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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEARVFM dot com by
clicking submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're gonna read this
one right here, right now, and you never know, it
could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Thank you, ne for you. Subject. He repeated everything I
said about her. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a single mother
to a seven year old boy, so I'm working two
jobs to keep him in private school. His father is
in and out of rehab, so my son barely knows him.
My son has a great relationship with his daddy's mother,
(00:44):
who we call Granny. We love Grannie and she's my
biggest supporter. My own mom doesn't like to baby said,
I'm only twenty eight, so Grannie tells me to drop
my son off with her so I can enjoy my twenties.
Grannie loves music, reality TV show and playing her numbers.
She lives in the worst neighborhood in the city, but
(01:04):
nobody messes with Granny because she once shot at her neighbor.
Grannie's house is always nasty, and when my son was
old enough to realize it, he started asking questions like
why is Grannie, why does Grannie have trash all ways
around the trash can, and why does Grannie have spots
on her floors. He was always excited to go see
(01:25):
her because her house was so different than his. One day,
he told me that he liked our house better because
it smells good and his Grannie's doesn't. I never paid
much attention to how I responded to him, and I
never realized I was shading Grannie. I was so hurt
to find out he was telling Grannie everything I say
about her. He told Grannie to keep his backpack zipped
(01:48):
up because his mom doesn't want him bringing bugs home
with him. He told Grannie that I told him to
eat the snack's ipack for him and to smell everything
else before he eats it. He told her that he
can't lie on the floor or use her blankets. There
was a lot of other stuff that he repeated, and
I feel so bad for putting Grannie down. When Granny's
(02:09):
the only person that helps me. Grannie is not even mad,
and that makes it worse. How do I make it
up to Grannie? And why is parenting so hard? Well,
I agree with you. You're right, parenting is hard. There's
no playbook and it's on the job training. I mean,
let's face it, it is. You sound like an excellent parent.
(02:30):
But it's just a nature of kids to be honest
and say what's on their minds. They always tell the truth.
They don't know what a filter is yet at seven,
he's just innocently repeating what he heard. But now that
you know that, you know he's over there running his mouth,
you could take some action. I know you meant what
you said about Grannie's nasty house, but you didn't intend
(02:52):
for it to be mean, and you were looking out
for your son so he wouldn't bring back bugs or anything.
I mean, Grannie must be a good person because she
is a great support system for you. She's the only
one you said, and that's truly a blessing. So if
I were you, even though you say she didn't get
mad about it, I would still apologize to Granny. Let
(03:13):
her you know. I'm sure she knows you know by now,
I would apologize to her for what you said and
ask her if she needs help cleaning up or something.
I mean, if you can afford it, you can hire
a cleaning crew. You can go over there yourself and
help her clean it up and get her house together.
You know, I'm sure that would make her feel good.
It's for your son and her. The same products you
(03:35):
use to make your house smell so good, use it
in Grannie's house.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Then you would have to worry.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
You won't have to worry about him being in a nasty,
messy house when he's not with you, when he's over there.
And please tell your son that what you guys talk
about in your house stays in your house. That's what
most parents do.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
Okay, Steve, Well, before I get start, let me just
clarify something Shirley said, get a cleaning crew. I'd have
got no money for no damn cleaning crew in this letter,
and you can't afford it. She already says she working
two jobs, keep a little ragged ass boy in his
private school and his daddy in and out of rehab
because he over there smoking weed and can't stop snorting cocaine,
(04:14):
and all this is, so he in rehab it. He
don't really know his daddy, but his mama taking care
of that'sho the letter about no hell. Now where your hell?
You see a chance to buy some damn cleaning crew
at She can't get no cleaning crew over there, Shelly,
she's shrugged it. She's a single mother. Listen to the letter.
I'm a single mother, seven year old boy. I'm working
(04:35):
two jobs, keep him in private school. Ain't nobody working
two jobs getting no cleaning crew in the house. Were
trying to get this little ignorant ass boy educated. And
you need to hear him getting educated because he's stupid,
dumb ass over there telling it. I bet he won't
tell it, no moto. I couldn't repeat nothing at nobody's
(04:56):
house anyway. And in his daddy his father is in
the in and out of rehab, so my son badly
knows him. Told you, But he got a great relationship
with his daddy's mother, and she's my biggest supporter. My
own mom don't like the babysit. Damn mom, I'm only
(05:16):
twenty eight, So granny tells me drop my son off
with her so I can enjoy my twenties. That's a
good grandmother. But she hood though now granted, little music.
She and that got bb king on. She and that
playing ladder mold little Milton, your seven year old boy
is probably with the seven year old boy reason he
(05:38):
telling everything because he had the childhood I had. He's
probably the most depressed seven year old up at the
school because when your grandmama and them be listening to blues,
it affects you, just like rap affects this culture today.
The blues affected me when I was growing up.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
I'm so alone. I'm so alone. You know all that
right there? She left me, Yes she did.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
I got another if I got another, if you know,
I was in the blues. So everything to me was
the blues. My report call was the blues. The teacher
called my house to report me. It was the blues. Anyway,
she lives, the grandmama live in the worst neighborhood in
the city. But nobody messing with granted, because she shot somebody.
(06:27):
This is the type of grandmother. You won't live in
the hood shooting people. But your boy is over there
running his mouth. When we come back, I will tell
you the things you have said about this woman that
has gotten back to her.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
All right, Steve, hang on, we'll have part two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the
subject of today's strawberry letter. He repeated everything I said
about her. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening Morning show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's
recap today's strawberry letter. The subject he repeated everything I
said her.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Yeah, we got a problem because this lady, who is
her ex husband's her baby's daddy's mother, is a good grandmother.
She takes care of the baby, she watches out for
him and her own mother. She's twenty eight. Don't like babysitting.
So the lady in this letter, the grandmother, is your
biggest supporter. The problem is your son been over there
(07:20):
running his mouth and then told her everything you said.
You didn't mean for it to get back, but you
you call yourself protecting your son because at the end
of the letter you said, why is parenting so hard?
Now you've been over there talking about grandmama to you boy.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Now you said stuff like.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
Blow on the cookies before you eat them, you know,
stuff like that for the stuff that you really don't
you know, when it's bad time sleep in your clothes.
Just sleep in your clothes, you know, you saying stuff.
You know, he ain't over there sleeping in Levi eyes.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
And Corduroy's shirts.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
He's sleeping in his school clothes because you don't want
him to get them bed bugs on him or nothing
like that. You done told the boy read all the
expiration dates on everything in that refrigerator. Now you got
a seven year old in there trying to read an
expiration date on some damn mayonnaise. You know, the mayonnaise
is expired. Everybody done had an expired job of mayonnaise
(08:33):
in there.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
It's in now.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
He's got a little bit left in it, little coloration
on the lid. Everybody didne had that. Don't go out
there by the trash. The rats a get you.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
What.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
Yeah, you have to say that at the hood. Don't
go out there by that trash the rats to get you.
This is stuff, she's saying to the boy. Okay, you know,
wash all the fruit twice. This little boy over here
is in the child labor camp. He doing so much
stuff here in that double washing fruit and everything. This
(09:10):
little boy right here, he go over granted his house.
He just had a sweatshop. Don't put that silverware in
your mouth now. How the boy supposed to eat now?
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Right?
Speaker 3 (09:24):
You done told him to take all these little plastic
spoons and forks in that with you. Don't eat off
the silverware now, you just send him over there with
a dish rag in his backpack. He got to wash
each each dish for he eat. So you thoroughly messed
(09:48):
his boy's head up about his grandmother. But he loves
his grandmoma, and his grandmama loves him now. He done
told her this. But the problem you got the shaka
to you is she ain't mad. See's the hood It's
kind of hard to piss off hood Grandmama's because they
have seen it all. You ain't brand new. She know
(10:10):
the house smell, She know it's trash out there. She
know the house raggedy, She polled, She run numbers and
she ain't hitting. She know it's hard over there. But
she got love though, that's it, and she loving on
this grand boy. And your mama won't even take care
of it. So I'd rather have this hood grandmama than
(10:31):
to have your mama, because she ain't even trying to
help you out. She don't like babysitting. That's why you're
over there talking about stuff. Quit saying stuff about the
lady's house. Yeah, your house smelled good. But but but
you can't get no help but from the hood grandmama.
You know, while grandmama got spots on the floor cause
(10:51):
the carpet need cleaning. That's why spots on the floor.
And he's always excited to go see her because her
house was so different than you know, boys like crazy
stuff like that. The man, I don't go over here.
You can climb on grandmama couch. She don't even care.
Then one day he told you that he like your
(11:12):
house better because it smelled good and his granny don't. Yeah,
grandmama house always have little twain to it, you know,
always had little a little different.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
You know.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
You know your grandmama house smelled a little different. You know,
I do remember there was I look back on it
wasn't a mouth in there, No damn boy, I'll tell
you that. You go granted his house and find anything.
But wasn't no damn mouthing there. I didn't seen ants
and stuff, but uh, we didn't have nothing in our grandmama.
I go over my grandmama house man, and she puts
(11:43):
cinnamon down by the door. Cinnamon stop ants. If you
got an ant problem, you could just sprinkle down cinnamon
they get I'm telling you right now, next time you
outside had a cookout, just go in the house. Get
you a little cinnamon sprinkling on the floor with an
ants at and watch your man's get their ass away
from that. Whoa wow, Yeah, that's the old cinnamon. Sprinkle
(12:06):
cinnamon and watch them ants get their ass out of that.
If you see some ants on the trail, go put
some cinnamon on. Watchings here they're gonna get a new trail.
And if you don't want flies, and here's another thing
to keep flies away too. When you're out, take a
bowl or shallow bowl, put apple side of vinegar in
it and then sprinkle crush pepper flakes on top of it.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
It'll keep flies away. If you're outside of.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
The picnic, a bowl of apple side of vinegar and
sprinkle crushed peppers on top of it.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Keep flies with.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
If you don't want flies in your house, take a
zip lock bag, put it, fill it up with water,
put a cold hanger through it and put a penny
in it. Hang that in the doorway flies won't come
in your house. Wow, because when they see that bag
of water, it make their eyes go crazy and then
it reminds them also of a nest.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
For more to go to steveharveyfm dot com, leave your
comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Facebook at
Steve HARVEYFM, and check us out on the Strawberry Letter
podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Coming up next, Junior
is here with the recap of the Paris Summer Games
and sports talk. Right after this, you're listening Harvey Morning
(13:21):
Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEARVFM dot com by
clicking submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're gonna read this
one right here, right now, and you never know, it
could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Thank you, ne for you. Subject. He repeated everything I
said about her. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a single mother
to a seven year old boy, so I'm working two
jobs to keep him in private school. His father is
in and out of rehab, so my son barely knows him.
My son has a great relationship with his daddy's mother,
(00:44):
who we call Granny. We love Grannie and she's my
biggest supporter. My own mom doesn't like to baby said,
I'm only twenty eight, so Grannie tells me to drop
my son off with her so I can enjoy my twenties.
Grannie loves music, reality TV show and playing her numbers.
She lives in the worst neighborhood in the city, but
(01:04):
nobody messes with Granny because she once shot at her neighbor.
Grannie's house is always nasty, and when my son was
old enough to realize it, he started asking questions like
why is Grannie, why does Grannie have trash all ways
around the trash can, and why does Grannie have spots
on her floors. He was always excited to go see
(01:25):
her because her house was so different than his. One day,
he told me that he liked our house better because
it smells good and his Grannie's doesn't. I never paid
much attention to how I responded to him, and I
never realized I was shading Grannie. I was so hurt
to find out he was telling Grannie everything I say
about her. He told Grannie to keep his backpack zipped
(01:48):
up because his mom doesn't want him bringing bugs home
with him. He told Grannie that I told him to
eat the snack's ipack for him and to smell everything
else before he eats it. He told her that he
can't lie on the floor or use her blankets. There
was a lot of other stuff that he repeated, and
I feel so bad for putting Grannie down. When Granny's
(02:09):
the only person that helps me. Grannie is not even mad,
and that makes it worse. How do I make it
up to Grannie? And why is parenting so hard? Well,
I agree with you. You're right, parenting is hard. There's
no playbook and it's on the job training. I mean,
let's face it, it is. You sound like an excellent parent.
(02:30):
But it's just a nature of kids to be honest
and say what's on their minds. They always tell the truth.
They don't know what a filter is yet at seven,
he's just innocently repeating what he heard. But now that
you know that, you know he's over there running his mouth,
you could take some action. I know you meant what
you said about Grannie's nasty house, but you didn't intend
(02:52):
for it to be mean, and you were looking out
for your son so he wouldn't bring back bugs or anything.
I mean, Grannie must be a good person because she
is a great support system for you. She's the only
one you said, and that's truly a blessing. So if
I were you, even though you say she didn't get
mad about it, I would still apologize to Granny. Let
(03:13):
her you know. I'm sure she knows you know by now,
I would apologize to her for what you said and
ask her if she needs help cleaning up or something.
I mean, if you can afford it, you can hire
a cleaning crew. You can go over there yourself and
help her clean it up and get her house together.
You know, I'm sure that would make her feel good.
It's for your son and her. The same products you
(03:35):
use to make your house smell so good, use it
in Grannie's house.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Then you would have to worry.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
You won't have to worry about him being in a nasty,
messy house when he's not with you, when he's over there.
And please tell your son that what you guys talk
about in your house stays in your house. That's what
most parents do.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
Okay, Steve, Well, before I get start, let me just
clarify something Shirley said, get a cleaning crew. I'd have
got no money for no damn cleaning crew in this letter,
and you can't afford it. She already says she working
two jobs, keep a little ragged ass boy in his
private school and his daddy in and out of rehab
because he over there smoking weed and can't stop snorting cocaine,
(04:14):
and all this is, so he in rehab it. He
don't really know his daddy, but his mama taking care
of that'sho the letter about no hell. Now where your hell?
You see a chance to buy some damn cleaning crew
at She can't get no cleaning crew over there, Shelly,
she's shrugged it. She's a single mother. Listen to the letter.
I'm a single mother, seven year old boy. I'm working
(04:35):
two jobs, keep him in private school. Ain't nobody working
two jobs getting no cleaning crew in the house. Were
trying to get this little ignorant ass boy educated. And
you need to hear him getting educated because he's stupid,
dumb ass over there telling it. I bet he won't
tell it, no moto. I couldn't repeat nothing at nobody's
(04:56):
house anyway. And in his daddy his father is in
the in and out of rehab, so my son badly
knows him. Told you, But he got a great relationship
with his daddy's mother, and she's my biggest supporter. My
own mom don't like the babysit. Damn mom, I'm only
(05:16):
twenty eight, So granny tells me drop my son off
with her so I can enjoy my twenties. That's a
good grandmother. But she hood though now granted, little music.
She and that got bb king on. She and that
playing ladder mold little Milton, your seven year old boy
is probably with the seven year old boy reason he
(05:38):
telling everything because he had the childhood I had. He's
probably the most depressed seven year old up at the
school because when your grandmama and them be listening to blues,
it affects you, just like rap affects this culture today.
The blues affected me when I was growing up.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
I'm so alone. I'm so alone. You know all that
right there? She left me, Yes she did.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
I got another if I got another, if you know,
I was in the blues. So everything to me was
the blues. My report call was the blues. The teacher
called my house to report me. It was the blues. Anyway,
she lives, the grandmama live in the worst neighborhood in
the city. But nobody messing with granted, because she shot somebody.
(06:27):
This is the type of grandmother. You won't live in
the hood shooting people. But your boy is over there
running his mouth. When we come back, I will tell
you the things you have said about this woman that
has gotten back to her.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
All right, Steve, hang on, we'll have part two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the
subject of today's strawberry letter. He repeated everything I said
about her. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening Morning show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's
recap today's strawberry letter. The subject he repeated everything I
said her.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Yeah, we got a problem because this lady, who is
her ex husband's her baby's daddy's mother, is a good grandmother.
She takes care of the baby, she watches out for
him and her own mother. She's twenty eight. Don't like babysitting.
So the lady in this letter, the grandmother, is your
biggest supporter. The problem is your son been over there
(07:20):
running his mouth and then told her everything you said.
You didn't mean for it to get back, but you
you call yourself protecting your son because at the end
of the letter you said, why is parenting so hard?
Now you've been over there talking about grandmama to you boy.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Now you said stuff like.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
Blow on the cookies before you eat them, you know,
stuff like that for the stuff that you really don't
you know, when it's bad time sleep in your clothes.
Just sleep in your clothes, you know, you saying stuff.
You know, he ain't over there sleeping in Levi eyes.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
And Corduroy's shirts.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
He's sleeping in his school clothes because you don't want
him to get them bed bugs on him or nothing
like that. You done told the boy read all the
expiration dates on everything in that refrigerator. Now you got
a seven year old in there trying to read an
expiration date on some damn mayonnaise. You know, the mayonnaise
is expired. Everybody done had an expired job of mayonnaise
(08:33):
in there.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
It's in now.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
He's got a little bit left in it, little coloration
on the lid. Everybody didne had that. Don't go out
there by the trash. The rats a get you.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
What.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
Yeah, you have to say that at the hood. Don't
go out there by that trash the rats to get you.
This is stuff, she's saying to the boy. Okay, you know,
wash all the fruit twice. This little boy over here
is in the child labor camp. He doing so much
stuff here in that double washing fruit and everything. This
(09:10):
little boy right here, he go over granted his house.
He just had a sweatshop. Don't put that silverware in
your mouth now. How the boy supposed to eat now?
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Right?
Speaker 3 (09:24):
You done told him to take all these little plastic
spoons and forks in that with you. Don't eat off
the silverware now, you just send him over there with
a dish rag in his backpack. He got to wash
each each dish for he eat. So you thoroughly messed
(09:48):
his boy's head up about his grandmother. But he loves
his grandmoma, and his grandmama loves him now. He done
told her this. But the problem you got the shaka
to you is she ain't mad. See's the hood It's
kind of hard to piss off hood Grandmama's because they
have seen it all. You ain't brand new. She know
(10:10):
the house smell, She know it's trash out there. She
know the house raggedy, She polled, She run numbers and
she ain't hitting. She know it's hard over there. But
she got love though, that's it, and she loving on
this grand boy. And your mama won't even take care
of it. So I'd rather have this hood grandmama than
(10:31):
to have your mama, because she ain't even trying to
help you out. She don't like babysitting. That's why you're
over there talking about stuff. Quit saying stuff about the
lady's house. Yeah, your house smelled good. But but but
you can't get no help but from the hood grandmama.
You know, while grandmama got spots on the floor cause
(10:51):
the carpet need cleaning. That's why spots on the floor.
And he's always excited to go see her because her
house was so different than you know, boys like crazy
stuff like that. The man, I don't go over here.
You can climb on grandmama couch. She don't even care.
Then one day he told you that he like your
(11:12):
house better because it smelled good and his granny don't. Yeah,
grandmama house always have little twain to it, you know,
always had little a little different.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
You know.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
You know your grandmama house smelled a little different. You know,
I do remember there was I look back on it
wasn't a mouth in there, No damn boy, I'll tell
you that. You go granted his house and find anything.
But wasn't no damn mouthing there. I didn't seen ants
and stuff, but uh, we didn't have nothing in our grandmama.
I go over my grandmama house man, and she puts
(11:43):
cinnamon down by the door. Cinnamon stop ants. If you
got an ant problem, you could just sprinkle down cinnamon
they get I'm telling you right now, next time you
outside had a cookout, just go in the house. Get
you a little cinnamon sprinkling on the floor with an
ants at and watch your man's get their ass away
from that. Whoa wow, Yeah, that's the old cinnamon. Sprinkle
(12:06):
cinnamon and watch them ants get their ass out of that.
If you see some ants on the trail, go put
some cinnamon on. Watchings here they're gonna get a new trail.
And if you don't want flies, and here's another thing
to keep flies away too. When you're out, take a
bowl or shallow bowl, put apple side of vinegar in
it and then sprinkle crush pepper flakes on top of it.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
It'll keep flies away. If you're outside of.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
The picnic, a bowl of apple side of vinegar and
sprinkle crushed peppers on top of it.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Keep flies with.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
If you don't want flies in your house, take a
zip lock bag, put it, fill it up with water,
put a cold hanger through it and put a penny
in it. Hang that in the doorway flies won't come
in your house. Wow, because when they see that bag
of water, it make their eyes go crazy and then
it reminds them also of a nest.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
For more to go to steveharveyfm dot com, leave your
comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Facebook at
Steve HARVEYFM, and check us out on the Strawberry Letter
podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Coming up next, Junior
is here with the recap of the Paris Summer Games
and sports talk. Right after this, you're listening Harvey Morning
(13:21):
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