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June 21, 2024 13 mins

Dear Steve and Shirley, My boyfriend is very outgoing and when I started dating him, I gained several new friends, mostly females. I trusted him and I had no reason to think he would ever try to have sex with his female friends. We've been dating for three years and I went to his house Thursday and his friend Grace was in his bed sleeping. He told me she had a migraine, so he picked her up from work and brought her to his house so he could look after her and he told me not to turn the TV on because she needed the house to be quiet and dark. Grace started throwing up and he ran to take care of it............................

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:19):
It could be yours. Bugle up and hold on time.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 1 (00:24):
Thank you nephew. Subject his female company is too comfortable.
Dear Stephen Shirley, My boyfriend is very outgoing and when
I started dating him, I gained several new friends, mostly females.
I trusted him and I had no reason to think
he would ever try to have sex with his female friends.
We've been dating for three years and I went to

(00:46):
his house Thursday and his friend Grace was in his
bed sleeping. He told me she had a migraine, so
he picked her up from work and brought her to
his house so he could look after her. And he
told me not to turn the TV on because she
needed the house to be quiet and dark. Grace started
throwing up and he ran to take care of it.

(01:06):
I recall the time I had a bad hangover and
I threw up in his driveway and he put me
on his couch with a garbage can by my head
while he hosed off his driveway. We started arguing, but
I can't argue quietly, so I left. He called me
later to talk, and he told me he was out
getting Grace something like to eat. I told him that
Grace needed to call her sister to come get her.

(01:28):
He still cannot understand how inappropriate it was to have
her in there in his bed. The next morning, I
popped up to see where Grace was. She was still there,
scrambling eggs. She hugged me and thanked me for helping
take care of her. My boyfriend lied to her, so
she thought I was worried about her. She said she
was getting an uber to take her home. I offered

(01:50):
to take her instead. My boyfriend told Grace that it's
best if she takes an uber. Was he afraid of
what I was going to say to Grace or what
is he afraid of what Grace would say to me?
It is just Is it just me? Or is he
too comfortable around Grace? Okay? The answer to that is yes,
all of the above. He was afraid what Grace might

(02:11):
say to you, what you might say to Grace, all
of that. And you know this is not right? What's
going on between him and Grace? If your man came
over to your house and one of your male friends
was in your bed and you were running around waiting
on him hand and foot and going to the store
for him and said that he would be furious. Period.
Come on, this makes no sense to what he's doing.

(02:33):
So either your boyfriend stops all this stuff with Grace
or you should break up with him. His priorities are
out of order. If Grace has a sister, that's where
Grace needs to be, or she can go to the doctor.
How about that. Grace is no longer his responsibility period
since he's been with you for three years. If he

(02:54):
can't see how disrespectful this is to you and your relationship,
then he doesn't deserve you and you need to keep
it moving.

Speaker 2 (03:02):
Tommy, all right, you know what I see. The first
thing that get caught my attention is what y'all can't drink.
That's what y'all problem is. Y'all can't drink. Everybody is
that you got hangovers and throwing up and can on. Y'all,
y'all gotta lead these lemon drops along. I don't know
what y'all drinking, but everybody got a hangover and laying

(03:23):
around and throwing up in the driveway and can on.
But by the grace of Grace, good God, a mighty
did I think, by the grace of Grace, Grace is
over there in the bed, you on the couch with
a trash can in you that lets you know you
are not what Grace see. Grace is different from who
you are.

Speaker 1 (03:40):
Baby.

Speaker 2 (03:40):
Grace got it going on and pop and Grace gets
the bed, You get the couch and the trash can,
and you get cussed out. And he got to go
out here and hold his dog on patio. I mean,
there's a driveway down because you can't hold your looker.
That's what this is all about. So now you're trying
to figure out who is Grace. But by the grace
of Grace, good God, the Mighty Grace is who he
really really cares about, because guess what.

Speaker 1 (04:02):
On what do you say when you came out?

Speaker 2 (04:04):
Great sleep Grace sleep, beat that TV off, keeping lights off?
Because Grace got Grace got the hall some time and
some peace and quiet because gret by the grace of Grace, Shirley,
we got to keep it quiet up in here because
Grace is sleep. Grace gets all the attention, and you
don't even see that Grace is getting all this. But
you was clapping. Now, you tried to do your thing.

(04:25):
You tried to pop up so you could see what
Grace was. But Grace was already out there being whatever happened.
Already that happened. Grace is in there cooking eggs and scrambling.
And guess what she cooking. She ain't Eve changes, cooking
recfort for her, Grace cooking for both of them, and
then came in and gave you a hug, Hey, girl,
what's going on? By the grace of Grace, that show
appreciate you taking care of me.

Speaker 1 (04:45):
Girl.

Speaker 2 (04:45):
If you'd have got in that call with Grace, you'd
have got all the Grace news you needed and you
would have found out everything about your man. But I
think it's time to leave, baby, It's time to bail out.
It's time for you to go and get out. This
is not for you. If you got to creep around
and wonder what's going on on with your man?

Speaker 1 (05:00):
Trust?

Speaker 2 (05:01):
Trust and believe is too much. You gotta put too
much of it into if you can't trust him. Come
on now, you already know what's going on with Grace.
Grace is giving grace. That's what Grace is doing. Grace,
get it. That's all I got?

Speaker 1 (05:19):
All right, all right, all right, that works, junior, I
say you're taking notes over there? What you got?

Speaker 3 (05:24):
What I got?

Speaker 1 (05:25):
His female company is too comfortable?

Speaker 2 (05:28):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (05:28):
Wait a minute, what Grace don't need this much mercy?

Speaker 4 (05:32):
I'm sorry, I don't understand.

Speaker 3 (05:36):
Why are we sitting up here? What is you doing?

Speaker 4 (05:39):
Though? First of all, this should have been should have
been on the news when you find out Grace was
laying up in the bed with a migraine. You think
you got a migraine? Now you think these lights off?
You think it's got to be quiet in here. You
gonna have to leave she laid up in the bed.

Speaker 3 (05:55):
Why?

Speaker 4 (05:56):
First of all, how did you even fix your mouth
to tell your girlfriend?

Speaker 1 (05:59):
I went and picked Grace up from her job?

Speaker 3 (06:02):
What h what?

Speaker 4 (06:05):
Wait a minute, Wait a minute, Grace ain't supposed to
be here. Grace got to get her boyfriend or her
sister or a relative. This is not what you do.
And then you shoush you people like did you say
sh and then put your finger across her lip.

Speaker 3 (06:18):
They said, don't make too much noise. Grace getting quiet
in you?

Speaker 2 (06:22):
All right?

Speaker 5 (06:22):
What wait a minute, you get up, You get up,
and you come back over there, and Grace in there
cooking eggs.

Speaker 3 (06:32):
And said, thank you for taking care of me.

Speaker 2 (06:35):
Thank you for being a friend.

Speaker 3 (06:38):
Exactly what is we doing here?

Speaker 1 (06:41):
What a hang on, junior? Hang on. We'll have part
two of our response to the Strawberry letter coming up
at twenty three minutes after. The subject is his female
company is too comfortable. We'll get back into it right
after this. You're listening Morning show. All right, we're gonna
recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is his female company
is too comfortable. It says, this is written from a woman.

(07:07):
Her boyfriend is very outgoing. She started dating him. He
had a bunch of female friends, so she gained those
female friends too. And here's the deal. She trusted him.
She had no reason to think, you know, he would
ever try to have sex with his friends. They've been
dating for about three years. But one day she came
home and one of his female friends was in her

(07:27):
bed because she was sick and he her boyfriend was
nursing her back to help. She was sleeping, she had
a migraine. She had a migraine, so he went and
picked her up from work. Her boyfriend went and picked
his friend up from work and brought her home. And
when his new girlfriend of three years came in, he

(07:50):
told her not to turn the TV on and not
to talk too loudly because his friend, Grace, that is
her name, Grace couldn't stand the loud noises. She needed
to be in quiet and dark. So Grace started throwing up,
and all of this he ran to take care of it,
she said. The girlfriend said she remembered the time when

(08:10):
she had a hangover. He put her on the couch,
you know, I guess told her to find for herself
or whatever, while he went out and cleaned up the
driveway that she threw up in. So that right there
will tell you this is a mess, how he treats
his girlfriend and how he treats his friend Grace. Anyway,
they started arguing. She had to leave because she wanted

(08:31):
to get loud with it, and of course she had to
be quiet because Grace was there in bed with a migrain.
Is this making sense to anyone? Then he left to
go and get Grace something light to eat after she
woke up, and so he called her and he was
telling her, you know that everything that happened with Grace.

(08:52):
Then she went back to the house. The next day,
Grace was up in the kitchen scrambling eggs. So this
is all just a mess. She wants to to know.
Grace wanted to go home. She said she was gonna
take an uber. She said, no, that's okay, Grace, I'll
take you. The boyfriend's like, no, no, take an uber.
And she wants to know what was the boyfriend afraid

(09:13):
of what Grace was gonna say to her? Or was
the boyfriend afraid of what the girlfriend was gonna say
to Grace. So we say it's all of the above.
And yeah, Grace is a little too comfortable around your boyfriend. Yeah, Junior,
you wanted to finish your response.

Speaker 3 (09:27):
Yeah, absolutely, she's too comfortable.

Speaker 4 (09:29):
See if Grace's got a migrain, Grace, they got medication
out here.

Speaker 3 (09:32):
You can go get you some nerd tech. Nerd tech
worked for my grains.

Speaker 4 (09:36):
Get you some tailand now, but what you can't get
is this man's bed, and that'side a house.

Speaker 1 (09:40):
What about the guest room?

Speaker 3 (09:41):
Did anybody think about the guest room?

Speaker 1 (09:44):
It would have been the same thing though, Yeah.

Speaker 4 (09:46):
But it didn't matter. But you ain't in the main room. Okay,
But all of this stuff, for grace is he scarned.
What she was gonna say, Well, she was gonna say
to you, Yes, that's why you have to take an uber.
He cannot allow y'all to be in that car. Say, girl,
you know what I love about James. He is so caring.

Speaker 3 (10:00):
Girl, Your man is so caring. He cannot get this
out that cannot come out.

Speaker 1 (10:06):
You know what.

Speaker 4 (10:06):
I didn't know what I was doing when he came
and pulled up and I looked out that window at
my job and his car was down there.

Speaker 3 (10:12):
Girl, I felt like this Mike brain was going away.

Speaker 1 (10:14):
Girl, I did.

Speaker 3 (10:15):
You can't get all this in the car, girl.

Speaker 4 (10:18):
The old I could pay him back was to get
up this morning and make that man some eggs. Girl,
you ever get up to make that man's meggs?

Speaker 3 (10:24):
This is not what you do.

Speaker 2 (10:25):
No, No, y'all, y'all want Uncle Steve reaction. Yeah, I
done told y'all before. By these damn friends, I ain't
out and told you. I told y'all a man can
be a friend with a woman, and it ain't nothing
going on. I didne told y'all this one hundred times.
When you get over there, you should have woke Grace's

(10:47):
ass up. That's what you should have done. You should
have woked Grace up and find out what the hell
going on? What is you doing in here in my
man bed? That's what the hell you should have done
in the middle of all of it all this be
quiet because Grace leave. I don't give a damn by Grace.
You can wake Grace's answer and everybody else around here.
I don't give a damn if the people next door

(11:08):
get up. But we finish, send Grace's ass home. That's
what the hell we finished to do.

Speaker 1 (11:13):
He sounds just I can bravo, Tom, bravo. That is
exactly what he would say.

Speaker 2 (11:20):
You're right, helly, Grace's doing here frying eggs for what
the hell? She ain't got no eggs in her damn house.
What the hell going on with that? Somebody explained to
me what the hell Grace is here for? That's what
I wants to know? And what is.

Speaker 1 (11:33):
Hugging her for and telling her thank you? Or is
that about?

Speaker 2 (11:36):
What is your thanking me for? I came over here
to make sure your ass was going home. That's what
I came for. So you need to go ahead and
tell Grace while you're there all this huggy duggie. No,
you need to tell Grace what the hell your ass
is doing at my man house. That's what I want
to know. Teach me how to you can ask the
Lord by me, Grace, And I think you already knowing?

Speaker 1 (11:58):
Hello, and who's boyfriend goes out to get food for
his female friend? Who does that?

Speaker 2 (12:05):
So?

Speaker 1 (12:05):
Man, when something with them? Exactly your boo?

Speaker 2 (12:10):
You doing?

Speaker 5 (12:11):
Fo?

Speaker 1 (12:13):
You know how you treat a boo? Come on here, Yes,
that's exactly what he's doing. What are they saying in
that car together, Grason and the girlfriend?

Speaker 2 (12:22):
I'm gonna ask you one damn time, Grace, what the
hell was you doing with my man at the high
That's what I want to know. And where did you
get drunk at Grace? That's what I want to know.
When you can't in order to get drunk for him
to come get you, I want to know What the
hell was going on? What was you Wayne? When you
was in there? Independent Grace? Did you have on one
of my man's shirts? What the hell was you really doing?

(12:44):
And look at me when I'm talking to you, Ain't
that damn drunk?

Speaker 1 (12:48):
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