September 24, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I have been together for twenty four years and married for fifteen years. We dated and broke up a lot in the past because he's a cheater. He had sex with six women that I know of, and I'm sure there are plenty that I don't know about in the past fifteen years. He said he's been faithful and he stopped all of the messing around a year before we got married. My husband has embarrassed me to no end, and my family still has a problem with accepting him. I thought things were going good and I kind of let my guard down, but my family was right and I never should have married him. I could be wrong, but all the evidence points to him cheating again........................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
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Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you nephew. Subject how did that get in his shoe?
Dear Stephen Shirley, My husband and I have been together
for twenty four years and married for fifteen years. We
dated and broke up a lot in the past because
he's a cheater. He had sex with six women that
I know of, and I'm sure there are plenty that
I don't know about in the past fifteen years. He
(00:47):
said he's been faithful and he stopped all of the
messing around a year before we got married. My husband
has embarrassed me to no end, and my family still
has a problem with accepting him. I thought things were
going good and I kind of let my guard down,
but my family was right and I never should have
married him. I could be wrong, but all the evidence
(01:08):
points to him cheating again. He is a handyman and
a painter on the side, and I schedule his side
jobs for him. He has been helping an electrician put
lights on a lady's deck around the corner. He came
home last Friday with his clothes in a grocery bag
because he was too dusty to get back in his
(01:28):
car in those clothes. He came home in his gym
clothes and a pair of slides. I saw his work
boots out on the front porch and I went to
get them, because it's ghetto to have big, dirty boots
in front of our house. I heard something rattling in
one of the boots and I shook them and a
bald up condom wrapper fell out of the left boot.
(01:50):
The wrapper the wrapper was still sticky, so that tells
me that he'd used the condom within the last two hours.
I'm heartbroken because he failed me once again. He said
I'm wrong and he did not cheat. He keeps begging
to talk to me, but why so he can tell
me more lies? Is it time for me to go
(02:13):
or should I hear what he has to say, well,
besides catching him in the act, I mean literally catching
him in the act. I don't know how much more
proof you need. You found the Siki condom in his boots.
Why would someone huh, not anyone else's boots but his
your husband. And this is of course where Steve would say,
(02:36):
that's why you got to lie and all of that.
But your husband can't lie his way out of this one.
What is he going to say to you? You have
evidence he was cheating before you married him. You know
that you knew it then. So now that you have
something else tangible with this condom, do you think he'll
ever stop cheating? That's the question. Wif he, do you
think he's ever going to stop? And what are you
(02:58):
going to do about it? That's really all I have
to say.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
That's it.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Steve go.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
A condom wrapper?
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Yeah yeah, that was still Yeah, come on, gross?
Speaker 2 (03:13):
What help I try to help men, you know, because
you know, but he too old for this. You know,
if y'all been together twenty four years, married fifteen, I'm
assuming you got to be forty at least. I'm just
(03:35):
assuming that we dated and you say you broke up
a lot because he's a Cheatah, he had sex with
six women that I know of. I just don't know
how you accepted six times. You know, I'm I'm good
at helping me and get out of stuff. But you
(03:56):
you willing to accept you, lady, the problem in this
letter is you just accept too much. You accepted the
six women that you knew of, but you are sure
that there are plenty that I don't know about. Okay,
(04:19):
kind dog, lady. In the past fifteen years, he said
he'd been faithful and he stopped messing around. Okay, my
family still got a problem with accepting him. But I
thought things were going good and I kind of let
my guard down. All right, were going along, but my
(04:39):
family was right, then, she said. Right after I let
my guard down, she said, but my family was right.
I never should have married him. I could be wrong.
Wait a minute, hold up, lady, I'm confused with the
wording of your letter. I thought things were going good.
I kind of let my guard down, but my family
(05:01):
was right, and I never should have married him. Period.
Next sentence, I could be wrong, but all the evidence
points to him cheating. Again, Well, what evidence you got, lady. Now,
he's a handy man and a painter on the side,
(05:23):
I schedule his side and near my mind went blank,
because if you're dealing with a man that cheats a
lot six times, you'dnbusted him. You pretty sure as more.
You didn't get away, and you said.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
I scheduled his side jobs, Well else seemed to me
like you scheduled inside chicks.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Also, ooh ooh, because guess what you did? He been
helping the electrician put lights on the lady's deck around
the corner. Came home last Friday, closed in a grocery bag.
What now, I don't done some things in my day,
(06:09):
but I ain't never came home my damn closed in
a grocery bag because he was too dusty to get
back in his car. Okay, that's a good answer. Came
home in his gym, closed, and the pass slides.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Okay, what you gotta say about those slides, Well, you.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
Pretty much got to explained where you changed. You closed
that because you was just around the corner at this
lady's house. I saw his work, boots on the court,
and then all hell broke loose. Yeah, Steve, we found
any damn boots.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Well, get to your response coming up at twenty three
minutes after today's strawberry letter, subject how did he get
that in his shoe? We'll get back into it right
after this. You're listening Morning Show, All right, Come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is how did
he get that in his shoe?
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Quickly? She's been dating a man that she knows as
a cheatah for years before they got married. Six women
at least she'd have forgave him for she say she's
countless others she didn't. They've been married now for fifteen
years together twenty four. Family always had a problem accepting him,
but she let her guard down. But she wished she hadn't,
because she say her family was right. But then she
(07:23):
said I never should have married him. But then right
after that, she say, but I could be wrong, But
all the evidences pointing to him cheating again. He is
a handyman on the side. She scheduled all his side jobs.
But she scheduled a side job around the corner on
(07:46):
the side. It just so happens that the gig on
the side was over a lady's house. He was helping
out in an electrician wit on the side. You came
home or with no clothes on. They was in a
grocery bag. He said he didn't want to get in
(08:08):
his car because it was dusty. Good answer, But you
came home where you left your work boots out on
the poach because you didn't want to come in the house.
Here is where all the hell broke loose. I reached
and to have the dirty boots in front of our house.
I heard something rattling in the boots. I shook them
(08:32):
and a balled up condom wrapper fell out of the
left boot. The rapper was sticky, So that tells me
he had used the condom within the last two hours. Right,
here's where we have to get out of. What a
lie could you tell that this condom that's in your
(08:58):
boot you don't know how got there? How what lie
can you tell that that is not your condo?
Speaker 1 (09:09):
What?
Speaker 2 (09:11):
These are the lies he must conjure up? So wait
what I want to hear here?
Speaker 1 (09:17):
It is the.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Lie he should have come up with. It's gonna be
a doozy. Them ain't my boots, those other electricians boots
we got the same boot. He done accidentally took my boot.
(09:40):
I'm going over here right now and get my boot
back and I'm going with you now you ain't because
I had a boots tomorrow. That's the only thing. And
it's that's not even a good lie. No, So I'm
gonna just tell you truthfully. Dog, it looked like the
(10:05):
gig is up because here's what the woman says. I'm
heartbroken because he failed me once again. He said I'm
wrong and he did not cheat. He keeps begging to
talk to me, But why so he can tell me
more lies? Is it time for me to go? Or
(10:26):
should I hear what he has to say? Well, let's
go over this. I think you already know what he's
going to say, and if I were you, I would
listen to it and then please write me back because
I want to know what he said to prove to
you that he don't know nothing about that condom that
(10:47):
balled up in his boot. See, it's a little late
for him to claim what the one thing could have
them ain't my boots. That's a popular work boot. Matter
of fact, that's the number one selling work boot. Oh really,
and most people are that do handyman work. Got that boot,
(11:07):
And that ain't my boot, that's the electricians boot. Now
I'm gonna go back over there. Tomorrow I'll show you
and I have my boot. Now what he gonna do tomorrow,
I don't know, but it would have bought him twenty
four hours. Tomorrow isn't here yet.
Speaker 1 (11:20):
We're worried about tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Tomorrow. Yeah, I would go down there and buy myself
that morning a brand new pad in boots, and I'd
go and beat them up for about six hours and
then show you. Now hear my boots. I gave him
back his boot. These is my boots right here, and
then I would put my initial in marker up under
(11:45):
one of the tongues. Now, why you would have to
do that because you don't go to schools or they't
like you're gonna leave your boots nowhere and somebody else
were I think this was kind of hopeless. Brother. I've
helped a lot of men, but this one don't look good.
(12:06):
The freshness of the stickiness on the rapper. What's it's
two out sheet and done her homework?
Speaker 1 (12:13):
Yeah, and she she knows your boots too.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Yeah, you may have to throw yourself at the mercy
of the court. What confess.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
I can't believe you folded, Steve.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
I wouldn't.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Oh, she was still keep lying.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
You see, I would have had that that ain't my boot.
I'd have had that one that would have gave me
an option. But he didn't do that. He didn't claim
that that wasn't his boot. Right, he did he? Oh,
I ain't been cheating. Well, how do you explain the
condom in your damn boot? Yeah? All right?
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Barb
FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeart Radio app Free Never
Sounded So Good. You can download it today. Coming up
at forty six minutes after the hour, we'll have more
of the Steve Harvey Morning Show right after this. You're
listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationship, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you nephew. Subject how did that get in his shoe?
Dear Stephen Shirley, My husband and I have been together
for twenty four years and married for fifteen years. We
dated and broke up a lot in the past because
he's a cheater. He had sex with six women that
I know of, and I'm sure there are plenty that
I don't know about in the past fifteen years. He
(00:47):
said he's been faithful and he stopped all of the
messing around a year before we got married. My husband
has embarrassed me to no end, and my family still
has a problem with accepting him. I thought things were
going good and I kind of let my guard down,
but my family was right and I never should have
married him. I could be wrong, but all the evidence
(01:08):
points to him cheating again. He is a handyman and
a painter on the side, and I schedule his side
jobs for him. He has been helping an electrician put
lights on a lady's deck around the corner. He came
home last Friday with his clothes in a grocery bag
because he was too dusty to get back in his
(01:28):
car in those clothes. He came home in his gym
clothes and a pair of slides. I saw his work
boots out on the front porch and I went to
get them, because it's ghetto to have big, dirty boots
in front of our house. I heard something rattling in
one of the boots and I shook them and a
bald up condom wrapper fell out of the left boot.
(01:50):
The wrapper the wrapper was still sticky, so that tells
me that he'd used the condom within the last two hours.
I'm heartbroken because he failed me once again. He said
I'm wrong and he did not cheat. He keeps begging
to talk to me, but why so he can tell
me more lies? Is it time for me to go
(02:13):
or should I hear what he has to say, well,
besides catching him in the act, I mean literally catching
him in the act. I don't know how much more
proof you need. You found the Siki condom in his boots.
Why would someone huh, not anyone else's boots but his
your husband. And this is of course where Steve would say,
(02:36):
that's why you got to lie and all of that.
But your husband can't lie his way out of this one.
What is he going to say to you? You have
evidence he was cheating before you married him. You know
that you knew it then. So now that you have
something else tangible with this condom, do you think he'll
ever stop cheating? That's the question. Wif he, do you
think he's ever going to stop? And what are you
(02:58):
going to do about it? That's really all I have
to say.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
That's it.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Steve go.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
A condom wrapper?
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Yeah yeah, that was still Yeah, come on, gross?
Speaker 2 (03:13):
What help I try to help men, you know, because
you know, but he too old for this. You know,
if y'all been together twenty four years, married fifteen, I'm
assuming you got to be forty at least. I'm just
(03:35):
assuming that we dated and you say you broke up
a lot because he's a Cheatah, he had sex with
six women that I know of. I just don't know
how you accepted six times. You know, I'm I'm good
at helping me and get out of stuff. But you
(03:56):
you willing to accept you, lady, the problem in this
letter is you just accept too much. You accepted the
six women that you knew of, but you are sure
that there are plenty that I don't know about. Okay,
(04:19):
kind dog, lady. In the past fifteen years, he said
he'd been faithful and he stopped messing around. Okay, my
family still got a problem with accepting him. But I
thought things were going good and I kind of let
my guard down. All right, were going along, but my
(04:39):
family was right, then, she said. Right after I let
my guard down, she said, but my family was right.
I never should have married him. I could be wrong.
Wait a minute, hold up, lady, I'm confused with the
wording of your letter. I thought things were going good.
I kind of let my guard down, but my family
(05:01):
was right, and I never should have married him. Period.
Next sentence, I could be wrong, but all the evidence
points to him cheating. Again, Well, what evidence you got, lady. Now,
he's a handy man and a painter on the side,
(05:23):
I schedule his side and near my mind went blank,
because if you're dealing with a man that cheats a
lot six times, you'dnbusted him. You pretty sure as more.
You didn't get away, and you said.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
I scheduled his side jobs, Well else seemed to me
like you scheduled inside chicks.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Also, ooh ooh, because guess what you did? He been
helping the electrician put lights on the lady's deck around
the corner. Came home last Friday, closed in a grocery bag.
What now, I don't done some things in my day,
(06:09):
but I ain't never came home my damn closed in
a grocery bag because he was too dusty to get
back in his car. Okay, that's a good answer. Came
home in his gym, closed, and the pass slides.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Okay, what you gotta say about those slides, Well, you.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
Pretty much got to explained where you changed. You closed
that because you was just around the corner at this
lady's house. I saw his work, boots on the court,
and then all hell broke loose. Yeah, Steve, we found
any damn boots.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Well, get to your response coming up at twenty three
minutes after today's strawberry letter, subject how did he get
that in his shoe? We'll get back into it right
after this. You're listening Morning Show, All right, Come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is how did
he get that in his shoe?
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Quickly? She's been dating a man that she knows as
a cheatah for years before they got married. Six women
at least she'd have forgave him for she say she's
countless others she didn't. They've been married now for fifteen
years together twenty four. Family always had a problem accepting him,
but she let her guard down. But she wished she hadn't,
because she say her family was right. But then she
(07:23):
said I never should have married him. But then right
after that, she say, but I could be wrong, But
all the evidences pointing to him cheating again. He is
a handyman on the side. She scheduled all his side jobs.
But she scheduled a side job around the corner on
(07:46):
the side. It just so happens that the gig on
the side was over a lady's house. He was helping
out in an electrician wit on the side. You came
home or with no clothes on. They was in a
grocery bag. He said he didn't want to get in
(08:08):
his car because it was dusty. Good answer, But you
came home where you left your work boots out on
the poach because you didn't want to come in the house.
Here is where all the hell broke loose. I reached
and to have the dirty boots in front of our house.
I heard something rattling in the boots. I shook them
(08:32):
and a balled up condom wrapper fell out of the
left boot. The rapper was sticky, So that tells me
he had used the condom within the last two hours. Right,
here's where we have to get out of. What a
lie could you tell that this condom that's in your
(08:58):
boot you don't know how got there? How what lie
can you tell that that is not your condo?
Speaker 1 (09:09):
What?
Speaker 2 (09:11):
These are the lies he must conjure up? So wait
what I want to hear here?
Speaker 1 (09:17):
It is the.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Lie he should have come up with. It's gonna be
a doozy. Them ain't my boots, those other electricians boots
we got the same boot. He done accidentally took my boot.
(09:40):
I'm going over here right now and get my boot
back and I'm going with you now you ain't because
I had a boots tomorrow. That's the only thing. And
it's that's not even a good lie. No, So I'm
gonna just tell you truthfully. Dog, it looked like the
(10:05):
gig is up because here's what the woman says. I'm
heartbroken because he failed me once again. He said I'm
wrong and he did not cheat. He keeps begging to
talk to me, But why so he can tell me
more lies? Is it time for me to go? Or
(10:26):
should I hear what he has to say? Well, let's
go over this. I think you already know what he's
going to say, and if I were you, I would
listen to it and then please write me back because
I want to know what he said to prove to
you that he don't know nothing about that condom that
(10:47):
balled up in his boot. See, it's a little late
for him to claim what the one thing could have
them ain't my boots. That's a popular work boot. Matter
of fact, that's the number one selling work boot. Oh really,
and most people are that do handyman work. Got that boot,
(11:07):
And that ain't my boot, that's the electricians boot. Now
I'm gonna go back over there. Tomorrow I'll show you
and I have my boot. Now what he gonna do tomorrow,
I don't know, but it would have bought him twenty
four hours. Tomorrow isn't here yet.
Speaker 1 (11:20):
We're worried about tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Tomorrow. Yeah, I would go down there and buy myself
that morning a brand new pad in boots, and I'd
go and beat them up for about six hours and
then show you. Now hear my boots. I gave him
back his boot. These is my boots right here, and
then I would put my initial in marker up under
(11:45):
one of the tongues. Now, why you would have to
do that because you don't go to schools or they't
like you're gonna leave your boots nowhere and somebody else
were I think this was kind of hopeless. Brother. I've
helped a lot of men, but this one don't look good.
(12:06):
The freshness of the stickiness on the rapper. What's it's
two out sheet and done her homework?
Speaker 1 (12:13):
Yeah, and she she knows your boots too.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Yeah, you may have to throw yourself at the mercy
of the court. What confess.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
I can't believe you folded, Steve.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
I wouldn't.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Oh, she was still keep lying.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
You see, I would have had that that ain't my boot.
I'd have had that one that would have gave me
an option. But he didn't do that. He didn't claim
that that wasn't his boot. Right, he did he? Oh,
I ain't been cheating. Well, how do you explain the
condom in your damn boot? Yeah? All right?
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Barb
FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeart Radio app Free Never
Sounded So Good. You can download it today. Coming up
at forty six minutes after the hour, we'll have more
of the Steve Harvey Morning Show right after this. You're
listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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