July 13, 2022 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 28 year old female and I was dating a man for 3 years and we broke up after Valentine’s Day because he found out I went to dinner with an old male friend. It wasn’t like I was hiding anything, but I didn’t tell him because I didn’t want to ruin our Valentine’s Day. He gave me a diamond necklace and a set of expensive luggage. Later, his sister told me he was going to take me to Hawaii and propose, but I messed all of that up since I chose to be a cheater...........................
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
All right, it is time now for today's Strawberry Letter.
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(00:22):
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Buckle up and hold on type We got it, toll
you here. It is the Strawberry Letter. All right, thank enough,
you subject a whole lot of give and take. Dear
Stephen Shirley, I'm a twenty eight year old female and
I was dating a man for three years and we
broke up after Valentine's Day because he found out I
(00:44):
went to dinner with an old male friend. It wasn't
like I was hiding anything, but I didn't tell him
because I didn't want to ruin our Valentine's Day. He
gave me a diamond necklace and a set of expensive luggage. Later,
his sister told me he was going to take me
to Hawaii and proposed, but I messed all of that
up since I chose to be a cheater. I assured
(01:06):
her and my boyfriend that it was a simple dinner
with an old friend who was happily married. I think
it was his sister that snitched on me. My soon
to be fiance told me that he's glad he found
out about me before he proposed to me. I thought
that was extreme, but then things got worse and I
realized how lucky I was for getting dumped. This man
(01:29):
came to my house to gather up every gift he
ever gave me, down to a set of dominoes he
had made for me. He brought his forty year old
female cousin as his bodyguard, so I called my sister
over for reinforcement. In the end, he left with a
few things. Then he took me to court to take
the necklace back and to get his name off our lease.
(01:51):
He knew that I could not afford the apartment on
my salary, so that was pure evil. He looked me
in my eyes in court and said he does not
love me anymore. I couldn't believe what was happening. My
father made sure I was able to keep the apartment,
and I have tried to move on and date again,
but recently my ex popped up at my apartment, apologizing
(02:13):
and crying. My old feelings for him came rushing back
and we made love that night. Seems like he's truly sorry.
Should I give him a second chance or see if
he's changed? Please advise? Well, you know I love a
diamond necklace and an expensive set of luggage just as
much as the next person. I'm not gonna lie about that.
(02:36):
But give him a second chance to do what hurt
you again, humiliate you again. I mean, you know you
cannot You have to know this. I know you're only
twenty eight, but you cannot tell if someone's changed just
because you slept with them for one night and it
was good and you all were all lovey dubby, and
you know, a one time crying an apologizing incident that
(02:59):
certainly does improve anything. What does that prove? And let's
be clear, let's be clear on this. It's not that
I don't believe in second chances, because I do. It's
just that you can't be so quick to forgive him
because of how he treated you. I mean, you got
to remember that he tried to get you out of
the apartment. He came by with a bodyguard. You know,
to get his things. He wanted to get his diamond
(03:21):
necklace back. You cannot give in so easily. I mean,
right now, it's just words that he's saying. You have
to pay attention to his actions, and you have to
do this over time, not just one time. So if
the love you guys had is real, he'll do whatever
it takes to win you back. I mean, starting with
getting rid of his messy sister, getting in your business,
all of that. Then his female cousin bodyguard needs to go.
(03:46):
I mean, he was really nasty to you. You have
to remember these things. You can't forget them. You got
to think with your head, not with your heart. In
this case, people get back together after nasty breakups all
the time. But honestly, I just don't have a good
feeling about him. I'm sorry, I don't. He treated you badly,
He took you to court, he did all of those things.
(04:08):
I hate the way he treated you. I say, let
this one go, move on. His reaction was just too extreme.
That behavior would carry on into a marriage. So let
him go, all right, I see you looking over there.
What what letter did you read? My lord? A whole
lot of give and take take God you what You
(04:33):
just glazed over what this woman did. Now, it's all
dinner with a married friend, that's all she did. What
you didn't tell her man about it, just like you
wouldn't tell you a girl about it. I wouldn't be
(04:54):
if I'm having a married what is I'm doing? A valatar?
Didn't want another wal wil No, no, Shirley, I disagree
with everything you said in this letter. Lord, have mercy.
Let me harry up. And maybe maybe you misleave, maybe
you blacked out. I forgive it. Yes you did. This
(05:14):
is obviously some stuff in here you chose not to read.
So now letting me if his sister didn't tell him,
so that make it right. You gotta be consistent. You
messed girl. You had your chance because I please talk.
This twenty eight year old woman that wrote this letter says,
(05:37):
I'm dating a man for three years and we broke
up after Valentine's Day because he found out I went
to dinner with an old male friend. And what was
they doing when they was old man friend? It wasn't
like I was hading anything. Now watch this. It wasn't
(05:58):
like I was hiding anything. But I didn't tell him.
Lady that's Carl had, but I didn't tell him because
I didn't want to ruin our Valentine's Day. He gave
me a damond necklace and a set of expensive luggage,
and later his sister told me he was gonna take
(06:20):
me to WII and propose. But I messed all that
up since I chose to be a cheetah. What the
hell you want this man to do? She bought all
this on herself. When we come back, I'm gonna try
to calm this, explain the rest of this letter. Day.
(06:40):
All right, hold on, all right, we'll be back with
part two of Steve's response at twenty three minutes after
the hour. The subject of today's strawberry letter a whole
lot of give and take. Give me the money. Come
right back. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right,
Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter of the
subject a whole lot of give and take. My response,
(07:04):
I've decided to calm down a little bit. It's in
direct response Shirley's reading of the letter. She told the
girl to be careful. You can't trust help. He did
you wrong. Shirley ignored the fact that This woman, twenty
(07:24):
eight years old, bought all this on herself. Do you
know what she did? She mad because she'd been dating
this man three years and he found out that she
went to dinner with an old male friend at X Exactly.
It wasn't like I was hiding anything, she said, But
I didn't tell him. Oh, and you know why, because
(07:49):
I didn't want to ruin our Valentine's Day. So I
wanted to have a wonderful Valentine's Day and still date
my old friend. He gave me this is her current
boyfriend gave me a diamond necklace and a set of
expensive luggage. And later his sister told me he was
going to take me to Hawaii and propose. But I
(08:10):
messed all that up, says I chose to be a cheater.
The woman says, up front, I am a cheater. His
sister said that. No, No, the woman who wrote the
letter said, I messed all that up, says I chose
(08:32):
to be a Cheaterah, it wasn't like I was hiding anything,
but I didn't tell him because I didn't want to
ruin our Valentine's Day. He gave me a diamond necklace
and a set of expensive luggage. Later, his sister told
me he was gonna take me, told me he was
gonna take me to Hawaii and propose comma. But I
(08:57):
messed all that up since I chposed to be a Cheatah.
This is the woman talking, Shirley. This is called sister Shirley.
This is called reading comprehension. It's called comprehension. Somebody Joe asked,
posed to know something about it. I do, Shirley. I
happened to be an expert storyteller, and I tell stories
(09:17):
for a living, and I know how to follow a story.
If I can do that. You have obviously missed this information.
Please admit that because the woman says I chose to
be a cheater, why would the lady say I chose
to be a cheating His sister ain't cheat, lady. She
says she ruined all of this because she messed up
and chose to become a Cheatah. I assured her, talking
(09:38):
about the sister now and my boyfriend, that it was
a simple dinner with an old friend. But she just
said I chose to be a Cheatah. I with an
old friend herself. I think her sister said that to her.
I mean we disagree, disagree on this sister was talking.
(09:59):
I mean, you know we can disagree on that. I
think the sister was calling her the cheater. I think
the sister was calling the letter writer a cheater. Yeah,
I assured her. My boyfriend it was a simple dinner
with an old friend who was happily married. If the
old friend is happily married, why is he at dinner
with this woman? Friends friends old friend they got together
(10:25):
and what did they do as old friends? I think
it was his sister that snitched on me. Again, all
of this wouldn't have been happening if she hadn't went
to dinner as she chose not to tell her her
And the only reason this is all going bad for
(10:46):
her is because his sister, she thanked, his sister snitched
on her. She is guilty of something, Sherley. Otherwise her
her boyfriend wouldn't have even known if her sister and
his sister hadn't said anything. Her boyfriend went to dinner.
Why you why you all see this part? I see
(11:08):
that part. My soon to be y'all say told me
that he's glad he found out about me before he
proposed to me. And then I thought that was extreme
that he would say that. But then things got worse
than I realized how lucky I was for getting dumb.
This man came to my house to gather up every
(11:31):
gift he ever gave me. He now, now you know what.
He ain't got to do all that, but he wanted
them simple minded ass people. I want everybody back I
gave you, So he came in there to get it,
and then he bought his. He brought it, and he
even got the set of dominoes he had made for me.
He wrote all this back. You're sitting up eating with
old friends at Valentine's Day when it's supposed to be
(11:53):
out out about this damn necklace and bought this trip
to Hawaii and this expensive luggage, and your ass out
cheating with your appy was a simple ass dinner. We're
supposed to be having simple ass dinners. I don't even
give a damn about the rest of this. Left you mad.
(12:14):
I am at about about you. This man tell about
she needed to be killed, took her to court. Really,
she went to dinner without telling her apartment, and the
only reason she found out was because she thinks the
(12:35):
sister snitch. She wanted to have her cake and eat
it too, And when she ain't a good cheetah and
she don't know how to do it, and she got busted.
She don't even know how to man found out. She
thinks his sister put your name on him in everything.
Please leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram
(12:55):
and Facebook and Steve Harvey FM and check out the
Strawberry Letter podcast had early response. I hate your response.
I hate it. I devise your response about Up next,
it's Sports Talk with Junior whatever. You're listening to the
(13:16):
Stave Harvey Morning Show
All right, it is time now for today's Strawberry Letter.
And if you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVRVFM dot com.
All you have to do is click submit Strawberry Letter,
and we could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like we're gonna read this one right here, right now,
(00:22):
pop pop here, that could be yours. You never know, sir,
Buckle up and hold on type We got it, toll
you here. It is the Strawberry Letter. All right, thank enough,
you subject a whole lot of give and take. Dear
Stephen Shirley, I'm a twenty eight year old female and
I was dating a man for three years and we
broke up after Valentine's Day because he found out I
(00:44):
went to dinner with an old male friend. It wasn't
like I was hiding anything, but I didn't tell him
because I didn't want to ruin our Valentine's Day. He
gave me a diamond necklace and a set of expensive luggage. Later,
his sister told me he was going to take me
to Hawaii and proposed, but I messed all of that
up since I chose to be a cheater. I assured
(01:06):
her and my boyfriend that it was a simple dinner
with an old friend who was happily married. I think
it was his sister that snitched on me. My soon
to be fiance told me that he's glad he found
out about me before he proposed to me. I thought
that was extreme, but then things got worse and I
realized how lucky I was for getting dumped. This man
(01:29):
came to my house to gather up every gift he
ever gave me, down to a set of dominoes he
had made for me. He brought his forty year old
female cousin as his bodyguard, so I called my sister
over for reinforcement. In the end, he left with a
few things. Then he took me to court to take
the necklace back and to get his name off our lease.
(01:51):
He knew that I could not afford the apartment on
my salary, so that was pure evil. He looked me
in my eyes in court and said he does not
love me anymore. I couldn't believe what was happening. My
father made sure I was able to keep the apartment,
and I have tried to move on and date again,
but recently my ex popped up at my apartment, apologizing
(02:13):
and crying. My old feelings for him came rushing back
and we made love that night. Seems like he's truly sorry.
Should I give him a second chance or see if
he's changed? Please advise? Well, you know I love a
diamond necklace and an expensive set of luggage just as
much as the next person. I'm not gonna lie about that.
(02:36):
But give him a second chance to do what hurt
you again, humiliate you again. I mean, you know you
cannot You have to know this. I know you're only
twenty eight, but you cannot tell if someone's changed just
because you slept with them for one night and it
was good and you all were all lovey dubby, and
you know, a one time crying an apologizing incident that
(02:59):
certainly does improve anything. What does that prove? And let's
be clear, let's be clear on this. It's not that
I don't believe in second chances, because I do. It's
just that you can't be so quick to forgive him
because of how he treated you. I mean, you got
to remember that he tried to get you out of
the apartment. He came by with a bodyguard. You know,
to get his things. He wanted to get his diamond
(03:21):
necklace back. You cannot give in so easily. I mean,
right now, it's just words that he's saying. You have
to pay attention to his actions, and you have to
do this over time, not just one time. So if
the love you guys had is real, he'll do whatever
it takes to win you back. I mean, starting with
getting rid of his messy sister, getting in your business,
all of that. Then his female cousin bodyguard needs to go.
(03:46):
I mean, he was really nasty to you. You have
to remember these things. You can't forget them. You got
to think with your head, not with your heart. In
this case, people get back together after nasty breakups all
the time. But honestly, I just don't have a good
feeling about him. I'm sorry, I don't. He treated you badly,
He took you to court, he did all of those things.
(04:08):
I hate the way he treated you. I say, let
this one go, move on. His reaction was just too extreme.
That behavior would carry on into a marriage. So let
him go, all right, I see you looking over there.
What what letter did you read? My lord? A whole
lot of give and take take God you what You
(04:33):
just glazed over what this woman did. Now, it's all
dinner with a married friend, that's all she did. What
you didn't tell her man about it, just like you
wouldn't tell you a girl about it. I wouldn't be
(04:54):
if I'm having a married what is I'm doing? A valatar?
Didn't want another wal wil No, no, Shirley, I disagree
with everything you said in this letter. Lord, have mercy.
Let me harry up. And maybe maybe you misleave, maybe
you blacked out. I forgive it. Yes you did. This
(05:14):
is obviously some stuff in here you chose not to read.
So now letting me if his sister didn't tell him,
so that make it right. You gotta be consistent. You
messed girl. You had your chance because I please talk.
This twenty eight year old woman that wrote this letter says,
(05:37):
I'm dating a man for three years and we broke
up after Valentine's Day because he found out I went
to dinner with an old male friend. And what was
they doing when they was old man friend? It wasn't
like I was hading anything. Now watch this. It wasn't
(05:58):
like I was hiding anything. But I didn't tell him.
Lady that's Carl had, but I didn't tell him because
I didn't want to ruin our Valentine's Day. He gave
me a damond necklace and a set of expensive luggage,
and later his sister told me he was gonna take
(06:20):
me to WII and propose. But I messed all that
up since I chose to be a cheetah. What the
hell you want this man to do? She bought all
this on herself. When we come back, I'm gonna try
to calm this, explain the rest of this letter. Day.
(06:40):
All right, hold on, all right, we'll be back with
part two of Steve's response at twenty three minutes after
the hour. The subject of today's strawberry letter a whole
lot of give and take. Give me the money. Come
right back. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right,
Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter of the
subject a whole lot of give and take. My response,
(07:04):
I've decided to calm down a little bit. It's in
direct response Shirley's reading of the letter. She told the
girl to be careful. You can't trust help. He did
you wrong. Shirley ignored the fact that This woman, twenty
(07:24):
eight years old, bought all this on herself. Do you
know what she did? She mad because she'd been dating
this man three years and he found out that she
went to dinner with an old male friend at X Exactly.
It wasn't like I was hiding anything, she said, But
I didn't tell him. Oh, and you know why, because
(07:49):
I didn't want to ruin our Valentine's Day. So I
wanted to have a wonderful Valentine's Day and still date
my old friend. He gave me this is her current
boyfriend gave me a diamond necklace and a set of
expensive luggage. And later his sister told me he was
going to take me to Hawaii and propose. But I
(08:10):
messed all that up, says I chose to be a cheater.
The woman says, up front, I am a cheater. His
sister said that. No, No, the woman who wrote the
letter said, I messed all that up, says I chose
(08:32):
to be a Cheaterah, it wasn't like I was hiding anything,
but I didn't tell him because I didn't want to
ruin our Valentine's Day. He gave me a diamond necklace
and a set of expensive luggage. Later, his sister told
me he was gonna take me, told me he was
gonna take me to Hawaii and propose comma. But I
(08:57):
messed all that up since I chposed to be a Cheatah.
This is the woman talking, Shirley. This is called sister Shirley.
This is called reading comprehension. It's called comprehension. Somebody Joe asked,
posed to know something about it. I do, Shirley. I
happened to be an expert storyteller, and I tell stories
(09:17):
for a living, and I know how to follow a story.
If I can do that. You have obviously missed this information.
Please admit that because the woman says I chose to
be a cheater, why would the lady say I chose
to be a cheating His sister ain't cheat, lady. She
says she ruined all of this because she messed up
and chose to become a Cheatah. I assured her, talking
(09:38):
about the sister now and my boyfriend, that it was
a simple dinner with an old friend. But she just
said I chose to be a Cheatah. I with an
old friend herself. I think her sister said that to her.
I mean we disagree, disagree on this sister was talking.
(09:59):
I mean, you know we can disagree on that. I
think the sister was calling her the cheater. I think
the sister was calling the letter writer a cheater. Yeah,
I assured her. My boyfriend it was a simple dinner
with an old friend who was happily married. If the
old friend is happily married, why is he at dinner
with this woman? Friends friends old friend they got together
(10:25):
and what did they do as old friends? I think
it was his sister that snitched on me. Again, all
of this wouldn't have been happening if she hadn't went
to dinner as she chose not to tell her her
And the only reason this is all going bad for
(10:46):
her is because his sister, she thanked, his sister snitched
on her. She is guilty of something, Sherley. Otherwise her
her boyfriend wouldn't have even known if her sister and
his sister hadn't said anything. Her boyfriend went to dinner.
Why you why you all see this part? I see
(11:08):
that part. My soon to be y'all say told me
that he's glad he found out about me before he
proposed to me. And then I thought that was extreme
that he would say that. But then things got worse
than I realized how lucky I was for getting dumb.
This man came to my house to gather up every
(11:31):
gift he ever gave me. He now, now you know what.
He ain't got to do all that, but he wanted
them simple minded ass people. I want everybody back I
gave you, So he came in there to get it,
and then he bought his. He brought it, and he
even got the set of dominoes he had made for me.
He wrote all this back. You're sitting up eating with
old friends at Valentine's Day when it's supposed to be
(11:53):
out out about this damn necklace and bought this trip
to Hawaii and this expensive luggage, and your ass out
cheating with your appy was a simple ass dinner. We're
supposed to be having simple ass dinners. I don't even
give a damn about the rest of this. Left you mad.
(12:14):
I am at about about you. This man tell about
she needed to be killed, took her to court. Really,
she went to dinner without telling her apartment, and the
only reason she found out was because she thinks the
(12:35):
sister snitch. She wanted to have her cake and eat
it too, And when she ain't a good cheetah and
she don't know how to do it, and she got busted.
She don't even know how to man found out. She
thinks his sister put your name on him in everything.
Please leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram
(12:55):
and Facebook and Steve Harvey FM and check out the
Strawberry Letter podcast had early response. I hate your response.
I hate it. I devise your response about Up next,
it's Sports Talk with Junior whatever. You're listening to the
(13:16):
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