June 27, 2022 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband I moved to a new townhome community and we are in the middle of turmoil. My husband met the family next door and started hanging out with the man after he found out they have mutual friends. The woman isn’t friendly at all so I ignored her whenever I saw her. My husband has been out to have drinks with the guy and he came home a month ago and told me a bunch of gossip about the man and his mistresses.......................................
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Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need
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your Strawberry Letter to STEFARBFM dot com by clicking submit
Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live on
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right here, right now. You never know, it could be yours.
That's right, ladies doing tire for the Strawberry Letter. But
(00:23):
my good friends Shirley Strongsberry, all right, thank you, junior.
Subject the neighbor had sex in my house. Dear Stephen, Shirley,
My husband and I moved to a new town home
community and we are in the middle of turmoil. My
husband met the family next door and started hanging out
with the man after he found out that they have
(00:43):
mutual friends. The woman isn't friendly at all, so I
ignored her where ever I saw her. My husband has
been out to have drinks with a guy, and he
came home a month ago and told me a bunch
of gossip about the man and his mistresses. He said
that our neighbor's marriage is over and the wife is
cheating with the man she works with. He said the
(01:04):
wife's lover has come to their house several times, and
the husbands hasn't said a thing because he's cheating too.
He also told me that the neighbor is taking one
of his side chicks out of town soon and he
needs my husband to cover for him. I told my
husband that he needs to stop hanging out with this guy.
He said he would, but he didn't. I went on
(01:25):
a girl's trip last weekend, and while I was gone,
my husband called me in a frenzy and said that
the lady next door tore up our house. I told
him to calm down and explain. My stupid husband said
he let our neighbors spend time with the female in
our downstairs bedroom, and his wife caught him sneaking out
of my house. She kicked a hole in our wall
(01:48):
and broke my entryway table and mirror. I went over
to talk to the neighbors about paying for the damages.
The wife said I knew what was going on in
my house, so she wasn't paying for a darn. We
got into a cursing match and I almost popped her.
How could my husband think it's cool to let strangers
have sex in our home? And how stupid is the
(02:10):
man's a cheat so close to home? Did he want
to get caught? Should we move? Please help? I don't
even know why should we move is even in the letter?
Because no, you should move. That's not what the issue
is here. I mean, I'm sorry, but you're right. Your
husband is stupid, very stupid, and I happen to agree
(02:32):
with you on that he's putting himself in dangerous situation
position with this dude. You already told him to stop
hanging out with the neighbor, but he refused. He's still
doing it all right, and your husband is crazy. This
letter is crazy. The neighbor is the craziest of all
white cheat. I'm with you on this too, White cheats
(02:53):
so close to home? And why would your husband allow
this to happen in your home? I'm with you? How
could he be so stupid? Aren't you sure? Or are
you sure? I should say that they birth both weren't
cheating in the basement, because I don't know any husbands
who would allow this in their home unless he was
(03:14):
getting something out of it too. I just don't um.
I can even see how the wife would think as
she does. I mean, how would she know you weren't
in on it because you guys weren't friendly. You never talked,
so she doesn't know how you feel about the situation.
In any event, this is a mess. I think you're
gonna have to take the l on this one with
your table and the mirror and the wall and all
(03:36):
of that, because cheating took place in your house. She's
mad about it. So you need to go furniture shopping.
That's what you need to do and get all that
taken care of. And they need to go ahead and
get a divorce since they're both cheating on each other,
and until that happens, your husband definitely needs to stay
away from the neighbors. I think it's more it's more
(03:58):
going on with your husband. I think he's in on
some of this mistresses and all this stuff too. I
really do you shouldn't move, but I just think cut
the ties. It's too toxic, this situation, way too stupid. Steve.
I'm just saw, I don't know where to go with
this letter right here. I kind of I'm kind of like,
(04:18):
you know, the neighbor had sex in my house, and
you know, if it ain't me in the neighbor at
my house, I don't even know how this is happening.
But I don't understand this in your house business at all.
This none of this letter is you know way him
and this lady writes us right that her and her
(04:38):
husband moved to this new town home community. We're in
the middle of termoil. Now. I've made several notes in
this letter. My husband met the family next though, started
hanging out with the man after you found out we
have mutual friends. Okay, the woman isn't friendly at all,
so I ignored her when I saw her. My husband
(05:00):
then out to have drinks with the guy. Anyway, she said,
the woman and I isn't friendly at all, so I
ignored her whenever I saw her. So that means the
man is cool with their husband, but the wives ain't cool.
If this was tennis, this is what they call mixed doubles.
This is a mixed doubles match and it only works
(05:22):
in tennis. Hard to be friends with a with a
dude that's married that stay next dough and your wife
ain't cool with the other wife. That's a hard relationship
to have. Partner. So now they've been going out to
have drinks because they found out they got some mintual
friends and to do now. He come home a month
(05:44):
later and told his wife a bunch for gossip about
the man and his mistresses. Damn dog, I don't even
understand that. So now you're telling your girl that the
dude you're hanging with has mistresses. You think I'm going
to bring that information to the house. Oh no, thank you.
He told her that the neighbor's manages over and the
(06:06):
wife is cheating with the man she worked with and
they had. The wife's lover has come to her house
several times, and the husband ain't saying the thing because
he's cheating too. Well, the husband is a weak ass man,
because I don't care who you are, and I don't
give a damn what I'm doing. You ain't bringing the dudes.
You tap it to my house and he leaves the
(06:29):
same way he came in, and he'll leave, but it
probably gonna be on a guarney or something. It's just
no way. Oh he's weak. I ain't even with this
right here, so I don't even know it. Say I
have more when I come back, all right. Hang on
for part two of Steve's response, coming up at twenty
three minutes after the hour Today's Strawberry letter, subject the
neighbor had sex in my house. Will get back into
(06:51):
it right after this. You're listening show, all right, Come on, Steve,
Let's recap today's strawberry letter, crazy one right here, the
subject the neighbor had sex in my house. This couple
then moved into this new neighborhood. The husband the form
relationship with the man next door. It's a married couple.
(07:12):
He loves the guy. They've got neutral friends. They go
out to have drinks. She and no. She don't like
the wife, so the two wives ain't cool. They don't
speak at all. He goes out drinking, come back and
tell his wife one night about all of this man's
next door neighbor's mistresses, which now pins your wife is
backtale because now she's on high alert. Then he said
(07:34):
that the wife is cheating too, and that her lover
is a co worker, and he hadn't been to the house,
and he ain't say nothing because he cheating too. I
don't give a damn what I'm doing. You ain't bringing
yours to the house I'm paying for. You're not doing
that right here. Now we might be both cheating, but
we're gonna be both be respectful. About this cheat. Now
you're gonna we're going to respectfully cheat. We're gonna be
(07:58):
respectful about this cheat. We're doing mutual treat cheating. If
we're doing mutual cheating, now we're gonna be real respectful
about this. You ain't bringing this as to my house,
and I ain't gonna bring her to our house. You're
gonna at least had that route. Husband ain't say nothing
because he's cheating too. Man. This letter over with right Hill.
(08:21):
He said the neighbor is taking one of his side
chicks out of town and he needed my husband to
cover for him. Wait a minute, dog cover, How what
do you find the cover for you letting other men
come to your house and seeing your wife? But you
need covering because you're going out of town with one
of your side chicks. I told my husband he need
to stop hanging with the guy. Said he would, but
(08:42):
he didn't. Here's the letter. I went on the girl's
trip last weekend, and while I was gone, his hush,
stupid ass husband he makes some dumb ass decisions. My
husband called me in a frenzy and said that the
lady next done tore up our house. I told him
to calm down and explain. Baby just wanted to be
over here and told this os up you talking about
(09:02):
the woman that she don't like, talking about the woman
that don't speak to her. It's over your house. Quiet,
But baby then broke everything and up, calm your punk
ass down and tell me what's going all Herbert, my
stupid husband, said he let our neighbors spent some time
with a female in our downstairs bedroom, and his wife
(09:25):
caught him sneaking out of my house. She kicked a
hole in our wall, broke my entryway table in mirror.
I went over to talk to the neighbors about paying
for the damage. What the wife said that I knew
what was going on my house, so she wasn't paying
for a damn thing. Technically, she's correct, because your husband
did know what was going on in the house. Old
(09:47):
kated and asked and said yes to this. Now in
anger she came over there and destroy your house. Technically
she owed, But now she mad now as she you
would be, so she says she ain't paying for a
damn thing. We got into a cursing match and I
almost popped up. See I would have got my table
(10:09):
right back out right there, that table the broken table
in the mirror, and the hole in the wall. I
would have got my money right back out of because
I wouldn't have almost popped out. I knocked her ass
dead in her mouth. But if you was in her house, though,
see now as you can't go over to her house
and do that, right. So, now, how could my husband
(10:30):
think it's cool to let strangers have sex in ot home?
I can't answer that question because that's beyond me. I
don't even know how that's a thought. I just really,
I don't even know what your husband was thinking about.
But once again, you have a weak ass husband. And
now you're talking about dude, we should we moved with
(10:50):
his weekend. He let other people have sex in his house.
He can't tell a guy no. A woman came on
kick the hole in y'all stuff right there? Your husband
called you in a frenzy and said that the lady
next dough and tore up our house. What did you
call doctor? You have came back home. I'd have told
(11:12):
you the house got broken into. I'd have told you
all kind of stuff, but I would not have told
you that I let a man stay in out house
with another woman. And that was the cover for him
part right there. I want you to cover for me.
I want you to let me sleep in your basement
and screwed this good man? Are you stupid man? Then
(11:33):
his hut dumb asked question, how stupid is the man
to cheat so close to home? That's the question you
came awa. How stupid is the man to cheat so
close to home? How stupid is the man? You got?
The stupid man? Your stupid man? Let him cheat in
(11:53):
y'all's house. He don't really know him or her? Did
he want to get caught? Lady? What is your problem?
What are you worrying about? Did he want to get called?
Why he's so stupid? He cheats so close to the house?
Your husband is stupid? You married to a damn dummy?
(12:15):
Should we move? Another dumba asked question, what necly I
got to pack up? What you know how long it
take the pack I got to pack up because my
dumb asked husband then got us in the situation with
this woman next door. Listen to me, all you got
(12:36):
to do is set tight. A divorce is coming from
all four y'all, and y'all gonna be all living in
different communities. Any minute, nine, any why ain't nobody gonna
have to pack up. You may get to keep the
houses and everything, because you're gonna end up putting this
food out because he's stupid, and the man next dog
him and Hug gonna get it divorced. And remember, if
you cheat, cheat respectfully, that's right. It's respectful, all right,
(13:01):
and it's untram at Steve harveyfm dot com to a
comment on today's Strawberry letter. Coming up at forty six
minutes after the hour, it's Sports Talk with Junior. Right
after this, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need
advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting or more, please submit
your Strawberry Letter to STEFARBFM dot com by clicking submit
Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live on
the air, just like we're going to read this one
right here, right now. You never know, it could be yours.
That's right, ladies doing tire for the Strawberry Letter. But
(00:23):
my good friends Shirley Strongsberry, all right, thank you, junior.
Subject the neighbor had sex in my house. Dear Stephen, Shirley,
My husband and I moved to a new town home
community and we are in the middle of turmoil. My
husband met the family next door and started hanging out
with the man after he found out that they have
(00:43):
mutual friends. The woman isn't friendly at all, so I
ignored her where ever I saw her. My husband has
been out to have drinks with a guy, and he
came home a month ago and told me a bunch
of gossip about the man and his mistresses. He said
that our neighbor's marriage is over and the wife is
cheating with the man she works with. He said the
(01:04):
wife's lover has come to their house several times, and
the husbands hasn't said a thing because he's cheating too.
He also told me that the neighbor is taking one
of his side chicks out of town soon and he
needs my husband to cover for him. I told my
husband that he needs to stop hanging out with this guy.
He said he would, but he didn't. I went on
(01:25):
a girl's trip last weekend, and while I was gone,
my husband called me in a frenzy and said that
the lady next door tore up our house. I told
him to calm down and explain. My stupid husband said
he let our neighbors spend time with the female in
our downstairs bedroom, and his wife caught him sneaking out
of my house. She kicked a hole in our wall
(01:48):
and broke my entryway table and mirror. I went over
to talk to the neighbors about paying for the damages.
The wife said I knew what was going on in
my house, so she wasn't paying for a darn. We
got into a cursing match and I almost popped her.
How could my husband think it's cool to let strangers
have sex in our home? And how stupid is the
(02:10):
man's a cheat so close to home? Did he want
to get caught? Should we move? Please help? I don't
even know why should we move is even in the letter?
Because no, you should move. That's not what the issue
is here. I mean, I'm sorry, but you're right. Your
husband is stupid, very stupid, and I happen to agree
(02:32):
with you on that he's putting himself in dangerous situation
position with this dude. You already told him to stop
hanging out with the neighbor, but he refused. He's still
doing it all right, and your husband is crazy. This
letter is crazy. The neighbor is the craziest of all
white cheat. I'm with you on this too, White cheats
(02:53):
so close to home? And why would your husband allow
this to happen in your home? I'm with you? How
could he be so stupid? Aren't you sure? Or are
you sure? I should say that they birth both weren't
cheating in the basement, because I don't know any husbands
who would allow this in their home unless he was
(03:14):
getting something out of it too. I just don't um.
I can even see how the wife would think as
she does. I mean, how would she know you weren't
in on it because you guys weren't friendly. You never talked,
so she doesn't know how you feel about the situation.
In any event, this is a mess. I think you're
gonna have to take the l on this one with
your table and the mirror and the wall and all
(03:36):
of that, because cheating took place in your house. She's
mad about it. So you need to go furniture shopping.
That's what you need to do and get all that
taken care of. And they need to go ahead and
get a divorce since they're both cheating on each other,
and until that happens, your husband definitely needs to stay
away from the neighbors. I think it's more it's more
(03:58):
going on with your husband. I think he's in on
some of this mistresses and all this stuff too. I
really do you shouldn't move, but I just think cut
the ties. It's too toxic, this situation, way too stupid. Steve.
I'm just saw, I don't know where to go with
this letter right here. I kind of I'm kind of like,
(04:18):
you know, the neighbor had sex in my house, and
you know, if it ain't me in the neighbor at
my house, I don't even know how this is happening.
But I don't understand this in your house business at all.
This none of this letter is you know way him
and this lady writes us right that her and her
(04:38):
husband moved to this new town home community. We're in
the middle of termoil. Now. I've made several notes in
this letter. My husband met the family next though, started
hanging out with the man after you found out we
have mutual friends. Okay, the woman isn't friendly at all,
so I ignored her when I saw her. My husband
(05:00):
then out to have drinks with the guy. Anyway, she said,
the woman and I isn't friendly at all, so I
ignored her whenever I saw her. So that means the
man is cool with their husband, but the wives ain't cool.
If this was tennis, this is what they call mixed doubles.
This is a mixed doubles match and it only works
(05:22):
in tennis. Hard to be friends with a with a
dude that's married that stay next dough and your wife
ain't cool with the other wife. That's a hard relationship
to have. Partner. So now they've been going out to
have drinks because they found out they got some mintual
friends and to do now. He come home a month
(05:44):
later and told his wife a bunch for gossip about
the man and his mistresses. Damn dog, I don't even
understand that. So now you're telling your girl that the
dude you're hanging with has mistresses. You think I'm going
to bring that information to the house. Oh no, thank you.
He told her that the neighbor's manages over and the
(06:06):
wife is cheating with the man she worked with and
they had. The wife's lover has come to her house
several times, and the husband ain't saying the thing because
he's cheating too. Well, the husband is a weak ass man,
because I don't care who you are, and I don't
give a damn what I'm doing. You ain't bringing the dudes.
You tap it to my house and he leaves the
(06:29):
same way he came in, and he'll leave, but it
probably gonna be on a guarney or something. It's just
no way. Oh he's weak. I ain't even with this
right here, so I don't even know it. Say I
have more when I come back, all right. Hang on
for part two of Steve's response, coming up at twenty
three minutes after the hour Today's Strawberry letter, subject the
neighbor had sex in my house. Will get back into
(06:51):
it right after this. You're listening show, all right, Come on, Steve,
Let's recap today's strawberry letter, crazy one right here, the
subject the neighbor had sex in my house. This couple
then moved into this new neighborhood. The husband the form
relationship with the man next door. It's a married couple.
(07:12):
He loves the guy. They've got neutral friends. They go
out to have drinks. She and no. She don't like
the wife, so the two wives ain't cool. They don't
speak at all. He goes out drinking, come back and
tell his wife one night about all of this man's
next door neighbor's mistresses, which now pins your wife is
backtale because now she's on high alert. Then he said
(07:34):
that the wife is cheating too, and that her lover
is a co worker, and he hadn't been to the house,
and he ain't say nothing because he cheating too. I
don't give a damn what I'm doing. You ain't bringing
yours to the house I'm paying for. You're not doing
that right here. Now we might be both cheating, but
we're gonna be both be respectful. About this cheat. Now
you're gonna we're going to respectfully cheat. We're gonna be
(07:58):
respectful about this cheat. We're doing mutual treat cheating. If
we're doing mutual cheating, now we're gonna be real respectful
about this. You ain't bringing this as to my house,
and I ain't gonna bring her to our house. You're
gonna at least had that route. Husband ain't say nothing
because he's cheating too. Man. This letter over with right Hill.
(08:21):
He said the neighbor is taking one of his side
chicks out of town and he needed my husband to
cover for him. Wait a minute, dog cover, How what
do you find the cover for you letting other men
come to your house and seeing your wife? But you
need covering because you're going out of town with one
of your side chicks. I told my husband he need
to stop hanging with the guy. Said he would, but
(08:42):
he didn't. Here's the letter. I went on the girl's
trip last weekend, and while I was gone, his hush,
stupid ass husband he makes some dumb ass decisions. My
husband called me in a frenzy and said that the
lady next done tore up our house. I told him
to calm down and explain. Baby just wanted to be
over here and told this os up you talking about
(09:02):
the woman that she don't like, talking about the woman
that don't speak to her. It's over your house. Quiet,
But baby then broke everything and up, calm your punk
ass down and tell me what's going all Herbert, my
stupid husband, said he let our neighbors spent some time
with a female in our downstairs bedroom, and his wife
(09:25):
caught him sneaking out of my house. She kicked a
hole in our wall, broke my entryway table in mirror.
I went over to talk to the neighbors about paying
for the damage. What the wife said that I knew
what was going on my house, so she wasn't paying
for a damn thing. Technically, she's correct, because your husband
did know what was going on in the house. Old
(09:47):
kated and asked and said yes to this. Now in
anger she came over there and destroy your house. Technically
she owed, But now she mad now as she you
would be, so she says she ain't paying for a
damn thing. We got into a cursing match and I
almost popped up. See I would have got my table
(10:09):
right back out right there, that table the broken table
in the mirror, and the hole in the wall. I
would have got my money right back out of because
I wouldn't have almost popped out. I knocked her ass
dead in her mouth. But if you was in her house, though,
see now as you can't go over to her house
and do that, right. So, now, how could my husband
(10:30):
think it's cool to let strangers have sex in ot home?
I can't answer that question because that's beyond me. I
don't even know how that's a thought. I just really,
I don't even know what your husband was thinking about.
But once again, you have a weak ass husband. And
now you're talking about dude, we should we moved with
(10:50):
his weekend. He let other people have sex in his house.
He can't tell a guy no. A woman came on
kick the hole in y'all stuff right there? Your husband
called you in a frenzy and said that the lady
next dough and tore up our house. What did you
call doctor? You have came back home. I'd have told
(11:12):
you the house got broken into. I'd have told you
all kind of stuff, but I would not have told
you that I let a man stay in out house
with another woman. And that was the cover for him
part right there. I want you to cover for me.
I want you to let me sleep in your basement
and screwed this good man? Are you stupid man? Then
(11:33):
his hut dumb asked question, how stupid is the man
to cheat so close to home? That's the question you
came awa. How stupid is the man to cheat so
close to home? How stupid is the man? You got?
The stupid man? Your stupid man? Let him cheat in
(11:53):
y'all's house. He don't really know him or her? Did
he want to get caught? Lady? What is your problem?
What are you worrying about? Did he want to get called?
Why he's so stupid? He cheats so close to the house?
Your husband is stupid? You married to a damn dummy?
(12:15):
Should we move? Another dumba asked question, what necly I
got to pack up? What you know how long it
take the pack I got to pack up because my
dumb asked husband then got us in the situation with
this woman next door. Listen to me, all you got
(12:36):
to do is set tight. A divorce is coming from
all four y'all, and y'all gonna be all living in
different communities. Any minute, nine, any why ain't nobody gonna
have to pack up. You may get to keep the
houses and everything, because you're gonna end up putting this
food out because he's stupid, and the man next dog
him and Hug gonna get it divorced. And remember, if
you cheat, cheat respectfully, that's right. It's respectful, all right,
(13:01):
and it's untram at Steve harveyfm dot com to a
comment on today's Strawberry letter. Coming up at forty six
minutes after the hour, it's Sports Talk with Junior. Right
after this, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
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