some truth to After thirty
five years of marriage, it's hard to stop calling you
by his late wife's name. It could happen. It's a
hard habit to break, he said. He tries to say
(02:34):
your name, but he can't help it. But you know,
he just needs to try harder. I'm sure he wouldn't
like it if you called him by your ex's name,
So you have a point there. I'm with you on
that one. Anyway. He's also not the most sentimental man
that you could be with. You notice that when he
so blatantly asked you for sex when you were taking
(02:57):
care of him after his wife passed. He might still
be greething. It's only been like a year, right, you said,
so he you know, give him a little grace on
this one. Look at the positives. He's good in bed,
he takes care of you financially, which is probably one
of the reasons you married him. Anyway, and he's wearing
his new wedding ring and starting to take you out more.
(03:17):
It sounds like he's coming around, albeit slowly. He just
needs some time, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
Wow, Well, Shelley, why don't you just say you didn't
want to ask a letter today? You know we you know,
you know we could do that. You know you could
just take a day off. Because I understood clearly by
listening to your answer, surely you would not commited trying
to help her at all. You couldn't help her at all, Sureley,
(03:49):
because in this letter it has a lot of See, Shelley,
you don't like to confront women when they do something wrong.
Oh but you are tad do ass uh, but when
you see women that is true. Well, Suley, in this
letter right here, you didn't reprimand a woman, not one time.
(04:11):
And I just found it to be a letter food
that required some reprimands. So let me let me just
show you just a couple of things you might have
overlooked in your effort to just she know, not not
tell a woman when she wrong. We have to do
(04:31):
it both ways, surely. That's why it's called the Strawberry letter.
Because Shirley will always take the side of a woman
ninety seventy of the time.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
And you always take the sight of the men unless
you can't find them a good damn right.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Because.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
Because we have to have a balance. Well let's okay,
here we go. I'm forty seven, my husband is seventy four.
See how cute that is? Se how the numbers is reversed. Yeah,
forty seven seventy four had a nice little ring to it.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Didn't Now how much older is that for her?
Speaker 3 (05:11):
Twenty seven? Something like that. I used to work for him.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Now here we go.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
Now, I used to work for him, but we became
close over the years. But I never had any romantic interests.
We never had any romantic interests in each other. That's
not true. I will show you why that's not a
true statement. His wife passed in twenty twenty one from pneumonia,
(05:39):
and I was there for him. Oh okay. I made
sure he ate took his medicine, and I got a
few ladies from my church to assist me with cleaning
out his wife's closet so he could move on. It
was a process that took a four year What or.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Clause that you've been over? Cleaning out took you a
year do it?
Speaker 3 (06:03):
Huh?
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Who who claws? And you know take one year to
clean out? Maybe she didn't go she's stall it.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
She's stalling. Surely she a reason to go over there.
Surely it ain't take no year to clean out this moment.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
Claub, No, she said it did.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Surely that is not true. I'd have been in some
huge cloth.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
Surely don't take a year to move nobody out of
damn house.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
All right, Oh, we come back. I'm gonna go through
this real quick.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
I'm gonna two of Steve's response coming up at twenty
three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter subject if
I had a dollar for every time dot dot dot.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
morning show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's
Strawberry letter. The subject is if I had a dollar
(06:59):
for every time time?
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Well, you know.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
What, that's even funny too. I just picked that up.
If I had a dollar for every time. Well, we
gonna find out a little bit later on what she
would do if she had a dollar every time something happened.
But this is a money called right here. This is
a woman right here who took advantage of a situation
and surely didn't want to say it.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
But here I am.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
She's forty seven, she married a woman. A man that's
seventy four. You take forty seventy, flip it over, that's
seventy four. I used to work for him. We became
close over the years, but we never had any romantic interest.
Y'all came close over the years, but you ain't have
what was you getting close?
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Fault? What was you getting close for?
Speaker 3 (07:40):
But we never had any When a man gets close
to you, you don't think that's girls.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Stop. Then his wife passed.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
Away in twenty twenty one from pneumonia, and I was
there for him immediately. I'm talking about immediately. Soon as
she passed. I made sure he ate it, took his
metal listen. I got a few ladies from my church
to assist because if some some things she didn't know
how to do, and and to assist you with cleaning
(08:09):
out his wife's closet so he could move on. It
was a process that took a full year. Lady, stop,
you turn this into a process to take a year
so you could dig your heels in. It does not
take a year to clean out nobody closet. You can
(08:29):
move out of a mansion in less than a year.
Stop it. He told me he was used to seeing
me every day. Yeah, because you're over there cleaning the closet.
I taking a damn year. What was you taking over?
I'm gonna take a shoe out today. I'm gonna take
one brawl out.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Tomorrow. I'm gonna come back and get that other shoe.
Next week, girl back, I'm.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
Gonna take one pair of panty holes out. Well, let
me go now, this week is panty week. I'm gonna
take a pair of panties out each week. She over
there trying to see you every day, And then he said,
and then he got used to seeing me every day,
not just to work. He said he liked the way
I took care of him, and then he asked me
for sex. Hell yeah, girl, I should like the way
(09:19):
you cook, or like the way you clean that up,
and I like the way you put them dishes in
that dishwash. I should like the way you wipe out
that toilet. Girl, you wanna hair six? And then guess
what she said? Yeah, he said after that a few
days and then I was just like what? And then
after a few days of processing what he said. It
always take her a long time to do something. She
(09:41):
took a year to clean out that damn closet. Now
he asked for sex. That she did a few days
to process that, but work guess where. She came back
and said, I'm gonna let him have a little taste
because I felt like he needed it. I bet you did.
I bet you did. Yeah, he needed and you did too.
You've been over there a year trying to get it.
(10:02):
Why don't you put yourself in this latitude anyway? So
I told him we had sex every day. He had
to see me every day after that, And then I
told him he had to make an honest woman out
of me, because the rumors started to swirl around the office.
Oh they wasn't just swirling at the office. They were
swirling down at the office, down at the church.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Everything.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
We got married, and it wasn't the romantic wind that
I always dreamed about. He was financially stable, of course
he was. That's why you wanted his old ass, because
he was financially stable. Stop lady. He was great in
bed for an old man. The only thing I'm having
trouble with is him calling me he deceased wife's name
while we having sex. If I had a dollar every
(10:44):
time this happened, i'd be a millionaire. Well that's what
you married him for, anyway, But you can't get a
dollar for every time he called you or his name, O.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
Good goet youth true good truth? Do and me come on,
good good truth, got truth? Got you name? It's an
old lass name. What's anyway? Othello?
Speaker 3 (11:18):
When they when they went out somewhere, they used to
call him O G. But every time he's about to finish,
he says her name. He told me he tries to
say my name, but he can't help it. This hardly
race thirty five years of memories.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
It is.
Speaker 3 (11:32):
He's more comfortable taking me out in public. He's finally
wearing his wedding ring. I'm starting in it, so it's
starting to feel real. Well, my husband never loved me?
Or or am I always be a marriage or convenience
to him?
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Well?
Speaker 3 (11:48):
You think you a marriage of convenience to him, but
then you marry him for convenience. He's financially stable, he
owned the company you worked at, So or not? Will
I ever stop being a marriage or convenience for him? Well?
Ain't he a marriage or convenience for you? You get
(12:08):
married for the reason, and now you're living in it.
It's okay, and he gonna keep calling you her name.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
You can leave your comments on today's Strawberry Letter, I
need change.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
Your name, Get you a name changed to Gertrue.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
And check us out on the Strawberry Letter podcast. On
the free iHeartRadio app, We're Free. Never sounded so good now.
Coming up next, Mabel Wilson Sports Talk.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Right after this, you're listening morning show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARBFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
You heard a buckle up and hold on tight. We
got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you, nephew. Subject if I had a dollar for
each time? All right, Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm forty seven
years old and my husband is seventy four. I used
to work for him and we became close over the years,
but we never had any romantic interest in each other.
His wife passed in twenty twenty one from pneumonia, and
(00:46):
I was there for him. I made sure he ate
and took his medicine. I got a few ladies from
my church to assist me with cleaning out his wife's
closets so he could move on. It was a process
that took a full year. He told me he was
used to seeing me every day, not just at work.
He said he liked how I took care of him,
(01:06):
and he asked me to have sex. He said it
just like that. After a few days of processing what
he said, I decided to let him have a little
taste because I felt like he needed it. After we
made love, he was hooked and he had to see
me every day. I told him he had to make
an honest woman out of me because the rumors started
to swirl around the office. We got married, and it
(01:29):
wasn't the romantic wedding that I'd always dreamed about. He
was financially stable, and he was great in bed for
an old man. The only thing I'm having trouble with
is him calling me his deceased wife's name while we
are having sex. If I had a dollar for every
time it has happened, i'd be a millionaire. He loves
to have sex, and at his age, I'm shocked at
(01:51):
how much stamina he has. But every time he's about
to finish, he says her name. He told me that
he tries to say my name, but he can't help it.
He said, it's hard to erase thirty five years of memories.
He's more comfortable taking me out in public, and he's
finally wearing his wedding ring, So it's starting to feel real.
(02:12):
Will my husband ever love me? Or will this always
be a marriage of convenience to him? Well, he's seventy
four and he's done the same thing for so long,
so I suppose there is some truth to After thirty
five years of marriage, it's hard to stop calling you
by his late wife's name. It could happen. It's a
hard habit to break, he said. He tries to say
(02:34):
your name, but he can't help it. But you know,
he just needs to try harder. I'm sure he wouldn't
like it if you called him by your ex's name,
So you have a point there. I'm with you on
that one. Anyway. He's also not the most sentimental man
that you could be with. You notice that when he
so blatantly asked you for sex when you were taking
(02:57):
care of him after his wife passed. He might still
be greething. It's only been like a year, right, you said,
so he you know, give him a little grace on
this one. Look at the positives. He's good in bed,
he takes care of you financially, which is probably one
of the reasons you married him. Anyway, and he's wearing
his new wedding ring and starting to take you out more.
(03:17):
It sounds like he's coming around, albeit slowly. He just
needs some time, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
Wow, Well, Shelley, why don't you just say you didn't
want to ask a letter today? You know we you know,
you know we could do that. You know you could
just take a day off. Because I understood clearly by
listening to your answer, surely you would not commited trying
to help her at all. You couldn't help her at all, Sureley,
(03:49):
because in this letter it has a lot of See, Shelley,
you don't like to confront women when they do something wrong.
Oh but you are tad do ass uh, but when
you see women that is true. Well, Suley, in this
letter right here, you didn't reprimand a woman, not one time.
(04:11):
And I just found it to be a letter food
that required some reprimands. So let me let me just
show you just a couple of things you might have
overlooked in your effort to just she know, not not
tell a woman when she wrong. We have to do
(04:31):
it both ways, surely. That's why it's called the Strawberry letter.
Because Shirley will always take the side of a woman
ninety seventy of the time.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
And you always take the sight of the men unless
you can't find them a good damn right.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Because.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
Because we have to have a balance. Well let's okay,
here we go. I'm forty seven, my husband is seventy four.
See how cute that is? Se how the numbers is reversed. Yeah,
forty seven seventy four had a nice little ring to it.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Didn't Now how much older is that for her?
Speaker 3 (05:11):
Twenty seven? Something like that. I used to work for him.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Now here we go.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
Now, I used to work for him, but we became
close over the years. But I never had any romantic interests.
We never had any romantic interests in each other. That's
not true. I will show you why that's not a
true statement. His wife passed in twenty twenty one from pneumonia,
(05:39):
and I was there for him. Oh okay. I made
sure he ate took his medicine, and I got a
few ladies from my church to assist me with cleaning
out his wife's closet so he could move on. It
was a process that took a four year What or.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Clause that you've been over? Cleaning out took you a
year do it?
Speaker 3 (06:03):
Huh?
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Who who claws? And you know take one year to
clean out? Maybe she didn't go she's stall it.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
She's stalling. Surely she a reason to go over there.
Surely it ain't take no year to clean out this moment.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
Claub, No, she said it did.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Surely that is not true. I'd have been in some
huge cloth.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
Surely don't take a year to move nobody out of
damn house.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
All right, Oh, we come back. I'm gonna go through
this real quick.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
I'm gonna two of Steve's response coming up at twenty
three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter subject if
I had a dollar for every time dot dot dot.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
morning show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's
Strawberry letter. The subject is if I had a dollar
(06:59):
for every time time?
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Well, you know.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
What, that's even funny too. I just picked that up.
If I had a dollar for every time. Well, we
gonna find out a little bit later on what she
would do if she had a dollar every time something happened.
But this is a money called right here. This is
a woman right here who took advantage of a situation
and surely didn't want to say it.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
But here I am.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
She's forty seven, she married a woman. A man that's
seventy four. You take forty seventy, flip it over, that's
seventy four. I used to work for him. We became
close over the years, but we never had any romantic interest.
Y'all came close over the years, but you ain't have
what was you getting close?
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Fault? What was you getting close for?
Speaker 3 (07:40):
But we never had any When a man gets close
to you, you don't think that's girls.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Stop. Then his wife passed.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
Away in twenty twenty one from pneumonia, and I was
there for him immediately. I'm talking about immediately. Soon as
she passed. I made sure he ate it, took his
metal listen. I got a few ladies from my church
to assist because if some some things she didn't know
how to do, and and to assist you with cleaning
(08:09):
out his wife's closet so he could move on. It
was a process that took a full year. Lady, stop,
you turn this into a process to take a year
so you could dig your heels in. It does not
take a year to clean out nobody closet. You can
(08:29):
move out of a mansion in less than a year.
Stop it. He told me he was used to seeing
me every day. Yeah, because you're over there cleaning the closet.
I taking a damn year. What was you taking over?
I'm gonna take a shoe out today. I'm gonna take
one brawl out.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Tomorrow. I'm gonna come back and get that other shoe.
Next week, girl back, I'm.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
Gonna take one pair of panty holes out. Well, let
me go now, this week is panty week. I'm gonna
take a pair of panties out each week. She over
there trying to see you every day, And then he said,
and then he got used to seeing me every day,
not just to work. He said he liked the way
I took care of him, and then he asked me
for sex. Hell yeah, girl, I should like the way
(09:19):
you cook, or like the way you clean that up,
and I like the way you put them dishes in
that dishwash. I should like the way you wipe out
that toilet. Girl, you wanna hair six? And then guess
what she said? Yeah, he said after that a few
days and then I was just like what? And then
after a few days of processing what he said. It
always take her a long time to do something. She
(09:41):
took a year to clean out that damn closet. Now
he asked for sex. That she did a few days
to process that, but work guess where. She came back
and said, I'm gonna let him have a little taste
because I felt like he needed it. I bet you did.
I bet you did. Yeah, he needed and you did too.
You've been over there a year trying to get it.
(10:02):
Why don't you put yourself in this latitude anyway? So
I told him we had sex every day. He had
to see me every day after that, And then I
told him he had to make an honest woman out
of me, because the rumors started to swirl around the office.
Oh they wasn't just swirling at the office. They were
swirling down at the office, down at the church.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Everything.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
We got married, and it wasn't the romantic wind that
I always dreamed about. He was financially stable, of course
he was. That's why you wanted his old ass, because
he was financially stable. Stop lady. He was great in
bed for an old man. The only thing I'm having
trouble with is him calling me he deceased wife's name
while we having sex. If I had a dollar every
(10:44):
time this happened, i'd be a millionaire. Well that's what
you married him for, anyway, But you can't get a
dollar for every time he called you or his name, O.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
Good goet youth true good truth? Do and me come on,
good good truth, got truth? Got you name? It's an
old lass name. What's anyway? Othello?
Speaker 3 (11:18):
When they when they went out somewhere, they used to
call him O G. But every time he's about to finish,
he says her name. He told me he tries to
say my name, but he can't help it. This hardly
race thirty five years of memories.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
It is.
Speaker 3 (11:32):
He's more comfortable taking me out in public. He's finally
wearing his wedding ring. I'm starting in it, so it's
starting to feel real. Well, my husband never loved me?
Or or am I always be a marriage or convenience
to him?
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Well?
Speaker 3 (11:48):
You think you a marriage of convenience to him, but
then you marry him for convenience. He's financially stable, he
owned the company you worked at, So or not? Will
I ever stop being a marriage or convenience for him? Well?
Ain't he a marriage or convenience for you? You get
(12:08):
married for the reason, and now you're living in it.
It's okay, and he gonna keep calling you her name.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
You can leave your comments on today's Strawberry Letter, I
need change.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
Your name, Get you a name changed to Gertrue.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
And check us out on the Strawberry Letter podcast. On
the free iHeartRadio app, We're Free. Never sounded so good now.
Coming up next, Mabel Wilson Sports Talk.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
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