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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
And if you need advice on relationships, dating, works, sex,
parenting and more, you know the drill. Submit your Strawberry
letter to STEVEARBFM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter.
We could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like we're going to read this one right here,
right now.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Right now. Buckle up and hold on type. We got
it for you here it is Strawberry.
Speaker 4 (00:23):
Let up.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Thank you, nephew. My man stays busy in his free time.
Is the subject. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a fifty six
year old single woman dating a fifty nine year old
man for almost a year. It's a long distance thing,
so we try to see each other as often as
we can because it's only a four hour drive. He
will even spend the night with me and get up
(00:45):
before day to drive back home so he can go
to work. I've met his mother, children, grandchildren, and some
of his close friends. I'm known around his city as
his woman. He professes his love for me on Facebook
and he introduces me at as his wife. And after
Christmas I asked him if he really planned to marry me,
and he said that he is almost ready to pop
(01:07):
the question, but he has to end a couple of
situationships with other women and then he can fully commit
to me. He said that because we don't sleep side
by side every night, he has some place fillers for me.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
He said.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
The women know about me and they respect our relationship.
It was hard for me to accept this news because
he's always treated me like the only woman in his life.
Our relationship has been downhill, and it hit rock bottom
the other day when he asked me to ride to
Louisiana with him to see his son. I had a
(01:43):
presentation at work, so I couldn't go. That's when he
told me that he was going to ask another woman
to ride with him. He said she's a good friend
and they used to have sex. But he's my man now,
so that's in the past.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
He said. I need to trust him more.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
But how he said, he will always give me my
respect as the number one woman in his life, So
what he does in his free time isn't a big deal.
Is he a waste of time? Can he be a
one woman man?
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Well?
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Yes, I definitely think that this is a waste of
time because you are one of a group of women,
kind of like a sister wife situation. But you guys
just don't all live together. He's being honest with you
about these other women. It took him a minute to
tell you, but this is not what you want. So
you got to tell him what you want. Can he
(02:38):
be a one woman man?
Speaker 1 (02:39):
You ask?
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Well, he's not now, so I'm just gonna say no.
I'm gonna put out there and say no. He says
you're the number one woman in his life, but you
want to be the only woman in his life. That's
the difference. He's not doing you any favors. What this
is not going to happen with him. He's not that
(03:01):
kind of man. He's not a one woman man.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
That's obvious. I think you should move on.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
I don't think you want to become a place filler,
and that's what you are. When he's not with these
other women, he's just not going to act right. So
let this one go.
Speaker 5 (03:14):
Steve the gall the nerve. I don't even know how
you fix your mouth. Tad is conversation. But what he's
doing is he's giving you all what you asked.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
For, honesty, ask what you ask.
Speaker 5 (03:35):
So now I want you to understand as I read
this letter and you ask me, and why do men lie?
Speaker 4 (03:44):
This is why, right here, this.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Is why I don't get.
Speaker 5 (03:48):
It, because the truth just don't sound right. It just
don't sound right. Now.
Speaker 4 (03:59):
I don't even I don't even know where we're going
with this letter. I don't purpose.
Speaker 5 (04:05):
You're fifty six single dating a fifty nine year old
man for almost a year. It's a long distance thing,
about four hours away. He professes his love for you
on Facebook, introduces you as his wife. After Christmas, you
ask him if he was really gonna be your wife.
This is where he said. He said that he almost ready.
(04:31):
I'm almost ready to pop.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
The question, righty, but.
Speaker 5 (04:38):
I need to end a couple of situations with other women.
Speaker 4 (04:45):
So he can fully commit to you.
Speaker 5 (04:48):
Now, all that says right now is I'm not fully
committed to you.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
That's what that says. Don't it Ain't that what it says? Yeah,
So now.
Speaker 5 (05:03):
You want this man to marry you, and you expected
himprop a question, but he's telling you he can't because
he ain't fully committed to me, he said.
Speaker 4 (05:13):
Now, this is where this dude gets real bold.
Speaker 5 (05:17):
Because we don't sleep side by side every night. I
got some place fillers for you, because I got to
be sleeping besides somebody, and when you not here, what
the hell you.
Speaker 4 (05:36):
Want me to do?
Speaker 5 (05:38):
Basically, I've got to sleep side by side. Then here
comes the roofs. This is where the game gets tricky.
He said, the women know about me and they respect
our relationship. Okay, lady, I don't know if you hear
what he said they respect infect the relationship, but he don't,
(06:05):
and that's the one you in the relationship with. I
also want to share some information that the reason he's
so comfortable telling this to you is because this has worked.
Speaker 4 (06:18):
He has told this in the.
Speaker 5 (06:21):
Past and it has worked, and that's why he damned
this sixty still playing.
Speaker 4 (06:29):
This game right here? Wow, Okay, I have more for
you when I come back. All right, Stee, pretty much
same though.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
We'll in part to him.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes after today's
Strawberry Letters subject my man stays busy with his free time.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
We'll get back into it right after this.
Speaker 5 (06:54):
Did you know you can now buy a Hondai on Amazon,
the same place where you order yoga match, a toothbrush,
and pretty much everything else, all from the comfort of
your home just located nearby dealer, pick your color, your options,
check the price, and with a few dotting of some
eyes and crossing some teas, whila, your Hondai is ready
(07:15):
for pick up.
Speaker 4 (07:16):
It's that easy.
Speaker 3 (07:17):
Visit hundred USA dot com for more details. Limited availability
pick up through participating Hondai dealers and select markets.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is my man stays busy in his free time.
Speaker 5 (07:32):
The subject of this letter is very misguided because you
say your man stay busy in his free time, but
in the letter he don't have no free times. He's
fifty nine, you forty six, y'all. In the long just
relationship is a four hour drive. Sometimes he'll spend the
night with you and get up to day and drive
(07:52):
back to work so he can go to work. I
met his mother, his children, his grandchildren. I'd have med
some of his close free and around his city that's
four hours away. He's known as you're known as his woman.
He professes his love for you on Facebook and introduce.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
You as his wife. After Christmas.
Speaker 5 (08:13):
Asked him if he really planning to marry me, and
he said I'm almost ready to pop the question, almost because,
let me tell you what's going on here. I'm gonna
have to end a couple of situations with other women
before I can fully commit to you, which means he's
not committed to you.
Speaker 4 (08:32):
He said.
Speaker 5 (08:32):
Because we don't sleep side by side every night, he
got some place fillers for me. My man, ladies, this
is the honesty that you asked for, so you can
know what you're dealing with right now. How this sound
all this honesty he doing? How this sound y'all? Don't
(08:53):
this sound foul?
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Sounds like she needs to run you?
Speaker 4 (08:58):
Ever? Don't it sound foul?
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (09:00):
I mean, surely, just don't sound foul to you.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
No, it's it's the truth. It's the truth.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
Surely stopped. I'm asking you. Don't it sound.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Fine that he told her the truth?
Speaker 4 (09:16):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Or what he's doing, what he's doing is found. Yeah,
what's doing is fould. But I want the truth. Yeah,
I want the truth.
Speaker 4 (09:27):
Okay, Well you got it in here. This letters for you.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Thank you, he said.
Speaker 5 (09:32):
Because we don't sleep side by side every now, he
got some place fillers from me.
Speaker 4 (09:37):
He said.
Speaker 5 (09:37):
That women know about me and they respect our relationship.
Speaker 4 (09:40):
Okay, cool, but he don't.
Speaker 5 (09:42):
Though it was hard for me to accept this news,
it was the truth because he always treated me like
the only woman in his life. Our relationship has been downhill,
and it hit rock bottom the other day.
Speaker 4 (10:00):
I love it you. He asked me to ride to
Louisiana with him to see his son.
Speaker 5 (10:07):
I had a presentation at work, so I couldn't go.
That's when he told me, I'm gonna ask another woman.
Speaker 4 (10:15):
To ride with me. He said, she a good friend
and they used.
Speaker 5 (10:19):
To have sex. But he's my man now, so that's
in his past. How that's in his past. Ain't nobody
else in his past? Everybody else is a place filler,
and all of a sudden he got one in his past.
He said, I need to trust him more. If you
trust him anymore any more than you're doing right now,
(10:44):
I don't even know what to call you.
Speaker 4 (10:47):
All right?
Speaker 5 (10:49):
But how he said he will always give me my
respect as the number one woman in his thing. So
now that means theres always will be a list.
Speaker 4 (11:03):
In order for you to.
Speaker 5 (11:04):
Be number one, there must be some numbers you in
front of.
Speaker 4 (11:11):
So he will always give you the respect.
Speaker 5 (11:13):
As the number one woman in his life. So what
he does in this free time is not a big deal?
Is he a waste of time? Can he be a
one woman man? I don't know if he can, but
he ain't. No, no, and clearly he ain't a one
woman man. Now, See, ma'am. The problem you have is
(11:35):
you're confusing. You're confusing the number one with the only
and the illusion he's trying to make you live with.
Is this the fact that if you feel like you're
the only one, then you should be okay with being
(11:55):
number one. If you're getting treated and you have been
feeling like you're the only one, why would it bother
you when I tell you that you're number one?
Speaker 4 (12:11):
See that's what.
Speaker 5 (12:13):
This whole letter has come down to. So now you're
asking can he be a one woman man? Why would he?
Why there's no reason to be a number one? Be
a one woman man? When you got everybody knowing they
place Fellers then told.
Speaker 4 (12:30):
The number one that she is number one and.
Speaker 5 (12:34):
Don't worry about what he do in his free time,
and he got a couple other situations and all y'all
still there. I don't know how many of y'all it is.
I'm gonna say it's about four four total. Okay, I
know it's two other women, he said a couple of
situations that means it's actually three.
Speaker 4 (12:53):
So he got four women and him.
Speaker 5 (12:56):
So if four fools in this letter, yeah.
Speaker 4 (13:00):
Why would he have to commit?
Speaker 5 (13:02):
He got you anyway, So why you got to marry you?
When he got you doing everything? And then when you
can't do what he wants, he calls somebody else riding.
Speaker 4 (13:13):
Weedon that's it.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
They're on called.
Speaker 5 (13:17):
I mean, this dude is Jeff and he's and he's
testing to see how much he can get away with you.
And if you let him get away with any of it,
it's gonna be some more coming.
Speaker 4 (13:27):
Sure, see right.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
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Speaker 1 (13:39):
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It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
And if you need advice on relationships, dating, works, sex,
parenting and more, you know the drill. Submit your Strawberry
letter to STEVEARBFM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter.
We could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like we're going to read this one right here,
right now.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Right now. Buckle up and hold on type. We got
it for you here it is Strawberry.
Speaker 4 (00:23):
Let up.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Thank you, nephew. My man stays busy in his free time.
Is the subject. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a fifty six
year old single woman dating a fifty nine year old
man for almost a year. It's a long distance thing,
so we try to see each other as often as
we can because it's only a four hour drive. He
will even spend the night with me and get up
(00:45):
before day to drive back home so he can go
to work. I've met his mother, children, grandchildren, and some
of his close friends. I'm known around his city as
his woman. He professes his love for me on Facebook
and he introduces me at as his wife. And after
Christmas I asked him if he really planned to marry me,
and he said that he is almost ready to pop
(01:07):
the question, but he has to end a couple of
situationships with other women and then he can fully commit
to me. He said that because we don't sleep side
by side every night, he has some place fillers for me.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
He said.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
The women know about me and they respect our relationship.
It was hard for me to accept this news because
he's always treated me like the only woman in his life.
Our relationship has been downhill, and it hit rock bottom
the other day when he asked me to ride to
Louisiana with him to see his son. I had a
(01:43):
presentation at work, so I couldn't go. That's when he
told me that he was going to ask another woman
to ride with him. He said she's a good friend
and they used to have sex. But he's my man now,
so that's in the past.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
He said. I need to trust him more.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
But how he said, he will always give me my
respect as the number one woman in his life, So
what he does in his free time isn't a big deal.
Is he a waste of time? Can he be a
one woman man?
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Well?
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Yes, I definitely think that this is a waste of
time because you are one of a group of women,
kind of like a sister wife situation. But you guys
just don't all live together. He's being honest with you
about these other women. It took him a minute to
tell you, but this is not what you want. So
you got to tell him what you want. Can he
(02:38):
be a one woman man?
Speaker 1 (02:39):
You ask?
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Well, he's not now, so I'm just gonna say no.
I'm gonna put out there and say no. He says
you're the number one woman in his life, but you
want to be the only woman in his life. That's
the difference. He's not doing you any favors. What this
is not going to happen with him. He's not that
(03:01):
kind of man. He's not a one woman man.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
That's obvious. I think you should move on.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
I don't think you want to become a place filler,
and that's what you are. When he's not with these
other women, he's just not going to act right. So
let this one go.
Speaker 5 (03:14):
Steve the gall the nerve. I don't even know how
you fix your mouth. Tad is conversation. But what he's
doing is he's giving you all what you asked.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
For, honesty, ask what you ask.
Speaker 5 (03:35):
So now I want you to understand as I read
this letter and you ask me, and why do men lie?
Speaker 4 (03:44):
This is why, right here, this.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Is why I don't get.
Speaker 5 (03:48):
It, because the truth just don't sound right. It just
don't sound right. Now.
Speaker 4 (03:59):
I don't even I don't even know where we're going
with this letter. I don't purpose.
Speaker 5 (04:05):
You're fifty six single dating a fifty nine year old
man for almost a year. It's a long distance thing,
about four hours away. He professes his love for you
on Facebook, introduces you as his wife. After Christmas, you
ask him if he was really gonna be your wife.
This is where he said. He said that he almost ready.
(04:31):
I'm almost ready to pop.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
The question, righty, but.
Speaker 5 (04:38):
I need to end a couple of situations with other women.
Speaker 4 (04:45):
So he can fully commit to you.
Speaker 5 (04:48):
Now, all that says right now is I'm not fully
committed to you.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
That's what that says. Don't it Ain't that what it says? Yeah,
So now.
Speaker 5 (05:03):
You want this man to marry you, and you expected
himprop a question, but he's telling you he can't because
he ain't fully committed to me, he said.
Speaker 4 (05:13):
Now, this is where this dude gets real bold.
Speaker 5 (05:17):
Because we don't sleep side by side every night. I
got some place fillers for you, because I got to
be sleeping besides somebody, and when you not here, what
the hell you.
Speaker 4 (05:36):
Want me to do?
Speaker 5 (05:38):
Basically, I've got to sleep side by side. Then here
comes the roofs. This is where the game gets tricky.
He said, the women know about me and they respect
our relationship. Okay, lady, I don't know if you hear
what he said they respect infect the relationship, but he don't,
(06:05):
and that's the one you in the relationship with. I
also want to share some information that the reason he's
so comfortable telling this to you is because this has worked.
Speaker 4 (06:18):
He has told this in the.
Speaker 5 (06:21):
Past and it has worked, and that's why he damned
this sixty still playing.
Speaker 4 (06:29):
This game right here? Wow, Okay, I have more for
you when I come back. All right, Stee, pretty much
same though.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
We'll in part to him.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes after today's
Strawberry Letters subject my man stays busy with his free time.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
We'll get back into it right after this.
Speaker 5 (06:54):
Did you know you can now buy a Hondai on Amazon,
the same place where you order yoga match, a toothbrush,
and pretty much everything else, all from the comfort of
your home just located nearby dealer, pick your color, your options,
check the price, and with a few dotting of some
eyes and crossing some teas, whila, your Hondai is ready
(07:15):
for pick up.
Speaker 4 (07:16):
It's that easy.
Speaker 3 (07:17):
Visit hundred USA dot com for more details. Limited availability
pick up through participating Hondai dealers and select markets.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is my man stays busy in his free time.
Speaker 5 (07:32):
The subject of this letter is very misguided because you
say your man stay busy in his free time, but
in the letter he don't have no free times. He's
fifty nine, you forty six, y'all. In the long just
relationship is a four hour drive. Sometimes he'll spend the
night with you and get up to day and drive
(07:52):
back to work so he can go to work. I
met his mother, his children, his grandchildren. I'd have med
some of his close free and around his city that's
four hours away. He's known as you're known as his woman.
He professes his love for you on Facebook and introduce.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
You as his wife. After Christmas.
Speaker 5 (08:13):
Asked him if he really planning to marry me, and
he said I'm almost ready to pop the question, almost because,
let me tell you what's going on here. I'm gonna
have to end a couple of situations with other women
before I can fully commit to you, which means he's
not committed to you.
Speaker 4 (08:32):
He said.
Speaker 5 (08:32):
Because we don't sleep side by side every night, he
got some place fillers for me. My man, ladies, this
is the honesty that you asked for, so you can
know what you're dealing with right now. How this sound
all this honesty he doing? How this sound y'all? Don't
(08:53):
this sound foul?
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Sounds like she needs to run you?
Speaker 4 (08:58):
Ever? Don't it sound foul?
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (09:00):
I mean, surely, just don't sound foul to you.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
No, it's it's the truth. It's the truth.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
Surely stopped. I'm asking you. Don't it sound.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Fine that he told her the truth?
Speaker 4 (09:16):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Or what he's doing, what he's doing is found. Yeah,
what's doing is fould. But I want the truth. Yeah,
I want the truth.
Speaker 4 (09:27):
Okay, Well you got it in here. This letters for you.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Thank you, he said.
Speaker 5 (09:32):
Because we don't sleep side by side every now, he
got some place fillers from me.
Speaker 4 (09:37):
He said.
Speaker 5 (09:37):
That women know about me and they respect our relationship.
Speaker 4 (09:40):
Okay, cool, but he don't.
Speaker 5 (09:42):
Though it was hard for me to accept this news,
it was the truth because he always treated me like
the only woman in his life. Our relationship has been downhill,
and it hit rock bottom the other day.
Speaker 4 (10:00):
I love it you. He asked me to ride to
Louisiana with him to see his son.
Speaker 5 (10:07):
I had a presentation at work, so I couldn't go.
That's when he told me, I'm gonna ask another woman.
Speaker 4 (10:15):
To ride with me. He said, she a good friend
and they used.
Speaker 5 (10:19):
To have sex. But he's my man now, so that's
in his past. How that's in his past. Ain't nobody
else in his past? Everybody else is a place filler,
and all of a sudden he got one in his past.
He said, I need to trust him more. If you
trust him anymore any more than you're doing right now,
(10:44):
I don't even know what to call you.
Speaker 4 (10:47):
All right?
Speaker 5 (10:49):
But how he said he will always give me my
respect as the number one woman in his thing. So
now that means theres always will be a list.
Speaker 4 (11:03):
In order for you to.
Speaker 5 (11:04):
Be number one, there must be some numbers you in
front of.
Speaker 4 (11:11):
So he will always give you the respect.
Speaker 5 (11:13):
As the number one woman in his life. So what
he does in this free time is not a big deal?
Is he a waste of time? Can he be a
one woman man? I don't know if he can, but
he ain't. No, no, and clearly he ain't a one
woman man. Now, See, ma'am. The problem you have is
(11:35):
you're confusing. You're confusing the number one with the only
and the illusion he's trying to make you live with.
Is this the fact that if you feel like you're
the only one, then you should be okay with being
(11:55):
number one. If you're getting treated and you have been
feeling like you're the only one, why would it bother
you when I tell you that you're number one?
Speaker 4 (12:11):
See that's what.
Speaker 5 (12:13):
This whole letter has come down to. So now you're
asking can he be a one woman man? Why would he?
Why there's no reason to be a number one? Be
a one woman man? When you got everybody knowing they
place Fellers then told.
Speaker 4 (12:30):
The number one that she is number one and.
Speaker 5 (12:34):
Don't worry about what he do in his free time,
and he got a couple other situations and all y'all
still there. I don't know how many of y'all it is.
I'm gonna say it's about four four total. Okay, I
know it's two other women, he said a couple of
situations that means it's actually three.
Speaker 4 (12:53):
So he got four women and him.
Speaker 5 (12:56):
So if four fools in this letter, yeah.
Speaker 4 (13:00):
Why would he have to commit?
Speaker 5 (13:02):
He got you anyway, So why you got to marry you?
When he got you doing everything? And then when you
can't do what he wants, he calls somebody else riding.
Speaker 4 (13:13):
Weedon that's it.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
They're on called.
Speaker 5 (13:17):
I mean, this dude is Jeff and he's and he's
testing to see how much he can get away with you.
And if you let him get away with any of it,
it's gonna be some more coming.
Speaker 4 (13:27):
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