March 27, 2025 • 13 mins
Strawberry Letter Subject for Thursday, March 27th, 2025: “He Moved Her In To Take Care Of Me” A woman is upset that the woman who is staying with her and her husband, who is supposed to be helping with the new baby, is getting too comfortable…especially with her husband.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you
need advice on relationship, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter. It's Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know.
(00:20):
This one right here could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Love and hold on tight. We got it for you here.
It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Subject, Thank you nephew, because I just heard uncle. I
didn't hear buckle. I didn't hear that be subject. He
moved her in to take care of me. Dear Stephen Shirley,
My husband and I have been married for four years,
but we've been together for twelve years. We've been back
and forth with a lot of our decisions. At first,
(00:48):
we didn't think we had to get married to make
our relationship work. I changed my mind and wanted a wedding.
Now here we are after saying we did not want
any children. We have a four month old daughter. I'm
forty three, so as you know, it's harder for older moms.
I went back into the office a month ago. My
husband is a flight attendant, so his schedule is all
(01:10):
over the place. He suggested that one of our good
friends move in temporarily to help us with our daughter.
She's divorced and in between jobs, so he offered to
pay her. I thought it was a sweet gesture, but
now I'm sick of her. Honestly, I'm sick of both
her and my husband, and it's only been two weeks.
(01:31):
I can't focus while I'm working because I'm worried about
what's going on with my baby, my husband, and our
friend while I'm not at home. There is a nice
day bed in our baby's room, but our friend chooses
to sleep on our couch so she can watch TV
at night. She's more of my husband's friend than mine,
so I expected him to tell her to sleep in
(01:53):
the bed and not on our other furniture. But I
should have known he wouldn't do it because they sit
up all night he king and playing cards. I can
hardly sleep now because if they get quiet in the
living room, I go peeking there to make sure nothing's
going on. She is more of a problem than a helper.
How do I break the news to her that she's
(02:14):
got to go? How do I get my husband to
be okay with my decision. Well, that's going to be
a tough one because you said he's more your husband's
friend than yours. But what why are you acting like
this isn't your house and you have no say and
(02:35):
what goes down in your house? Because it is your
house and you need.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
To speak up.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Your husband is not going to do it, obviously he
hasn't done it yet. It's only been two weeks. But
she's supposed to be helping, right. I think he's enjoying
it way too much having her there. And I thought
she was supposed to be helping you and with the
baby and stuff. What happened with that? This woman, this
friend of you guys, your husband's, has overstepped and overstayed
(03:03):
her welcome. I think you need to talk to your husband,
let him know that it is time for his friend,
she's his friend now to go because in the beginning
of the letter, she was both of your friend. Now
she's just his friend. The problem is she doesn't have
a job to get a place of her own own,
but I'm sure she has other friends and relatives that
(03:24):
can help her out. You're starting to feel very uncomfortable
in your own home, you can't sleep. It's true that
she and your husband are way too close for comfort,
and you shouldn't trust them. Whatever they call themselves doing
when it gets quiet, you should have a problem with that.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Steve, Well, surely back at him another home going to hell? Well,
let me see if I get fiction he moved her
in to take care of me. Now, this letter has
(04:00):
a lot of contradiction in it, so I want to
say that.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
First, y'all been married for.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
Four years, been together twelve, back and forth on your decisions.
You didn't think you needed to get married to make
your relationship work, You change your mind. You had a wedding,
y'all both decided you want kids, You got.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
A four month old.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
Then you said something, You said, you know it's harder
for older moms. I don't know anything about that, so
I'm assuming it is. I think it's just hard being
a mom period, young old what hell? You just look
like hard to me. Hell, I've never really for their
joy being a daddy, to be honest with you, So
(04:44):
I would imagine if I'd have had the lady and
had his baby, and handy and mad. I'm mad as
somebody had to go through all this pain to have whoo,
y'all's really yeah, I mean really, that's what really gets
on a woman's nerve. You went through all this labor
and agony to have this baby. Now this even talking back,
What do you know what I did to get you here?
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Man?
Speaker 3 (05:04):
That's what women be mad about. And I understand that
because I can't understand that.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
So you forty three.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
So you know you went on back to the office
a month ago. Your husband is a flight attendant, so
his schedule is all over the place.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Now here's his fix.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
He suggested that one of our good friends move in
temporarily to help us with our daughter. See all this
is joint, right now, our good friend move in with
us to help with our daughter. It's all all consensual.
It's all.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
Joint. She's divorced and in between jobs, so he offered
to pay her.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
I thought it was a sweet gesture. See what you did.
You thought it was sweet. But now I'm sick of her. Honestly,
I'm sick of her and my husband. And it's only
been two weeks because y'all got a stranger in y'all's house.
But once again, though, before we come back, we gonna
get into what I keep telling y'all about these opposite
(06:14):
sex friends.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
I don't know how many times I gotta tell y'all.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
But y'all not listening. Then it just it don't ever work.
And sometimes you learn sooner than later. It only took
you two weeks. So we come back. I'm gonna show
you what the problem is, and here's a solution.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
I have something right, all right, Steve.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
We'll have part two of your response coming up at
twenty three minutes after today's Strawberry letter subject he moved
her in to take care of me. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening, Steve Hardy Morning Show.
Everybody knows what speed dating is, right, Well, if you're
(06:58):
the owner of a growing busines business, what if there
was a feature like speed dating only for hiring. Good news,
there is. It's zip Intro from zip Recruiter. You can
post your job today and start talking to qualified candidates
tomorrow and right now. You can try zip intro for
free at ZipRecruiter dot com slash Strawberry. Zip Intro gives
you the power to quickly assess excellent candidates for your
(07:21):
job via back to back video calls. You simply pick
a time and zip intro does all the work of
finding and scheduling qualified candidates for you. Try zip intro
for free at ZipRecruiter dot com slash strawberry Again, that's
ZipRecruiter dot com slash strawberry. All right, Come on, Steve,
let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is he moved
her in to take care of me.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
Well, and you thought you said it was a nice gesture, right,
But then it was a joint decision. Y'all decided to
move her in to help y'all decide to move her
in to help y'all with y'all's daughter.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
Voice in between jobs. So you agreed to.
Speaker 3 (08:02):
Pay her all This was discussed, Yes, yes, yes, And
you said it was a sweet gesture, all right. Now, honestly,
I'm sick of her and my husband, and it ain't
been but two weeks. I can't focus while I'm at
work because I'm worried about what's going on with my baby,
(08:23):
my husband, and our friend.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
See what happened to the sweet gesture? Now?
Speaker 3 (08:30):
I thought your husband's schedule was all over the place
because he'll flight it to but now you can't focus
at work because you wonder what's going on with your baby,
your husband and a friend. Let's take the baby off
do this. That ain't what you're worried. It's two grown ups,
daddy baby. Fine, You worrying about the relationship between your
husband and you'all friend.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
That's all this is.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
This is there's a nice day bed in our baby's room,
but our our friend choosing to sleep on our couch
so she can watch TV at night.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
Well that makes sense.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
You ain't got no TV in the baby room, so
the baby sleep what she supposed to do. She in
now on the couch so she can watch TV. Y'all
got a TV in y'all bedroom. Now, all of a sudden,
she mowed your husband's friend and mine, So I expect
(09:30):
him to tell her to sleep in the bed and
not on our other furniture.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Now, why you're assuming he should know that?
Speaker 3 (09:39):
You want him to have a problem with it and
take on the problem because you got a problem with it.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
But you ain't said nothing to him about it, though.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
But I should have known he wouldn't do it, because
they sit up all night keykred and playing calls ain't nothing.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
I don't know how to play nothing, just sitting round,
just painting your nail.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
I can hardly sleep now because if they get quiet
in the living room, I go peek in there to
make sure ain't nothing going on. Girl, you about to
worry yourself to death with this help at y'all have.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
Is more. She's more of a problem than a helper.
How do I break the news to her that she's
got to go?
Speaker 3 (10:27):
And how do I get my husband to be okay
with my decision?
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Well, I don't.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
I know a lot of married people, and sometimes the
wife don't how you feel about her decision.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
I'm just saying, sometimes you're just gonna do what she
wanta do.
Speaker 3 (10:52):
But obviously you feel some kind of way because it
was y'all's friend. It was a sweet gesture. You thought
it was a good idea. Now that girl in there
wherein you have to death? They sitting there, key kid,
all night? How many times I've told y'all about these
opposite sex friendship?
Speaker 2 (11:12):
How hard you think they're gonna be laughing until at night?
Speaker 3 (11:18):
For one of these laughs turned into a sly smile,
And then that sly smile turned into a little hood.
Next thing you know, your lips rubbed against her lips.
Now you just slid some tongue out the corner in
your mouth. Now where Now we're on this couch. Now,
(11:43):
this couch is a daybed, a night bad and pull out. Now,
ain't so quiet in the living room no more? Now
you donna walk in. You can't hear nothing but TV
right right, and to cover up the sounds they do
(12:04):
cut on the Western channels, some cowboys and then and
there and they're shooting.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
Yeah they and they're.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
Kissing so hard and kissing so hard and grinding. They
don't even know you looking.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Whoa, she's got to go.
Speaker 3 (12:22):
She got that leg up on the back of that couch.
You see what's about.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
To go down? Yeah? With your friends though, remember that? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (12:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Lord?
Speaker 3 (12:37):
So how do I get my husband to be okay
with decisions? He not finna be okay with this decision?
But you need to make this decision because saint getting
no sleep.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
No, you can't play cards. You up all night, girl,
You can't focus on your job.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out this Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app Free Never sounded
so good you can download it. Today you're listening to
the Steve Harvey Morning Show
It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you
need advice on relationship, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter. It's Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know.
(00:20):
This one right here could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Love and hold on tight. We got it for you here.
It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Subject, Thank you nephew, because I just heard uncle. I
didn't hear buckle. I didn't hear that be subject. He
moved her in to take care of me. Dear Stephen Shirley,
My husband and I have been married for four years,
but we've been together for twelve years. We've been back
and forth with a lot of our decisions. At first,
(00:48):
we didn't think we had to get married to make
our relationship work. I changed my mind and wanted a wedding.
Now here we are after saying we did not want
any children. We have a four month old daughter. I'm
forty three, so as you know, it's harder for older moms.
I went back into the office a month ago. My
husband is a flight attendant, so his schedule is all
(01:10):
over the place. He suggested that one of our good
friends move in temporarily to help us with our daughter.
She's divorced and in between jobs, so he offered to
pay her. I thought it was a sweet gesture, but
now I'm sick of her. Honestly, I'm sick of both
her and my husband, and it's only been two weeks.
(01:31):
I can't focus while I'm working because I'm worried about
what's going on with my baby, my husband, and our
friend while I'm not at home. There is a nice
day bed in our baby's room, but our friend chooses
to sleep on our couch so she can watch TV
at night. She's more of my husband's friend than mine,
so I expected him to tell her to sleep in
(01:53):
the bed and not on our other furniture. But I
should have known he wouldn't do it because they sit
up all night he king and playing cards. I can
hardly sleep now because if they get quiet in the
living room, I go peeking there to make sure nothing's
going on. She is more of a problem than a helper.
How do I break the news to her that she's
(02:14):
got to go? How do I get my husband to
be okay with my decision. Well, that's going to be
a tough one because you said he's more your husband's
friend than yours. But what why are you acting like
this isn't your house and you have no say and
(02:35):
what goes down in your house? Because it is your
house and you need.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
To speak up.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Your husband is not going to do it, obviously he
hasn't done it yet. It's only been two weeks. But
she's supposed to be helping, right. I think he's enjoying
it way too much having her there. And I thought
she was supposed to be helping you and with the
baby and stuff. What happened with that? This woman, this
friend of you guys, your husband's, has overstepped and overstayed
(03:03):
her welcome. I think you need to talk to your husband,
let him know that it is time for his friend,
she's his friend now to go because in the beginning
of the letter, she was both of your friend. Now
she's just his friend. The problem is she doesn't have
a job to get a place of her own own,
but I'm sure she has other friends and relatives that
(03:24):
can help her out. You're starting to feel very uncomfortable
in your own home, you can't sleep. It's true that
she and your husband are way too close for comfort,
and you shouldn't trust them. Whatever they call themselves doing
when it gets quiet, you should have a problem with that.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Steve, Well, surely back at him another home going to hell? Well,
let me see if I get fiction he moved her
in to take care of me. Now, this letter has
(04:00):
a lot of contradiction in it, so I want to
say that.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
First, y'all been married for.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
Four years, been together twelve, back and forth on your decisions.
You didn't think you needed to get married to make
your relationship work, You change your mind. You had a wedding,
y'all both decided you want kids, You got.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
A four month old.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
Then you said something, You said, you know it's harder
for older moms. I don't know anything about that, so
I'm assuming it is. I think it's just hard being
a mom period, young old what hell? You just look
like hard to me. Hell, I've never really for their
joy being a daddy, to be honest with you, So
(04:44):
I would imagine if I'd have had the lady and
had his baby, and handy and mad. I'm mad as
somebody had to go through all this pain to have whoo,
y'all's really yeah, I mean really, that's what really gets
on a woman's nerve. You went through all this labor
and agony to have this baby. Now this even talking back,
What do you know what I did to get you here?
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Man?
Speaker 3 (05:04):
That's what women be mad about. And I understand that
because I can't understand that.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
So you forty three.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
So you know you went on back to the office
a month ago. Your husband is a flight attendant, so
his schedule is all over the place.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Now here's his fix.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
He suggested that one of our good friends move in
temporarily to help us with our daughter. See all this
is joint, right now, our good friend move in with
us to help with our daughter. It's all all consensual.
It's all.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
Joint. She's divorced and in between jobs, so he offered
to pay her.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
I thought it was a sweet gesture. See what you did.
You thought it was sweet. But now I'm sick of her. Honestly,
I'm sick of her and my husband. And it's only
been two weeks because y'all got a stranger in y'all's house.
But once again, though, before we come back, we gonna
get into what I keep telling y'all about these opposite
(06:14):
sex friends.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
I don't know how many times I gotta tell y'all.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
But y'all not listening. Then it just it don't ever work.
And sometimes you learn sooner than later. It only took
you two weeks. So we come back. I'm gonna show
you what the problem is, and here's a solution.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
I have something right, all right, Steve.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
We'll have part two of your response coming up at
twenty three minutes after today's Strawberry letter subject he moved
her in to take care of me. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening, Steve Hardy Morning Show.
Everybody knows what speed dating is, right, Well, if you're
(06:58):
the owner of a growing busines business, what if there
was a feature like speed dating only for hiring. Good news,
there is. It's zip Intro from zip Recruiter. You can
post your job today and start talking to qualified candidates
tomorrow and right now. You can try zip intro for
free at ZipRecruiter dot com slash Strawberry. Zip Intro gives
you the power to quickly assess excellent candidates for your
(07:21):
job via back to back video calls. You simply pick
a time and zip intro does all the work of
finding and scheduling qualified candidates for you. Try zip intro
for free at ZipRecruiter dot com slash strawberry Again, that's
ZipRecruiter dot com slash strawberry. All right, Come on, Steve,
let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is he moved
her in to take care of me.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
Well, and you thought you said it was a nice gesture, right,
But then it was a joint decision. Y'all decided to
move her in to help y'all decide to move her
in to help y'all with y'all's daughter.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
Voice in between jobs. So you agreed to.
Speaker 3 (08:02):
Pay her all This was discussed, Yes, yes, yes, And
you said it was a sweet gesture, all right. Now, honestly,
I'm sick of her and my husband, and it ain't
been but two weeks. I can't focus while I'm at
work because I'm worried about what's going on with my baby,
(08:23):
my husband, and our friend.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
See what happened to the sweet gesture? Now?
Speaker 3 (08:30):
I thought your husband's schedule was all over the place
because he'll flight it to but now you can't focus
at work because you wonder what's going on with your baby,
your husband and a friend. Let's take the baby off
do this. That ain't what you're worried. It's two grown ups,
daddy baby. Fine, You worrying about the relationship between your
husband and you'all friend.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
That's all this is.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
This is there's a nice day bed in our baby's room,
but our our friend choosing to sleep on our couch
so she can watch TV at night.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
Well that makes sense.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
You ain't got no TV in the baby room, so
the baby sleep what she supposed to do. She in
now on the couch so she can watch TV. Y'all
got a TV in y'all bedroom. Now, all of a sudden,
she mowed your husband's friend and mine, So I expect
(09:30):
him to tell her to sleep in the bed and
not on our other furniture.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Now, why you're assuming he should know that?
Speaker 3 (09:39):
You want him to have a problem with it and
take on the problem because you got a problem with it.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
But you ain't said nothing to him about it, though.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
But I should have known he wouldn't do it, because
they sit up all night keykred and playing calls ain't nothing.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
I don't know how to play nothing, just sitting round,
just painting your nail.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
I can hardly sleep now because if they get quiet
in the living room, I go peek in there to
make sure ain't nothing going on. Girl, you about to
worry yourself to death with this help at y'all have.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
Is more. She's more of a problem than a helper.
How do I break the news to her that she's
got to go?
Speaker 3 (10:27):
And how do I get my husband to be okay
with my decision?
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Well, I don't.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
I know a lot of married people, and sometimes the
wife don't how you feel about her decision.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
I'm just saying, sometimes you're just gonna do what she
wanta do.
Speaker 3 (10:52):
But obviously you feel some kind of way because it
was y'all's friend. It was a sweet gesture. You thought
it was a good idea. Now that girl in there
wherein you have to death? They sitting there, key kid,
all night? How many times I've told y'all about these
opposite sex friendship?
Speaker 2 (11:12):
How hard you think they're gonna be laughing until at night?
Speaker 3 (11:18):
For one of these laughs turned into a sly smile,
And then that sly smile turned into a little hood.
Next thing you know, your lips rubbed against her lips.
Now you just slid some tongue out the corner in
your mouth. Now where Now we're on this couch. Now,
(11:43):
this couch is a daybed, a night bad and pull out. Now,
ain't so quiet in the living room no more? Now
you donna walk in. You can't hear nothing but TV
right right, and to cover up the sounds they do
(12:04):
cut on the Western channels, some cowboys and then and
there and they're shooting.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
Yeah they and they're.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
Kissing so hard and kissing so hard and grinding. They
don't even know you looking.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Whoa, she's got to go.
Speaker 3 (12:22):
She got that leg up on the back of that couch.
You see what's about.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
To go down? Yeah? With your friends though, remember that? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (12:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Lord?
Speaker 3 (12:37):
So how do I get my husband to be okay
with decisions? He not finna be okay with this decision?
But you need to make this decision because saint getting
no sleep.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
No, you can't play cards. You up all night, girl,
You can't focus on your job.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out this Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app Free Never sounded
so good you can download it. Today you're listening to
the Steve Harvey Morning Show
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