May 2, 2022 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a wife, mother and businesswoman. I have known my husband for 13 years and we’ve been married for 10 years. In the beginning, he was the popular one and I was the wallflower. He would walk into a room and everyone was dying to talk to him. Now that the tables have turned, he’s become messy and he starts mess in our family and amongst his friends..............
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Well, right before we get into the Strawberry letter, I
have to tell you you know this Mother's Day is
coming this Sunday, and I have a special treat for you,
introducing my brand new candle line. It's called the Love Collection,
the Love Collection, and it's just in time for Mother's
Day this Sunday. If you're in the Atlanta area, please
join me this Saturday, May seven in Atlanta's Phipps Plaza
(00:25):
at a store called Mergeco, right upstairs from the Gucci store,
right across from Nordstrom in Phipps Plaza. Mergeco is a
black owned company, like I said, located directly above the
Gucci store. I will see you there this Saturday one
to four pm. Please come have some fun meet me.
I'd love to meet you. And thanks to everyone who's
(00:48):
already ordered my candles. Thank you so much. You've gone
to Love Shirley Strawberry dot com the website and ordered
your candles and they are on the way. Thank you
so much. I'm so appreciative and so humble um by
all of this, but thank you, and I'll see you
Saturday in Atlanta. I think it's a great business for you.
I support all team members business ideas. So as you
(01:10):
come on the air with them, your leader has you.
You have your leaders one thousand percent support, Thank God.
Than appreciate it, Appreciate everything, you know everything. Appreciate ep
and Tommy's new show. I guess fine, your candaby, you
(01:34):
can keep that. I'm just fifty. That's all. Well, thank you.
I'm honored. Yeah, because you've been with me so long, Shill,
I gotta give you a chance. You know it's my
first right, thank you. All right, It is time now
for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need advice and relationships, work, sex, parenting,
(01:54):
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey
f M dot com. All you have to do is
click the mit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air papap just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now, to be yours.
You never know, you never know, fuck up and hold
on tight. We got it for you. Here it is
Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject. I'm married to a
(02:16):
messy Mitch. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a wife, mother and businesswoman.
I have known my husband for thirteen years and we've
been married for ten years. In the beginning, he was
a popular one and I was a wallflower. He would
walk into a room and everyone was dying to talk
to him. Now that the tables have turned, he's become messy,
(02:37):
and he starts mess in our family and amongst his friends.
I can't say that he's a gossiper because everything he
says is true, but he just shouldn't repeat what I
tell him. Things took a shift in our relationship when
he made some bad business decisions and a few of
our friends were involved, which caused them to lose a
lot of money. We lost money as well. At the time,
(02:59):
I got a promotion at work and I was able
to step in and get us back on track financially.
While he served six months on house arrest. There were
four couples involved in his downfall, and only two of
the guys involved have forgiven him and are working on
rebuilding a friendship with him. I may be wrong for
going behind his back and talking to them on his behalf,
(03:22):
but I didn't want to see him depressed, broke, and friendless.
I told my husband exactly how they felt and how
they really didn't want to be around him. But they'd
give it a try. We had a small party for
my fortieth birthday and the friends group came. The couples
talked to each other and kind of shunned my husband,
so he felt some kind of way because it was
(03:44):
at our house. He went off on them and said
everything I had told him, word for word. He's a
messy mitch, and he thinks it's okay to talk crazy
to these people. He told my sister some things I
said about her, and now we're not talking. I can't
if I can't confide in my husband. Is our marriage over? Well?
(04:06):
I don't necessarily think your marriage is over. No, I
don't think that. I think you did leave a whole
lot of stuff out of this letter. What did your
husband do? You didn't tell us that? And by the way,
please stop talking, Just stop talking right now. Your husband
can't hold other people's money, obviously, and he can't hold water.
He keeps telling people what you said. He's supposed to
(04:28):
keep that private. Everyone in this letter is messy and
your husband is the worst. You left out exactly what
he did, like I said, but it has to be
something pretty bad because he had to do six months
of house arrest The thing is he doesn't seem to
have learned his lesson. That's the thing. He's still being
a mess after whatever he did with his friend's money.
(04:51):
But I guess it's hard to go from being the man,
like you said, when he walked in a room, everybody
was just clamoring to talk to him, And now you
know they ignore him or shun him, even in his
own house. So that's got to be a blow to
his ego and everything. And I say he didn't learn
humility during his house arrest. He needs to be trying
to figure out how to pay these people back his
(05:13):
money and to get his friends back, but they still
might not want to be his friends because too much
damage has already been done. I don't think your marriage
is over, to answer your question, but it is in
trouble right now because your husband can't seem to get
it together. He's all over the place. He's all over
the place trying, you knows, And it doesn't sound like
(05:34):
he's even trying to fix the situation with the friends money.
Maybe he just lost it for good or whatever. But
I think that's a good place to start if he
wants to try and rebuild his relationships. Steve, Well, it's
a lot in this letter, but this letter, I'm married
to a messy mitch. I think you're married to a
(05:57):
guy that's very accustomed to being the one, and it's
uncomfortable when he's not in the one position and is
willing to do anything to get back to the one position.
That's what you have here, young lady, being married to
the guy thirteen he used to walk in the room,
and everybody's dying to talk to him. Not a table
turn stars, messing out family amongst his friends. I can't
(06:20):
say he's a gospel because everything he says it's true, well,
not quite everything. Oh he's a big lie. Oh I
don't know how you think. And everything he says true. Oh, well,
we come back. We're gonna find out why his ass
had that ankle. Braceley, don't at what we've been to
find a right after all right, we'll let part two
(06:44):
of Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes after
today's Strawberry Letter subject I'm married to a methy Mitch.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening,
all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letter
and finish up if your respond subject, I'm married to
a messy mitch. Absolutely, here we go. This woman's been
(07:06):
married to this man for thirteen years. He used to
be the guy he walked into a room and all
heads would turn, everybody wanted to talk to him. She
was just a wallflower. Well things have turned now and
he's messy. He starts messing the family and amongst his friends.
Then she makes the unbelievable statement, I can't say that
he's a gossiper because everything he says it is true. Well,
(07:28):
we're talking about a man who was soon to be
on house arresting, so I don't know how everything he
says true. He lied to somebody, Well let's find out,
but he shouldn't repeat what I tell him. That's true.
Things took a shift in our relationship when he made
some bad business decisions and a few of our friends
were involved, which caused them to lose a lot of money.
(07:49):
We lost money as well. Well, I'm gonna tell you
something right here. You lost all them, friend, you can quit.
You're gonna try in this letter to put them back together.
But once I lose a lot of money with you
in your asses or him, I don't give it damn
how much of yours you lost. I'm not concerned about that.
It's that hundred thousand I gave your ass see all
(08:09):
fifty thousand or twenty five thousand, whatever, whatever the little
group cut was. I don't know how big the deal was,
but they don't give a damn how much he lost.
They lost money at the time. You got a promotion
and what you was able to step in and get
us back on track financially. While he served six months
on house arrest. That were four couples involved in his downfall,
(08:32):
and only two of the guys involved have forgiven him
and are working on rebuilding a friendship with him. This
ain't gonna work. All they try to do is cozy
back up till they get their money back. Ain'tybody feel
to be friends with you again? Folk? Couples involved house
arrest six months ain't colbracially see Shirley says she don't
know what he could have did. I'm telling you right
now this was some type of real estate Ponzi scheme,
(08:55):
because that was actually something what you call tangible involved
and it just didn't work out. But the way he
phrased it made it look like it was more than
it could be. Thus the money got lost, but it
was a tangible asset involved, which is why he was
on house arrest. How do I know this type of stuff? Yeah?
(09:20):
How because I have a colorful pass with several friends
that have done everything from murder all the way down
to fourth degree misdemeanors. I have people I know who've
done all of the above. Anyway, let's move on. I
may be wrong for going behind his back and talking
(09:41):
to them on his behalf, but I didn't want to
see him depressed and broken friends. And she'd went back
trying to put her and put her little friends back together. Right.
I told my husband exactly how they felt and how
they really didn't want to be around him, but they'd
give it a try. See, they don't want to be
round it because he lied. See all that stuff you
said up in the thing, but he ain't a gospel.
But everything he said is true. He lied to get
(10:04):
their money. He lied about the results, he lied about
the potential earning, and he lied about when and how
they was gonna get it. So now this this ain't
gonna work. We had a small party for my forty
and the friends group came. The couples talk to each
other and kind of shunned my husband. So he felt
(10:25):
some kind of way because it was at our house. Yeah,
I ain't mad at him. You over here, you talking
to everybody, but you ain't talking to me. I'm sitting
them to get down. Ankle break it on. See, that's
what that's what it was. Because anybody want to go
over there, because you don't know how the ankle break it.
But you can hear if you get too close to
the door. You came a little bit. Yeah, you can
hear him. You can hear. You can hear now he
(10:48):
can feel it. But see y'all living and now he
shunned at the house. And then he went off on him,
and then he said everything I told him word for word.
He's a messy mitch, which ain't what you want to say.
And he thinks it's okay to talk crazy to these people.
You also told my sisters some things I said about her.
Now we ain't talking. If I can't confide to my
(11:09):
husband's our marriage over pretty much. But your marriage is
over because of that damn ankle. Brace y'all can't go
nowhere hard to go to dinner with somebody got an
ankle bracelet and I'm gonna tell you something else too.
Let me tell you something. You ain't been to talk
to me crazy, and you're ass sitting up there with
this damn moniting device on your damn ankle. You ain't
(11:31):
been talking to me crazy, because all we gotta do,
I'll take this whole argument out on the porch and
put your ass any media situation. If I walk down
to the sidewalk, what you're gonna do? You can't chase me, boy,
You're asking me double over in pain you try to
chase me that ankle monitor sitting up being a house
of rest, house of rests ain't fun. You ain't been
(11:52):
to dinner nowhere with him in six months. It's hard
to have sex with that ankle bracelet on. You got
your legs all cut up on the side and everything.
This is hard sitting up in here. Man, he had
run real estate Ponzi skin now his ass mad at
everybody donna come in my house. Y'all ain't gonna come
(12:13):
up in my house and not talk to me. You
over there with an ankle bracelet on, We ain't we
really even supposed to be here? Got quiet as this colt.
I've been on approbation for twenty years. I'm not allowed
to be around nobody with a record fell in the
off weapon. Me and your ass really ain't even supposed
(12:33):
to be in the same damn room quiet as his colt?
What are you gonna do? He gonna call the police? What?
I'd walked over there and slapped him a boy, my money?
What are you gonna do? What are you gonna do
at the party? You kind of slapped him about my cut?
What are you gonna do? You got on an ankle bracelet?
(12:56):
All right? Thank you? Steve. Hit us up on Instagram
at Steve Harvey F Strawberry Letter. You can also check
out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now. Coming up
next it is Junior and Sports. Right after this, you're
listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show
Well, right before we get into the Strawberry letter, I
have to tell you you know this Mother's Day is
coming this Sunday, and I have a special treat for you,
introducing my brand new candle line. It's called the Love Collection,
the Love Collection, and it's just in time for Mother's
Day this Sunday. If you're in the Atlanta area, please
join me this Saturday, May seven in Atlanta's Phipps Plaza
(00:25):
at a store called Mergeco, right upstairs from the Gucci store,
right across from Nordstrom in Phipps Plaza. Mergeco is a
black owned company, like I said, located directly above the
Gucci store. I will see you there this Saturday one
to four pm. Please come have some fun meet me.
I'd love to meet you. And thanks to everyone who's
(00:48):
already ordered my candles. Thank you so much. You've gone
to Love Shirley Strawberry dot com the website and ordered
your candles and they are on the way. Thank you
so much. I'm so appreciative and so humble um by
all of this, but thank you, and I'll see you
Saturday in Atlanta. I think it's a great business for you.
I support all team members business ideas. So as you
(01:10):
come on the air with them, your leader has you.
You have your leaders one thousand percent support, Thank God.
Than appreciate it, Appreciate everything, you know everything. Appreciate ep
and Tommy's new show. I guess fine, your candaby, you
(01:34):
can keep that. I'm just fifty. That's all. Well, thank you.
I'm honored. Yeah, because you've been with me so long, Shill,
I gotta give you a chance. You know it's my
first right, thank you. All right, It is time now
for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need advice and relationships, work, sex, parenting,
(01:54):
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey
f M dot com. All you have to do is
click the mit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air papap just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now, to be yours.
You never know, you never know, fuck up and hold
on tight. We got it for you. Here it is
Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject. I'm married to a
(02:16):
messy Mitch. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a wife, mother and businesswoman.
I have known my husband for thirteen years and we've
been married for ten years. In the beginning, he was
a popular one and I was a wallflower. He would
walk into a room and everyone was dying to talk
to him. Now that the tables have turned, he's become messy,
(02:37):
and he starts mess in our family and amongst his friends.
I can't say that he's a gossiper because everything he
says is true, but he just shouldn't repeat what I
tell him. Things took a shift in our relationship when
he made some bad business decisions and a few of
our friends were involved, which caused them to lose a
lot of money. We lost money as well. At the time,
(02:59):
I got a promotion at work and I was able
to step in and get us back on track financially.
While he served six months on house arrest. There were
four couples involved in his downfall, and only two of
the guys involved have forgiven him and are working on
rebuilding a friendship with him. I may be wrong for
going behind his back and talking to them on his behalf,
(03:22):
but I didn't want to see him depressed, broke, and friendless.
I told my husband exactly how they felt and how
they really didn't want to be around him. But they'd
give it a try. We had a small party for
my fortieth birthday and the friends group came. The couples
talked to each other and kind of shunned my husband,
so he felt some kind of way because it was
(03:44):
at our house. He went off on them and said
everything I had told him, word for word. He's a
messy mitch, and he thinks it's okay to talk crazy
to these people. He told my sister some things I
said about her, and now we're not talking. I can't
if I can't confide in my husband. Is our marriage over? Well?
(04:06):
I don't necessarily think your marriage is over. No, I
don't think that. I think you did leave a whole
lot of stuff out of this letter. What did your
husband do? You didn't tell us that? And by the way,
please stop talking, Just stop talking right now. Your husband
can't hold other people's money, obviously, and he can't hold water.
He keeps telling people what you said. He's supposed to
(04:28):
keep that private. Everyone in this letter is messy and
your husband is the worst. You left out exactly what
he did, like I said, but it has to be
something pretty bad because he had to do six months
of house arrest The thing is he doesn't seem to
have learned his lesson. That's the thing. He's still being
a mess after whatever he did with his friend's money.
(04:51):
But I guess it's hard to go from being the man,
like you said, when he walked in a room, everybody
was just clamoring to talk to him, And now you
know they ignore him or shun him, even in his
own house. So that's got to be a blow to
his ego and everything. And I say he didn't learn
humility during his house arrest. He needs to be trying
to figure out how to pay these people back his
(05:13):
money and to get his friends back, but they still
might not want to be his friends because too much
damage has already been done. I don't think your marriage
is over, to answer your question, but it is in
trouble right now because your husband can't seem to get
it together. He's all over the place. He's all over
the place trying, you knows, And it doesn't sound like
(05:34):
he's even trying to fix the situation with the friends money.
Maybe he just lost it for good or whatever. But
I think that's a good place to start if he
wants to try and rebuild his relationships. Steve, Well, it's
a lot in this letter, but this letter, I'm married
to a messy mitch. I think you're married to a
(05:57):
guy that's very accustomed to being the one, and it's
uncomfortable when he's not in the one position and is
willing to do anything to get back to the one position.
That's what you have here, young lady, being married to
the guy thirteen he used to walk in the room,
and everybody's dying to talk to him. Not a table
turn stars, messing out family amongst his friends. I can't
(06:20):
say he's a gospel because everything he says it's true, well,
not quite everything. Oh he's a big lie. Oh I
don't know how you think. And everything he says true. Oh, well,
we come back. We're gonna find out why his ass
had that ankle. Braceley, don't at what we've been to
find a right after all right, we'll let part two
(06:44):
of Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes after
today's Strawberry Letter subject I'm married to a methy Mitch.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening,
all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letter
and finish up if your respond subject, I'm married to
a messy mitch. Absolutely, here we go. This woman's been
(07:06):
married to this man for thirteen years. He used to
be the guy he walked into a room and all
heads would turn, everybody wanted to talk to him. She
was just a wallflower. Well things have turned now and
he's messy. He starts messing the family and amongst his friends.
Then she makes the unbelievable statement, I can't say that
he's a gossiper because everything he says it is true. Well,
(07:28):
we're talking about a man who was soon to be
on house arresting, so I don't know how everything he
says true. He lied to somebody, Well let's find out,
but he shouldn't repeat what I tell him. That's true.
Things took a shift in our relationship when he made
some bad business decisions and a few of our friends
were involved, which caused them to lose a lot of money.
(07:49):
We lost money as well. Well, I'm gonna tell you
something right here. You lost all them, friend, you can quit.
You're gonna try in this letter to put them back together.
But once I lose a lot of money with you
in your asses or him, I don't give it damn
how much of yours you lost. I'm not concerned about that.
It's that hundred thousand I gave your ass see all
(08:09):
fifty thousand or twenty five thousand, whatever, whatever the little
group cut was. I don't know how big the deal was,
but they don't give a damn how much he lost.
They lost money at the time. You got a promotion
and what you was able to step in and get
us back on track financially. While he served six months
on house arrest. That were four couples involved in his downfall,
(08:32):
and only two of the guys involved have forgiven him
and are working on rebuilding a friendship with him. This
ain't gonna work. All they try to do is cozy
back up till they get their money back. Ain'tybody feel
to be friends with you again? Folk? Couples involved house
arrest six months ain't colbracially see Shirley says she don't
know what he could have did. I'm telling you right
now this was some type of real estate Ponzi scheme,
(08:55):
because that was actually something what you call tangible involved
and it just didn't work out. But the way he
phrased it made it look like it was more than
it could be. Thus the money got lost, but it
was a tangible asset involved, which is why he was
on house arrest. How do I know this type of stuff? Yeah?
(09:20):
How because I have a colorful pass with several friends
that have done everything from murder all the way down
to fourth degree misdemeanors. I have people I know who've
done all of the above. Anyway, let's move on. I
may be wrong for going behind his back and talking
(09:41):
to them on his behalf, but I didn't want to
see him depressed and broken friends. And she'd went back
trying to put her and put her little friends back together. Right.
I told my husband exactly how they felt and how
they really didn't want to be around him, but they'd
give it a try. See, they don't want to be
round it because he lied. See all that stuff you
said up in the thing, but he ain't a gospel.
But everything he said is true. He lied to get
(10:04):
their money. He lied about the results, he lied about
the potential earning, and he lied about when and how
they was gonna get it. So now this this ain't
gonna work. We had a small party for my forty
and the friends group came. The couples talk to each
other and kind of shunned my husband. So he felt
(10:25):
some kind of way because it was at our house. Yeah,
I ain't mad at him. You over here, you talking
to everybody, but you ain't talking to me. I'm sitting
them to get down. Ankle break it on. See, that's
what that's what it was. Because anybody want to go
over there, because you don't know how the ankle break it.
But you can hear if you get too close to
the door. You came a little bit. Yeah, you can
hear him. You can hear. You can hear now he
(10:48):
can feel it. But see y'all living and now he
shunned at the house. And then he went off on him,
and then he said everything I told him word for word.
He's a messy mitch, which ain't what you want to say.
And he thinks it's okay to talk crazy to these people.
You also told my sisters some things I said about her.
Now we ain't talking. If I can't confide to my
(11:09):
husband's our marriage over pretty much. But your marriage is
over because of that damn ankle. Brace y'all can't go
nowhere hard to go to dinner with somebody got an
ankle bracelet and I'm gonna tell you something else too.
Let me tell you something. You ain't been to talk
to me crazy, and you're ass sitting up there with
this damn moniting device on your damn ankle. You ain't
(11:31):
been talking to me crazy, because all we gotta do,
I'll take this whole argument out on the porch and
put your ass any media situation. If I walk down
to the sidewalk, what you're gonna do? You can't chase me, boy,
You're asking me double over in pain you try to
chase me that ankle monitor sitting up being a house
of rest, house of rests ain't fun. You ain't been
(11:52):
to dinner nowhere with him in six months. It's hard
to have sex with that ankle bracelet on. You got
your legs all cut up on the side and everything.
This is hard sitting up in here. Man, he had
run real estate Ponzi skin now his ass mad at
everybody donna come in my house. Y'all ain't gonna come
(12:13):
up in my house and not talk to me. You
over there with an ankle bracelet on, We ain't we
really even supposed to be here? Got quiet as this colt.
I've been on approbation for twenty years. I'm not allowed
to be around nobody with a record fell in the
off weapon. Me and your ass really ain't even supposed
(12:33):
to be in the same damn room quiet as his colt?
What are you gonna do? He gonna call the police? What?
I'd walked over there and slapped him a boy, my money?
What are you gonna do? What are you gonna do
at the party? You kind of slapped him about my cut?
What are you gonna do? You got on an ankle bracelet?
(12:56):
All right? Thank you? Steve. Hit us up on Instagram
at Steve Harvey F Strawberry Letter. You can also check
out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now. Coming up
next it is Junior and Sports. Right after this, you're
listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show
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