August 5, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a forty eight year old single mother of a twenty eight year old grown man. Like me. My son started having children at an early age. I encouraged him to marry the mother of his three children. So they went to the courthouse in 2022 and got married. His wife has done a complete 360. She means one eighty. Now that she's married, or now that they're living together and we can see who she really is. He has tried to overlook her weed smoking, drinking, and hanging out with hoochies. He's told me that he's trying to make it work. That was before last month.................................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if
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Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be old Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
All right, nephew, thank you. Subject he's angry because I
like his side piece. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a forty
eight year old single mother of a twenty eight year
old grown man. Like me. My son started having children
at an early age. I encouraged him to marry the
mother of his three children. So they went to the
courthouse in twenty twenty two and got married. His wife
(00:48):
has done a complete three point sixty. She means one eighty,
but she said three sixty. She means one eighty. Now
that she's married, or now that they're living together and
we can see who she really is. He has tried
to overlook her weed smoking, drinking, and hanging out with hoochies.
He's told me that he's trying to make it work.
That was before last month. He went to the grocery
(01:10):
store with me and we ran into one of my
friends and her daughter. The girl just bought a house
and she runs her alterations business from home. My son
could not take his eyes off of her. They exchanged
phone numbers just in case his wife needed her alteration services.
He called her as soon as he got back to
my house and they've been talking since then. He has
(01:31):
been to her house before, but he won't tell me
what happened. He has invited her to my house before
to have dinner with us. I love this woman for him,
and I feel bad that I forced him to marry
the mother of his kids. I told him that I'm
sorry that he's in a bad marriage, but I was
only thinking of his children when I told him to
get married. He went off on me and called me
(01:53):
a meddler, and he said I'm wrong for liking the
new girls so much. He should be mad at her
for putting that thing on him and confusing him. Should
I take the blame for what's going on in his life?
Or was this bound to happen. Why is all of
this anger directed at me? Well, yeah, a lot of
it is directed at you, mom, because, like you say,
(02:13):
you forced him to marry this woman. I mean, he's
mad at you, he's mad at himself because he's in
a crazy situation with a crazy baby Mama. He loves
his kid, so that's why it wasn't hard for him
to go ahead and marry the girl. But he probably
wouldn't have done it if you hadn't talked him into
it or forced him, as you say, that's why you're
(02:33):
getting it from him. But Mom, you are way way,
way too much into this business. I mean, he already
has called you a medler. Get you some business. He's
an adult. You got to stay out of this or
he will always be mad at you for something. You
got to stop giving him your opinion about who you
like and dislike all of that. You got to stop
(02:54):
disliking the side piece. You have no opinion at all.
Don't bring the subject up, don't talk to him about it.
If he brings it up, just listen. Basically, just mind
your business, okay, and help with the grandkids, which I
assume you're doing anyway. The question is, can you do that,
messy mama.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Can you, Steve? Well, what a letter to come back to?
And now a subject? Is he angry because I like
his side piece? Now let's get into this. It's so
much wrong with this letter from the get go Den,
Shirley and Steve. I'm a forty eight year old single
(03:34):
mother of a twenty eight year old grown man. Let's
stop right there. At one point, you got to quit
calling yourself a single mother. You've got to just stop.
I mean, if he twenty eight, you just said he
was a grown man, that's what you said, and he
twenty eight, you can stop calling yourself a single mother
(03:59):
because you ain't got to keep mother he twenty eight
here a grown man is We got to get a
cutoff point where you quit using single mother. Now. It's
hard to be a single mother. I got it. It's
a thankless job. I got it. Some of the greatest
men that came from homes were headed by single mothers.
(04:21):
I got it. But we don't need that any Strawberry letters.
That's all I'm saying. We just don't need it, not
in the strawberry letter. And then you say, like me,
my son was having kids at an early age and
then you told him that he ought have gone and
married the mother of his three children. Had three children
by this girl in the married. So they went to
(04:42):
the courthouse in twenty twenty two and got married. Now
the wife didn't change. Now that they've been living together,
he's tried to overlook who she really is. Now she's
tried to overlook her weed smoking. She ain't just started
smoking weed. You overlooked that weed smoking when you were
(05:03):
making them three babies too. Don't don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't.
Don't try to blame this on the weed. Now you
knew she smoked weed before y'all had the first baby.
Drinking and hanging out with the hoochies. You met this
(05:24):
woman hanging out somewhere and you probably sent a drink
over to her. So now let's get all that out
the way. Now. Now you went to you and him
went to the grocery store. See here we go, this
single mother taking her twenty eight year old How many
single mothers still go to the grocery store with they
(05:44):
twenty eight year old boy. I just want you to now,
you'd have took you twenty eight year old boy down
to the grocery store right up in one of your friends,
and her daughter was with him. The girl had just
bought a house. She runs an alteration business from her home.
And my son, your son, couldn't take his eyes off
of him. She bought a house and she runs an
(06:06):
alterations business from her home. This girl can sew.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
Yeah, I need her.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
Lord have mercy. I wouldn't have been able to take
my eyes off of her either. I'm looking at her
and a new wardrobe. I'm just looking. Oh, I see
more than a woman. I see a woman with a
house and the ability to increase my wardrobe. Well, he
(06:35):
couldn't take his eyes off of it. So when we'll
get back, we're gonna find out what happened after that.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
All right, we'll have part two of Steve's response coming
up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters. Subject,
He's angry because I like his side piece. We'll get
back into it right after this. You're listening Steve Hard
Morning Show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's
strawberry letter. He's angry because I like his side piece.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Yeah, so this mother who's forty eight years old and
got a twenty eight year old grown man. Sons still
want to be called a single mother. You were a
single mother. You're just a mother now. Okay, you're just
a mother now because you don't have to raise him
no more. So you just a mother. You did a
(07:21):
great job. Thank you, sister, and thank you to all
the single mothers out there to do a wonderful job.
This ain't about you. We just don't want to hear
about that. And he's to let us know more that
ain't because now we're not talking about parenting anymore. He's
a twenty eight year old man and he making grown
man decisions. He got three babies.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
Of his own.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
You told him to go in and marry the girl
for the sake of the kids. He did it. Now
they don't like each other. The girl smoked weed, she drank,
and she hang out with hoochies. He knew that when
they was making them three babies. That's why he hadn't
married her yet because of her weed smoking, drinking, and
hanging out with hoochies. So he would just make it.
(08:00):
That's why he hadn't asked her to marry her yet
because of those three things right there. Now they married
she don't like. He don't like it no more. So
you take your twenty eight year old down to the
grocery store. I don't know what woman is still taking
the twenty eight year old grown man down to the
grocery store on what he needed? Help? Foe down at
the day of grocery store. He don't know how to
pick out bread?
Speaker 1 (08:19):
What what he did?
Speaker 2 (08:22):
What is you down there teaching him at the grocery
store that he shouldn't already know. Every time I send
you down there and he bring back a bad watermelon?
Were gonna learn how to pick a watermelon? To day?
Speaker 3 (08:33):
Now?
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Lady stuff? Anyway, she ran up into a friend of hers,
and a friend had a daughter with him. That a
daughter has her own business, just bought a house and
her businesses. She does alterations out of her house. Well,
your son couldn't take his eyes off of her, cause
she fine. Now he got the girl's number, and guess
(08:59):
what he say? He say he got the girl's number
just in case his wife needed her alteration service. What
what you think? The twenty eight year old man got
that fine chicks number for his wife that he don't like,
(09:22):
in case she needs some alteration services. That's what you think.
He got the.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
Number four girl, By the hell, you getting her number
for your wife. You don't even like her wife. You
don't care what the wife got on.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
The smoking weed.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Okay, so now he called her as soon as he
got back to your house. He called her right away.
At mentioned his wife dressed that need letting out, because
all her clothes need letting out right now. The wife
(10:04):
clothes why, well, you know, you don't know how older
children are, and God bless women, but women do have
to suffer a little bit when they have children. That
babyweight be on them. So you got to let some
of the clothes out right now. And he didn't mention
them clothes. Really, yeah, he called her. Now she do alteration,
(10:26):
that's all she do. She do alteration from her house.
He didn't mention his wife needing her clothes let out.
That's why the mama called her huchi because she dress
all them tight air clothes. Well, she had three babies,
and clothes gonna be fit a little bit different. And
the dresses automatically gets shorter because if you get more
but duncle, that dress gonna get shorter because because you
(10:48):
gotta go over the hitter, you gotta get over that
hill now, Oh, blessed the hell, blessed to hell. So
now you they been talking since they met. He's been
to her house before, and he won't tell me what happened, Lady.
(11:11):
Most men that go over girl's house don't call they
mama and tell him. Mama, you have seen me last night, girl,
you'd have been proud of me. I put something on her, Mama,
I was in that girl. Whoa You remember when you
(11:32):
were single, Mama, when you were back at making me.
Ain't nobody had that conversation with him?
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Mama?
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Mad? No? No, Now she mad because because because he
ain't told her about that, well, you know what that happened.
Anyway they been, he'd have been over the house before
and and and they obviously in some type of relationship.
He won't tell you what happened. He's invited you, he's
(11:56):
invited the girl to his mother's house before to have
dinner with us. Still ain't called the wife about this alteration.
She yet. But they're over your house eating and but
you fixing plates for him though, Yeah, that's what you're doing.
(12:19):
I told him, and I feel bad that I forced
him to marry them. Mother's kids. I told him, I'm
sorry he's in a bad marriage, but I was only
thinking that the children. He went off on me and
called me a meddle and said, I'm wrong for liking
the new girl so much. Now he blaming you for that. Y'all,
relationship is damaged. Y'all need to quit talking to each
(12:41):
other about each other business. But to hell you like
her so much? Folk, Well you brought over there for dinner?
What she gonna do? Look, I ain't got no advice
from neither one of y'all. Quit talking to each other.
He's not gonna stop talking to the alteration lady.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
All right, Thank you, Steve. Leave your comments on today's
Strawberry Letter on Instagram It's Steve Harvey FM. And check
us out on the Strawberry Letter podcast on the Free
iHeartRadio app where free never sounded so good. Now coming
up next to Junior and a recap of the Paris
Summer games and sports talk right after this, you're listening
Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
by clicking submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now. And you never know.
This one right here could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be old Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
All right, nephew, thank you. Subject he's angry because I
like his side piece. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a forty
eight year old single mother of a twenty eight year
old grown man. Like me. My son started having children
at an early age. I encouraged him to marry the
mother of his three children. So they went to the
courthouse in twenty twenty two and got married. His wife
(00:48):
has done a complete three point sixty. She means one eighty,
but she said three sixty. She means one eighty. Now
that she's married, or now that they're living together and
we can see who she really is. He has tried
to overlook her weed smoking, drinking, and hanging out with hoochies.
He's told me that he's trying to make it work.
That was before last month. He went to the grocery
(01:10):
store with me and we ran into one of my
friends and her daughter. The girl just bought a house
and she runs her alterations business from home. My son
could not take his eyes off of her. They exchanged
phone numbers just in case his wife needed her alteration services.
He called her as soon as he got back to
my house and they've been talking since then. He has
(01:31):
been to her house before, but he won't tell me
what happened. He has invited her to my house before
to have dinner with us. I love this woman for him,
and I feel bad that I forced him to marry
the mother of his kids. I told him that I'm
sorry that he's in a bad marriage, but I was
only thinking of his children when I told him to
get married. He went off on me and called me
(01:53):
a meddler, and he said I'm wrong for liking the
new girls so much. He should be mad at her
for putting that thing on him and confusing him. Should
I take the blame for what's going on in his life?
Or was this bound to happen. Why is all of
this anger directed at me? Well, yeah, a lot of
it is directed at you, mom, because, like you say,
(02:13):
you forced him to marry this woman. I mean, he's
mad at you, he's mad at himself because he's in
a crazy situation with a crazy baby Mama. He loves
his kid, so that's why it wasn't hard for him
to go ahead and marry the girl. But he probably
wouldn't have done it if you hadn't talked him into
it or forced him, as you say, that's why you're
(02:33):
getting it from him. But Mom, you are way way,
way too much into this business. I mean, he already
has called you a medler. Get you some business. He's
an adult. You got to stay out of this or
he will always be mad at you for something. You
got to stop giving him your opinion about who you
like and dislike all of that. You got to stop
(02:54):
disliking the side piece. You have no opinion at all.
Don't bring the subject up, don't talk to him about it.
If he brings it up, just listen. Basically, just mind
your business, okay, and help with the grandkids, which I
assume you're doing anyway. The question is, can you do that,
messy mama.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Can you, Steve? Well, what a letter to come back to?
And now a subject? Is he angry because I like
his side piece? Now let's get into this. It's so
much wrong with this letter from the get go Den,
Shirley and Steve. I'm a forty eight year old single
(03:34):
mother of a twenty eight year old grown man. Let's
stop right there. At one point, you got to quit
calling yourself a single mother. You've got to just stop.
I mean, if he twenty eight, you just said he
was a grown man, that's what you said, and he
twenty eight, you can stop calling yourself a single mother
(03:59):
because you ain't got to keep mother he twenty eight
here a grown man is We got to get a
cutoff point where you quit using single mother. Now. It's
hard to be a single mother. I got it. It's
a thankless job. I got it. Some of the greatest
men that came from homes were headed by single mothers.
(04:21):
I got it. But we don't need that any Strawberry letters.
That's all I'm saying. We just don't need it, not
in the strawberry letter. And then you say, like me,
my son was having kids at an early age and
then you told him that he ought have gone and
married the mother of his three children. Had three children
by this girl in the married. So they went to
(04:42):
the courthouse in twenty twenty two and got married. Now
the wife didn't change. Now that they've been living together,
he's tried to overlook who she really is. Now she's
tried to overlook her weed smoking. She ain't just started
smoking weed. You overlooked that weed smoking when you were
(05:03):
making them three babies too. Don't don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't.
Don't try to blame this on the weed. Now you
knew she smoked weed before y'all had the first baby.
Drinking and hanging out with the hoochies. You met this
(05:24):
woman hanging out somewhere and you probably sent a drink
over to her. So now let's get all that out
the way. Now. Now you went to you and him
went to the grocery store. See here we go, this
single mother taking her twenty eight year old How many
single mothers still go to the grocery store with they
(05:44):
twenty eight year old boy. I just want you to now,
you'd have took you twenty eight year old boy down
to the grocery store right up in one of your friends,
and her daughter was with him. The girl had just
bought a house. She runs an alteration business from her home.
And my son, your son, couldn't take his eyes off
of him. She bought a house and she runs an
(06:06):
alterations business from her home. This girl can sew.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
Yeah, I need her.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
Lord have mercy. I wouldn't have been able to take
my eyes off of her either. I'm looking at her
and a new wardrobe. I'm just looking. Oh, I see
more than a woman. I see a woman with a
house and the ability to increase my wardrobe. Well, he
(06:35):
couldn't take his eyes off of it. So when we'll
get back, we're gonna find out what happened after that.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
All right, we'll have part two of Steve's response coming
up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters. Subject,
He's angry because I like his side piece. We'll get
back into it right after this. You're listening Steve Hard
Morning Show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's
strawberry letter. He's angry because I like his side piece.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Yeah, so this mother who's forty eight years old and
got a twenty eight year old grown man. Sons still
want to be called a single mother. You were a
single mother. You're just a mother now. Okay, you're just
a mother now because you don't have to raise him
no more. So you just a mother. You did a
(07:21):
great job. Thank you, sister, and thank you to all
the single mothers out there to do a wonderful job.
This ain't about you. We just don't want to hear
about that. And he's to let us know more that
ain't because now we're not talking about parenting anymore. He's
a twenty eight year old man and he making grown
man decisions. He got three babies.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
Of his own.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
You told him to go in and marry the girl
for the sake of the kids. He did it. Now
they don't like each other. The girl smoked weed, she drank,
and she hang out with hoochies. He knew that when
they was making them three babies. That's why he hadn't
married her yet because of her weed smoking, drinking, and
hanging out with hoochies. So he would just make it.
(08:00):
That's why he hadn't asked her to marry her yet
because of those three things right there. Now they married
she don't like. He don't like it no more. So
you take your twenty eight year old down to the
grocery store. I don't know what woman is still taking
the twenty eight year old grown man down to the
grocery store on what he needed? Help? Foe down at
the day of grocery store. He don't know how to
pick out bread?
Speaker 1 (08:19):
What what he did?
Speaker 2 (08:22):
What is you down there teaching him at the grocery
store that he shouldn't already know. Every time I send
you down there and he bring back a bad watermelon?
Were gonna learn how to pick a watermelon? To day?
Speaker 3 (08:33):
Now?
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Lady stuff? Anyway, she ran up into a friend of hers,
and a friend had a daughter with him. That a
daughter has her own business, just bought a house and
her businesses. She does alterations out of her house. Well,
your son couldn't take his eyes off of her, cause
she fine. Now he got the girl's number, and guess
(08:59):
what he say? He say he got the girl's number
just in case his wife needed her alteration service. What
what you think? The twenty eight year old man got
that fine chicks number for his wife that he don't like,
(09:22):
in case she needs some alteration services. That's what you think.
He got the.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
Number four girl, By the hell, you getting her number
for your wife. You don't even like her wife. You
don't care what the wife got on.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
The smoking weed.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Okay, so now he called her as soon as he
got back to your house. He called her right away.
At mentioned his wife dressed that need letting out, because
all her clothes need letting out right now. The wife
(10:04):
clothes why, well, you know, you don't know how older
children are, and God bless women, but women do have
to suffer a little bit when they have children. That
babyweight be on them. So you got to let some
of the clothes out right now. And he didn't mention
them clothes. Really, yeah, he called her. Now she do alteration,
(10:26):
that's all she do. She do alteration from her house.
He didn't mention his wife needing her clothes let out.
That's why the mama called her huchi because she dress
all them tight air clothes. Well, she had three babies,
and clothes gonna be fit a little bit different. And
the dresses automatically gets shorter because if you get more
but duncle, that dress gonna get shorter because because you
(10:48):
gotta go over the hitter, you gotta get over that
hill now, Oh, blessed the hell, blessed to hell. So
now you they been talking since they met. He's been
to her house before, and he won't tell me what happened, Lady.
(11:11):
Most men that go over girl's house don't call they
mama and tell him. Mama, you have seen me last night, girl,
you'd have been proud of me. I put something on her, Mama,
I was in that girl. Whoa You remember when you
(11:32):
were single, Mama, when you were back at making me.
Ain't nobody had that conversation with him?
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Mama?
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Mad? No? No, Now she mad because because because he
ain't told her about that, well, you know what that happened.
Anyway they been, he'd have been over the house before
and and and they obviously in some type of relationship.
He won't tell you what happened. He's invited you, he's
(11:56):
invited the girl to his mother's house before to have
dinner with us. Still ain't called the wife about this alteration.
She yet. But they're over your house eating and but
you fixing plates for him though, Yeah, that's what you're doing.
(12:19):
I told him, and I feel bad that I forced
him to marry them. Mother's kids. I told him, I'm
sorry he's in a bad marriage, but I was only
thinking that the children. He went off on me and
called me a meddle and said, I'm wrong for liking
the new girl so much. Now he blaming you for that. Y'all,
relationship is damaged. Y'all need to quit talking to each
(12:41):
other about each other business. But to hell you like
her so much? Folk, Well you brought over there for dinner?
What she gonna do? Look, I ain't got no advice
from neither one of y'all. Quit talking to each other.
He's not gonna stop talking to the alteration lady.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
All right, Thank you, Steve. Leave your comments on today's
Strawberry Letter on Instagram It's Steve Harvey FM. And check
us out on the Strawberry Letter podcast on the Free
iHeartRadio app where free never sounded so good. Now coming
up next to Junior and a recap of the Paris
Summer games and sports talk right after this, you're listening
Harvey Morning Show.
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