June 1, 2022 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 59 year old mother of 2 grown sons and I pride myself on how well I raised them by myself. They both are educated with great jobs. My oldest son is married and he has a baby on the way with his wife. My youngest son is 29 and he is trying to send me to an early grave. When I was raising my boys, I had a village of strong women to help me..........................................
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It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.
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please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
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(00:25):
love and hold on tight. We got it for you. Here.
It is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. The Candy Lady
is the subject. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a fifty nine
year old mother of two grown sons, and I pride
myself on how well I raised them by myself. They
both are educated and have great jobs. My oldest son
is married and he is a baby on the way
(00:46):
with his wife. My youngest son is twenty nine and
he is trying to send me to an early grave.
When I was raising my boys, I had a village
of strong women to help me. One of my nearest
and dearest friends helped me the most, and my son's
love to call her the candy Lady because she always
had some kind of candy in her purse. She never
(01:08):
had children and never got married, but they never saw
her go through all of the men and the drama
in her life. Up until twenty twenty, she was in
an eleven year relationship with this married man. After they
broke up, she was very depressed, and I did all
I could to snap her out of it. I even
sent my twenty nine year old son over to change
(01:30):
her locks to prevent the married man from creeping back
into her life. She called me a few days after
that and said she was getting her life back on
track and my son was going to teach her how
to play tennis. I thought that a hobby would be helpful.
Little did I know she and my son have been
seeing each other for over a year. He's been living
(01:51):
with her for a while, and he won't tell me
how or why it all happened. He came to me
last week and said he wanted to tell me something.
Before he told me, he said there is nothing I
can do about it. He told me that I shouldn't
be upset with my friend because age doesn't matter, and
he called her his soul mate. The candy lady that
(02:12):
I know has had over a hundred soul mate over
the year. I don't want my son with this old
half of Is there anything I can do to break
up my son and the candy lady? Wow? First of all,
I mean this is one of those, you know, ultimate
betrayal type situations because she knows better that she's your age.
(02:33):
You say, you're fifty nine and she's you know, doing
your twenty nine year old son. Yeah, this, she went
behind your back. Basically, you know you guys are supposed
to be friends. She knows your son was off limits.
And here's what you know. You already know. There is
nothing you can do about this. I mean, as a mother,
(02:54):
I know you don't want this for your son. You
do not like them together. This woman is your friend,
and so you know all her business, and you don't
think she's good enough for your son. You know what
she's been through, all the men, the married men for
eleven years that she was with. All you're doing is
looking out for your son. At this point, you think
she's way too old, as you mentioned in the letter,
(03:16):
for your twenty nine year old son, and that she
has too much baggage. There's nothing wrong with how you feel.
But here's the other thing. They are both grown. They
are both consenting adults. I guess around fifty nine. He's
twenty nine. He never even told you how this happened
or came about, but you know he was over there
and she probably you know, seduced him, and they want
(03:39):
each other right now, that's what they do. They're grown,
like I said, consenting, free to do whatever they want,
and what they want is each other. They already lived together,
so basically your hands are tied. He's been with her
for a whole year. Sometimes you just gotta pray, let
it go, give it to God. This relationship and all
(04:00):
that comes with a good or bad it is called
life experience for your son. You're trying to stop that,
but you know it's not a lot you can do
at this point. I wish you the best, but I
don't see anything you can do at this point. Steve, Well,
Candy Lady, Candy Lady friend, little Candy Boy, have or
(04:31):
take on this letter that is going to shock or
Paul and really just be upsetting to So before I
get into this letter, I want to say that I
personally stand by everything I'm about to say. I have
no reason to apologize. I am not asking you to
(04:53):
agree with me. As a matter of fact, I DC
be clear about that. Oh, I don't care. I don't care.
I DC. I'm gonna create my own emojis online. Yah,
w y D. I got a new one, I DC
because I really be wanting to text that most of
(05:15):
the time when I'm texting. So that's the new one.
I DC stands for I don't care, I wish I'm
gonna start texting me save me a lot of texting.
All right, let me tell you that this fifty nine
year old mother, these two grown sons, Now here's a
lot of word. I I'm proud of single mothers that
raise their children. I really am, and I think you
do a great job. But I keep telling y'all. You
(05:37):
can raise these boys to be good citizens. You can
raise them to be gentlemen. You can really raise them
to be God fearing. You can raise them to obey
the law. You can raise them a lot of weight.
You can't make them men. I don't care what you do.
You can't make them men. The how they decide to
be as men. It's gonna have a lot to do
(05:59):
with another man. Now, you can instial a lot of
the great qualities of a man in y, but when
it's time to be a man, he has to stand alone.
Your oldest son is married, he got a baby on
his way. Your youngest son twenty nine. He trying to
send you to an early grade. See you mad because
one of your knees and dearest friends helped me the most.
(06:20):
And my son's love to call her the candy lady.
She's been a candy lady for a long time. You
got the title of this letter, right, And when I
come back, I'm gonna tell you how much candy the
lady has been passing out and for how long? And
who all are handy candy? All right? Hang on, Steve,
(06:43):
Part two of your responses coming up at twenty three
minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter, subject the Candy Lady.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
Morning show, All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's
strawberry letter. The sub the candy Lady. Well, this fifty
(07:03):
nine year old woman raised her two sons, did a
great job and steal a lot of values in him.
One of her sons is married to a baby on
the way. The oldest son very proud of him, and
then she's having some trouble with the youngest one. He
is twenty nine. He trying to send her to an
early grave. He said, well, let's get into this. Then,
(07:27):
she said, when I was raising my boys, I had
a village of strong women to help me that needed
to be a man in now. But no problem. Women
do a great job being mothers and single mothers, and
they've done great job raising some boys and some some
some young men that turned out just fine. But the
(07:50):
job of a man who has to fall squarely on
the shoulders of another man, I can't teach my daughters
how to be women. I don't care how much I
talked to him. It's just too much about that. I
don't know. And so it is with manhood. But you
did a good job. Now. One of your knars and
dear friends helped you the most. And my son loved
to call her the Candy League because she always had
(08:13):
some kind of candy in her purse. We'll get into
that in a minute. She never had children, never got married,
but they never saw her go through all the men
and the drama in her life up until twenty twenty. Now,
this woman, candy Lady, was in eleven year relationship with
this married man. After they broke up, she was depressed
(08:36):
and I did all I could to snap out of it.
And now here's what you do. You'll sit the twenty
nine year old boy yours over there to change her
locks to prevent the married man from creeping back into
her life. She called me a few days later after
that and says she was getting her life back on
(08:57):
track on her son was gonna teach her how to
play tennis. I thought that a hobby would be healthy.
Little did I know she and my son have been
seeing each other for over a year. He'd been living
with for a while, and he won't even tell me
how a wild I have that? Heyb you any gray?
(09:21):
Before I finished crying, let me tell you what happened.
He went over the candy lady house. Candy Lady turned
into the cookie lady. See you can't you can't keep
passing out candy to grown ass men. See it ain't
(09:44):
candy for me. No more cake pie cookies. I like
cookies because they easy to get to. Now here's your problem.
He won't tell me how wild all happened. So then
he came to me last week. He be living with
(10:11):
her for a while, and he won't to help me.
Why oh it all happened? No, surely you can't stop me.
I've been doing this now for my whole life, and
you're trying to help her. I sit my son over
there and help her get herself together and change the
locks on this bouncer. Don't come back up in there,
and then she gonna set up in and just stop
(10:33):
passing out. Can all of a sudden she doesn't give
it out cooking over there, and he's stupid. He'd have
got hold of something. There's a whole ass cooking and
now they cooking. What he doing? He don't even know
what he doing over there. He came to me last week.
He told me he wanted to tell me, so, I'm
try to tell you the story down its rolling to
(10:54):
tell me so. But before he told me, he told
me what not do about it? You're gonna come and
tell me something, and then you're gonna tell me. Ain't
that like doing about why you're telling me? Boy? I
want to do something about it. I want to help
my hearn about this old hell. And she didn't put
(11:15):
it on this sheet up put it on me. Yeah,
that dude' put it all that is good and all
and good as experience. I know what she did to him.
But then he gonna tell me I should be I'm saying,
you see me crying, you'll see me crying, you'll tell me.
I'm saying, you'll tell me how to be. Don't come
in here and tell me you're screwing this whole heaven.
(11:37):
Then I ain't supposed to be able to say because
and he gonna tell me I shouldn't be upset. Coach,
my friend, coach, age don't matter. This old helpful and
as you talking about age don't matter. She thirty years old.
And I know good where y'all want know? Kid, she
(12:00):
can't o, kid, she can't hand over. She could ask
some medicare what she can have. And then and then
he gonna call her his soul mate. I wanted to say,
you're stupid bout this candid lad that I don't have
had a hundred soul mates over the year. She had
screwed all these men, and now you just one of them.
(12:23):
Now you a hundred and one, You like a puppet.
Now you wanted a water in one damnation? I I
want myself. And then the whole album is anything I
can do to break up my thirty ladies? Yes, there
is something you can do, and I want to tell
you and I've been too differently. There's nothing you can
(12:44):
do here. It is, and I'm letting that a close out.
You gonna have to go over there and jump on them.
Thank you all for listening, Leave your comments on Instagram,
(13:06):
at Steve Harvey FM and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast.
I'll know how to fight. You still be free if
we sixty, We used to do that all the time.
Coming up next, it is Sports Talk with Junior. Right
after this, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.
If you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
by clicking submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, And you never know,
it could be yours. That's right, it could be Buckle
(00:25):
love and hold on tight. We got it for you. Here.
It is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. The Candy Lady
is the subject. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a fifty nine
year old mother of two grown sons, and I pride
myself on how well I raised them by myself. They
both are educated and have great jobs. My oldest son
is married and he is a baby on the way
(00:46):
with his wife. My youngest son is twenty nine and
he is trying to send me to an early grave.
When I was raising my boys, I had a village
of strong women to help me. One of my nearest
and dearest friends helped me the most, and my son's
love to call her the candy Lady because she always
had some kind of candy in her purse. She never
(01:08):
had children and never got married, but they never saw
her go through all of the men and the drama
in her life. Up until twenty twenty, she was in
an eleven year relationship with this married man. After they
broke up, she was very depressed, and I did all
I could to snap her out of it. I even
sent my twenty nine year old son over to change
(01:30):
her locks to prevent the married man from creeping back
into her life. She called me a few days after
that and said she was getting her life back on
track and my son was going to teach her how
to play tennis. I thought that a hobby would be helpful.
Little did I know she and my son have been
seeing each other for over a year. He's been living
(01:51):
with her for a while, and he won't tell me
how or why it all happened. He came to me
last week and said he wanted to tell me something.
Before he told me, he said there is nothing I
can do about it. He told me that I shouldn't
be upset with my friend because age doesn't matter, and
he called her his soul mate. The candy lady that
(02:12):
I know has had over a hundred soul mate over
the year. I don't want my son with this old
half of Is there anything I can do to break
up my son and the candy lady? Wow? First of all,
I mean this is one of those, you know, ultimate
betrayal type situations because she knows better that she's your age.
(02:33):
You say, you're fifty nine and she's you know, doing
your twenty nine year old son. Yeah, this, she went
behind your back. Basically, you know you guys are supposed
to be friends. She knows your son was off limits.
And here's what you know. You already know. There is
nothing you can do about this. I mean, as a mother,
(02:54):
I know you don't want this for your son. You
do not like them together. This woman is your friend,
and so you know all her business, and you don't
think she's good enough for your son. You know what
she's been through, all the men, the married men for
eleven years that she was with. All you're doing is
looking out for your son. At this point, you think
she's way too old, as you mentioned in the letter,
(03:16):
for your twenty nine year old son, and that she
has too much baggage. There's nothing wrong with how you feel.
But here's the other thing. They are both grown. They
are both consenting adults. I guess around fifty nine. He's
twenty nine. He never even told you how this happened
or came about, but you know he was over there
and she probably you know, seduced him, and they want
(03:39):
each other right now, that's what they do. They're grown,
like I said, consenting, free to do whatever they want,
and what they want is each other. They already lived together,
so basically your hands are tied. He's been with her
for a whole year. Sometimes you just gotta pray, let
it go, give it to God. This relationship and all
(04:00):
that comes with a good or bad it is called
life experience for your son. You're trying to stop that,
but you know it's not a lot you can do
at this point. I wish you the best, but I
don't see anything you can do at this point. Steve, Well,
Candy Lady, Candy Lady friend, little Candy Boy, have or
(04:31):
take on this letter that is going to shock or
Paul and really just be upsetting to So before I
get into this letter, I want to say that I
personally stand by everything I'm about to say. I have
no reason to apologize. I am not asking you to
(04:53):
agree with me. As a matter of fact, I DC
be clear about that. Oh, I don't care. I don't care.
I DC. I'm gonna create my own emojis online. Yah,
w y D. I got a new one, I DC
because I really be wanting to text that most of
(05:15):
the time when I'm texting. So that's the new one.
I DC stands for I don't care, I wish I'm
gonna start texting me save me a lot of texting.
All right, let me tell you that this fifty nine
year old mother, these two grown sons, Now here's a
lot of word. I I'm proud of single mothers that
raise their children. I really am, and I think you
do a great job. But I keep telling y'all. You
(05:37):
can raise these boys to be good citizens. You can
raise them to be gentlemen. You can really raise them
to be God fearing. You can raise them to obey
the law. You can raise them a lot of weight.
You can't make them men. I don't care what you do.
You can't make them men. The how they decide to
be as men. It's gonna have a lot to do
(05:59):
with another man. Now, you can instial a lot of
the great qualities of a man in y, but when
it's time to be a man, he has to stand alone.
Your oldest son is married, he got a baby on
his way. Your youngest son twenty nine. He trying to
send you to an early grade. See you mad because
one of your knees and dearest friends helped me the most.
(06:20):
And my son's love to call her the candy lady.
She's been a candy lady for a long time. You
got the title of this letter, right, And when I
come back, I'm gonna tell you how much candy the
lady has been passing out and for how long? And
who all are handy candy? All right? Hang on, Steve,
(06:43):
Part two of your responses coming up at twenty three
minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter, subject the Candy Lady.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
Morning show, All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's
strawberry letter. The sub the candy Lady. Well, this fifty
(07:03):
nine year old woman raised her two sons, did a
great job and steal a lot of values in him.
One of her sons is married to a baby on
the way. The oldest son very proud of him, and
then she's having some trouble with the youngest one. He
is twenty nine. He trying to send her to an
early grave. He said, well, let's get into this. Then,
(07:27):
she said, when I was raising my boys, I had
a village of strong women to help me that needed
to be a man in now. But no problem. Women
do a great job being mothers and single mothers, and
they've done great job raising some boys and some some
some young men that turned out just fine. But the
(07:50):
job of a man who has to fall squarely on
the shoulders of another man, I can't teach my daughters
how to be women. I don't care how much I
talked to him. It's just too much about that. I
don't know. And so it is with manhood. But you
did a good job. Now. One of your knars and
dear friends helped you the most. And my son loved
to call her the Candy League because she always had
(08:13):
some kind of candy in her purse. We'll get into
that in a minute. She never had children, never got married,
but they never saw her go through all the men
and the drama in her life up until twenty twenty. Now,
this woman, candy Lady, was in eleven year relationship with
this married man. After they broke up, she was depressed
(08:36):
and I did all I could to snap out of it.
And now here's what you do. You'll sit the twenty
nine year old boy yours over there to change her
locks to prevent the married man from creeping back into
her life. She called me a few days later after
that and says she was getting her life back on
(08:57):
track on her son was gonna teach her how to
play tennis. I thought that a hobby would be healthy.
Little did I know she and my son have been
seeing each other for over a year. He'd been living
with for a while, and he won't even tell me
how a wild I have that? Heyb you any gray?
(09:21):
Before I finished crying, let me tell you what happened.
He went over the candy lady house. Candy Lady turned
into the cookie lady. See you can't you can't keep
passing out candy to grown ass men. See it ain't
(09:44):
candy for me. No more cake pie cookies. I like
cookies because they easy to get to. Now here's your problem.
He won't tell me how wild all happened. So then
he came to me last week. He be living with
(10:11):
her for a while, and he won't to help me.
Why oh it all happened? No, surely you can't stop me.
I've been doing this now for my whole life, and
you're trying to help her. I sit my son over
there and help her get herself together and change the
locks on this bouncer. Don't come back up in there,
and then she gonna set up in and just stop
(10:33):
passing out. Can all of a sudden she doesn't give
it out cooking over there, and he's stupid. He'd have
got hold of something. There's a whole ass cooking and
now they cooking. What he doing? He don't even know
what he doing over there. He came to me last week.
He told me he wanted to tell me, so, I'm
try to tell you the story down its rolling to
(10:54):
tell me so. But before he told me, he told
me what not do about it? You're gonna come and
tell me something, and then you're gonna tell me. Ain't
that like doing about why you're telling me? Boy? I
want to do something about it. I want to help
my hearn about this old hell. And she didn't put
(11:15):
it on this sheet up put it on me. Yeah,
that dude' put it all that is good and all
and good as experience. I know what she did to him.
But then he gonna tell me I should be I'm saying,
you see me crying, you'll see me crying, you'll tell me.
I'm saying, you'll tell me how to be. Don't come
in here and tell me you're screwing this whole heaven.
(11:37):
Then I ain't supposed to be able to say because
and he gonna tell me I shouldn't be upset. Coach,
my friend, coach, age don't matter. This old helpful and
as you talking about age don't matter. She thirty years old.
And I know good where y'all want know? Kid, she
(12:00):
can't o, kid, she can't hand over. She could ask
some medicare what she can have. And then and then
he gonna call her his soul mate. I wanted to say,
you're stupid bout this candid lad that I don't have
had a hundred soul mates over the year. She had
screwed all these men, and now you just one of them.
(12:23):
Now you a hundred and one, You like a puppet.
Now you wanted a water in one damnation? I I
want myself. And then the whole album is anything I
can do to break up my thirty ladies? Yes, there
is something you can do, and I want to tell
you and I've been too differently. There's nothing you can
(12:44):
do here. It is, and I'm letting that a close out.
You gonna have to go over there and jump on them.
Thank you all for listening, Leave your comments on Instagram,
(13:06):
at Steve Harvey FM and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast.
I'll know how to fight. You still be free if
we sixty, We used to do that all the time.
Coming up next, it is Sports Talk with Junior. Right
after this, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
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