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Thank you nephew. Subject what does she do that is
so amazing? Dear Stephen Shirley, My boyfriend is in love
with his brother's wife and he won't admit it. It
started as a joke, but now it's starting to get
under my skin. I met his brother. The same night
I met him. His brother had just started dating the
lady he married. That was four years ago. They are married,
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but my boyfriend and I are not. My boyfriend idolizes
his sister in law and compliments her when she's all
dressed up, which is all of the time. Her hair
is sure and fly and she has expensive purses and shoes.
She called me last week and asked me if we
could do a day of pampering together. We got Manni's
and petties and had lunch at an upscale hotel before
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we went to an expensive store downtown to shop. I
had only window shopped in this store before we went
straight to look at shoes. I don't have small feet,
so I never thought of wearing an expensive pair of shoes.
I ended up spending eight hundred dollars on some red
sole shoes. After shoes we went. After shoes, we went
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onto the makeup counter and I had to pay seventy
five dollars for a lady to put makeup and lashes
on me. My boyfriend's sister in law was cheering me
on all the way. Before we left, I bought a
super tight dress that was on sale, and it showed
off my big booty. I was exhausted, but I was
grateful and I felt beautiful. As I drove home, my
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boyfriend came over to check me out out and he
said it's the most beautiful he's ever seen me. At
that moment, my heart sank and I was so hurt.
Then he asked me if I ever cut my hair
short like his sister in law. I am crushed and
he can't understand why he said the day I spent
with his sister in law was for my own good.
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I feel like he's trying to turn me into something
I'm not. Am I wasting my time with him. Will
I ever be as amazing as she is? Okay, you
gotta stop this. I mean you got to stop this.
Stop comparing yourself to this woman. She's who she is
and you are who you are. You will never be her.
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Get that out your mind because you're you. Let that
be enough. Okay. If your man wants her, then that
means he doesn't want you. I'm all for you know,
doing things to make yourself more attractive, enhancing your beauty
and all that. That's part of the fun of being
a woman in the first place. But you should be
enhancing your own beauty and enhancing, not trying to look
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like someone else. You have to be confident, You have
to be comfortable in your own skin. You gotta love you,
love yourself. Don't worry about your man. Yeah, he compliments
her and all of that. He's you know, and all
of that, but it makes you feel some kind of way.
That's because you don't feel good about yourself. But he's
doing all this with his brother's wife, of all people.
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Stop making him make you feel insecure. You said you
felt beautiful as you drove home after your makeover. Don't
lose that. Remember that feeling and how good it felt
to you. As long as you love yourself and have confidence,
I'm sure there's a good man. There are all kinds
of men who will take the new you, But you
have to do the work on yourself. It's a process.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Okay, Steve, Well, here's the problem in the letter. The
problem to me in the letter isn't that she's comparing
herself to this other woman. The problem in this letter
is her boyfriend is comparing her to the other woman.
That's what seems to be the problem to me. What
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does she do that's so amazing? Well, according to your boyfriend,
everything you don't see. That's the problem in this letter.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Right here.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
You open the line with my boyfriend is in love
with his brother's wife and won't admit it.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Well, he ain't got admitted.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
We got proof all through the damn letter now, and
it's starting to get under your skin.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
And you met his brother.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
The same night you met him, his brother had just
started this lady, and they are married, and but you.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
And your boyfriend are not.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
And then you say, your boyfriend idolizes this woman, compliments
her when she gets dressed up, which is all the time. Okay,
her hair short and fly, she's expensive persons and shoes.
Then last week you all got together and went out
head of girl's day. Y'all, we got manicures, pet of kids,
went to the hotel, hell did some pampering.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Then y'all went downtown.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Now you said when you got downtown you only windows
shopped in this particular store before, and y'all went straight
in to look at.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Shoes here, would have let us start to turn in
a little bit.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
I don't have small feet, so I never thought of
wearing an expensive pair of shoes.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Here we go, let's pull up right here. Let's just
deal with this for me.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
If you don't have small feet, that means you have
big feet. So that's why you've never considered wearing an
expensive pair of shoes. I've had a lot of cheap
shoes on in my life. I'm not a woman, so
I've never had to wear heels. The bigger your foot,
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the more money you need to spend on his shoe.
They ain't gonna hold up them. Heels ain't gonna be
able to take this pressure. Because you got this big
foot jam down in there. You got to spend money.
Don't ever say, cause you got big feet, you ain't
want to buy an expensive pair of shoes, So you
ended up spending eight hundred on some red sol shoes.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
I understand that that is high.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
It is high four pair of shoes, because I used
to feel that way. First pair of shoes, A dude
gave me name Hobie by the Dallas Own Silhouette store.
Bought me a pair of seven hundred and fifty dollars alligator.
Maurice gave him to me as a birthday gift. I
told him, I said, bro, you're wasting your time. I
don't care how much money I make. I would never
ever spend seven hundred and fifty dollars on a pair
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of shoes. I told him that that was one of
the biggest lies I ever.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
Hang on, Steve, I have part two if you thank
you Jesus coming up at twenty three minutes after the
hour Today's strawberry letter subject what does she do that
is so amazing? We'll get back into it right after
this you're listening hard morning show. All right, Come on, Steve,
let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is why did
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what does she do that is so amazing?
Speaker 3 (07:02):
Well, the problem in this letter is this woman is
being compared by to this sister in law of her boyfriend,
his brother's wife.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
And she is trying to compare them to. So they
went out.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
They had a girl's day together, her and the sister
in law. She admits, the girl this fly, got short hair,
always dressed up real nice. They went shopping manicure, pair
of cure. They went to a store she only wanted
to shop in. She says, I have large feet, so
I've never thought about buying the expensive pair of shoes.
I said, the bigger your feet, the more money you
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need to spend on them, because you're putting a lot
of pressure on their ass all day long, so you
need to have some shoes that can hold up. I
did not know you was gonna go in here and
buy yourself a pair of eight hundred dollars red bottom shoes.
I will admit that's a lot of money for a shoe.
After shoes, we went to the makeup count and I
had to pay seventy five dollars for a lady to
put makeup and lashes on me.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
Okay, that's the price.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
Me personally, I think you got off a little bit
cheap because they that make up and lashes ain't nobody
putting their lashes on.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
For that kind of money. So I think you got
a good deal. But now you out.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
I don't know how much you out of you out
of eighty seventy five on paper, but that ain't including
how much the money and the petty costs. I'm just
talking about you about a thousand dollars a day. But
then before we left, you bought a super tight dress
that was on sale and it showed off my big booty.
Now here we go. We got two big things we're
operating with. We got big feet. We got a big booty.
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You gotta have big feet to hold up the big booty.
I catch all this cach just told you a minute ago.
You got lied of weight on the last feet. What
you can't have is big booty, big breast, big everything,
and then put some live bitty feet in there. You
know you gonna fall, you you you you gonna fall,
you go, You're gonna tip right over or you can't
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see little feet you go fall back on that big
booty or the big breasts gonna pull you down. You
gotta have feet, stretch out and create a balance. And
I think you're fine, your thick, fine, sister. I think
that's what you need to ride with. You got them curves,
working girls. Yep, you got everything. You got something somebody
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liked because he picked you. Now, the problem is your
boyfriend came over and you were grateful, and you felt
beautiful driving home. Right then your boyfriend came over to
check you out. He said, it's the most beautiful he's
ever seen me. Now, I don't think nothing wrong with that.
You know, you you just bought these expensive shoes. You
normally wear cheap shoes. Now you just said that. Now
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you got them Christian lubertans On and you've been wearing
Pickway shoes. You know, you might have been down there
trying to say money. You might even been a rock port.
I don't know where you're being buying your shoe. But
this man came over and complimented you. Instead of you
taking it like a compliment, he said, at just the
most beautiful he's ever seen you. At that moment, my
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heart sank, What you done paid this lady for this makeup?
You don't do your makeup like that. You got these
eyelashes on you obviously you needed them on there because
she put them on there at the damn stoke. So
now he don't recognized you. He said, that's the most
beautiful he's ever seen you. My heart sank, and I
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was so hurt. Why the man just paid you the
ultimate compliment? Then he asked me, now here way he
got stupid? Then he asked me, would I ever cutting
my hairshut like his sister Dash where his dumb ass?
See dog, that's where you got dumb and dudes, sometime
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we just dumb. I'm so sorry, ladies. I apologize because
this is dumb me. I am crushed and he can't
understand why, because he's stupid. He said, the day I
spent with my sister in law was for your own good.
I feel like he's trying to turn me into something
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I'm not.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
That's true.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
Am I wasting my time with him? Will I ever
be as amazing as she is?
Speaker 2 (11:11):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (11:12):
As soon as you cut your hair? Yeah? Yeah see?
Will I ever be amazing that she is? Yes, just
as soon as you cut your hair, because that's what
he wants. Now, I think what you're gonna have to
do is sit down and have a heart to heart. Listen,
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I am tired of you comparing me to her. I
like her, We get along just fine. I think she
is fly. I can't be that. I can't shop the
way she shops. I can't afford that. And then you know,
see now if women did that, you know, look at
what she be behind her, that she got her laid
out looking. Look what you get me because obviously he
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ain't making the money his brother make. Now you'll find sister.
Stop letting this man make you think you not because
he is enamored with somebody else. If you so enamored
with somebody else, then go get you. So go ahead
and free yourself. If you don't, won't me, don't talk
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to me, Oh godhead and free your say he you
know that's one of my favorites ons And that's what
you may have to do, because if he's stuck on her,
then go find her because what you got is me.
But that's what killed me bout some men. What you
get is her, what you want is her, What you
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got is her. See it don't make no damn sense.
If he had the ability to get better, he would
have better.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
But he don't remember that. Sisters.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
If a man can do better than you, he would
all right.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
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