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September 9, 2024 13 mins

Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been married for almost a year and we have a four month old daughter. We currently live in a hotel suite because the water heater flooded the main level of our home right after we moved in. It's been a rough year so far. I haven't been able to sleep because I take care of the baby all day and I also go back and forth to check on the restoration of the house. My job let me work from home before I have the baby, and my maternity leave is up, so I work and take care of the baby in this hotel room............................................................

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:25):
Nephew's subject he is scared to sleep next to me.
Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been married for almost a year
and we have a four month old daughter. We currently
live in a hotel suite because the water heater flooded
the main level of our home right after we moved in.
It's been a rough year so far. I haven't been
able to sleep because I take care of the baby

(00:46):
all day and I also go back and forth to
check on the restoration of the house. My job let
me work from home before I have the baby, and
my maternity leave is up, so I work and take
care of the baby in this hotel room. I'm at
the end of my and my husband, sell said he
can tell I'm stressed. As soon as I could start
back having sex. My husband tried to do it every day.

(01:08):
I finally cut him off because I was too tired.
Now when I sleep, he said, I snore too loud,
and I talk in my sleep. The other night, he said,
I rose up and looked around the room and started
to have a whole conversation that didn't make sense. I
found him on the sofa in the other part of
the suite. The next morning. He said, he is scared
to sleep with me. I don't recall doing any of that,

(01:31):
so he recorded me. The next time it happened, I
saw and heard myself on the video. I was mumbling, cursing,
and giggling. I tossed and turned a few times, and
then I took one of my husband's pillows and told
him to go check on the baby. All of this
was while I was asleep. It was just a little
talking in my sleep, and I explained to my husband

(01:52):
that I'm beyond tired. Every time my head hits the pillow.
He wants me to go to a doctor because he
thinks something's up with me.

Speaker 3 (01:59):
Is it normal hold to talk in your sleep? Why
is he so afraid.

Speaker 1 (02:04):
He's afraid because he's said you were doing all this
stuff in your sleep. And I agree with your husband
on this one. I do think you need to see
a doctor. And no, not everyone talks in their sleep.
But you do, Okay, you do, don't You got he's
got you on tape doing all this crazy stuff, and
you saw it for yourself. You said you were mumbling,

(02:26):
you were giggling, you were cursing, You handed him a pillow.
You know you were doing more than just a little talking,
like you said. If this is unusual behavior for you,
then you do need to get checked out. You're very stressed.
You have a four month old baby. You're working now.
You know things are happening fast. They're they're happening non.

Speaker 3 (02:49):
Stop for you. You need a break. You never know.

Speaker 1 (02:52):
This could be, you know, some form of postpartum or
something we don't know. I say, don't ignore your symptoms
or try to do your own diagnot diagnosis. You're not
a doctor. I say, please make a doctor's appointment. Your
baby needs you find out what's happening.

Speaker 3 (03:06):
Steve.

Speaker 4 (03:07):
He wants me to go to a doctor because he
thinks something up with me. Isn't it normal to talk
in your sleep? Why is he so afraid? Because he
lived with Linda Blair. He's scared that your ass is
the exorcist. That's why he's scared. Uh. You know Black
people scared of stuff like that, talking and cussing it,

(03:30):
laughing and grabbing the pillow, telling the man to go
in there and get the baby. Sitting straight up in
the bed. He done got his ass over there on
the couch. You know why, because he needed to hear
these footsteps. Fo you try to kill him, that's why
he's sleeping on the couch. Yes, you need to go
to the doctor because something is wrong with your ass
and you not gonna get your husband back.

Speaker 2 (03:50):
This lady right now, I'm telling you, is heading.

Speaker 4 (03:53):
To divorce if you don't get your ass to the
doctor and get you some what they call it melanin
or something. You better get you some camerameal tea or
some hot milk something and take your.

Speaker 2 (04:05):
Ass to sleep.

Speaker 4 (04:07):
They got an advial PM now they got night quill Z's.
You got to take something. Shut your ass down. It's
wrong with you.

Speaker 3 (04:16):
That's kind of crazy sounds.

Speaker 4 (04:18):
Sitting up in here, sitting up in the bed, talking
and cussing and laughing and giggling by to give a
damn you done had a baby. You know how many
women that had babies ain't doing this. It's something wrong
with you. Y'all got to stop playing with these people
in this strawberry letter. Sureley and I are not therapist.
Sharely said you need to go get some help. But

(04:39):
this ain't what we do now. I'm just telling you
your ass is nutty and you need to go seabody.

Speaker 3 (04:47):
Would you want? Hell?

Speaker 4 (04:49):
Yeah, you need to be in the room with a
quilted house coat on on.

Speaker 2 (04:54):
The twenty four hour surveillers. You're damn right. I'm scared.
I'm scared of you, and I don't even know you.

Speaker 4 (05:01):
I'm concerned as hell for your husband. He done got
up and got over there and set on that couch.
Hear her crazy ass? Come at least I can hear
us walking because you're gonna try to kill this man?
Why is he afraid to sleep next to me? Cause
you crazy? Why are we always trying to timpittoe around

(05:21):
these strawberry letters. I get tired of people writing me
with stuff. We ain't got no skill. I ain't going
to school for this.

Speaker 3 (05:27):
But she's really stressed, though maybe that has something to
do with it.

Speaker 2 (05:31):
Who ain't stressed?

Speaker 4 (05:33):
Who on this zoom ain't stressed in their car right now?
Ain't stressed? Job right now? Ain't stressed? Who you know
ain't stressed?

Speaker 3 (05:46):
Everybody does have a story.

Speaker 4 (05:49):
You're sitting up in here talking at night and cussing
and laughing, grabbing pillows and talking.

Speaker 2 (05:56):
But now and you don't want to have six Well
what is we in here for?

Speaker 4 (06:07):
All?

Speaker 2 (06:08):
Listen here, lady, you got to be out your mind.

Speaker 4 (06:10):
Y'all had to move it out your house because your
damn house got flooded. Got a water pipe book or something,
she said. And now y'all have moved into this hotel suite.
It ain't nowhere for your husband to go. At least
you got a house. You can go downstairs or around.

Speaker 2 (06:25):
The corner or something.

Speaker 4 (06:26):
Yeah, you in that hotel suite and y'all ain't got
the presidential I can tell you that.

Speaker 3 (06:31):
I ain't hang on, Steve, hang on, I know you.

Speaker 2 (06:33):
Care right there right by the bed.

Speaker 3 (06:35):
I know you're scared of this letter, but hang on.

Speaker 4 (06:38):
Well, they don't big couch either, So he falled up
We'll have.

Speaker 1 (06:42):
Part two of your response coming up at twenty three
minutes after today's strawberry letter. Subject he is scared to
sleep next to me. We'll get back into it with
Steve's part two right after this.

Speaker 3 (06:52):
You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show.

Speaker 1 (06:55):
All right, here we go, Steve Let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is he is scared to sleep next to me.

Speaker 2 (07:01):
So just let me give you a slight recap.

Speaker 4 (07:03):
This lady been married for almost a year and they
got a four month allD daughter. They currently living in
a hotel because the water heater broke. Now they're in
this sweet and the sweet, you know, like a junior sweet.
How it got a little sofa in the room too,
But you can see all of it. You can see
all of it. This ain't no sweet with no corners
and no other doors. And it's one bathroom and it's
a sofa, and it ain't no bigger ass sofa. And

(07:25):
now she got to go back and forth checking on
the house. She got to go to work, but the
job let her work from the house because she was
on maternity leave. Her maternity leave up the baby crazy
and now driving her crazy. Working I know the baby crazy.
The baby four months old, all four months old is
crazy crying?

Speaker 2 (07:43):
What is you crying for?

Speaker 4 (07:44):
Now? You know?

Speaker 2 (07:45):
Warning stuff? Can't talk? You know four Yeah, you said
this is your first baby.

Speaker 4 (07:48):
You don't know what four years and four months you
ain't got to figure out yet. You don't know what
the baby got collic. You don't know if the baby
just crying because you want to get up. You don't
know if baby went dry, hungry, you know, won't to
be hell is all you got figure that and you
can't figure it out in foremost And now she sleep deprived,
so now she going through all this. And then at
the end of the rope, your husband said he could

(08:10):
tell he's stressed. And as soon as I could start
back to having sex, my husband tried to do it
every day. What had you been off for a while.
You're damn right, he gonna want it every day? What
has you got it for? You got it? I want it?
I wanted it yesterday, Yes, I want it today, yes, yes, yes.

(08:32):
Your problem is when he don't want it no more.
That's when you got your problem now. But he said
you snore too loud. Yeah, so no, what you did
was he wont to say. Then guess what she said.
I finally cut him off. Oh that's a good idea.
So you want it every day now, let's just cut
it off to no day. You done one from I

(08:53):
want it every day to now, and just cut you
off now. When I sleep, he said, I snore too loud.
I talk him asleep. Other night, he say, I rose up,
look around the room, started to have a whole conversation
that didn't make sense. I found him on the sofa
in the outer part of in the other part of
the sweep. The next morning, he said, he's scared to
sleep next to me. I don't recall doing any of that,

(09:13):
so he recorded me. The next time I saw I
heard myself on the video. I was Mamley cussin, giggling.
I tossed and turned a few times. I took one
of my husband's pillows, told him to go check on
the baby. All this while I was asleep. He wants
me to go to the doctor because he thinks something's
up with me. Isn't it normal to talk in your sleep?

(09:35):
Why is he so afraid? Again? Because he think he
lived with Linda Blair and your ass is the exorcist?
And no black people don't like that kind of stuff.
You look possessed. And he's sitting up in the bed, talking,
walking around, grabbing pillows. Nobody won't sleep next to no

(09:57):
crazy ass person. And the reason he to moved in there
to the couch, and so he can hear you coming
seeing all this, You waking up sitting up in the bed,
you can kill him right there at least and trying
to hear you coming so he can have some type
of warning to shut you down. He gonna have you committed.
That's what I see coming right now. And that's what

(10:18):
you need. This ain't therapy. Your need to go check
in some I know several good places because I've been
through this. I know several good places you can wave
your way. It's a place in Arizona you can go.

Speaker 3 (10:31):
With an.

Speaker 4 (10:37):
I can get you checked in right now. But if
you leave earlier, they don't give you your money back.
You know, the whole lot of time that lived a
long time out of all this health. Got to get
them crazy people out your damn house. I'm taking right

(10:58):
now because you don't get this crazy woman out your house,
that woman gonna get your ass out there house. And yes,
he's afraid to sleep with you cause he don't know
who the hell you are. No man, he used to
want sex every day. Now you done cut him off.
You thought that was a good. Oh, now you're gonna
cut me off and go crazy. Oh no, no, no,

(11:22):
oh you not finna do me now. I'm coming here
one day. You damn spinning up green vomit in my face,
and your head will turn around backs and that bed
up in the air. We got to get the hell
out of here. Why we always got to be accepting
the crazy ass people. You don't see now now we're
so politically correct. We got to always be. That's the
big thing in society day. Everybody go to therapy. Therapa

(11:44):
ain't for everybody. Some people need to check their ass
in somewhere. You need more than a therapist. You need
clinical help. You need some medication. You need to pad
his selle, you need to go lay down, you need
to be handcuffed to a bed. Sometimes all this here,
all is here, And I am tired of being politically
correct all the time. It's something wrong with some people.

(12:07):
What you want me to do, just make sure they
take their man. Everybody always got an excuse for people. Now,
it's just some people that're crazy. You can't just let
them go. Keep on, keep on affiliating and associating yourself
with crazy ass people.

Speaker 2 (12:25):
Well, I'm gonna do something to you. One I'm gonna do.

Speaker 1 (12:29):
Something, and then you're gonna sit back and say, I
told you so, I told you, warned you.

Speaker 2 (12:35):
Get your ass out.

Speaker 3 (12:37):
I tried to tell you.

Speaker 2 (12:38):
Divorce is an option. It is on the table.

Speaker 4 (12:44):
Unce you wake up and start choking a pillar and
I'm thinking it's me.

Speaker 2 (12:49):
Divorce becomes an.

Speaker 3 (12:50):
Option, all right, and you cut me off?

Speaker 2 (12:55):
What is we doing in here?

Speaker 1 (12:57):
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Speaker 1 (13:03):
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