June 9, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Monday, June 9th, 2025: Subject - "Why Do They Have Matching Pajamas?"
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, dating, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEHARBYFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
(00:20):
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it boy. You here it is oh Bury.
Let them subject?
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Why do they have matching pajamas?
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Why?
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Dear Stephen Shirley, I am writing to get your opinion
on a big issue I'm having with my boyfriend. We've
been together for three years and I haven't spent any
holidays with him and his family. He spends my birthdays
with me, but he's usually with his family when it's
his birthday. I know that if a man treats his
mother nicely, it's a sign of how he'll treat his woman,
(00:53):
but not in this case. I practically had to beg
him to meet his mom and sister. My therapist is
in fond of my boyfriend friend, and she thinks I
can do better, But I'm in love with him and
can't just toss him away. This Christmas, we exchanged gifts
early and he flew three hours away to be with
his family. We are both forty two years old, so
(01:14):
I hoped he'd grown up since last year and didn't
have to be up under his mother for Christmas. I
thought at the least he'd invite me to go with him,
but he didn't, and I had to go to my parents'
house along with my married brother and his family, and
my married baby sister and her husband. My man and
I barely got to spend New Year's Eve together because
(01:34):
his flight was delayed for three hours. We celebrated my
birthday on January third, and at dinner, he slid me
his phone so I could take a picture of us.
While I had his phone, his sister sent him a
photo that popped up on his phone. It was a
picture of him, his sister, his mama, and a pretty woman.
(01:57):
He said, the woman is his mom's hairstyle. That may
be true, but why didn't Why did they all have
unmatching pajamas? Is she a relative? That's what I asked him.
He laughed and said, no, they're not related. I then
decided that he must be dating her, And he said,
(02:18):
I'm making a big deal over matching pajamas they decided
to wear for Christmas. He keeps joking about it, but
I need answers. Am I being a fool? Well, you know,
I don't know. This is all crazy and it sounds
very strange to me. Sure it could have been a coincidence,
(02:40):
and she could have just happened to have some matching
pajamas in her purse when she went over their house,
but you got to know that this photo shoot was planned.
They've been in contact with this woman. He said she
wasn't a relative. So is she a good friend of
his mom's, this so called hairstylist, because she's very comfortable,
very familiar with the family and all of that. Very
(03:01):
comfortable to just be your mom's hairstylist. So you've really
got to look at this whole scenario. He never ever
spends holidays with you, never ever. He doesn't even invite
invite you to holidays, so you could turn him down.
But I'll say this, whether she's a hairstylist or not,
which we don't think she is, this sounds like a
(03:21):
classic case of a man who's living some sort of
double life here, and you're a major player in it.
You will continue to be just that until you do
something about it. You can't keep taking this from him.
It's easy to spend your birthday together because the whole
world isn't celebrating it celebrating it.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
It's just you guys.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Christmas and the other big holidays are, on the other hand,
are trickier, a lot trickier, because everyone in the world
is celebrating them at the same time. Families are together.
You know you're getting side piece treatment here. They never
get to spend the actual holiday with their man. It's
always the day before, the day after, or in your case,
(03:59):
January third, not January first like the wives. So after
three years, I'm gonna say this to you, three years
of this neglect, you should be pretty tired of it.
And just because you're in love with him doesn't mean
he's good for you.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Okay, Steve, lady, what is wrong with you? Why did
you write us? Why are we dealing with this?
Speaker 3 (04:27):
You say you're writing to get your opinion on a
big issue that you having with your boyfriend, and y'all
been together three years and you ain't spent a holiday
with him or his family. Let me tell you something.
Holidays are for special people. If a man loves you,
(04:49):
he's gonna be with you. All right, Cool, Now let's
move on. He spends my birthdays with me. So your
birthday it could be April twenty ninth, Well.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
That ain't nothing. July sixteenth, that ain't nothing.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
Now. I bet you if your birthday was December twenty fifth,
I bet he wouldn't be there. I bet if your
birthday was New Year's Eve, he wouldn't be there. See, lady,
you're ignoring and obvious. He's with his family for his birthdays.
I know, if a man treats his mother nicely, it's
(05:30):
a sign of how he'll treat his woman. But that's
not the case. It is the case you're just not
paying attention to. It's a sign of how he'll treat
his woman. I practically had to beg him to meet
his mom and sister. Yeah, so she let y'all meet.
Now here go to part that through it from me.
My therapist isn't fun of my boyfriend, fond of my boyfriend,
(05:52):
and thinks I could.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Do better well any time, and I've seen this.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Come on time. You need a therapist to date. You
don't need to get married because y'all ain't even in
therapeutical situations yet.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Y'all just date.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
If you date and need a therapist to date, this
relationship is doomed.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
You need a therapist to be your boy, Freddie girlfriend.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
Man. Please, this is a mess right here. So when
I come back, I just tell you the rest of it.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Cause all right, Steve? All right.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's strawberry letter subject
why do they have matching pajamas? We'll get back into
it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
You've heard us talk about the benefits of Globe Life insurance.
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all right. Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is why do they have matching pajamas?
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Well, she's dating this dude.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
She forty that both of them is forty two years old,
which is boyfriend girlfriend a little bit late for that.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
Uh, you've been.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
Together three years and you ain't spending no holidays with
him and his family. That's cause holidays is for special people.
He spends his birthdays with me. Well, that's just your
birthday could be any day. That ain't no special day.
It's just special to you, like Sureley said. But he's
usually with his family when it's his birthday. I know,
if a man treats his mother nicely, it's a sign
(08:00):
of how he treats his woman. But that's not the case. Yes,
it is the case. It's finish show up in your letter.
I practically had to beg him to meet his mom
and sister where you met him.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
You ain't been back over that since. Problem.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
Then you say, my therapist isn't fun of my boyfriendish
she thinks I could do better.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
If you need a.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Therapist to date, If you have to have therapy to date,
you're in this this don't have marriage rote on it nowhere,
because as I said earlier, you ain't even in a
therapeutical situation yet.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
You ain't even married therapeutical situation.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
You ain't even in that.
Speaker 3 (08:41):
You ain't ready to go, but you already there. I'm
leaving fool you here? Where you going so now? But
I'm in love with him and I can't just toss
him away. Okay, Well, this Christmas we exchange gifts early,
and he flew three hours away to be with his
family once again. Holidays is for special people. We are
(09:06):
both forty two years old, so I had hope listened
to this line that he'd grown up since last year
and didn't have to be up under his mother for Christmas.
Wait a minute, so at forty one he wasn't full grown.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Yet, that's what she's saying.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
Yes, you was hoping that at forty two he had
grown up and didn't have to be up under his
mother for Christmas. I thought, at the least he did
invite me to go with him, but he didn't, and
I had to go to my parents house along with
my married brother and his family, and my married baby
sister and her husband, my man, and that barely my
(09:47):
man and I barely got to be in New Year's
Eve together because his flight was delayed for three hours.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
Well that's what he told you.
Speaker 3 (09:57):
I told you he his flight with the lady had
to spend New Year's Eve.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Way was that we sell it my birthday on January third?
You get the third. You don't need to eat? Got
the girl? Why ain't you listening to this letter?
Speaker 3 (10:15):
And at dinner he slid me his phone so I
could take a picture of us. While I had his phone,
his sister send him a photo that popped up on
his phone. It was a picture of him, his sister,
his mama, and a pretty woman.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
He said.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
The woman is his mom's hairstylist. Let's stop right there,
his mama's hairstyle. Now, listen to me. He forty two.
His mama is at minimum in her sixties, possibly seventies.
You know good Hell, well, her hairstylist ain't gonna be attractive. No, Mom,
(10:59):
she ain't the hairstylist. She work at the beauty shop.
She's been doing your mama hair. That press is set
for years now. That ain't fun. There are some very
attractive hairstylists. I must tell you this for a fact, Lord,
have mercy. Some of the finest people I've ever seen
have been hairstyled, but not your mama.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Half stylist. Your mama half stylist.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
Has been styling and doing her bangs for twenty seven years.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Your mama go to the beauty shop, you.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
Know her, her stylist, then kept you with her kids
before you know way, that woman in that picture ain't
no halfstylist. Oh yo, mama, he said, the woman is
in mama's hairstylist. That may be true, the hell that's true.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Why at her seventy year old mama go find this
young find.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
Her that even know how to do her habits. They
don't do hair like your mama.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Wearing no more fred her.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
They stopped doing that long time ago. But why did
they all have on matching pajamas? Cause you wear matching
pajamas at Christmas?
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Is she a relative?
Speaker 3 (12:21):
Now? He told you she wasn't a relative. He laughed
and said, no, they not related related When I'm fine,
you didn't hear that in the last.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Related This.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
All up in there with Jonas, I did decide that
he must be dating her, and he said, I'm making
up a big deal over matching pajamas they decided to
wear for Christmas. He keeps joking about it, But I
need answers. Am I being a fool? You're not only
being a fool. You've been a fool and you is
a fool.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
You know.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
That's the answer to that question right there. If you
need a therapist to have a boyfriend, you need to
get rid of the boyfriend so you hate, so you
quit going to therapy. If he loves you, he spends
special days with you. Holidays are for special people. Those
are the rules. You're not special. You're never going to
be special. And the special chick head on the matching pajamas,
(13:16):
the fine chick with the matching pajamas, that's where he
go every Christmas.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
That's who he wi you the side piece, Thank you
all I see. Thank the lady named Rufe that do
your mama hand.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, dating, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEHARBYFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
(00:20):
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it boy. You here it is oh Bury.
Let them subject?
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Why do they have matching pajamas?
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Why?
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Dear Stephen Shirley, I am writing to get your opinion
on a big issue I'm having with my boyfriend. We've
been together for three years and I haven't spent any
holidays with him and his family. He spends my birthdays
with me, but he's usually with his family when it's
his birthday. I know that if a man treats his
mother nicely, it's a sign of how he'll treat his woman,
(00:53):
but not in this case. I practically had to beg
him to meet his mom and sister. My therapist is
in fond of my boyfriend friend, and she thinks I
can do better, But I'm in love with him and
can't just toss him away. This Christmas, we exchanged gifts
early and he flew three hours away to be with
his family. We are both forty two years old, so
(01:14):
I hoped he'd grown up since last year and didn't
have to be up under his mother for Christmas. I
thought at the least he'd invite me to go with him,
but he didn't, and I had to go to my parents'
house along with my married brother and his family, and
my married baby sister and her husband. My man and
I barely got to spend New Year's Eve together because
(01:34):
his flight was delayed for three hours. We celebrated my
birthday on January third, and at dinner, he slid me
his phone so I could take a picture of us.
While I had his phone, his sister sent him a
photo that popped up on his phone. It was a
picture of him, his sister, his mama, and a pretty woman.
(01:57):
He said, the woman is his mom's hairstyle. That may
be true, but why didn't Why did they all have
unmatching pajamas? Is she a relative? That's what I asked him.
He laughed and said, no, they're not related. I then
decided that he must be dating her, And he said,
(02:18):
I'm making a big deal over matching pajamas they decided
to wear for Christmas. He keeps joking about it, but
I need answers. Am I being a fool? Well, you know,
I don't know. This is all crazy and it sounds
very strange to me. Sure it could have been a coincidence,
(02:40):
and she could have just happened to have some matching
pajamas in her purse when she went over their house,
but you got to know that this photo shoot was planned.
They've been in contact with this woman. He said she
wasn't a relative. So is she a good friend of
his mom's, this so called hairstylist, because she's very comfortable,
very familiar with the family and all of that. Very
(03:01):
comfortable to just be your mom's hairstylist. So you've really
got to look at this whole scenario. He never ever
spends holidays with you, never ever. He doesn't even invite
invite you to holidays, so you could turn him down.
But I'll say this, whether she's a hairstylist or not,
which we don't think she is, this sounds like a
(03:21):
classic case of a man who's living some sort of
double life here, and you're a major player in it.
You will continue to be just that until you do
something about it. You can't keep taking this from him.
It's easy to spend your birthday together because the whole
world isn't celebrating it celebrating it.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
It's just you guys.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Christmas and the other big holidays are, on the other hand,
are trickier, a lot trickier, because everyone in the world
is celebrating them at the same time. Families are together.
You know you're getting side piece treatment here. They never
get to spend the actual holiday with their man. It's
always the day before, the day after, or in your case,
(03:59):
January third, not January first like the wives. So after
three years, I'm gonna say this to you, three years
of this neglect, you should be pretty tired of it.
And just because you're in love with him doesn't mean
he's good for you.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Okay, Steve, lady, what is wrong with you? Why did
you write us? Why are we dealing with this?
Speaker 3 (04:27):
You say you're writing to get your opinion on a
big issue that you having with your boyfriend, and y'all
been together three years and you ain't spent a holiday
with him or his family. Let me tell you something.
Holidays are for special people. If a man loves you,
(04:49):
he's gonna be with you. All right, Cool, Now let's
move on. He spends my birthdays with me. So your
birthday it could be April twenty ninth, Well.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
That ain't nothing. July sixteenth, that ain't nothing.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
Now. I bet you if your birthday was December twenty fifth,
I bet he wouldn't be there. I bet if your
birthday was New Year's Eve, he wouldn't be there. See, lady,
you're ignoring and obvious. He's with his family for his birthdays.
I know, if a man treats his mother nicely, it's
(05:30):
a sign of how he'll treat his woman. But that's
not the case. It is the case you're just not
paying attention to. It's a sign of how he'll treat
his woman. I practically had to beg him to meet
his mom and sister. Yeah, so she let y'all meet.
Now here go to part that through it from me.
My therapist isn't fun of my boyfriend, fond of my boyfriend,
(05:52):
and thinks I could.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Do better well any time, and I've seen this.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Come on time. You need a therapist to date. You
don't need to get married because y'all ain't even in
therapeutical situations yet.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Y'all just date.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
If you date and need a therapist to date, this
relationship is doomed.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
You need a therapist to be your boy, Freddie girlfriend.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
Man. Please, this is a mess right here. So when
I come back, I just tell you the rest of it.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Cause all right, Steve? All right.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's strawberry letter subject
why do they have matching pajamas? We'll get back into
it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
You've heard us talk about the benefits of Globe Life insurance.
(07:00):
Globe Life has been protecting families for generations. Globe Life
is easy to buy, with rates starting as low as
three dollars and forty nine cents a month. There is
no medical exam, just a simple application. Call Globe Life
today at one eight hundred two five one fifty four hundred,
or visit globelifradio dot com again. That's one eight hundred
(07:20):
two five one fifty four hundred or Globelifradio dot com
all right. Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is why do they have matching pajamas?
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Well, she's dating this dude.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
She forty that both of them is forty two years old,
which is boyfriend girlfriend a little bit late for that.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
Uh, you've been.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
Together three years and you ain't spending no holidays with
him and his family. That's cause holidays is for special people.
He spends his birthdays with me. Well, that's just your
birthday could be any day. That ain't no special day.
It's just special to you, like Sureley said. But he's
usually with his family when it's his birthday. I know,
if a man treats his mother nicely, it's a sign
(08:00):
of how he treats his woman. But that's not the case. Yes,
it is the case. It's finish show up in your letter.
I practically had to beg him to meet his mom
and sister where you met him.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
You ain't been back over that since. Problem.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
Then you say, my therapist isn't fun of my boyfriendish
she thinks I could do better.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
If you need a.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Therapist to date, If you have to have therapy to date,
you're in this this don't have marriage rote on it nowhere,
because as I said earlier, you ain't even in a
therapeutical situation yet.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
You ain't even married therapeutical situation.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
You ain't even in that.
Speaker 3 (08:41):
You ain't ready to go, but you already there. I'm
leaving fool you here? Where you going so now? But
I'm in love with him and I can't just toss
him away. Okay, Well, this Christmas we exchange gifts early,
and he flew three hours away to be with his
family once again. Holidays is for special people. We are
(09:06):
both forty two years old, so I had hope listened
to this line that he'd grown up since last year
and didn't have to be up under his mother for Christmas.
Wait a minute, so at forty one he wasn't full grown.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Yet, that's what she's saying.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
Yes, you was hoping that at forty two he had
grown up and didn't have to be up under his
mother for Christmas. I thought, at the least he did
invite me to go with him, but he didn't, and
I had to go to my parents house along with
my married brother and his family, and my married baby
sister and her husband, my man, and that barely my
(09:47):
man and I barely got to be in New Year's
Eve together because his flight was delayed for three hours.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
Well that's what he told you.
Speaker 3 (09:57):
I told you he his flight with the lady had
to spend New Year's Eve.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Way was that we sell it my birthday on January third?
You get the third. You don't need to eat? Got
the girl? Why ain't you listening to this letter?
Speaker 3 (10:15):
And at dinner he slid me his phone so I
could take a picture of us. While I had his phone,
his sister send him a photo that popped up on
his phone. It was a picture of him, his sister,
his mama, and a pretty woman.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
He said.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
The woman is his mom's hairstylist. Let's stop right there,
his mama's hairstyle. Now, listen to me. He forty two.
His mama is at minimum in her sixties, possibly seventies.
You know good Hell, well, her hairstylist ain't gonna be attractive. No, Mom,
(10:59):
she ain't the hairstylist. She work at the beauty shop.
She's been doing your mama hair. That press is set
for years now. That ain't fun. There are some very
attractive hairstylists. I must tell you this for a fact, Lord,
have mercy. Some of the finest people I've ever seen
have been hairstyled, but not your mama.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Half stylist. Your mama half stylist.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
Has been styling and doing her bangs for twenty seven years.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Your mama go to the beauty shop, you.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
Know her, her stylist, then kept you with her kids
before you know way, that woman in that picture ain't
no halfstylist. Oh yo, mama, he said, the woman is
in mama's hairstylist. That may be true, the hell that's true.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Why at her seventy year old mama go find this
young find.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
Her that even know how to do her habits. They
don't do hair like your mama.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Wearing no more fred her.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
They stopped doing that long time ago. But why did
they all have on matching pajamas? Cause you wear matching
pajamas at Christmas?
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Is she a relative?
Speaker 3 (12:21):
Now? He told you she wasn't a relative. He laughed
and said, no, they not related related When I'm fine,
you didn't hear that in the last.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Related This.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
All up in there with Jonas, I did decide that
he must be dating her, and he said, I'm making
up a big deal over matching pajamas they decided to
wear for Christmas. He keeps joking about it, But I
need answers. Am I being a fool? You're not only
being a fool. You've been a fool and you is
a fool.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
You know.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
That's the answer to that question right there. If you
need a therapist to have a boyfriend, you need to
get rid of the boyfriend so you hate, so you
quit going to therapy. If he loves you, he spends
special days with you. Holidays are for special people. Those
are the rules. You're not special. You're never going to
be special. And the special chick head on the matching pajamas,
(13:16):
the fine chick with the matching pajamas, that's where he
go every Christmas.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
That's who he wi you the side piece, Thank you
all I see. Thank the lady named Rufe that do
your mama hand.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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Does hearing about a true crime case always leave you scouring the internet for the truth behind the story? Dive into your next mystery with Crime Junkie. Every Monday, join your host Ashley Flowers as she unravels all the details of infamous and underreported true crime cases with her best friend Brit Prawat. From cold cases to missing persons and heroes in our community who seek justice, Crime Junkie is your destination for theories and stories you won’t hear anywhere else. Whether you're a seasoned true crime enthusiast or new to the genre, you'll find yourself on the edge of your seat awaiting a new episode every Monday. If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people. Follow to join a community of Crime Junkies! Crime Junkie is presented by audiochuck Media Company.