April 1, 2022 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a very beautiful and buxom female in my mid forties and I’m divorced. My husband cheated on me with an acquaintance of mine that I let stay with us for 2 nights so her house could get painted. I was naïve and didn’t suspect anything even though I caught him coming out of the bathroom where she was taking a shower. He said he walked in by mistake. I found out right after that, when she confessed.............................
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, on sex, work, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com.
Click submit. That's all you have to do. Click click
submit letter, and we could be reading your letter live
on the air, just like we're going to read this
one right here, right now, all right, yours, you never know,
(00:24):
right everybody, it's time for the Strawberry Little Well, my
good friend Shirley Strawberry, thank you, junior subject. Let's make
a deal, Dear Stephen, Shirley, I'm a very beautiful and
bucksom female in my mid forty and I'm divorced. My
husband cheated on me with an acquaintance of mine that
that I let stay with us for two nights so
(00:46):
her house could get painted. I was naive and didn't
suspect anything, even though I caught him coming out of
the bathroom where she was taking a shower. He said
he walked in by mistake. I found out right after
that when she confessed. So now I've been single for
close to two years that married men and men with
(01:06):
girlfriends want to play with me on the side to
be honest. I'm still damaged from my divorce, so it
would be nice to have sex with no strings attached
with a decent man that's being honest about his situation.
I shared my thoughts with two of my good friends.
One is a man, and he advised me to get
something out of the situation. If a married guy wants
(01:27):
to want sex on the side, he suggested that I
tell the guy I want a deal. In quotes, the
deal can be anything that I want or need to
be happy with our arrangement, whether it's money or home
cooked me weekly massage. I love this concept, but when
I presented it to the black men that were really
trying to get into my bed, they laughed at the idea.
(01:50):
They said, an affair is just an affair. They don't
want to have to feed me or provide any financial
aid at all. One of my closest male friends that
I had sex with many years ago said that sex
is so free and open now that men are getting
in and out and moving on without ever calling the
woman again. I'm not ready for that, so I just
(02:13):
have to keep my goodies to myself. Okay, Am I
wrong to expect the cheater to make a deal? With
the cheaty Okay, what what is this all about? I mean,
this is a lot to unpack in this letter. First,
I have to commend you for leaving your raggedy husband.
What he did with your so called acquaintance in your
(02:33):
home and your shower was that was despicable. I mean
really really low down. He left you with a lot
of choices, and I should say not a lot of
choices in this marriage. So by leaving him, you know,
how could you ever trust him again? Anyway? You should
know that you deserve better, and I think you do.
(02:56):
He walked in the bathroom by mistake, he said, yeah, right,
stop lying. The acquaintance, confessed loser, told everything. I'm sure,
but now I think you are selling yourself short. You
said you're beautiful, you said you're a buxom woman, and
you're obviously a kind person because you let that trick
that was in the shower standing with you so her
(03:19):
house could get painted. You have to be nice because
you let her stay in the first place. So you know.
Now moving on to you wanting no strings attached this
kind of arrangement with these men out here, don't do that, Please,
don't do that. You don't want to do that, and
why you're not ready for that, you're still damaged Goods.
(03:39):
You said that in your letter you need to work
on yourself. Whether that means going to a therapist, going
to church, going to the gym, whatever that means, that's
what you need to do to work on yourself. I mean,
don't even consider this kind of deal hooking up with
these guys. It's like, this is not some sort of
game show. You're gonna lose if you do that because
you're not for this. You need something real. You're gonna
(04:03):
get hurt in these so called deals. These guys are
gonna be onto the next and you're gonna be the
one crying. You know, you said you wanted a decent man. Well,
I don't think a decent man would just want sex
from you. He will want you, you know, and he
will want to give you things because it makes you
happy and not because you guys have some sort of deal.
(04:25):
That's where your mind should be right now. I say, forgive,
work on yourself, hold out for the decent guy, that
right man that you want, who's going to treat you
the way you need to be treated. Steve, good answer, Shirley,
I agree with everything you said perfectly fine, Mom, a
little confused and let it all have us some questions
(04:46):
in it. A couple of things I know about me
and that I'll be able to point out. Dear Stephen Shirley,
I'm a very beautiful and bucksome female in my mid
forties and I'm divorced. Let me go back to the weird.
I'm very beautiful and buxhall. I'm a buxom female. For
(05:08):
those of you truck drivers and brothers out there that
have limited education as myself, let's explore the word bucksam.
That means I'm heavy, chesty, That means I'm luptuous. If
I'm wide rack, I'm i'm, I'm, I'm I'm I'm I'm
top heavy, I'm i'm, I'm blessed, I'm okay, I'm strong.
(05:36):
My headlights is on a high bean. We know what
it means. I just want I want to go over
with my brother says like me, Steve. You know, I'm Stevens.
Here for the real dudes out there, y'all got a
lot of truck driving, catch driving PEPs and coke trucks
and beer trucks and stuff, and you know, and we
got to be clear about what we're talking about. And
(05:59):
she got all that working in she mid forties and
she's very beautiful. Husband cheated on it because of an
acquaintance that she had. They stayed her two nights at
the house so her house could got painted, could get painted.
I was a knee. I was naive. Hit the line
that threw me off. It didn't suspect anything, even though
I called him coming out the bath room where she
(06:20):
was taking a shower. What yes, Yes, I was naive,
even though I called him coming out the bath room
where she was taking a shot. Boy, Come on, lady,
you trusted her. Man caught him coming out bath room
where one was taking a shot, And don't stay there.
One hold on, Hold on, hold on, hold on. We'll
(06:41):
have part two of your response. Steve coming up at
twenty three minutes to half to be our today's Strawberry
Letters subject Let's make a deal. We'll get back into
it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject let's make a deal. This beautiful bucks some
(07:04):
female We went over bucks on what that means? I
won't spend a lot of time on it. Just quickly though.
That's heavy chested, I louptuous, wide ragget, it's top heavy,
is blessed, high beam headlights. It's all of these things.
Glory to God. Or the reason we're not getting much
(07:28):
from our crowd here on the Morning show, it is
because they've heard all well, Shirley and Carlin have heard
all this before more than once, and probably familiar with
other terms. I haven't throwed out yet. Now there's a
quiet one on this shoulder, very very quiet through this
whole thing. So just move on and talking. I'm talking
(07:53):
about you, Junior. Praise him. And So my husband cheated
on me with an acquaintance of mine that she let
stay for two nights at a house while the house
is getting painted, and I was naive and didn't suspect anything.
Here's the line of lines from me, even though I
(08:14):
caught him coming out the bathroom where she was taking
a shower. You ain't naive, you stupid, he said, he
walked in by mistake, my dog. Well, that's the one
out of fact that you were naive and didn't know
it that I found out right after that because she confessed.
(08:37):
So she'd been singing now for two years, and she's
noticed that married men and men with girlfriends they want
to play with her on the side. And then you know,
then she says, she's still damaged from the divorce. Right,
And then she said it would be nice heal sex
with no strings attached with a decent man that's being
honest about his situation. That surely said don't do that,
(08:58):
and I would suggest you listen to surely. Here's where
I come in that I shared my thoughts with two
of my good friends. One is a man. He advised
me to get something out of the situation. If a
man guy wants sex on the side, he suggests that
I tell the guy I want to deal. The deal
(09:18):
could be anything that I want to need to be
happy with our arrangement, whether there's money or home cook
meal or weekly massage. I love this concept. Let me
back your fore her. This man, these couple of men
that's supposed to be your friend. This was not for
you to just take and run with him. He was
(09:42):
suggesting this for himself. Oh oh, but if he your friend,
he didn't want to proposition you like that, But he
was suggesting it for himself. He just needed to see
how you feel, because that's why y'all friends right now,
because you're beautiful and bucks him and he trying to
(10:04):
lay in the cut. He'd been waiting on this opportunity,
so when you came to him after two years of divorce,
this was a suggestion for him. Okay, okay, that's how
men work. Me and men, don't we not have any
conversations for nothing. We don't do nothing without purpose. Now,
the ladies, I loved this concept, but when I presented
(10:25):
it to the black men that were really trying to
get into my bed, they laughed at the idea. They said,
in the fans just in the fair and they wanted
and they don't want to have to feed to provide
me any financial aid at all. We can't go to Okay,
I understand that, but you're in your mid forties. This
(10:47):
is available almost everywhere. What men are you meeting now?
Listen to this part. One of my closest male friends
that I had sex with many years ago. I out
and told y'all about these damn men friends. Yeah, I
have talked y'all get off for stuck on stupid. We
(11:15):
are your friends only because now one of my closest
man friends that I had sex with many years ago,
said that sex is so free and open now that
men are getting in and out and moving on without
ever calling a woman again. And I'm not ready for
that now. The reason he told you that it's because
he had sex with you a long time ago. But
then you wouldn't get married. But you think he forgot
(11:35):
y'all hands sex? Huh? You think he forgot that? You
think when y'all sitting around, he don't remember having you? What? What? Man?
You talking to girls? Stop? So now he's set in
his hook. Sex so free and open now, men getting in,
(11:57):
out and moving on. You know that's why this was
a gestion from him. Yeah, when a man is giving
you advice and looking at you and talking to you,
he's looking for an opening. This was another sexist free
is open. They just do it a move on now.
Look now we'dn't done this before years ago. You just
(12:20):
come back and get it here. You can come get
you right here with me. Free open, let's thet dudelet's
get in and out. Got to cause nothing, that is
what this head. Then the ladies say, so, I've just
kept my goodies to myself. That's a good idea. Am
I wrong to expect the cheetah to make a deal
with the cheaty? Absolutely? Absolutely. They're called benefit packages. They
(12:44):
are available all over the place. There's the Bronze, the Silver,
the gold, and the Platinum package the Olympics. Yeah, learn
this from an old NBA guy. All right, all right, listen,
(13:07):
leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram. It's
Steve Harvey FM and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast
on demand. Coming up next, the Oscar slap. We'll talk
about it yet again. We've got some new intel right
after this. You're listening to this Dave Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, on sex, work, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com.
Click submit. That's all you have to do. Click click
submit letter, and we could be reading your letter live
on the air, just like we're going to read this
one right here, right now, all right, yours, you never know,
(00:24):
right everybody, it's time for the Strawberry Little Well, my
good friend Shirley Strawberry, thank you, junior subject. Let's make
a deal, Dear Stephen, Shirley, I'm a very beautiful and
bucksom female in my mid forty and I'm divorced. My
husband cheated on me with an acquaintance of mine that
that I let stay with us for two nights so
(00:46):
her house could get painted. I was naive and didn't
suspect anything, even though I caught him coming out of
the bathroom where she was taking a shower. He said
he walked in by mistake. I found out right after
that when she confessed. So now I've been single for
close to two years that married men and men with
(01:06):
girlfriends want to play with me on the side to
be honest. I'm still damaged from my divorce, so it
would be nice to have sex with no strings attached
with a decent man that's being honest about his situation.
I shared my thoughts with two of my good friends.
One is a man, and he advised me to get
something out of the situation. If a married guy wants
(01:27):
to want sex on the side, he suggested that I
tell the guy I want a deal. In quotes, the
deal can be anything that I want or need to
be happy with our arrangement, whether it's money or home
cooked me weekly massage. I love this concept, but when
I presented it to the black men that were really
trying to get into my bed, they laughed at the idea.
(01:50):
They said, an affair is just an affair. They don't
want to have to feed me or provide any financial
aid at all. One of my closest male friends that
I had sex with many years ago said that sex
is so free and open now that men are getting
in and out and moving on without ever calling the
woman again. I'm not ready for that, so I just
(02:13):
have to keep my goodies to myself. Okay, Am I
wrong to expect the cheater to make a deal? With
the cheaty Okay, what what is this all about? I mean,
this is a lot to unpack in this letter. First,
I have to commend you for leaving your raggedy husband.
What he did with your so called acquaintance in your
(02:33):
home and your shower was that was despicable. I mean
really really low down. He left you with a lot
of choices, and I should say not a lot of
choices in this marriage. So by leaving him, you know,
how could you ever trust him again? Anyway? You should
know that you deserve better, and I think you do.
(02:56):
He walked in the bathroom by mistake, he said, yeah, right,
stop lying. The acquaintance, confessed loser, told everything. I'm sure,
but now I think you are selling yourself short. You
said you're beautiful, you said you're a buxom woman, and
you're obviously a kind person because you let that trick
that was in the shower standing with you so her
(03:19):
house could get painted. You have to be nice because
you let her stay in the first place. So you know.
Now moving on to you wanting no strings attached this
kind of arrangement with these men out here, don't do that, Please,
don't do that. You don't want to do that, and
why you're not ready for that, you're still damaged Goods.
(03:39):
You said that in your letter you need to work
on yourself. Whether that means going to a therapist, going
to church, going to the gym, whatever that means, that's
what you need to do to work on yourself. I mean,
don't even consider this kind of deal hooking up with
these guys. It's like, this is not some sort of
game show. You're gonna lose if you do that because
you're not for this. You need something real. You're gonna
(04:03):
get hurt in these so called deals. These guys are
gonna be onto the next and you're gonna be the
one crying. You know, you said you wanted a decent man. Well,
I don't think a decent man would just want sex
from you. He will want you, you know, and he
will want to give you things because it makes you
happy and not because you guys have some sort of deal.
(04:25):
That's where your mind should be right now. I say, forgive,
work on yourself, hold out for the decent guy, that
right man that you want, who's going to treat you
the way you need to be treated. Steve, good answer, Shirley,
I agree with everything you said perfectly fine, Mom, a
little confused and let it all have us some questions
(04:46):
in it. A couple of things I know about me
and that I'll be able to point out. Dear Stephen Shirley,
I'm a very beautiful and bucksome female in my mid
forties and I'm divorced. Let me go back to the weird.
I'm very beautiful and buxhall. I'm a buxom female. For
(05:08):
those of you truck drivers and brothers out there that
have limited education as myself, let's explore the word bucksam.
That means I'm heavy, chesty, That means I'm luptuous. If
I'm wide rack, I'm i'm, I'm, I'm I'm I'm I'm
top heavy, I'm i'm, I'm blessed, I'm okay, I'm strong.
(05:36):
My headlights is on a high bean. We know what
it means. I just want I want to go over
with my brother says like me, Steve. You know, I'm Stevens.
Here for the real dudes out there, y'all got a
lot of truck driving, catch driving PEPs and coke trucks
and beer trucks and stuff, and you know, and we
got to be clear about what we're talking about. And
(05:59):
she got all that working in she mid forties and
she's very beautiful. Husband cheated on it because of an
acquaintance that she had. They stayed her two nights at
the house so her house could got painted, could get painted.
I was a knee. I was naive. Hit the line
that threw me off. It didn't suspect anything, even though
I called him coming out the bath room where she
(06:20):
was taking a shower. What yes, Yes, I was naive,
even though I called him coming out the bath room
where she was taking a shot. Boy, Come on, lady,
you trusted her. Man caught him coming out bath room
where one was taking a shot, And don't stay there.
One hold on, Hold on, hold on, hold on. We'll
(06:41):
have part two of your response. Steve coming up at
twenty three minutes to half to be our today's Strawberry
Letters subject Let's make a deal. We'll get back into
it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject let's make a deal. This beautiful bucks some
(07:04):
female We went over bucks on what that means? I
won't spend a lot of time on it. Just quickly though.
That's heavy chested, I louptuous, wide ragget, it's top heavy,
is blessed, high beam headlights. It's all of these things.
Glory to God. Or the reason we're not getting much
(07:28):
from our crowd here on the Morning show, it is
because they've heard all well, Shirley and Carlin have heard
all this before more than once, and probably familiar with
other terms. I haven't throwed out yet. Now there's a
quiet one on this shoulder, very very quiet through this
whole thing. So just move on and talking. I'm talking
(07:53):
about you, Junior. Praise him. And So my husband cheated
on me with an acquaintance of mine that she let
stay for two nights at a house while the house
is getting painted, and I was naive and didn't suspect anything.
Here's the line of lines from me, even though I
(08:14):
caught him coming out the bathroom where she was taking
a shower. You ain't naive, you stupid, he said, he
walked in by mistake, my dog. Well, that's the one
out of fact that you were naive and didn't know
it that I found out right after that because she confessed.
(08:37):
So she'd been singing now for two years, and she's
noticed that married men and men with girlfriends they want
to play with her on the side. And then you know,
then she says, she's still damaged from the divorce. Right,
And then she said it would be nice heal sex
with no strings attached with a decent man that's being
honest about his situation. That surely said don't do that,
(08:58):
and I would suggest you listen to surely. Here's where
I come in that I shared my thoughts with two
of my good friends. One is a man. He advised
me to get something out of the situation. If a
man guy wants sex on the side, he suggests that
I tell the guy I want to deal. The deal
(09:18):
could be anything that I want to need to be
happy with our arrangement, whether there's money or home cook
meal or weekly massage. I love this concept. Let me
back your fore her. This man, these couple of men
that's supposed to be your friend. This was not for
you to just take and run with him. He was
(09:42):
suggesting this for himself. Oh oh, but if he your friend,
he didn't want to proposition you like that, But he
was suggesting it for himself. He just needed to see
how you feel, because that's why y'all friends right now,
because you're beautiful and bucks him and he trying to
(10:04):
lay in the cut. He'd been waiting on this opportunity,
so when you came to him after two years of divorce,
this was a suggestion for him. Okay, okay, that's how
men work. Me and men, don't we not have any
conversations for nothing. We don't do nothing without purpose. Now,
the ladies, I loved this concept, but when I presented
(10:25):
it to the black men that were really trying to
get into my bed, they laughed at the idea. They said,
in the fans just in the fair and they wanted
and they don't want to have to feed to provide
me any financial aid at all. We can't go to Okay,
I understand that, but you're in your mid forties. This
(10:47):
is available almost everywhere. What men are you meeting now?
Listen to this part. One of my closest male friends
that I had sex with many years ago. I out
and told y'all about these damn men friends. Yeah, I
have talked y'all get off for stuck on stupid. We
(11:15):
are your friends only because now one of my closest
man friends that I had sex with many years ago,
said that sex is so free and open now that
men are getting in and out and moving on without
ever calling a woman again. And I'm not ready for
that now. The reason he told you that it's because
he had sex with you a long time ago. But
then you wouldn't get married. But you think he forgot
(11:35):
y'all hands sex? Huh? You think he forgot that? You
think when y'all sitting around, he don't remember having you? What? What? Man?
You talking to girls? Stop? So now he's set in
his hook. Sex so free and open now, men getting in,
(11:57):
out and moving on. You know that's why this was
a gestion from him. Yeah, when a man is giving
you advice and looking at you and talking to you,
he's looking for an opening. This was another sexist free
is open. They just do it a move on now.
Look now we'dn't done this before years ago. You just
(12:20):
come back and get it here. You can come get
you right here with me. Free open, let's thet dudelet's
get in and out. Got to cause nothing, that is
what this head. Then the ladies say, so, I've just
kept my goodies to myself. That's a good idea. Am
I wrong to expect the cheetah to make a deal
with the cheaty? Absolutely? Absolutely. They're called benefit packages. They
(12:44):
are available all over the place. There's the Bronze, the Silver,
the gold, and the Platinum package the Olympics. Yeah, learn
this from an old NBA guy. All right, all right, listen,
(13:07):
leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram. It's
Steve Harvey FM and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast
on demand. Coming up next, the Oscar slap. We'll talk
about it yet again. We've got some new intel right
after this. You're listening to this Dave Harvey Morning Show
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