September 23, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm married, but my husband and I haven't slept in the same bed for two years. His sleep meds didn't work and he would try to watch TV all night. I sleep lightly, so I told him that I needed the room to be quiet. He went and slept in the other room two years ago and never came back. After the first year, he moved all of his clothes into the room with him. He came to my bed a few times wanting sex, but he did not want to cuddle afterwards, so I stopped being intimate with him. Luckily for me, I travel every two months for my job, and I'm gone two weeks at a time. My last work trip was in July and I was having dinner with two other managers, a male and a female.........................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice and relationships, works, sex, oh parenting and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Ladies and gentlemen, It's time for
the Strawberry Letter with my good friend Shirley Strawberry.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you, my good friend. Junior subject. I can't remember
how good it felt. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm married, but
my husband and I haven't slept in the same bed
for two years. His sleep meds didn't work and he
would try to watch TV all night. I sleep lightly,
so I told him that I needed the room to
be quiet. He went and slept in the other room
(00:48):
two years ago and never came back. After the first year,
he moved all of his clothes into the room with him.
He came to my bed a few times wanting sex,
but he did not want to cuddle afterwards, so I
stopped being intimate with him. Luckily for me, I travel
every two months for my job, and I'm gone two
weeks at a time. My last work trip was in
(01:10):
July and I was having dinner with two other managers,
a male and a female. We got on the subject
of how hard marriage is, and the man said that
he cannot even remember how good it felt to be cuddled.
Something came over me and I blurted out that I'm
having the same problem. I told them I can't remember
how good it felt to be intimate and to cuddle. Afterwards,
(01:33):
he jokingly said that we should try cuddling together cuddling later.
Then he teased me, asking if he had to get
me drunk first. The female said it would be great
and it might help both of us out. She said
there's no harrm in it unless we have sex. I
told her there's a lot of harm in it because
we are both married. AnyWho, the man showed up at
(01:56):
my hotel room door at ten pm. I was surprised,
but I let him in. I was wearing a robe
and a tank top with panties underneath it. Underneath it,
he was wearing shorts and a wife beater. We cuddled
all night with our clothes on on top of the covers.
He felt so good up against me, and it has
(02:16):
me wanting more. Is it time for me to explore
my options with other men? Or should I try to
work things out with my husband first? Please help? Well,
I mean, two years later, you're thinking about working it
out with your husband. I mean, you know, if your
husband is on the same page, I'm going to always say,
try to work it out first. It's just too easy
(02:37):
to walk away in marriages these days. What about the
commitment you guys made to each other. Now, if it's over,
it's over. I mean it has been two years. I
get that if it's truly over. But in your case,
I think you and your husband have never ever even
tried to fix your issues. You guys just stopped, and
I mean you stopped everything, and you never discussed it.
(02:58):
You never had any communication about it. Nothing. I remember
this because you know, all you say is that he
couldn't get sleep because of his meds. That's all you
say was the problem his sleeping patterns was interrupting your
sleeping patterns. So now you're looking outside of your marriage
for fulfillment or cuddling as you say, So, I think
(03:20):
you and your husband should work it out. Try to.
You know, you owe that to the marriage. Plus you
haven't tried that. If you don't, it's a wrap your
marriage is Steve.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Subject of this letter is I can't remember how good
it felt. Okay, I don't believe a damn thing in
this letter. I really believe any of this. Now I've done,
I will read you the parts I believe, and then
I will share with you where the disbelief comes in it. Oh,
I'm married, but my husband and I haven't slept in
(03:52):
the same bed for two years. Okay, all right. I
believe that his mads didn't work, and he would try
to watch TV all night. I sleep lightly, so I
told him I need to be the room to be quiet.
He wasn't slept in the other room two years ago
and never came back right there. Last, think about this
(04:13):
for a minute. Sleep mads that don't work? The hell
was he taking? They got some stuff, man, that can
put your ass out to next Friday. They got some
stuff you can take that's damned near the same thing
(04:35):
as anesthesia. You got to be careful. They got something
that worked. So I find that hard to believe that
his sleep mads didn't work. So he decided to watch
TV all night. Who don't need no sleep? As hard
as I work, I got to have some sleep. And
(04:57):
then he went and slept in the room for two
years or never came back. What then after the first
year he moved all his clothes into that room with him.
Wait a minute, Wait a minute, so he moved out
y'all's room, moved all his clothes into the other room.
(05:17):
Ain't nobody know? Nothing was wrong with this right here?
Then after the first year, then he would come to
my bed a few times wanting sex. But then he
didn't want to cuddle afterwards, so I stopped being intimate
with him. Wait a minute, hold of dog. So you'll
just go over there to your wife to be intimate
(05:38):
and then after that no cuddling. Something else is wrong here.
This ain't just no sleep mads and no watching TV, y'all,
something else is wrong here. Now that's some information missing
from this letter. I'm sorry, okay, because a woman will
go over and put you an eyemask on, lay your
(05:59):
ass over there, go to sleep, but get up out
this bed one more time. See what happened? I just
know how it go now, she says, Luckily for me,
here we go. Luckily for me, I travel every two
months for my job, and I'm going two weeks at
a time. My last work trip was in July. I
was having dinner with two other managers, a man and
a woman. We got on subject how hard marriage is,
(06:22):
and the man says he can't even remember how good
it felt to be cuddle. Some came over me and
I blurted it out, I'm having the same problem. Now,
all this is true. I believe all this is true.
I told him I can't remember how good it failed
to be intimny to come down. He jokingly said we
should try cuddling together. He said this in front of
the other woman. Hang on, when I come back, I
tell you the rest of it.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter, subject,
I can't remember how good it felt. Right after this,
you're listening Steve Hard Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is I can't
remember how good it felt.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
This couple having some problem. The problem she stated in
this letter is simple. Now, I don't believe nothing in
this letter, especially towards the end, that he can't sleep,
so he started taking sleep mads. They don't work. She
sleep light, so he decided to watch TV. She told
him to go in the other room. He been gone
two years. After a year, he went back in the
(07:22):
room and moved all his clothes in the room, caught
some sleep mads. Didn't work. You mean to tell me
that in two years? You ain't went back to the
doctor and said, bruh, them pills you gave me, do
not put me to sleep. And he ain't got nothing else. Dog,
you can go to sleep if you want to. They
(07:43):
got something. They have something with your ass, cause you
be slobbling on yourself. You be cause so I don't
believe that anyway. Every now and then he come to
the room to have sex, but he wouldn't want to
cuddle afterwards, so she stopped having it with him, so
he went back to the room. Not two years now,
(08:04):
Hold up, he don't have ed. He don't have y'all
ain't been there, ain't no infidelity problems. You mean to
tell me? So he been in that room for two years,
not having sex with you, and he cool with that girl. Bye.
It's so much stuff missing in this letter right here.
(08:26):
Ain't no man for two years going in no room,
moved all his clothes over there, and ain't having sex
with you? He having sex somewhere. And now you say,
but luckily for me, I travel for my job. Yeah,
and your job when you going, you going two weeks
(08:46):
at a time, and your last trip was in July.
You was having dinner with these two managers, a man
and a woman, and the subject came up how hard
marriage is. And the man said he can't remember how
good it felt to be cuddled something over me, the
letter writer says, and I blurted out, I'm having the
same problem what I told him, I can't remember how
(09:07):
good to be intimate and couple. Afterwards, he jokingly said,
in front of everybody, we should try cuddling later. He
said that in front of this woman girl on a
business trip. Can I say inappropriate here? But he said
that in front of her, and then we should try
cuddling later. Then he teased me, asking if I had
(09:27):
to get drunk first, all this in front of the woman,
and then the other manager said it would be great
and help us both out.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
They're just really close.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
Steve comes swanging ass conversation. Boy, lady, I'm telling you
this is where your letter don't make no sense to me.
She said, there's no harm in it unless we have sex.
I told this, a lot of harm in it because
we both married. Any Who here we go anytime, anytime
(10:02):
a black person go any who he comes from bs
right here. But that ain't happen. Any Who. You must
have been all hell.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
Listen to this.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
The man showed up in my hotel room though at
ten pm. I was surprised, but I let him in. Girl,
You aren't that damn shocked. It's a peephole on most doors.
You're in ten pm, single woman, a woman, or don't
(10:34):
open her door? You let him in. I was wearing
a rope a tank top with some panis underneath. He
was wearing shorts and a wife beater. Oh that's it.
He didn't guess what the next line say. We cuddled
all night with our clothes on.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Girl on top of the bed.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
That's a lie, girl, stop on top of the covers.
He felt so good against me, and he asked me,
wanting more. Is it time for me to explore my
options with other men? Or should I try to work
things out with my husband. First, please help girl. What
(11:16):
you cannot do is right in to me. First of all,
you're talking to a person that ain't got no problem
lying recognized game. You are not telling the entire truth
in this letter. It don't make no sense. This man
(11:39):
came to your hotel room ten o'clock at night with
a wife beater on and some shorts he ain't want
to have on. Nothing that took long time take off.
You answered the door with stuff that didn't take a
long time cut. So let me ask you something. So
what made y'all decide to cut on top of the covers.
(12:01):
You left that conversation out how y'all eventually got on
the bed. You forgot that, Dicky. You left that out
because you left out all the heavy kissing and rubbing,
and you even left out the par where something might
have happened, and y'all put y'all clothes on it. He
decided to stay and cut it. You left a whole
(12:21):
lot of you ain't just laying on no bed, ain't
no dude, ain't trying nothing.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
So wait a minute, Steve, you're saying she didn't open
the door, and they didn't just go right to the
bed and cuddle, that's what you're saying. Hell no, yea
four play.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Somebody been up against a wall. She said, he felt
so good up against me. I know exactly how he felt.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Goodness. All right, he felt good too, Ladies listen. You
can comment on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram or Facebook
at Steve Harvey FM. Also check out the Strawberry Letter
podcast on a free iHeartRadio app. Coming up next to
his Junior and Sports, she.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
A' gotta be able to get this man out of mind,
explore the other options has already begun?
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Yeah, and they didn't. She she didn't even give her
marriage a chance. Junior is up next with Sports Talk
right after this. You're listening Hardy Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice and relationships, works, sex, oh parenting and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Ladies and gentlemen, It's time for
the Strawberry Letter with my good friend Shirley Strawberry.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you, my good friend. Junior subject. I can't remember
how good it felt. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm married, but
my husband and I haven't slept in the same bed
for two years. His sleep meds didn't work and he
would try to watch TV all night. I sleep lightly,
so I told him that I needed the room to
be quiet. He went and slept in the other room
(00:48):
two years ago and never came back. After the first year,
he moved all of his clothes into the room with him.
He came to my bed a few times wanting sex,
but he did not want to cuddle afterwards, so I
stopped being intimate with him. Luckily for me, I travel
every two months for my job, and I'm gone two
weeks at a time. My last work trip was in
(01:10):
July and I was having dinner with two other managers,
a male and a female. We got on the subject
of how hard marriage is, and the man said that
he cannot even remember how good it felt to be cuddled.
Something came over me and I blurted out that I'm
having the same problem. I told them I can't remember
how good it felt to be intimate and to cuddle. Afterwards,
(01:33):
he jokingly said that we should try cuddling together cuddling later.
Then he teased me, asking if he had to get
me drunk first. The female said it would be great
and it might help both of us out. She said
there's no harrm in it unless we have sex. I
told her there's a lot of harm in it because
we are both married. AnyWho, the man showed up at
(01:56):
my hotel room door at ten pm. I was surprised,
but I let him in. I was wearing a robe
and a tank top with panties underneath it. Underneath it,
he was wearing shorts and a wife beater. We cuddled
all night with our clothes on on top of the covers.
He felt so good up against me, and it has
(02:16):
me wanting more. Is it time for me to explore
my options with other men? Or should I try to
work things out with my husband first? Please help? Well,
I mean, two years later, you're thinking about working it
out with your husband. I mean, you know, if your
husband is on the same page, I'm going to always say,
try to work it out first. It's just too easy
(02:37):
to walk away in marriages these days. What about the
commitment you guys made to each other. Now, if it's over,
it's over. I mean it has been two years. I
get that if it's truly over. But in your case,
I think you and your husband have never ever even
tried to fix your issues. You guys just stopped, and
I mean you stopped everything, and you never discussed it.
(02:58):
You never had any communication about it. Nothing. I remember
this because you know, all you say is that he
couldn't get sleep because of his meds. That's all you
say was the problem his sleeping patterns was interrupting your
sleeping patterns. So now you're looking outside of your marriage
for fulfillment or cuddling as you say, So, I think
(03:20):
you and your husband should work it out. Try to.
You know, you owe that to the marriage. Plus you
haven't tried that. If you don't, it's a wrap your
marriage is Steve.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Subject of this letter is I can't remember how good
it felt. Okay, I don't believe a damn thing in
this letter. I really believe any of this. Now I've done,
I will read you the parts I believe, and then
I will share with you where the disbelief comes in it. Oh,
I'm married, but my husband and I haven't slept in
(03:52):
the same bed for two years. Okay, all right. I
believe that his mads didn't work, and he would try
to watch TV all night. I sleep lightly, so I
told him I need to be the room to be quiet.
He wasn't slept in the other room two years ago
and never came back right there. Last, think about this
(04:13):
for a minute. Sleep mads that don't work? The hell
was he taking? They got some stuff, man, that can
put your ass out to next Friday. They got some
stuff you can take that's damned near the same thing
(04:35):
as anesthesia. You got to be careful. They got something
that worked. So I find that hard to believe that
his sleep mads didn't work. So he decided to watch
TV all night. Who don't need no sleep? As hard
as I work, I got to have some sleep. And
(04:57):
then he went and slept in the room for two
years or never came back. What then after the first
year he moved all his clothes into that room with him.
Wait a minute, Wait a minute, so he moved out
y'all's room, moved all his clothes into the other room.
(05:17):
Ain't nobody know? Nothing was wrong with this right here?
Then after the first year, then he would come to
my bed a few times wanting sex. But then he
didn't want to cuddle afterwards, so I stopped being intimate
with him. Wait a minute, hold of dog. So you'll
just go over there to your wife to be intimate
(05:38):
and then after that no cuddling. Something else is wrong here.
This ain't just no sleep mads and no watching TV, y'all,
something else is wrong here. Now that's some information missing
from this letter. I'm sorry, okay, because a woman will
go over and put you an eyemask on, lay your
(05:59):
ass over there, go to sleep, but get up out
this bed one more time. See what happened? I just
know how it go now, she says, Luckily for me,
here we go. Luckily for me, I travel every two
months for my job, and I'm going two weeks at
a time. My last work trip was in July. I
was having dinner with two other managers, a man and
a woman. We got on subject how hard marriage is,
(06:22):
and the man says he can't even remember how good
it felt to be cuddle. Some came over me and
I blurted it out, I'm having the same problem. Now,
all this is true. I believe all this is true.
I told him I can't remember how good it failed
to be intimny to come down. He jokingly said we
should try cuddling together. He said this in front of
the other woman. Hang on, when I come back, I
tell you the rest of it.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter, subject,
I can't remember how good it felt. Right after this,
you're listening Steve Hard Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is I can't
remember how good it felt.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
This couple having some problem. The problem she stated in
this letter is simple. Now, I don't believe nothing in
this letter, especially towards the end, that he can't sleep,
so he started taking sleep mads. They don't work. She
sleep light, so he decided to watch TV. She told
him to go in the other room. He been gone
two years. After a year, he went back in the
(07:22):
room and moved all his clothes in the room, caught
some sleep mads. Didn't work. You mean to tell me
that in two years? You ain't went back to the
doctor and said, bruh, them pills you gave me, do
not put me to sleep. And he ain't got nothing else. Dog,
you can go to sleep if you want to. They
(07:43):
got something. They have something with your ass, cause you
be slobbling on yourself. You be cause so I don't
believe that anyway. Every now and then he come to
the room to have sex, but he wouldn't want to
cuddle afterwards, so she stopped having it with him, so
he went back to the room. Not two years now,
(08:04):
Hold up, he don't have ed. He don't have y'all
ain't been there, ain't no infidelity problems. You mean to
tell me? So he been in that room for two years,
not having sex with you, and he cool with that girl. Bye.
It's so much stuff missing in this letter right here.
(08:26):
Ain't no man for two years going in no room,
moved all his clothes over there, and ain't having sex
with you? He having sex somewhere. And now you say,
but luckily for me, I travel for my job. Yeah,
and your job when you going, you going two weeks
(08:46):
at a time, and your last trip was in July.
You was having dinner with these two managers, a man
and a woman, and the subject came up how hard
marriage is. And the man said he can't remember how
good it felt to be cuddled something over me, the
letter writer says, and I blurted out, I'm having the
same problem what I told him, I can't remember how
(09:07):
good to be intimate and couple. Afterwards, he jokingly said,
in front of everybody, we should try cuddling later. He
said that in front of this woman girl on a
business trip. Can I say inappropriate here? But he said
that in front of her, and then we should try
cuddling later. Then he teased me, asking if I had
(09:27):
to get drunk first, all this in front of the woman,
and then the other manager said it would be great
and help us both out.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
They're just really close.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
Steve comes swanging ass conversation. Boy, lady, I'm telling you
this is where your letter don't make no sense to me.
She said, there's no harm in it unless we have sex.
I told this, a lot of harm in it because
we both married. Any Who here we go anytime, anytime
(10:02):
a black person go any who he comes from bs
right here. But that ain't happen. Any Who. You must
have been all hell.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
Listen to this.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
The man showed up in my hotel room though at
ten pm. I was surprised, but I let him in. Girl,
You aren't that damn shocked. It's a peephole on most doors.
You're in ten pm, single woman, a woman, or don't
(10:34):
open her door? You let him in. I was wearing
a rope a tank top with some panis underneath. He
was wearing shorts and a wife beater. Oh that's it.
He didn't guess what the next line say. We cuddled
all night with our clothes on.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Girl on top of the bed.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
That's a lie, girl, stop on top of the covers.
He felt so good against me, and he asked me,
wanting more. Is it time for me to explore my
options with other men? Or should I try to work
things out with my husband. First, please help girl. What
(11:16):
you cannot do is right in to me. First of all,
you're talking to a person that ain't got no problem
lying recognized game. You are not telling the entire truth
in this letter. It don't make no sense. This man
(11:39):
came to your hotel room ten o'clock at night with
a wife beater on and some shorts he ain't want
to have on. Nothing that took long time take off.
You answered the door with stuff that didn't take a
long time cut. So let me ask you something. So
what made y'all decide to cut on top of the covers.
(12:01):
You left that conversation out how y'all eventually got on
the bed. You forgot that, Dicky. You left that out
because you left out all the heavy kissing and rubbing,
and you even left out the par where something might
have happened, and y'all put y'all clothes on it. He
decided to stay and cut it. You left a whole
(12:21):
lot of you ain't just laying on no bed, ain't
no dude, ain't trying nothing.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
So wait a minute, Steve, you're saying she didn't open
the door, and they didn't just go right to the
bed and cuddle, that's what you're saying. Hell no, yea
four play.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Somebody been up against a wall. She said, he felt
so good up against me. I know exactly how he felt.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Goodness. All right, he felt good too, Ladies listen. You
can comment on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram or Facebook
at Steve Harvey FM. Also check out the Strawberry Letter
podcast on a free iHeartRadio app. Coming up next to
his Junior and Sports, she.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
A' gotta be able to get this man out of mind,
explore the other options has already begun?
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Yeah, and they didn't. She she didn't even give her
marriage a chance. Junior is up next with Sports Talk
right after this. You're listening Hardy Morning Show
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