September 11, 2025 • 19 mins
What will your kids remember most about you? It’s probably not what you think…
Ever felt Father’s Day pressure - the gifts, the expectations, the hope it all comes together? In this episode, Justin & Kylie open up about low expectations, the best Father’s Day prank ever, and the moments that mattered most. From frisbee at the beach to chaotic family games, to the one phrase Justin’s kids say defined their childhood, this conversation is raw, funny, and surprisingly moving.
KEY POINTS:
- Why one Aussie school pushed back against iPads in primary years
- Sabrina Carpenter’s new album NOT for children
- The tie prank that left every dad at church matching
- Why simple, spontaneous family time beats curated “perfect” events
- “Push Dad off the Bed” - the family game still loved by teens and young adults
- The phrase Justin’s kids treasure most: People matter. Things don’t.
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
- Happy Families Website
- Send us a voice memo: podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au
- KPop Demon Hunters on Netflix
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:
- Keep celebrations simple - the memories matter more than the details.
- Find playful traditions (even silly ones) that bring everyone together.
- When things go wrong, remind your kids: people matter, things don’t.
- Give your children more of the one gift they’ll always want - your time.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
This is the Happy Families Podcast Friday Edition. Today we're
checking out a Letter of the Week as well as
that K Pop demon Hunters.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
The story continues in our.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Home the Netflix smash movie, plus a brand new game
that is going to change your family forever based on
our experience with it. And the phrase the phrase of
all the phrases that I've taught by kids, the phrase
that has stood out the most as we dissect Father's Day,
all that and more, all some Sabrina Carpenter gooss as well.
I forgot that coming up in Just to Sex. Stay
(00:35):
with us on the Happy Families Podcast. Hello and welcome
to the Happy Family's podcast, Realpairing Solutions every Day. We
are Justin and Kylie Coulson. Kylie, so much to get
through today. Going to start with our Letter of the Week.
You can email your letters to podcasts at happyfamilies dot
com dot au.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Letter of the Week, Email of the Week.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
You've been holding out on me. I don't know anything
about a letter of the week.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
What are the challenges with the work that I do,
the travel that I do is sometimes we don't get
to talk about everything. I've been whispering, sweet, nothing's into
your ear? Instead instead of telling you about the letter
of the week, email of the week, whatever you want
to call it. So this one comes through from Amy
who wanted to share a letter from her school principle.
And I think this one is a big one and
a big shout out and thumbs up to Templestow Park
(01:20):
Primary School and Victoria for this one. The principal, Mark Roberts,
sent out the following to parents and cares of year
two students. Following discussions with the school counsel, of the
school's leadership team, staff and other schools, the decision has
been made to not commence the bring your own Device
program in year three. This means you won't have to
provide an iPad for your child in twenty twenty six. Basically,
(01:41):
they're saying, we want your kids to not have screens
for at least one more year. And I could read
a whole lot more, but that's the gist of it,
and I just thought to myself, we need more letters
like that coming through. We need more principles having the
courage to say, let's stay analog. It's actually not going
to revolutionize kids' education by putting them on an iPad.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
I love it.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
That's not the letter of the week. That sounds like
the winter of the year.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Yeah, I know, that's pretty awesome.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
So many parents just breathed that and went, oh, reassurance,
Thank goodness for that. We can we can do this,
we can do this. So I love that. There's a
little bit of news as well a bit of goss.
Last week, we were talking about Ca Pop Demon Hunters,
and I asked you if you were going to take
the kids.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
To see you, we're going to throw one of our
kids under the bus.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
And you know where I'm going.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
Yeah, okay, So while I'm throwing you under the bus, first,
I volunt told you to take the kids to.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
The movies while I was away.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
You didn't do it, and so and not died I
because I was away, but because it's available on Netflix
and you don't have to pay all that money to
go to the movies to see it. Anyway, our fifteen
year old sat down with our eleven year old. They
decided to watch it together. Fifteen year old hadn't seen it,
and when the movie was over, she walked out of
the living room with tears in her eyes, sobbing, sobbing,
(02:52):
crying about Kee Pop Demon hunters, we are mocking our
daughter on the podcast.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
So is there eleven year old sister? Because when I
walked in the door, the first thing she said to
me was go ask Lily how she liked the.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Movie, and Lily the whole time, she's like, it was terrible.
I didn't like it at all. I wasn't interested in it,
and We're like, but you are crying a lot. So
I just wanted to get that out of the way
as well. A couple of other quick things. Sabrina Carpenter
has her brand new app, Matt. This has been provocative,
This has been controversial. This is definitely not a kid's album,
(03:24):
but everybody who's a kid who loves Sabrina Carpenter wants it.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
When people first saw the cover of Man's Best Friend,
there was a lot of just and oh my, there
just a lot of pointing fingers.
Speaker 4 (03:35):
My fans that know me and know the person behind
the music look at that photo and they know exactly.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
What it is.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
And people that have no idea who I am absolutely
look at that photo and go where are my parents?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Yes, my parents.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
Actually saw the photo and they loved it.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Anyway, Sabrina Carpenter has now come out publicly and said
that her new album Man's Best Friend, was and I
quote not for any pearl clutches as a reporter by
the Hollywood Reporter, strong language, a lot of explicit content
on the album, and Sabrina Carpenter's well, I mean, she's
(04:10):
owning the space that she's decided to take on, but
very very much an album that is not for children.
So we just thought we would mention that as well
as part of the broader I'll do better Tomorrow conversation.
All right, So that's the latest news in pairing. As
far as I'm aware, there might have been some other
bits and pieces that have slipped my attention. You can
let us know about anything that's big via podcasts at
(04:33):
Happy families dot com dot a U Kylie, I'll do
better tomorrow. It's time to dissect the week that was.
Talk about where you won, where you would have liked
to improved. What's your main take home message, what's your
main story for the week.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
I actually have a question for you. How do you
usually feel about Father's Day?
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Next question? I mean, I know I'm supposed to love it.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
I know there's a whole lot of scripting around what
Father's Day's supposed to be, but I'm not massive into it.
I usually have a a large series of expectations in
that I'd like the kids to demonstrate that they've thought
of me just a little bit, although I don't need
anything but a nice letter or a song or a
poem or something, and I'd like them to tidy up
the mess without being asked and get along for the day.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
You're not asking very much, very low expectations. Verry said, no,
come on, come on, where are you going with this?
Did you just thro shaated me? I nailed it this year.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
I do have low expectations. I think we did too.
I think we had an absolute cracker of a Father's Day.
Might have been the best one ever. Maybe, So we.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
Don't hide the fact that we got to church on
Sundays and one of the mums in our community came
up with this brilliant idea to prank the dads, and
so we made a massive team order and ordered all
the dads the same tie for Father's Day.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
How many?
Speaker 1 (05:59):
How many were ordered? Like a hundred something like that.
That have to have been at least one hundred, Yeah,
identical tie.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Yeah, yeah, So I prepped Emily, and she did such
a good job. When she gifted you your tie, you
had already made it really clear that you did not
want another time.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
I have more ties than I'm ever gonna wear. Like
I only wear a tie on a Sunday. That's pretty
much it unless we're doing some kind of an event.
So I don't need tires. I don't have space for tires.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
I don't like.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Ties particularly, And so the kids all no, no more
ties for dad.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
And I knew if this was going to work, Emily
was the only one who could get away with it.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Yeah, because if the older kids gave me one, I
probably would. Here's my low expectations. I'd probably said, what
do you get me tie for? I don't I get
this from my mom My. Mom has said that so
many times when we've gifted to something. She's like, why
did you get that for me?
Speaker 2 (06:44):
I don't want that. It's like I don't need to
show some gratitude.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
I can't believe I'm saying this. This is a terrible confession.
This meant to me your old a better tomorrow, and
you're just throwing me under the bus.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
No, I'm not all right. Maybe I'm throwing you're a
very good job by yourself.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
Anyway, Emily hands it to you and you actually look
at it, and you were quite impressed. You thought it
was an okay tie.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
I have to I mean, while I'm just absolutely destroying
my reputation here, I did look at the back to
see what brand it was, and there was no brand,
and I thought, oh, that's funny. And the feel of
the tie, it feels like a team mood tie. I
wasn't thinking that at the time, but I was thinking,
it doesn't feel like the kind of tie that I
would normally wear.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
But Emily was very proud of herself. She paid with
it all with her own money, right, And she hands
it to you and you say that you actually asked
me what colored suit you're gonna wear with it, because
it would go with both.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Yeah, she did such a good job, so.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
Picking a tie that was going to work for everybody.
We get to church and as you're doing a reverse park,
you do a double take because you see one of
the guys in the car park putting up the kids praying.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Yeah, a guy called guy like literally that guy, that guy,
he was wearing the same tie.
Speaker 3 (07:54):
You did a double take, and I knew in that
moment you had clicked that his tie was the same
as yours.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Yeah, you get out of the car.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
But I didn't see anything bigger than just oh, guy
and I were in the same way.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
So you get out of the car and you make
a comment to guy that you've got the same tie,
and he said, you actually asked him where did you
get yours from? And he said, oh, my daughter brought
it from the Father's Day store. So your brain is
going over time because you know Emily doesn't go to
any Father's Day store.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
Well, she's in homeschool, so she we homeschool her, so
there's no Father's Day Still, I'm thinking maybe there was
a maybe there was a stall at the plaza or something.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
And I had made it clear to you that we'd
gone to shopping.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Yes, so you were like, this doesn't make sense. Okay.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Then the next thing, another.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
Guy, Sam drives in, drives in, he.
Speaker 3 (08:41):
Gets out, and me and the other wife are looking
at each other. We're just waiting for this here. But
Sam is oblivious. He has not even like clicked.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
But God was walking after his kids, so he didn't
notice either.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
And I'm not Guy Sam, no way, and The first
thing I say to Sam is where.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
Did you get the tie?
Speaker 3 (09:03):
So now you're peppering me to ask me exactly what store.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Because here's the thing, because Sam actually said, oh, I
think that the kids bought this one on TEAMOO for me,
And I've gone like, in my mind, I'm thinking, because
I'm tight, I've gone hang on a sex. So Sam's
got his on TEAMU, which means it probably costs about
four dollars, and guys picked his one up from the
Father's Stace or the kids have anyway from the Father's
day store, which means that he might have paid somewhere
between six and ten bucks. But what I'm actually thinking
(09:30):
is You've got to the plaza and somebody's gone and
bought TEAMO ties and they're probably selling them for thirty
or forty or fifty bucks in the plaza, and You've
We've been ripped off. That's what I was thinking, Emily's
been ripped off. This is not fair.
Speaker 3 (09:42):
But the first part was when you walked in the
doors and you realized you'd been pranked and everybody around
you was wearing.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
The same time. I literally I looked around, I'm like,
I've been pranked. You've prankedice you got it was good.
It was good.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
It was just it actually just elevated our day to
another level. We really enjoyed great conversations with friends in
our community. And then we got to come home and
we had an afternoon down at the beach. We just
took some picnic food.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Hey, hang on, you're stealing my old A better tomorrow,
am I? Well a little bit, but anyway, go ahead.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
And it was just so nice watching everybody play frisbee together,
and even the kids that are not particularly interested in
playing frisbee got involved. It was just it was easy.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Well, it was more than that.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
Not only do we have this wonderful level of involvement
and engagement. I mean you were in the whole family.
We were all throwing a frisbee around and just playing
and having fun on the beach. But at the end
of the night, the kids all came and late on
the bed and said, can.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
We do that every week? Like we want more of
that in our lives.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
And I mean a bit of a I don't know,
I was going to say, shot myself in the foot,
dig of the heart kind of thing, because this book
has taken me away so much I'm so so mindful
of how much of this Boy's book has robbed our
family of time together. But boy or boy, it's almost over.
I'm into the last couple of weeks of this book,
and it was really nice. It was a great Father's Day.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
And I guess my take home is I've spent so
many years trying to curate the perfect event, whether it
be Father's Day or birthdays, and you know, kind of
got myself twisted myself and notts trying to kind of
make sure that every detail has taken care of. And
while some of those events have actually been really beautiful events,
what I loved was just how like organic, organic this was.
(11:32):
It really was like I just made a simple green
salad with barbecued some chicken the day before. There was
nothing like super special about it. Yeah, but what was
special was the fact that we were all there and
we all wanted to be there.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
Although a quick note, let's just something about not letting
the sand get in the food next time, crunchy salad
with extra sand is not but you know what, we
got through it.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Hey, up next, what I pulled.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Out of the past week in terms of better way
to make our families function plus making the most of
most memories stay with us. Okay, Kylie, here's my old
better tomorrow for the week that was. I'm going to
(12:17):
be really sneaky here and chuck a couple in because
they all kind of combined together. Over the last what
it would have been the last twenty one days. I
think I've been on the road and traveling for about
fifteen of them. Sixteen of them, so I've barely been
home for the last few weeks. It's been absolutely chaotic,
and that's a really hard thing for us. We talk
about it regularly. There's certainly no bragging there. If anything,
(12:37):
it's a it's a privilege to be able to travel
around the country and help other families to learn principles
that are going to make them happier, but it does
come at a steep price for our family, and it's
been really rough. I'm so grateful. I'm not traveling again
for several weeks. Now I'm home, which feels really good.
But last weekend, while I was home, randomly, spontaneously, the
(13:00):
kids came into the room and they resurrected a game
that we haven't played for years.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
And you probably heard it from the kitchen.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
Yeah, I did.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
The kids are just screaming and this is a loud,
raucous game. The game is called.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
Push Dad off the Bed.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
Why don't you describe it? Because you're usually not involved
in it, you just watch it. I'm the one who's
struggling for dear life to stay.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
In this game. How would you explain the game?
Speaker 3 (13:27):
It's just a massive bodies all over my bed. There's squeals, delights,
there's feet, heads, I just body parts everywhere.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
It's an all in brawl.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
It is an all in brawl.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
And what's crazy.
Speaker 3 (13:40):
What's crazy is our twenty two year old lives at
home and she was as much involved as the eleven
year old. Like, this is a game that has stood
the test of time.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
Yeah, I've been playing it for twenty five years.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
Yeah, it'll be interesting to see what happens in twenty
four years.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
Oh, my goodness, might break hip. That's how that's what
we're going to do. I don't want an old people's home.
You can just push that off the bed and all
of a sudden it's over pneumonia, broken hip.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
So basically, they use their arms, they use their nails,
they use their heels, they use their heads and it's
then against me. So I had a twenty two year old,
an eighteen year old, a fifteen year old, and an
eleven year old, and basically I lay on the bed
and they try to pull me off or push me
off the bed.
Speaker 3 (14:27):
So you all start on the bed, and the idea
is to get it. You've got to try and get
them all off. Yes, so if you do that, you win, yeap.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
But they've got to get me off and then they win.
And it's just we ended up playing it two or
three times last weekend, and and every time, I mean,
the bed gets destroyed. That's just the bed is a
casualty of the game. So much fun, so much laughter.
Nobody cried this time in the entire weekend, which I mean,
(14:55):
I'm taking this as a plus.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
It was a lot of fun.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
But the other quick one, gosh, and I'm taking away
too long, the frisbee on the beach, which you've already mentioned.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
So much fun. But as part of our Father's.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
Day remembrance experience, you asked the kids to each share
one of their favorite memories of me, and every single
one of them essentially shared the same story or their
version of a certain incident with me.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
And the same story.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
So I el just talked about the time that she
wrote off the family car by crashing it into the
wall of a church on day one of driving with
her learner plates. Abby, a twenty two year old, talked
about the time where she was driving late at night
and a kangaroo hopped in front of her and she
wrote my car off that was only a year old,
my brand new Kia Sarato GT that I was very
(15:44):
excited about then. And so on down the list, each
of the girls they broke something, or they smashed something,
or they ruined something, and every single one of them said,
favorite memory of Dad, or one of my favorite times
with dad.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
Is when this awful thing happened.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
And I used the line, the line that they all remembered,
and it was so gratifying. The line is people matter,
things don't. And so when they confess that the car
was totaled or the thing was smashed or the whatever
it was, apparently in every single case, I went to
them and I wrapped them up in my arms and
(16:19):
I whispered in their ear people matter, things don't. It's
going to be okay. So for me, that's my I'll
do better tomorrow The dream has always been for me
that when our children reflect on difficult moments and emotional
moments and challenging moments through their childhood, and they reflect
on the way that you and I have handled those things,
(16:40):
that they will have warm memories, that they'll have the
kinds of memories that help them to understand that there
was compassion and love and understanding and second chances and
those kinds of things and people matter. Things don't seems
to have somehow, somehow snuck through the defenses and worked well.
Speaker 3 (16:59):
I know fether days coming gone, but I'm so grateful
for not only the way in which you have fathered
our children, but the way that you have elevated them
and just encouraged them to be their own best selves,
(17:20):
to be critical thinkers, to question the way things are,
and to be a blessing and a light to other people.
And your example has just been such a bright, shining
light for them. And hearing them share those stories you
talked about it being gratifying to you, but it just
(17:45):
I think so often as parents, we sit there with
our big long list of all the things we get
wrong and all the ways we wish that we could
be better, and yet to sit there on Sunday night
and to listen to these girls share these really really
big moments in their lives and the thing that they
remembered was that they madded and that was just it was.
(18:10):
It was such a beautiful moment. So thank you, Thank
you for being all of that and more.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Now you've got me weepy as well. We need to
wrap this up. We've gone well over time. We really
hope that you've enjoyed listening and hope that there's some
inspo here for you to make your families happier across
the weekend. Please spend that time, go throw a frisbee
going I don't know, just spend.
Speaker 2 (18:31):
Time with the kids. Kids spell love Tim.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
If you'd like more resources and ways to make your
family happier, you'll find them all at happy families dot
com dot au. And a huge thanks to Justin rule
On from Bridge Media who produces the podcast, and Mimhammond's
for all of her additional admin and research support.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
Have a great weekend.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
We'll be back on Monday talking about what to do
when your kids get violent and hit
Speaker 2 (18:53):
You, whether they're three or even a little bit older.
This is the Happy Families Podcast Friday Edition. Today we're
checking out a Letter of the Week as well as
that K Pop demon Hunters.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
The story continues in our.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Home the Netflix smash movie, plus a brand new game
that is going to change your family forever based on
our experience with it. And the phrase the phrase of
all the phrases that I've taught by kids, the phrase
that has stood out the most as we dissect Father's Day,
all that and more, all some Sabrina Carpenter gooss as well.
I forgot that coming up in Just to Sex. Stay
(00:35):
with us on the Happy Families Podcast. Hello and welcome
to the Happy Family's podcast, Realpairing Solutions every Day. We
are Justin and Kylie Coulson. Kylie, so much to get
through today. Going to start with our Letter of the Week.
You can email your letters to podcasts at happyfamilies dot
com dot au.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Letter of the Week, Email of the Week.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
You've been holding out on me. I don't know anything
about a letter of the week.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
What are the challenges with the work that I do,
the travel that I do is sometimes we don't get
to talk about everything. I've been whispering, sweet, nothing's into
your ear? Instead instead of telling you about the letter
of the week, email of the week, whatever you want
to call it. So this one comes through from Amy
who wanted to share a letter from her school principle.
And I think this one is a big one and
a big shout out and thumbs up to Templestow Park
(01:20):
Primary School and Victoria for this one. The principal, Mark Roberts,
sent out the following to parents and cares of year
two students. Following discussions with the school counsel, of the
school's leadership team, staff and other schools, the decision has
been made to not commence the bring your own Device
program in year three. This means you won't have to
provide an iPad for your child in twenty twenty six. Basically,
(01:41):
they're saying, we want your kids to not have screens
for at least one more year. And I could read
a whole lot more, but that's the gist of it,
and I just thought to myself, we need more letters
like that coming through. We need more principles having the
courage to say, let's stay analog. It's actually not going
to revolutionize kids' education by putting them on an iPad.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
I love it.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
That's not the letter of the week. That sounds like
the winter of the year.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Yeah, I know, that's pretty awesome.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
So many parents just breathed that and went, oh, reassurance,
Thank goodness for that. We can we can do this,
we can do this. So I love that. There's a
little bit of news as well a bit of goss.
Last week, we were talking about Ca Pop Demon Hunters,
and I asked you if you were going to take
the kids.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
To see you, we're going to throw one of our
kids under the bus.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
And you know where I'm going.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
Yeah, okay, So while I'm throwing you under the bus, first,
I volunt told you to take the kids to.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
The movies while I was away.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
You didn't do it, and so and not died I
because I was away, but because it's available on Netflix
and you don't have to pay all that money to
go to the movies to see it. Anyway, our fifteen
year old sat down with our eleven year old. They
decided to watch it together. Fifteen year old hadn't seen it,
and when the movie was over, she walked out of
the living room with tears in her eyes, sobbing, sobbing,
(02:52):
crying about Kee Pop Demon hunters, we are mocking our
daughter on the podcast.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
So is there eleven year old sister? Because when I
walked in the door, the first thing she said to
me was go ask Lily how she liked the.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Movie, and Lily the whole time, she's like, it was terrible.
I didn't like it at all. I wasn't interested in it,
and We're like, but you are crying a lot. So
I just wanted to get that out of the way
as well. A couple of other quick things. Sabrina Carpenter
has her brand new app, Matt. This has been provocative,
This has been controversial. This is definitely not a kid's album,
(03:24):
but everybody who's a kid who loves Sabrina Carpenter wants it.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
When people first saw the cover of Man's Best Friend,
there was a lot of just and oh my, there
just a lot of pointing fingers.
Speaker 4 (03:35):
My fans that know me and know the person behind
the music look at that photo and they know exactly.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
What it is.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
And people that have no idea who I am absolutely
look at that photo and go where are my parents?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Yes, my parents.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
Actually saw the photo and they loved it.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Anyway, Sabrina Carpenter has now come out publicly and said
that her new album Man's Best Friend, was and I
quote not for any pearl clutches as a reporter by
the Hollywood Reporter, strong language, a lot of explicit content
on the album, and Sabrina Carpenter's well, I mean, she's
(04:10):
owning the space that she's decided to take on, but
very very much an album that is not for children.
So we just thought we would mention that as well
as part of the broader I'll do better Tomorrow conversation.
All right, So that's the latest news in pairing. As
far as I'm aware, there might have been some other
bits and pieces that have slipped my attention. You can
let us know about anything that's big via podcasts at
(04:33):
Happy families dot com dot a U Kylie, I'll do
better tomorrow. It's time to dissect the week that was.
Talk about where you won, where you would have liked
to improved. What's your main take home message, what's your
main story for the week.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
I actually have a question for you. How do you
usually feel about Father's Day?
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Next question? I mean, I know I'm supposed to love it.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
I know there's a whole lot of scripting around what
Father's Day's supposed to be, but I'm not massive into it.
I usually have a a large series of expectations in
that I'd like the kids to demonstrate that they've thought
of me just a little bit, although I don't need
anything but a nice letter or a song or a
poem or something, and I'd like them to tidy up
the mess without being asked and get along for the day.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
You're not asking very much, very low expectations. Verry said, no,
come on, come on, where are you going with this?
Did you just thro shaated me? I nailed it this year.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
I do have low expectations. I think we did too.
I think we had an absolute cracker of a Father's Day.
Might have been the best one ever. Maybe, So we.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
Don't hide the fact that we got to church on
Sundays and one of the mums in our community came
up with this brilliant idea to prank the dads, and
so we made a massive team order and ordered all
the dads the same tie for Father's Day.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
How many?
Speaker 1 (05:59):
How many were ordered? Like a hundred something like that.
That have to have been at least one hundred, Yeah,
identical tie.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Yeah, yeah, So I prepped Emily, and she did such
a good job. When she gifted you your tie, you
had already made it really clear that you did not
want another time.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
I have more ties than I'm ever gonna wear. Like
I only wear a tie on a Sunday. That's pretty
much it unless we're doing some kind of an event.
So I don't need tires. I don't have space for tires.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
I don't like.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Ties particularly, And so the kids all no, no more
ties for dad.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
And I knew if this was going to work, Emily
was the only one who could get away with it.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Yeah, because if the older kids gave me one, I
probably would. Here's my low expectations. I'd probably said, what
do you get me tie for? I don't I get
this from my mom My. Mom has said that so
many times when we've gifted to something. She's like, why
did you get that for me?
Speaker 2 (06:44):
I don't want that. It's like I don't need to
show some gratitude.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
I can't believe I'm saying this. This is a terrible confession.
This meant to me your old a better tomorrow, and
you're just throwing me under the bus.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
No, I'm not all right. Maybe I'm throwing you're a
very good job by yourself.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
Anyway, Emily hands it to you and you actually look
at it, and you were quite impressed. You thought it
was an okay tie.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
I have to I mean, while I'm just absolutely destroying
my reputation here, I did look at the back to
see what brand it was, and there was no brand,
and I thought, oh, that's funny. And the feel of
the tie, it feels like a team mood tie. I
wasn't thinking that at the time, but I was thinking,
it doesn't feel like the kind of tie that I
would normally wear.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
But Emily was very proud of herself. She paid with
it all with her own money, right, And she hands
it to you and you say that you actually asked
me what colored suit you're gonna wear with it, because
it would go with both.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Yeah, she did such a good job, so.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
Picking a tie that was going to work for everybody.
We get to church and as you're doing a reverse park,
you do a double take because you see one of
the guys in the car park putting up the kids praying.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Yeah, a guy called guy like literally that guy, that guy,
he was wearing the same tie.
Speaker 3 (07:54):
You did a double take, and I knew in that
moment you had clicked that his tie was the same
as yours.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Yeah, you get out of the car.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
But I didn't see anything bigger than just oh, guy
and I were in the same way.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
So you get out of the car and you make
a comment to guy that you've got the same tie,
and he said, you actually asked him where did you
get yours from? And he said, oh, my daughter brought
it from the Father's Day store. So your brain is
going over time because you know Emily doesn't go to
any Father's Day store.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
Well, she's in homeschool, so she we homeschool her, so
there's no Father's Day Still, I'm thinking maybe there was
a maybe there was a stall at the plaza or something.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
And I had made it clear to you that we'd
gone to shopping.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Yes, so you were like, this doesn't make sense. Okay.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Then the next thing, another.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
Guy, Sam drives in, drives in, he.
Speaker 3 (08:41):
Gets out, and me and the other wife are looking
at each other. We're just waiting for this here. But
Sam is oblivious. He has not even like clicked.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
But God was walking after his kids, so he didn't
notice either.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
And I'm not Guy Sam, no way, and The first
thing I say to Sam is where.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
Did you get the tie?
Speaker 3 (09:03):
So now you're peppering me to ask me exactly what store.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Because here's the thing, because Sam actually said, oh, I
think that the kids bought this one on TEAMOO for me,
And I've gone like, in my mind, I'm thinking, because
I'm tight, I've gone hang on a sex. So Sam's
got his on TEAMU, which means it probably costs about
four dollars, and guys picked his one up from the
Father's Stace or the kids have anyway from the Father's
day store, which means that he might have paid somewhere
between six and ten bucks. But what I'm actually thinking
(09:30):
is You've got to the plaza and somebody's gone and
bought TEAMO ties and they're probably selling them for thirty
or forty or fifty bucks in the plaza, and You've
We've been ripped off. That's what I was thinking, Emily's
been ripped off. This is not fair.
Speaker 3 (09:42):
But the first part was when you walked in the
doors and you realized you'd been pranked and everybody around
you was wearing.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
The same time. I literally I looked around, I'm like,
I've been pranked. You've prankedice you got it was good.
It was good.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
It was just it actually just elevated our day to
another level. We really enjoyed great conversations with friends in
our community. And then we got to come home and
we had an afternoon down at the beach. We just
took some picnic food.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Hey, hang on, you're stealing my old A better tomorrow,
am I? Well a little bit, but anyway, go ahead.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
And it was just so nice watching everybody play frisbee together,
and even the kids that are not particularly interested in
playing frisbee got involved. It was just it was easy.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Well, it was more than that.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
Not only do we have this wonderful level of involvement
and engagement. I mean you were in the whole family.
We were all throwing a frisbee around and just playing
and having fun on the beach. But at the end
of the night, the kids all came and late on
the bed and said, can.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
We do that every week? Like we want more of
that in our lives.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
And I mean a bit of a I don't know,
I was going to say, shot myself in the foot,
dig of the heart kind of thing, because this book
has taken me away so much I'm so so mindful
of how much of this Boy's book has robbed our
family of time together. But boy or boy, it's almost over.
I'm into the last couple of weeks of this book,
and it was really nice. It was a great Father's Day.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
And I guess my take home is I've spent so
many years trying to curate the perfect event, whether it
be Father's Day or birthdays, and you know, kind of
got myself twisted myself and notts trying to kind of
make sure that every detail has taken care of. And
while some of those events have actually been really beautiful events,
what I loved was just how like organic, organic this was.
(11:32):
It really was like I just made a simple green
salad with barbecued some chicken the day before. There was
nothing like super special about it. Yeah, but what was
special was the fact that we were all there and
we all wanted to be there.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
Although a quick note, let's just something about not letting
the sand get in the food next time, crunchy salad
with extra sand is not but you know what, we
got through it.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Hey, up next, what I pulled.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Out of the past week in terms of better way
to make our families function plus making the most of
most memories stay with us. Okay, Kylie, here's my old
better tomorrow for the week that was. I'm going to
(12:17):
be really sneaky here and chuck a couple in because
they all kind of combined together. Over the last what
it would have been the last twenty one days. I
think I've been on the road and traveling for about
fifteen of them. Sixteen of them, so I've barely been
home for the last few weeks. It's been absolutely chaotic,
and that's a really hard thing for us. We talk
about it regularly. There's certainly no bragging there. If anything,
(12:37):
it's a it's a privilege to be able to travel
around the country and help other families to learn principles
that are going to make them happier, but it does
come at a steep price for our family, and it's
been really rough. I'm so grateful. I'm not traveling again
for several weeks. Now I'm home, which feels really good.
But last weekend, while I was home, randomly, spontaneously, the
(13:00):
kids came into the room and they resurrected a game
that we haven't played for years.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
And you probably heard it from the kitchen.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
Yeah, I did.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
The kids are just screaming and this is a loud,
raucous game. The game is called.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
Push Dad off the Bed.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
Why don't you describe it? Because you're usually not involved
in it, you just watch it. I'm the one who's
struggling for dear life to stay.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
In this game. How would you explain the game?
Speaker 3 (13:27):
It's just a massive bodies all over my bed. There's squeals, delights,
there's feet, heads, I just body parts everywhere.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
It's an all in brawl.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
It is an all in brawl.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
And what's crazy.
Speaker 3 (13:40):
What's crazy is our twenty two year old lives at
home and she was as much involved as the eleven
year old. Like, this is a game that has stood
the test of time.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
Yeah, I've been playing it for twenty five years.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
Yeah, it'll be interesting to see what happens in twenty
four years.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
Oh, my goodness, might break hip. That's how that's what
we're going to do. I don't want an old people's home.
You can just push that off the bed and all
of a sudden it's over pneumonia, broken hip.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
So basically, they use their arms, they use their nails,
they use their heels, they use their heads and it's
then against me. So I had a twenty two year old,
an eighteen year old, a fifteen year old, and an
eleven year old, and basically I lay on the bed
and they try to pull me off or push me
off the bed.
Speaker 3 (14:27):
So you all start on the bed, and the idea
is to get it. You've got to try and get
them all off. Yes, so if you do that, you win, yeap.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
But they've got to get me off and then they win.
And it's just we ended up playing it two or
three times last weekend, and and every time, I mean,
the bed gets destroyed. That's just the bed is a
casualty of the game. So much fun, so much laughter.
Nobody cried this time in the entire weekend, which I mean,
(14:55):
I'm taking this as a plus.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
It was a lot of fun.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
But the other quick one, gosh, and I'm taking away
too long, the frisbee on the beach, which you've already mentioned.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
So much fun. But as part of our Father's.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
Day remembrance experience, you asked the kids to each share
one of their favorite memories of me, and every single
one of them essentially shared the same story or their
version of a certain incident with me.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
And the same story.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
So I el just talked about the time that she
wrote off the family car by crashing it into the
wall of a church on day one of driving with
her learner plates. Abby, a twenty two year old, talked
about the time where she was driving late at night
and a kangaroo hopped in front of her and she
wrote my car off that was only a year old,
my brand new Kia Sarato GT that I was very
(15:44):
excited about then. And so on down the list, each
of the girls they broke something, or they smashed something,
or they ruined something, and every single one of them said,
favorite memory of Dad, or one of my favorite times
with dad.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
Is when this awful thing happened.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
And I used the line, the line that they all remembered,
and it was so gratifying. The line is people matter,
things don't. And so when they confess that the car
was totaled or the thing was smashed or the whatever
it was, apparently in every single case, I went to
them and I wrapped them up in my arms and
(16:19):
I whispered in their ear people matter, things don't. It's
going to be okay. So for me, that's my I'll
do better tomorrow The dream has always been for me
that when our children reflect on difficult moments and emotional
moments and challenging moments through their childhood, and they reflect
on the way that you and I have handled those things,
(16:40):
that they will have warm memories, that they'll have the
kinds of memories that help them to understand that there
was compassion and love and understanding and second chances and
those kinds of things and people matter. Things don't seems
to have somehow, somehow snuck through the defenses and worked well.
Speaker 3 (16:59):
I know fether days coming gone, but I'm so grateful
for not only the way in which you have fathered
our children, but the way that you have elevated them
and just encouraged them to be their own best selves,
(17:20):
to be critical thinkers, to question the way things are,
and to be a blessing and a light to other people.
And your example has just been such a bright, shining
light for them. And hearing them share those stories you
talked about it being gratifying to you, but it just
(17:45):
I think so often as parents, we sit there with
our big long list of all the things we get
wrong and all the ways we wish that we could
be better, and yet to sit there on Sunday night
and to listen to these girls share these really really
big moments in their lives and the thing that they
remembered was that they madded and that was just it was.
(18:10):
It was such a beautiful moment. So thank you, Thank
you for being all of that and more.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Now you've got me weepy as well. We need to
wrap this up. We've gone well over time. We really
hope that you've enjoyed listening and hope that there's some
inspo here for you to make your families happier across
the weekend. Please spend that time, go throw a frisbee
going I don't know, just spend.
Speaker 2 (18:31):
Time with the kids. Kids spell love Tim.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
If you'd like more resources and ways to make your
family happier, you'll find them all at happy families dot
com dot au. And a huge thanks to Justin rule
On from Bridge Media who produces the podcast, and Mimhammond's
for all of her additional admin and research support.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
Have a great weekend.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
We'll be back on Monday talking about what to do
when your kids get violent and hit
Speaker 2 (18:53):
You, whether they're three or even a little bit older.
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