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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:25):
All right, nephew, thank you. Subject. I guess he'd rather
pay for it. Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been married for
fourteen years and I'm a forty eight year I'm forty
eight years old and my husband is fifty five. In
all these years, I did not think I would ever
have to deal with cheating. We've always had a very
active sex life. He's always been attentive, and he spoiled
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me the entire marriage. He's sweet, but he's stupid. I
found out that he's paying a thirty two year old's
rent car note and giving her money every month for
her day to day expenses. The sad part car is
that he got a part time job to do it all.
He works full time as a teacher, and he's also
got a part time job at a hardware store. He
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told me he got it so he can save money
for us to go on a week long vacation for
my fiftieth birthday. I checked our savings account. I checked
our savings account regularly to see if he was putting
his extra earnings into the account, and he wasn't. I
asked him about it, and he said he put it
in a special account. I did not like that, but
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I didn't press him about it. We share a Visa card,
so I opened a letter from Visa, but it was
for him. It stated that he was turned down for
a new credit card, and it listed the authorized user,
which was a female other than me. I found the
female on ig and sent her a message. She called
me right away. My husband told her that he's getting
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a divorce. She said they've been looking at houses together
for the past two weeks. She didn't know he's a teacher.
He told her that he's retired and works at a
hardware store because his money is tied up in his divorce.
She apologized to me and said he's given her close
to twenty thousand dollars and asked if I wanted it back.
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I told her to keep it because she earned it.
He knows he's busted, so he hasn't spoken to me
in eight days. I have no words for him except
why why would he pay for what's at home for free?
Speaker 4 (02:27):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Yeah, he doesn't want that right now, He just doesn't.
He's obviously taken with this young lady and unfortunately not
into you. His wife of fourteen years, and at fifty five,
he's also having a midlife crisis. This young lady has
rocked his world. Harsh reality for you. I know that
after fourteen years. But that's as simply and as a
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sinkly as I can put this. I mean, he's not
the first man to risk everything and gamble on his marriage,
and he won't be the last, sure, But I agree
with you he is stupid because he's wearing himself out
in the process. He's got a young girl, a part
time job. He's been cheating and lying, and money's going
out and not coming in. I'm sure it's all a
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bit much and taking its toll. It's catching up with him,
but typically he's flipping the script and trying to make
you the blame. This isn't your fault. He's in the wrong,
and he's got the nerve to not speak to you,
and you still want to know why. There is no
why except for what I said at the top of
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the letter. He's taken with this young woman. Anyway, What
does the why matter? He is doing it, and he's
been doing it long enough to have given her twenty
thousand dollars, which she said, you know, when she talked
to you, she told you about that. She didn't know
he was a teacher. She doesn't want him, And if
you stay with him after all this, it's on you
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because clearly he has moved on thinking he's going to
have this young woman.
Speaker 4 (04:00):
Steve Lord, Lord Lord, Sureley. I'm so glad i'm here,
so I'm straightening this letter out for you. First of all,
start just let it off by telling you this. It
ain't she rocked his world? Is he rocked her world?
See that's the part y'all don't never get. But now
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let me walk you down through what happened. I've been
married for fourteen years. I'm forty eight, my husband fifty five.
I never thought about him cheating. We've always been.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
A very active sex life. He's always been a tenive.
He spoiled me my entire marriage. He's sweet, but he's stupid.
Yes he is.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
Yes now that he is stupid because he made some
key mistakes, because he ain't done this before. I found
out that he's playing a thirty two year old's rint
card note and giving her money every month for her
day to day expensive Now, let me tell you what
happened right here. He took his old ass over here
and met this young girl and found out that he
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could be the night in shining.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Arm, that he could show up.
Speaker 4 (05:13):
And be somebody's all in all thirty two fifty five.
That's a nice jump. He knows some stuff she don't know.
He has taught her many things all over that house. See,
surely thinks she rocked his world. But in essence, what
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didn't happen is she given him a reaction that he
don't get at the house. I'm telling you what this is.
This ain't a mid life crisis. This is an old
I still got it. Oh, this is an old. They
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still won't me. This is an old I get to
walk in and be appreciated and then told how great
I am.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Over and over and over and again. Now he works
full time as a teacher.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
Now right there, teachers don't make what they should make
in this country, so already know he shot so however
he spoiled you. He's done the best he can right
onto the teachers out there. But he got a part
time job at a hardware stop. He told me he
got it so he could save money for us to
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go on a week long vacation for my fiftieth birthday.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Ain't that sweet?
Speaker 4 (06:34):
Then you start checking around on the savings account, found
out wasn't nothing, no extra money in there.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
You asked him about it, He told you got a
special account.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
We'll have part two of your response coming up here
three minutes after the subject is I guess he'd rather
pay for it. We'll get back into it right after this.
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Speaker 1 (07:31):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is I guess he'd rather pay for it.
Speaker 4 (07:37):
You know, that's like the last subject of the letter.
I guess he'd rather pay for it, don't we all?
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Anyway? First thing y'all do when y'all meet a man,
you gonna know if he working? Yeah, why so he
can pay for it? Well yeah, well.
Speaker 4 (07:54):
Yeah, so let's stop with them. I guess he'd rather
pay for it. We know we had to pay for it.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
Expected. So you've been dating this when you're married.
Speaker 4 (08:02):
To this man fourteen years forty eight, he fifty five,
always had actual sex life.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
You never thought he cheat on you entire marriage. He's sweet,
but he's stupid.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
He find out he's paying a thirty two year old
girl's rint car note and giving her money every month
for her day to day expensive sad part is his
part time job to do it all. He got a
part time job to do it all. Now he's doing
it because he gets to be the hero, to walk
in there and be the hero. Shirley said, he'd have
met this girl and she'd have rocked this world. What
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then happened is he'd have rocked her world. Now she
learning from him. She got him up there feeling like
he's special. Oh, you know so much. You know, he
ain't heard that from you in a long time. So
now he out here and then he can come in
here and be the hero. And I got you and
I take care of you. She didn't know it was
a teacher because he didn't tell her. He worked full
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time as a teacher, which means his salary is a
little tough because teachers don't make what they should make
in this country, shout out to all the time.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
So he got a part time job at a hardware store.
He told you he got it.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
So you found out about this extra job, he said,
because he could save money take you on a special
trip for your fiftieth anniversary. I checked that saving his account.
See if he putting that show and that is in
it and he wasn't. You asked him about it. He said,
it's in a special account. I didn't like that, but
I didn't press him about it. Here wadn't get stupid.
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We share a Visa card. So I opened a letter
from Visa.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
It was for him.
Speaker 4 (09:33):
It stated that he was turned down for a new
credit card and it listed the authorized user, which was
a female other than me. Now, dog, now you trying
to play hero, but you stupid. You applied for another
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credit card in your name. I mean, you applied for
another credit card but you and got turned down. But
he put it in her name. And then they sent
a letter to your house. You didn't see that.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Mail in that dress.
Speaker 4 (10:12):
You thought you was gonna beat your wife to the
male box. You stupid, all right. So then you found
the female's name on IGN. You sent her a message.
She called me right away. My husband told her that
he's getting a divorce.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
She said.
Speaker 4 (10:30):
They've been looking at housing together for the past. House, Dog,
you can't get no house. You're a teacher and you
work part time down at the Ace Hardware, but you're
giving her the money to.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
Pay for her lifestyle.
Speaker 4 (10:45):
You can't go looking at no house though, And she
didn't know he was a teacher. He told her that
he's retiring and works at the hardware store because his
money is tied up.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
In the divorce.
Speaker 4 (11:00):
She apologized to me and said he's giving her close
to twenty thousand dollars and asked if I wanted it back.
I told her to keep it because she earned it.
Now he knows he's busted, so he ain't spoke to
me in eight days. That's a good move, right there, dog.
I don't know how long you think it's gonna last,
but that's a good movie. Don't talk to her, ignore her.
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He ain't talked to her, ain't now what he doing
is he don't know what to say. He stick, He
don't have a plan. He don't know how to worm
his way out of this one.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
So in eight days he ain't thought of nothing.
Speaker 4 (11:35):
And I'm gonna tell you some lady, he not fitnyh
thinking because he.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Don't know how the game go.
Speaker 4 (11:42):
I have no words for him except why why would
he pay for what's at home for free?
Speaker 2 (11:48):
Naw, let me help you.
Speaker 4 (11:49):
Out, because what's at the house ain't the same that's
out there in them streets.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
It just ain't. It ain't that same.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
You'll get mad all you won't conviction. It ain't just same.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
That was in New.
Speaker 4 (12:12):
Street It don't come with the chatter. It don't come
with the responsibility. Yeah, it don't come back, don't. It
don't come with the pressure. See this beautiful life that
you built with this wonderful woman at the house, it
come with a lot of strain and stress, some pressure.
We gotta talk about bills. We gotta talk about these kids.
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We gotta talk about the future. We gotta talk about
what I owe. We gotta talk about what I did
over here at this new spot. I ain't gotta talk
about none of that. I'm here for today. I just
come in and were just sitting down and making coffee.
It's all good. Why would he pay for something out
there when he can get it at the house for free. Well,
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first of all, let me tell yo, bo soap, but
at the house ain't really free it. We've been paying
since we met you, and.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
No matter where you go to get it, it ain't
ever gonna be free.
Speaker 4 (13:11):
And we've learned to accept that you're not getting nothing
at the house with free to come with conditions and
chatter and talk back and authority and future and all
like that.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
And it's the same.
Speaker 4 (13:24):
Listen to me, he loved your steak, that you've given
him at the house, but you're trying to tell this
man he don't want no fish or no chickens.
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