October 8, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm dating a twenty nine year old mama's boy. We dated off and on for a few years, so I'm really cool with his mom. I decided to date him again even though I know his mom is a huge part of his daily life. His father died when he was a teenager, so he feels responsible for his mother. That's the part I love about him, but he needs to realize his mother is only forty seven and she can have a man if she wanted one. Here's the part I don't like. He is staying with her temporarily because someone tried to break in one night. They live in his grandmother's old house, and all of the furniture is from the eighties. The windows are nailed shut, so there's never fresh air circulating in there. The drapes are dusty, and so is everything else in there........................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:21):
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to guide it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you nephew. Subject he stinks because of his mama.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm dating a twenty nine year old
mama's boy. We dated off and on for a few years,
so I'm really cool with his mom. I decided to
date him again even though I know his mom is
a huge part of his daily life. His father died
(00:48):
when he was a teenager, so he feels responsible for
his mother. That's the part I love about him. But
he needs to realize his mother is only forty seven
and she can have a man if she wanted one.
Here's a I don't like. He is staying with her
temporarily because someone tried to break in one night. They
live in his grandmother's old house, and all of the
furniture is from the eighties. The windows are nailed shut,
(01:11):
so there's never fresh air circulating in there. The drapes
are dusty, and so is everything else in there. Just
walking in there makes me sneeze. The smell is awful too.
It's a mix of dust, old sour carpet, and whatever
his mama has fried for breakfast, lunch, or dinner. She's
(01:32):
unhealthy and her only exercise is going to work and
caring for her grown baby boy. She washes his clothes
and puts them in his old smelling closet. So when
I'm cuddled up with my boyfriend, he smells like that house.
It's on him and in his clothes. At this point,
I want him to move in with me, but he
(01:52):
says he has to show a male presence around the
house so his mom will be safe. His mother expects
me to come stay with them on the weekends. That
will never ever happen. I don't want to have an
asthma attack in that tiny, stink in house. I told
him he smells, and he said he doesn't mind it
because it reminds him of his childhood. Growing up with
(02:12):
his granddaddy and his grandmother. He certainly does smell like them.
How do I get him out of that house without
offending him more than I already have? Okay, are you
listening to this man at all? I mean, this is
not going to happen here. He does not want to
move with you. It's very obvious he likes it right
(02:32):
where he is, and you shouldn't worry about offending him.
You can't offend him. You've already told him he stinks.
He still wants to be in the stinky house with
his mom, and the worst one of all, he enjoys
the stink and smell because it reminds him of his
grandparents and his childhood. Who says that, Oh okay, that's it.
(02:54):
This will forever be a problem for you. This is
what he's used to and for you. He's not willing
to change that. When he was a kid, you could
have blamed the stink on his mom. But he's a
grown man now. He's a grown man, so you got
to stop blaming mama for the smell. What you didn't
say in this letter was why you guys broke up
in the first place. You conveniently left that part out.
(03:18):
I mean, was it because of the smell? If that
was it, you got another with and you would think
that would be enough to assure you that that is
who he is. He's fine with all of this. You
guys don't have the same values he stinks.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
You don't.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Obviously, he doesn't want what you want, and he doesn't
care for you enough to stop the smell and come
and live with you. It's time to move on. It
is time to move on from mister stinky man.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
It is Steve.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Did you just suck your teeth.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Two or three of them again? You know what I mean?
The letter? He stinks me his mama. Let's just go
right here skip all is here that he stink? Yeah?
What you're twenty nine and you stink? Damn? Who fault
it is you stink at twenty nine? Let's just start
(04:18):
right there. See this girl that wrote this letter, I
know why you broke up with him the first time
because of this, and I understand it. And you broke
up with him because he's a mama's boy. It's right
at the top of the letter. That's why they broke
up before I'm dating the twenty nine year old mama's boy. Well,
if you know that right up at the top, what's
(04:39):
the rest of the letter for? You've identified the problem,
you know what it is, and there is no fix
for this, and he's not gonna give you a fix
for this, and you can't fix it. We dated off
and on a few years ago. So I'm cool, really
cool with his mom. I decid that to dat him again.
(05:01):
Here we go, even though I know his mom is
a huge part of his daily life. You can't sign
up for that. Ladies. It's one thing to compete with
another woman. It's a whole nother thing when the other
woman is his mama. See, you can beat out another girl,
(05:24):
You can do that. Women do it all the time.
Make men have to choose. But when the choice is
between two women and one of the women is the mama,
the mama almost always wins because he is a mama's boy.
(05:46):
And you said that, and that's why they broke up
the first time. So now you're going back for more
of the same. She said his father died when he
was a teenager, so he feels responsible for his mother.
That's the part I love about him. Yeah, that's cool,
that's cool. The ain't nothing wrong with that, But he
needs to realize his mother is only forty seven. Forty seven?
(06:09):
He twenty nine? What so I did the man? So
she had him at eighteen? Okay, I got it, But
she forty seven, though she can have a man if
she won't it. Don't say that. Don't say that. Don't
say that, because this letter chance lotta live in the
(06:29):
United States. I know a lot of fine women ain't
got a man, so and won't one love too.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Hang on, we'll have part two of your response coming
up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter,
subject he stinks because of his mama. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening Hardy Morning Show.
All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is he stinks because of his mama.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Uh. The man is twenty seven, So this title negates itself.
He's twenty nine years old in this letter, and he's
a mama's boy. That's the first line in the letter.
So your subject, he stinks because of his mama. Uh Uh.
He's a mama's boy, true enough, but he's twenty nine.
He just stink, that's all. You can't blame this on
(07:24):
the mama. But anyway, you're dating this man. You went back,
you date him off and on for a while, y'all
broke up. He loves his mother. She's forty seven. You
think she said she can have a man if she
wanted one, But no, she's attached herself to his life.
He's staying with her temporarily because somebody tried to break
in one night. They live in at Grandmama's house is
(07:47):
old dusty, got mealdew carp it in and raggedy drapes,
and that's why the house smelled dusty, and so everything
else in there. Just walking in there makes me sneeze.
The smell is awful too. It's a mix of dust,
old sour carpet, whatever his mom has fried for breakfast.
She is unhealthy and her only exercise is going to
(08:09):
work and caring for her grown baby boy. Okay, so
she ain't in shape. That's why she ain't got no man.
So you can go talking about she can just have
a man, because she can't. She washes his clothes and
puts him in his old smelling closet, and when I'm
cuddled up with him, he smells like that house. It's
on him, is in his clothes at this point, I
(08:31):
want him to move in with me, but he says
he has to show a male presence around the house
so his mom would be safe. Okay, so much for
you wanting him to move in, But let me tell
you some lady, even if you convince him to move in,
he's still gonna be over there at his mama's house.
You can't compete. It's hard enough you got to compete
with another woman, but here's the one you can't win.
(08:53):
When you're competing against his mama. That's a hard win
to win. So now his mother expects me to come
stay with them on the weekends, and that will never
ever happen. I don't want to have an asthma attack
in that tiny, stinking house. I told him he smells,
and he say he don't mind it because it reminds
(09:15):
him of his childhood. What well, I used to peel
on myself when I was a little boy. Okay, thank you,
but I don't want to do that no more. What yeah,
peeing on myself remind him here of my childhood. But dammit,
we had to stop this after a while, and the
hold up partner, You can't beat twenty nine and still
doing stuff you did as a child and expect a
(09:37):
grown woman to hunderstand it. It don't play like that.
I used to hate taking a bath. I would bring
dirt in my pockets and my jeans and sprinkling around
the edge of the tub to try to deceive my
mama that I had took in a bath. How many
times I got beat for putting that dirt in that tub,
I just didn't understand how she could tell. I got
(09:58):
at least three whippings for that, because I said each
time I got a whooman, I said, well, next time,
I do it better. But I just didn't want to
take a bath because I was a boy and I stink.
I didn't stink causing my mama. I stink causing me.
And that's why your your man stink. Now he smelled
like that old house. Now what is the smells in
the old house? Number one? Mouthballs. He smelled like mouthballs.
(10:21):
I don't know why old people love mouthballs, but they do.
They keep stuff in there, and then they they smell
like the hospital. Old people smell like the hospital. Then
sometimes the old people smell like a medical store. You've
been in medical store. It's just kind of everybody kind
of feel. You know, you ever go in there and
had to buy something for somebody, like backbrace or something
(10:42):
or walker, you go in the medical store, it's smelled
like it got that party sitting over there that's on wheels.
You be wondering how they use it. I stood there
for a half hour trying to figure out when they
when they where they flush this thing at. That's when
I discovered you don't flush. It's that's interesting.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
Mm hmmm.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
He smells like old people saw meal gravy, and he
don't smell like the fresh stuff. He smelled like he like.
He don't smell like biscuits or nothing. He smelled like
like after the he smell like the batter if he's
been sitting out. Yeah, he don't smell like the biscuits.
He smelled like fried green tomatoes. He don't smell like bacon.
(11:25):
He smelled like that can of bacon grease that building
old people stole. That's how he spell that. He done
told you he don't remind He don't mind it because
it reminds him of his childhood. What he certainly does
smell like him too. How do I get him out
of that house without offending him more than I already have. Lady,
(11:47):
have you listened to this letter? He's not going nowhere.
He is not going anywhere. He's not Surely said that.
Surely got that part of the letter a spot on correct.
She told you he not going nowhere. Listen, and nothing
in the letters say he leave it. You said at
(12:09):
the top, heill Mama's boy. You want him to move
in you, but he gonna bring that smell. I don't
even know why we're doing this. I'm not dating nobody
that I got to write in Tell somebody else he sank.
I'm not dating no girl. That's stink. You can't stank
and be a girl. You can't stank and be a
man and a woman. Sign no fit. You can't stink.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
No, that's it. That's the bottom line.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
You can't sink. That's it.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Post your comments son Today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and on Facebook, and check out the
Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app Free Never
Sounded So Good. You can download it today coming up
at forty six minutes after the hour. It is junior
and sports talk right after this letter, you're listening Harvey
(12:59):
Morning Show,
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on time
to guide it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you nephew. Subject he stinks because of his mama.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm dating a twenty nine year old
mama's boy. We dated off and on for a few years,
so I'm really cool with his mom. I decided to
date him again even though I know his mom is
a huge part of his daily life. His father died
(00:48):
when he was a teenager, so he feels responsible for
his mother. That's the part I love about him. But
he needs to realize his mother is only forty seven
and she can have a man if she wanted one.
Here's a I don't like. He is staying with her
temporarily because someone tried to break in one night. They
live in his grandmother's old house, and all of the
furniture is from the eighties. The windows are nailed shut,
(01:11):
so there's never fresh air circulating in there. The drapes
are dusty, and so is everything else in there. Just
walking in there makes me sneeze. The smell is awful too.
It's a mix of dust, old sour carpet, and whatever
his mama has fried for breakfast, lunch, or dinner. She's
(01:32):
unhealthy and her only exercise is going to work and
caring for her grown baby boy. She washes his clothes
and puts them in his old smelling closet. So when
I'm cuddled up with my boyfriend, he smells like that house.
It's on him and in his clothes. At this point,
I want him to move in with me, but he
(01:52):
says he has to show a male presence around the
house so his mom will be safe. His mother expects
me to come stay with them on the weekends. That
will never ever happen. I don't want to have an
asthma attack in that tiny, stink in house. I told
him he smells, and he said he doesn't mind it
because it reminds him of his childhood. Growing up with
(02:12):
his granddaddy and his grandmother. He certainly does smell like them.
How do I get him out of that house without
offending him more than I already have? Okay, are you
listening to this man at all? I mean, this is
not going to happen here. He does not want to
move with you. It's very obvious he likes it right
(02:32):
where he is, and you shouldn't worry about offending him.
You can't offend him. You've already told him he stinks.
He still wants to be in the stinky house with
his mom, and the worst one of all, he enjoys
the stink and smell because it reminds him of his
grandparents and his childhood. Who says that, Oh okay, that's it.
(02:54):
This will forever be a problem for you. This is
what he's used to and for you. He's not willing
to change that. When he was a kid, you could
have blamed the stink on his mom. But he's a
grown man now. He's a grown man, so you got
to stop blaming mama for the smell. What you didn't
say in this letter was why you guys broke up
in the first place. You conveniently left that part out.
(03:18):
I mean, was it because of the smell? If that
was it, you got another with and you would think
that would be enough to assure you that that is
who he is. He's fine with all of this. You
guys don't have the same values he stinks.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
You don't.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Obviously, he doesn't want what you want, and he doesn't
care for you enough to stop the smell and come
and live with you. It's time to move on. It
is time to move on from mister stinky man.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
It is Steve.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Did you just suck your teeth.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Two or three of them again? You know what I mean?
The letter? He stinks me his mama. Let's just go
right here skip all is here that he stink? Yeah?
What you're twenty nine and you stink? Damn? Who fault
it is you stink at twenty nine? Let's just start
(04:18):
right there. See this girl that wrote this letter, I
know why you broke up with him the first time
because of this, and I understand it. And you broke
up with him because he's a mama's boy. It's right
at the top of the letter. That's why they broke
up before I'm dating the twenty nine year old mama's boy. Well,
if you know that right up at the top, what's
(04:39):
the rest of the letter for? You've identified the problem,
you know what it is, and there is no fix
for this, and he's not gonna give you a fix
for this, and you can't fix it. We dated off
and on a few years ago. So I'm cool, really
cool with his mom. I decid that to dat him again.
(05:01):
Here we go, even though I know his mom is
a huge part of his daily life. You can't sign
up for that. Ladies. It's one thing to compete with
another woman. It's a whole nother thing when the other
woman is his mama. See, you can beat out another girl,
(05:24):
You can do that. Women do it all the time.
Make men have to choose. But when the choice is
between two women and one of the women is the mama,
the mama almost always wins because he is a mama's boy.
(05:46):
And you said that, and that's why they broke up
the first time. So now you're going back for more
of the same. She said his father died when he
was a teenager, so he feels responsible for his mother.
That's the part I love about him. Yeah, that's cool,
that's cool. The ain't nothing wrong with that, But he
needs to realize his mother is only forty seven. Forty seven?
(06:09):
He twenty nine? What so I did the man? So
she had him at eighteen? Okay, I got it, But
she forty seven, though she can have a man if
she won't it. Don't say that. Don't say that. Don't
say that, because this letter chance lotta live in the
(06:29):
United States. I know a lot of fine women ain't
got a man, so and won't one love too.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Hang on, we'll have part two of your response coming
up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter,
subject he stinks because of his mama. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening Hardy Morning Show.
All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is he stinks because of his mama.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Uh. The man is twenty seven, So this title negates itself.
He's twenty nine years old in this letter, and he's
a mama's boy. That's the first line in the letter.
So your subject, he stinks because of his mama. Uh Uh.
He's a mama's boy, true enough, but he's twenty nine.
He just stink, that's all. You can't blame this on
(07:24):
the mama. But anyway, you're dating this man. You went back,
you date him off and on for a while, y'all
broke up. He loves his mother. She's forty seven. You
think she said she can have a man if she
wanted one, But no, she's attached herself to his life.
He's staying with her temporarily because somebody tried to break
in one night. They live in at Grandmama's house is
(07:47):
old dusty, got mealdew carp it in and raggedy drapes,
and that's why the house smelled dusty, and so everything
else in there. Just walking in there makes me sneeze.
The smell is awful too. It's a mix of dust,
old sour carpet, whatever his mom has fried for breakfast.
She is unhealthy and her only exercise is going to
(08:09):
work and caring for her grown baby boy. Okay, so
she ain't in shape. That's why she ain't got no man.
So you can go talking about she can just have
a man, because she can't. She washes his clothes and
puts him in his old smelling closet, and when I'm
cuddled up with him, he smells like that house. It's
on him, is in his clothes at this point, I
(08:31):
want him to move in with me, but he says
he has to show a male presence around the house
so his mom would be safe. Okay, so much for
you wanting him to move in, But let me tell
you some lady, even if you convince him to move in,
he's still gonna be over there at his mama's house.
You can't compete. It's hard enough you got to compete
with another woman, but here's the one you can't win.
(08:53):
When you're competing against his mama. That's a hard win
to win. So now his mother expects me to come
stay with them on the weekends, and that will never
ever happen. I don't want to have an asthma attack
in that tiny, stinking house. I told him he smells,
and he say he don't mind it because it reminds
(09:15):
him of his childhood. What well, I used to peel
on myself when I was a little boy. Okay, thank you,
but I don't want to do that no more. What yeah,
peeing on myself remind him here of my childhood. But dammit,
we had to stop this after a while, and the
hold up partner, You can't beat twenty nine and still
doing stuff you did as a child and expect a
(09:37):
grown woman to hunderstand it. It don't play like that.
I used to hate taking a bath. I would bring
dirt in my pockets and my jeans and sprinkling around
the edge of the tub to try to deceive my
mama that I had took in a bath. How many
times I got beat for putting that dirt in that tub,
I just didn't understand how she could tell. I got
(09:58):
at least three whippings for that, because I said each
time I got a whooman, I said, well, next time,
I do it better. But I just didn't want to
take a bath because I was a boy and I stink.
I didn't stink causing my mama. I stink causing me.
And that's why your your man stink. Now he smelled
like that old house. Now what is the smells in
the old house? Number one? Mouthballs. He smelled like mouthballs.
(10:21):
I don't know why old people love mouthballs, but they do.
They keep stuff in there, and then they they smell
like the hospital. Old people smell like the hospital. Then
sometimes the old people smell like a medical store. You've
been in medical store. It's just kind of everybody kind
of feel. You know, you ever go in there and
had to buy something for somebody, like backbrace or something
(10:42):
or walker, you go in the medical store, it's smelled
like it got that party sitting over there that's on wheels.
You be wondering how they use it. I stood there
for a half hour trying to figure out when they
when they where they flush this thing at. That's when
I discovered you don't flush. It's that's interesting.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
Mm hmmm.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
He smells like old people saw meal gravy, and he
don't smell like the fresh stuff. He smelled like he like.
He don't smell like biscuits or nothing. He smelled like
like after the he smell like the batter if he's
been sitting out. Yeah, he don't smell like the biscuits.
He smelled like fried green tomatoes. He don't smell like bacon.
(11:25):
He smelled like that can of bacon grease that building
old people stole. That's how he spell that. He done
told you he don't remind He don't mind it because
it reminds him of his childhood. What he certainly does
smell like him too. How do I get him out
of that house without offending him more than I already have. Lady,
(11:47):
have you listened to this letter? He's not going nowhere.
He is not going anywhere. He's not Surely said that.
Surely got that part of the letter a spot on correct.
She told you he not going nowhere. Listen, and nothing
in the letters say he leave it. You said at
(12:09):
the top, heill Mama's boy. You want him to move
in you, but he gonna bring that smell. I don't
even know why we're doing this. I'm not dating nobody
that I got to write in Tell somebody else he sank.
I'm not dating no girl. That's stink. You can't stank
and be a girl. You can't stank and be a
man and a woman. Sign no fit. You can't stink.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
No, that's it. That's the bottom line.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
You can't sink. That's it.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Post your comments son Today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and on Facebook, and check out the
Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app Free Never
Sounded So Good. You can download it today coming up
at forty six minutes after the hour. It is junior
and sports talk right after this letter, you're listening Harvey
(12:59):
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