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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HAARBFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Here, right now. Look, I love and hold on tight.
We got it. Fool you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you, nephew. Subject to my fiance. Okay, my fiance
and his girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Did you write this?
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm engaged to a man that used
to date one of my friends. Their history runs deep
and he's still tied to her in a lot of ways.
They have property together and they have a son together.
He always told me that he couldn't see himself marrying her,
and he wanted to be with me. I would always
(00:55):
tell him that he's crossing the line by talking about
her to me because I have been her friend for
twenty years. But he and I started dating while he
was still with her. She would complain about him not
having sex with her anymore, and she said he was
very distant. She said he was only with her for
their son, and I would tell her that she should
(01:17):
let him go because it's clear. It's clear he doesn't
want her. She would say that it's not that simple.
He says the same thing. He said he's not having
sex with her or doing anything with her to make
her think that he still loves her, but he's staying
at the house for his son. He and I dated
for a year before he asked me to marry him.
(01:39):
I have met his entire family and they love me.
He spends the night at my house often, and we
are making plans to start over in a new city
after we get married. He is still waiting for the
right time to tell his girlfriend that he's with me.
I told him that we should tell her as a couple,
and we should do it after the holidays. I feel like,
(02:03):
isn't that nice? I feel like she will end up
hating me, but she can't because I didn't take her man.
He pursued me. My pastor told me that there are
no rules when two soul mates meet. My family thinks
I'm a bad person for being with him, and they
said our relationship won't last. Why wouldn't it last? Do
(02:25):
you think i'd be making a big mistake if I
stay with this man. Well, you're really clueless, huh. Don't
you know that you've crossed the line. You've been her
so called friend for twenty years. You have no idea
what it means to be a real friend. You think
because he pursued you and you didn't chase him, that
(02:48):
makes it all right for you guys to be together. No,
it doesn't. You may not have hijacked her man or
taken him from her, as you say, but when he
came after you, you did not say no. You did
not say that's my friend. You welcomed him with open arms,
you didn't turn him down. And then now you're engaged.
(03:11):
A friend wouldn't do that, and you still haven't told her,
and you think it's okay to tell her as a couple.
This is so foul and just so wrong. You take
no accountability for what has happened. You have betrayed your friend.
He's playing you. It's called having his cake and eating
it too. And please know that there will never be
a right time to tell this girl this.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Never.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
She's not gonna take this well, and she probably will
whoop your behind. Okay, I hope that answers your question
about this being a big mistake. If you stay with
this man again, she's gonna whoop your behind, And yes
it will be a big mistake.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Steve, Well, this is my favorite thing today so far.
You know, well, good tyd of dealing with the election,
min wod deal with some bs. Ain't nothing like some
good old bs for you. Here's a fiance say he
is a Well, the subject is my fiance and his girlfriend. Now,
(04:09):
this lady is engaged to a man that used to
date one of her friends, and they got history, They
have property together, and they have a son together. You
pretty much can't get no more connected than that. Y'all
got place to stay together, and y'all got a baby together?
(04:29):
Or damn it, what else is bigger than that? What
you got the two things that's gonna hold you there,
somewhere to stay and a baby. He always told me
he couldn't see himself marrying her, and he wanted to
be with me. And I would always tell him he's
crossing the line by talking to me about her, talking
(04:50):
about her to me because I have been her friend
for twenty years. No, you ain't what is you talking about?
You've been her friend for twenty years. Where you get
that from? If you was her friend, we don't have
no more letter. The letter it would have ended with,
(05:11):
I told him not to say nothing to me because
you crossing the line. Because I've been her friend for
twenty years. The letter would have been over if you
were her friend. But hen and I started dating while
he was still with her. What Wait a minute, Hold lady,
wait a minute. I'll help me, help me. I'll come
(05:32):
from the struggling. But you know I was trying to
wait a minute.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
You told him he.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
Was crossing the line by talking about her to you,
because y'all have been friends for twenty years. Next line,
But he and I started dating while he was still
with her. Man, you a good ass friend, man, lady,
(05:59):
You man, man, that's what That's what friends are for.
Who keep shying, keep smiling? Now when you can always
count on me? Yeah, you can count on me. So
every time he come over here to talk about you
(06:20):
to me, I make him some coffee, sit him down
and cuddle with him and just listen as a good
friend should. Now you know we just started dating now
because one time we was cutting and he cut me.
He did, all right?
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Hang on see, we'll have part two.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Once he cut me, I was just we'll.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Have part two of your response, showing up twenty three
minutes after today's Strawberry letter subject my fiance and his girlfriend.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
Morning show, All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's
Strawberry letter because it put a smile on your face.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Go yeah, because you know I need some bs right
now because you know the electioning God on my damn nerves.
You know, this story is my fiance and his girlfriend.
His ladies engaged to a man that used to they
one of her friends, and they got history because they
have She say, they got history in a lot of
ways because they got property together, and they got a
(07:21):
son together with Damn, that's pretty much. You can't get
a property somewhere to stay and you got a baby together. Heah, y'all,
y'all tied together. That pretty much. That's what a family is,
people that have kids together and stay together in the
same house. Anyway, he told me he couldn't see himself
marrying her, and he wanted to be with me. I
would always tell him, you crossing the line by talking
(07:44):
to her about me because I been her friend for
twenty years. Yeah, that's that should have ended the letter,
But the next line says, but he and I started
dating while he was still with her. Now here go
the good, good one right here. She would complain about
him not having sex with her anymore, and she said
he was very distant, ah, because he was over there
(08:06):
packing it up with the friends. See that's what that was.
You ain't understand that. Yeah, he distant, hard deck like
he loved you. When y'all sitting around together watching TV
all y'all and he he just over there, just over there,
just getting actually free. You couldn't hurt it, you know,
they just they just ripping it. I would tell her
(08:27):
you should let him go because it's clear that he
don't want you. Ain't that what you know? Ladies, if
you had a friend like that who was sleeping with
your man and causing y'all to be distanced and not
have sex no more, And then she would actually come
to you and go, y'all to just let him go
because it's clear that he don't want to be with you.
(08:48):
She would say that, and she would say, it's just
not that simple, And you was thinking, well, hell, how
much more simple can it be? I know you need
to leave with and I know why he distant because
he's sleeping with me. He says the same thing. He
says he's not having sex with her or doing anything
with her to make her think he still loves her,
but he's staying at the house for his son, who
(09:11):
ain't at the line? How many times have you heard
that line? I am staying at the house for the kids.
He and I dated for a year before he asked
me to marry him. I met his entire family and
they love me. He spends the night in my house often,
and we mak him plans to start over in the
new city. Well that's good. You know you got to
(09:31):
get out that city. You already know why you got
to get out that city, because she know where you stay.
He stay, You ain't gonna get a night's sleep after
we get married. He is still waiting for the right
time to tell his girlfriend that he's with me. Wait
a minute, he done proposed to you, and he ain't
(09:53):
told the other girl. He waiting on the right time. Well,
are you stupid?
Speaker 1 (10:02):
The right time?
Speaker 2 (10:03):
It ain't none right, it ain't none. See he did
he did let me tell you something. He didn't fed
you a whole, a whole heap of mess because he
ain't left this girl. And if he telling you he
trying to find the right time to tell her is
because he's actually considering her feelings more than yours. He's
(10:28):
still waiting for the right time tell his girlfriend he's
with me. I told him we should tell her as
a couple, and we should do it after the holidays.
That's the funniest line in that of me. Let's not
mess up Christmas. Now, wait a minute, so January, after
New Year's we're gonna go in there and tell her
as a couple as she gonna stab both of y'all. Oh,
(10:54):
I'm gonna tell you right now. You I don't know
how you think it's gonna go. I feel like will
end up hating me because she can't she I'm this
is this was disturbing. I feel like she will end
up hating me, but she can't because I didn't take her.
Man what he pursued me. Really, you think I've never
(11:22):
heard a woman use that one before? So when you
do all this, can you film this and send this
in as a part too to this draw my pastor
told me that there are no rules when two soul
makes me. You need to change churches. You need to
change churches. Your pastor told you there are no rules
(11:47):
when two soul makes me. Have you ever heard that before?
Surely have you ever heard that? Have you ever heard that?
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Like war?
Speaker 2 (11:58):
All is fair and love and war? Our pastor told
me there are no rules when two soul mats meet.
You ever heard that?
Speaker 1 (12:04):
No?
Speaker 2 (12:05):
No rules? No? Yeah, junior, you ever heard that. I've
said it to keep by soulmates.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
See, the reason that don't fly is because see it
has sin in it. And what I've learned from Bishop Kenneth, Oh,
a good friend of mine, was God's voice has no
sin in it. Your pastor told you there are no rules,
which means you can do anything you want to do.
(12:41):
Now what that'sad in the Bible. You need to change churches.
People say your relationship won't last. Do you think I'm
making a big mistake if I stay with this man?
If you have a question, why you think you have
a question. You don't even have a man yet. He's
still with that lady in that ball over there, in
that house. He ain't told nobody nothing yet.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
She knows this is wrong.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
All right, you got change churches.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
We'll leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram
and Facebook at Steve Harvey FM and check us out
on the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app.
Coming up next, we're all eagerly awaiting the election results,
and we'll be back with more updates right after this.
You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HAARBFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Here, right now. Look, I love and hold on tight.
We got it. Fool you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you, nephew. Subject to my fiance. Okay, my fiance
and his girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Did you write this?
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm engaged to a man that used
to date one of my friends. Their history runs deep
and he's still tied to her in a lot of ways.
They have property together and they have a son together.
He always told me that he couldn't see himself marrying her,
and he wanted to be with me. I would always
(00:55):
tell him that he's crossing the line by talking about
her to me because I have been her friend for
twenty years. But he and I started dating while he
was still with her. She would complain about him not
having sex with her anymore, and she said he was
very distant. She said he was only with her for
their son, and I would tell her that she should
(01:17):
let him go because it's clear. It's clear he doesn't
want her. She would say that it's not that simple.
He says the same thing. He said he's not having
sex with her or doing anything with her to make
her think that he still loves her, but he's staying
at the house for his son. He and I dated
for a year before he asked me to marry him.
(01:39):
I have met his entire family and they love me.
He spends the night at my house often, and we
are making plans to start over in a new city
after we get married. He is still waiting for the
right time to tell his girlfriend that he's with me.
I told him that we should tell her as a couple,
and we should do it after the holidays. I feel like,
(02:03):
isn't that nice? I feel like she will end up
hating me, but she can't because I didn't take her man.
He pursued me. My pastor told me that there are
no rules when two soul mates meet. My family thinks
I'm a bad person for being with him, and they
said our relationship won't last. Why wouldn't it last? Do
(02:25):
you think i'd be making a big mistake if I
stay with this man. Well, you're really clueless, huh. Don't
you know that you've crossed the line. You've been her
so called friend for twenty years. You have no idea
what it means to be a real friend. You think
because he pursued you and you didn't chase him, that
(02:48):
makes it all right for you guys to be together. No,
it doesn't. You may not have hijacked her man or
taken him from her, as you say, but when he
came after you, you did not say no. You did
not say that's my friend. You welcomed him with open arms,
you didn't turn him down. And then now you're engaged.
(03:11):
A friend wouldn't do that, and you still haven't told her,
and you think it's okay to tell her as a couple.
This is so foul and just so wrong. You take
no accountability for what has happened. You have betrayed your friend.
He's playing you. It's called having his cake and eating
it too. And please know that there will never be
a right time to tell this girl this.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Never.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
She's not gonna take this well, and she probably will
whoop your behind. Okay, I hope that answers your question
about this being a big mistake. If you stay with
this man again, she's gonna whoop your behind, And yes
it will be a big mistake.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Steve, Well, this is my favorite thing today so far.
You know, well, good tyd of dealing with the election,
min wod deal with some bs. Ain't nothing like some
good old bs for you. Here's a fiance say he
is a Well, the subject is my fiance and his girlfriend. Now,
(04:09):
this lady is engaged to a man that used to
date one of her friends, and they got history, They
have property together, and they have a son together. You
pretty much can't get no more connected than that. Y'all
got place to stay together, and y'all got a baby together?
(04:29):
Or damn it, what else is bigger than that? What
you got the two things that's gonna hold you there,
somewhere to stay and a baby. He always told me
he couldn't see himself marrying her, and he wanted to
be with me. And I would always tell him he's
crossing the line by talking to me about her, talking
(04:50):
about her to me because I have been her friend
for twenty years. No, you ain't what is you talking about?
You've been her friend for twenty years. Where you get
that from? If you was her friend, we don't have
no more letter. The letter it would have ended with,
(05:11):
I told him not to say nothing to me because
you crossing the line. Because I've been her friend for
twenty years. The letter would have been over if you
were her friend. But hen and I started dating while
he was still with her. What Wait a minute, Hold lady,
wait a minute. I'll help me, help me. I'll come
(05:32):
from the struggling. But you know I was trying to
wait a minute.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
You told him he.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
Was crossing the line by talking about her to you,
because y'all have been friends for twenty years. Next line,
But he and I started dating while he was still
with her. Man, you a good ass friend, man, lady,
(05:59):
You man, man, that's what That's what friends are for.
Who keep shying, keep smiling? Now when you can always
count on me? Yeah, you can count on me. So
every time he come over here to talk about you
(06:20):
to me, I make him some coffee, sit him down
and cuddle with him and just listen as a good
friend should. Now you know we just started dating now
because one time we was cutting and he cut me.
He did, all right?
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Hang on see, we'll have part two.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Once he cut me, I was just we'll.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Have part two of your response, showing up twenty three
minutes after today's Strawberry letter subject my fiance and his girlfriend.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
Morning show, All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's
Strawberry letter because it put a smile on your face.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Go yeah, because you know I need some bs right
now because you know the electioning God on my damn nerves.
You know, this story is my fiance and his girlfriend.
His ladies engaged to a man that used to they
one of her friends, and they got history because they
have She say, they got history in a lot of
ways because they got property together, and they got a
(07:21):
son together with Damn, that's pretty much. You can't get
a property somewhere to stay and you got a baby together. Heah, y'all,
y'all tied together. That pretty much. That's what a family is,
people that have kids together and stay together in the
same house. Anyway, he told me he couldn't see himself
marrying her, and he wanted to be with me. I
would always tell him, you crossing the line by talking
(07:44):
to her about me because I been her friend for
twenty years. Yeah, that's that should have ended the letter,
But the next line says, but he and I started
dating while he was still with her. Now here go
the good, good one right here. She would complain about
him not having sex with her anymore, and she said
he was very distant, ah, because he was over there
(08:06):
packing it up with the friends. See that's what that was.
You ain't understand that. Yeah, he distant, hard deck like
he loved you. When y'all sitting around together watching TV
all y'all and he he just over there, just over there,
just getting actually free. You couldn't hurt it, you know,
they just they just ripping it. I would tell her
(08:27):
you should let him go because it's clear that he
don't want you. Ain't that what you know? Ladies, if
you had a friend like that who was sleeping with
your man and causing y'all to be distanced and not
have sex no more, And then she would actually come
to you and go, y'all to just let him go
because it's clear that he don't want to be with you.
(08:48):
She would say that, and she would say, it's just
not that simple, And you was thinking, well, hell, how
much more simple can it be? I know you need
to leave with and I know why he distant because
he's sleeping with me. He says the same thing. He
says he's not having sex with her or doing anything
with her to make her think he still loves her,
but he's staying at the house for his son, who
(09:11):
ain't at the line? How many times have you heard
that line? I am staying at the house for the kids.
He and I dated for a year before he asked
me to marry him. I met his entire family and
they love me. He spends the night in my house often,
and we mak him plans to start over in the
new city. Well that's good. You know you got to
(09:31):
get out that city. You already know why you got
to get out that city, because she know where you stay.
He stay, You ain't gonna get a night's sleep after
we get married. He is still waiting for the right
time to tell his girlfriend that he's with me. Wait
a minute, he done proposed to you, and he ain't
(09:53):
told the other girl. He waiting on the right time. Well,
are you stupid?
Speaker 1 (10:02):
The right time?
Speaker 2 (10:03):
It ain't none right, it ain't none. See he did
he did let me tell you something. He didn't fed
you a whole, a whole heap of mess because he
ain't left this girl. And if he telling you he
trying to find the right time to tell her is
because he's actually considering her feelings more than yours. He's
(10:28):
still waiting for the right time tell his girlfriend he's
with me. I told him we should tell her as
a couple, and we should do it after the holidays.
That's the funniest line in that of me. Let's not
mess up Christmas. Now, wait a minute, so January, after
New Year's we're gonna go in there and tell her
as a couple as she gonna stab both of y'all. Oh,
(10:54):
I'm gonna tell you right now. You I don't know
how you think it's gonna go. I feel like will
end up hating me because she can't she I'm this
is this was disturbing. I feel like she will end
up hating me, but she can't because I didn't take her.
Man what he pursued me. Really, you think I've never
(11:22):
heard a woman use that one before? So when you
do all this, can you film this and send this
in as a part too to this draw my pastor
told me that there are no rules when two soul
makes me. You need to change churches. You need to
change churches. Your pastor told you there are no rules
(11:47):
when two soul makes me. Have you ever heard that before?
Surely have you ever heard that? Have you ever heard that?
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Like war?
Speaker 2 (11:58):
All is fair and love and war? Our pastor told
me there are no rules when two soul mats meet.
You ever heard that?
Speaker 1 (12:04):
No?
Speaker 2 (12:05):
No rules? No? Yeah, junior, you ever heard that. I've
said it to keep by soulmates.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
See, the reason that don't fly is because see it
has sin in it. And what I've learned from Bishop Kenneth, Oh,
a good friend of mine, was God's voice has no
sin in it. Your pastor told you there are no rules,
which means you can do anything you want to do.
(12:41):
Now what that'sad in the Bible. You need to change churches.
People say your relationship won't last. Do you think I'm
making a big mistake if I stay with this man?
If you have a question, why you think you have
a question. You don't even have a man yet. He's
still with that lady in that ball over there, in
that house. He ain't told nobody nothing yet.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
She knows this is wrong.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
All right, you got change churches.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
We'll leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram
and Facebook at Steve Harvey FM and check us out
on the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app.
Coming up next, we're all eagerly awaiting the election results,
and we'll be back with more updates right after this.
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