It’s Too Much Going On To Get It On

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:28):
Subject it's too much going on to get it on.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I just moved to the city that
my boyfriend lives in, and he wants me to move
in with him, but I'm not sure it's the right
thing to do. I'm living with my aunt and uncle temporarily,
so my boyfriend doesn't feel right staying overnight at their house,
and quite frankly, I don't think they would allow it anyway,

(00:50):
So I've been staying at his house for three weeks.
He services vehicles and washes cars at his house, so
men are always hanging out in the yard. He also
has a cousin that's his age living with him. I
cannot really tell what's wrong with him, and I don't
want to be rude and ask, but I can see
that it's something. He is always yelling at the TV

(01:13):
in his room, so I usually walk by and closed
the door whenever I can. Then his older uncles come
by and sit around. They came over every night for
the Olympics and stayed till like two am. I had
to go to work the next day, but it was
too loud to sleep. My boyfriend is a hard worker,
and he comes to bed smelling like it. There's no

(01:34):
amount of soap that can get the smell off of him,
so I had to take what I can get. When
it comes to being intimate, he smells like an oil
can usually, and it wasn't that bad before I started
stating with him. Maybe the smell is stuck in my head.
We were trying to get it on Saturday night and
his uncle stopped by. Mind you, it was one am

(01:57):
and the house was completely dark. My boyfriend's cousin let
the uncle in his uncle open up our bedroom door
to ask if we were sleep. I was unclothed and
in a certain position that his uncle said he'd never
forget now I'm too embarrassed to ever see that man again.
My boyfriend has got too much going on to get

(02:18):
it on. Would I be making a big mistake to
move in or to even keep dating him? Oh? This
is too much. You're right. I can't even believe you're
considering moving in with him. There's no peace in this house.
People have no respect for him, for his time or
for you. And what are they coming over at anytime
of the day and night for it? Anyway, one o'clock

(02:40):
in the morning and just opening up your bedroom door.
Nothing is that important that it can't wait until a
decent hour the next day. And please don't try to
fool yourself into thinking it will get better once you
move in and all that, because it won't. This is
about as good as it's going to get. It's happening now,
so it's going to happen. Then, this is it. And

(03:00):
the smell coming from his body, what is that? You said?
It smells like an oil can and no amount of
soap can get it out, that's what you said. And
you guess you have to take what you can get
when you're intimate. No, you don't. You don't have to
deal with that. He needs a stronger soap.

Speaker 2 (03:19):
For sure.

Speaker 1 (03:19):
He needs everything in that house to be washed because
it's probably all smelling like the oil can. But I
don't think you're gonna have to worry about any of that,
because I don't think this is a good match for you.
It's too much stuff going wrong here. He can't stay
with you at your aunt, at your aunt and uncle's house,
and you definitely can't stay with him because of all

(03:40):
that's going on. And you're right, it's too much going
on in this house for you, and he doesn't get it.

Speaker 2 (03:44):
Steve, Well, I know exactly what's going on in the
crib and all this here. But the problem in this
letter is there's only one redeeming quality in this letter

(04:05):
from your standpoint, not from mine, but from the writer
of this letter. And the only redeeming quality is he's
a hard worker. He hustling. Hats off to you, my brother,
waiting to put it in. Here's your problem. It's not
that they're coming over that shirley and they're being disrespectful.

(04:28):
Is this how his house been running for all this time?
Because because it's the bachelor crib, the boy, this the
frat house, this the hangout spot. He fixed vehicles and
detailed cars in his yard. His smell like all can

(04:48):
you got so many things you're trying to fight off
in this damn letter. Okay, your boyfriend, first of all,
he live out of town, so he wanted you to
move in with with him. You, well, you moved to
the city that your boyfriend live in, so obviously y'all
had y'all have something going on. But you staying with

(05:09):
your aunt and uncle and your boyfriend don't feel right
staying overnight at their house. And but you said, I
don't think they would allow it anyway. No, hell, now,
ain't ain't nobody finna do that. Ain't another man finna
let you stay in this house, you the niece. But
here come your boyfriend spend the night in his house,

(05:31):
and ain't that man. Ain't finna go for that anyway.
So you've been staying at his house for three weeks.
And like you say, he served his cars and he
washed cars in his house. So men always hanging out
in the yard. He got to hear the part of
the letter Shirley didn't touch on. He got a cousin

(05:52):
that's his age living with him. I really can't tell
what's wrong. With him. I don't want to be rude
and asked you got to find out what's wrong with
I save that for you. Something is the matter with
that grown ass husband that you think is something wrong

(06:14):
because he always yelling at the TV in his room. Now,
when we come back, I'm gonna deal with his cousin
and I'm gonna tell you what you need to do
about this. All can smell, But I think the most
important part in this letter to me right now is
what's wrong with that damn cuz.

Speaker 1 (06:33):
Okay, coming up, we'll have part two. Some crazy man's
response at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter.
Subject is it's too much going on to get it on.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening

(06:53):
morning show, all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's
Strubberry Strawberry letter. The subject is it's too much going
on to get it on.

Speaker 2 (07:02):
Well, it's a woman that moved into the city that
her boyfriend live in, and she moved in with uncle
and her boyfriend don't feel comfortable spending the night over there,
and she says, frankly, I don't think my aunt and
uncle would allow that I don't either, So she's been
staying at her boyfriend's house for three weeks. The saving
grace in this letter. Brother is a hustler. He's a

(07:22):
hard worker, work with his hands. He got a manly job,
he earning a living. He doing good. He fixed vehicles
and detailed wash cars in his yard. So it's me
and always hanginground. She been staying at the house for
three weeks right now. And he also has a cousin
that's his age living with him. I cannot really tell

(07:47):
what's wrong with him, and I don't want to be
rude and ass but I can see that it's something.
He is always yelling at the TV in his room,
right So let's deal with this, cuz I'm gonna just
be honest with you right now. If he the same
age as your boyfriend, but something wrong with him, but

(08:13):
you can't tell because he always in the room yelling
at his TV. And then you say so, I usually
walk by and close his door whenever I can now
if he don't stop you from closing that door, it's
because he don't know you doing it. So now we
got another problem. So now she don't say he talked

(08:38):
back to the TV. He yelling at the What see
this is what you're here?

Speaker 1 (08:49):
Uh?

Speaker 2 (08:49):
Uh, don't stop me. I'm just She's just she said,
he's yelling at the TV. And all I know is everybody. No, no, then,
ain't what she said. She said, he yelling up to me.

Speaker 1 (09:05):
You know, come on.

Speaker 2 (09:06):
Now, if I hear this up the hallway and your
ass has farted just like my boyfriend is. You ain't
outside helping with the cars. You ain't fixing no vehicle.
You just stay at the house. I can tell something
wrong with him, but I don't want to be rude
and ass. You need to ask what is wrong with

(09:30):
little nuck Nuck because every time I come by his door.

Speaker 1 (09:38):
To find it.

Speaker 2 (09:40):
Huh.

Speaker 1 (09:41):
Have you never yelled at a game while a game
is on or something? You do that with words?

Speaker 2 (09:46):
Nah? Yeah, hello, come out man? Yes? Oh hell no,
that's what I'm talking about. Oh juke, move, joke move,
Oh that stuff I say when I'm watching the game.
I don't know she's saying, he'd be yelling. I'm telling you,
I said, y'all always want to be extra Christian on

(10:07):
these lefts Now, I'm in hell. You got to get
the hell out this house because you're gonna mess around
and get bit. I'm gonna tell you right now, when
he walk in there and bite your ass out of nowhere,
you're gonna wish you had left that house. I'm talking
about a dog bite. I'm talking about latch onto your
fae arm where you can't shake him off, that type
of thing. So I usually walk by and close this

(10:30):
door whenever I can. You need to put a lock
on it. You need to change his door from the outside.
Then there's older uncles come by and sit around. They
come over. Came over every night for the Olympics and
stayed at like two am. I had to go to
work the next day, but it was too loud to sleep.
My boyfriend is are hard work. He come to bed
smelling like it. There's no amount of soap that can

(10:52):
get to smell off of him, so I have to
take what I can get. When it comes to being intimate,
he smells like an all all oil can and usually
and it wasn't that bad for I started staying with him.
Maybe the smell is stuck in my head. We was
trying to get it on Saturday night and his uncle
stopped by. Mind you was one of m in the
house completely dark. My boyfriend and cousin let us uncle lim.

(11:14):
My uncle opened the bedroom door and asked if we
were sleep. I was unclothed and in a certain position
that his uncle said he'd never forget. Now you're in
here traumatizing old lass people. What position was she in?
You got a boy up the hallway that's the same
age as your boyfriend in here hollering at the TV.
And she didn't even say the TV was on. See

(11:35):
what with y'all not paying attention to he'd be in
there yelling at the damn TV. She ain't even say
it was on. I'm telling y'all, you got to get
the hell out of this house. Now you got your
uncle in here talking about he saw you in the position.
He'll never forget the hell was you doing? Why his
old lass ain't seen that position before? Well, let me

(11:59):
tell you something. That all the smell is in the house.
It's on the furniture, it's on the other people are
sitting around and they ain't no telling what That boy
in that room that don't nobody know what's wrong with him.
He got some all in that doing something. He got
a he got he got a whole care of W. D.
Fauty and he walking around that house. I'm telling you

(12:20):
got a lot to do with him. Let me tell
you something. All them smells is in the sheets and everything.
You'd have made a damn mistake. Your ass need to
move back to the city you came from, because I'm
telling you get out that house. Because that uncle every
time he looking at you, he got his tongue out
of his mouth. And that boy on the hall pos

(12:44):
to find out what's wrong with that boy up that hall.

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