September 4, 2025 • 17 mins
From Father’s Day feels to Taylor Swift’s big news, Roblox lawsuits, and the surprising lessons hidden in K-Pop Demon Hunters—this Friday episode is packed. Plus, in I’ll Do Better Tomorrow, we get raw about surrender, parenting guilt, and why kids really do spell love T-I-M-E.
KEY POINTS:
- Father’s Day joy (and the best gift dads actually want)
- Taylor Swift’s engagement & what it’s sparking worldwide
- Roblox under fire: lawsuits, safety concerns & why parents should care
- K-Pop Demon Hunters craze—what kids love & what families can learn
- “I’ll Do Better Tomorrow”: surrendering control, parenting while overworked, and finding peace in presence
RESOURCES:
Free Father's Day Download: 'Me & My Dad' Activity Book
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:
- Celebrate Father’s Day with connection, not things—walks, hugs, shared meals.
- Stay alert to Roblox news; check your child’s settings and talk about online safety.
- If your kids are into K-Pop Demon Hunters, watch it with them—ask what they love and listen.
- Reflect: where can you let go of control and lean into connection this week?
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Hello, Welcome to the Happy Families Podcast, Real parenting solutions
every day. It's Australia's most downloaded parenting podcast. A lot
to covet today, Swift Ease, you'll be excited. Well, you're
already in other news, but what it's like to be
the parent of a child who is a swifty. When
Taylor Swift announceds she's getting married Roadblocks, we got so
much correspondence about our recent Roadblocks episode Roadblocks is in court.
(00:28):
I'm going to fill you in on why that is.
Let's just say that it seems that based on the allegations,
all of my concerns, all of our concerns, have been justified.
We've got to talk about K pop Demon Hunters. It
is the biggest thing on Netflix. It's going crazy in theaters.
That's coming up, plus a couple of heartwarming stories because today,
as we do every Friday, we're stepping into I'll do
Better Tomorrow, the bit where we pause, reflect on the week,
(00:52):
hopefully feel some gratitude for getting some things right, or
acknowledge our near missus and try again tomorrow. All that
and more coming up in Just a Sex Stay with us. Gooday,
and welcome to the Friday edition of the Happy Families
podcast Real Parenting Solutions every single day. It's Australia's most
(01:14):
downloaded parenting podcast. Kylie, we're kicking things off today with
a whole lot of news.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Oh.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
You know what I didn't mention in the intro.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
One of our babies turned eighteen.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Oh, I didn't mention either.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
We have successfully brought four adults into the world. Yes, survise.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
I just want to make it about me for a second.
Father's Days on Sunday.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Oh, I believe that Trump's.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
The most important day of the year other than our
eighteen year old, our baby, our fourth baby turning eighteen.
Pretty cool, Pretty cool.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
The idea that you can experience so much joy watching
your children navigate adulthood. I don't think I ever believed it.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Like it's a highlight, isn't it.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
It really is like watching these kids navigate life as
adults and navigating their adult relationships with each other as siblings.
It's such a joy point for me. I absolutely, it
just melts my heart.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Yeah, yeah, it's beautiful. So more heart melting stuff shortly. First,
some news. I need to get to the news. I
have mentioned Father's Day on Sunday, I think that's very important.
Can I just emphasize again this Sunday Father's Day, special
day on the calendar, hopefully, hopefully.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
What are you expecting?
Speaker 1 (02:32):
First? Do you know what I really like the Father's Day?
We haven't even talked about this yet. I love cuddles
in bed with the kids and with you, of course,
maybe some nice food and just some fun times. I
feel like Father's Day should be walk along the beach,
or throw a frisbee, kick a ball, just hanging out
with the kids. I can't think of anything I'd rather
do than hang out with you and the kids. It's
(02:53):
my dream scenario.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Can we manage I think we might be able to
manage that possible?
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Okay, Taylor Swift is in the news. Well, she said, yes,
Taylor Swift and Travis Kelsey are officially engaged. I think
that it would be wonderful to end up with the
right person, and there's no doubt their loved ones are
on board too.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
We are so thrilled to say that Travis Kelsey's dad
and Taylor's at future father in law ed a beautiful man. Congratulations,
so wonderful young lady.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
She's very good for him. They just compliment each other
so well.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
So I don't know why, but did she not get
an engagement ring like ages ago? This doesn't feel like
news to me.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Well, I mean it's been news for about I don't know,
a week and a half, two weeks took years. We
should have covered on the pod. No, No, not years ago, No,
definitely not. No, this is big And I've been reading
a couple of articles lately that there's a whole lot
of people who are pretty addicting that marriage rates are
going to rise because Taylor Swift just getting married. She's
(04:05):
making married to popular again. Funny the stuff that people
get hold of. What we do need to talk about, though,
is Roadblocks. What was it about? A week ago? Week
and a half ago, we did a podcast episode where
we got stuck into what Hindenburg Research had to say
about Roadblocks last year and how serious that situation is. Well,
Roadblocks is now under legal fire for allegedly not protecting
(04:26):
its youngest and most vulnerable users. Could have predicted it,
we kind of picked it. Basically, here's the way Roadblocks works,
free online platform where users go and create games and
bring people in to play the games that they've created
according to their data, and we don't know how much
of this we can believe, but their data suggests that
(04:47):
it has seventy million players globally big audience. That's more
than what is it. It's nearly three Australias seventy million
online players. Forty two percent of them are under thirteen.
So when you've got nearly half of your seventy million
players under the age of thirteen, that could be a
(05:08):
recipe for disaster if you don't have appropriate protections in place.
There are now multiple lawsuits accusing Roadblocks of and I
quote here will full neglect in terms of protecting their
child audience from bad actors who may want to access them.
What of the lawsuits says and again this is a
quote that Roadblocks has kept making decisions that prioritize growth
(05:31):
and keeps investors happy over actually protecting the kids and
users on their platform. Sounds like something we might have
sell on the podcast ourselves. Lousy parental controls, predatory mechanics.
It's only gotten worse and the lawsuits against the platform
are racking up. We will keep an eye on that
and keep you up to date with what's going on there.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
In other news, it's time.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
The world or US pubstimes.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
But you will be much more than that.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
I tried a K Pop demon Hunter's bagel at breakfast
the other.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Day and major eleven year old daughter's day. Yeah, she
was so excited.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Yeah, I reckon the bagel tasted as good as what
the movie probably is to watch three out of two.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
So I've actually had a couple of friends post on
their feeds about how good it actually is when they've
pulled out all of the lessons that you could learn.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
You're going to take our kids to sit because oh,
I'm not going. We are so slack here, we are
parenting experts. We won't do it all right, I'll do
better tomorrow, Kyle, we I'll do bet it tomorrow. You're
up first.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
So I've actually been really really struggling with a handful
of personal challenges right now, and it is overshadowing everything
that I do, and it probably overshadows nearly every conversation
I have.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
And I would go further than saying it's overshadowing those conversations.
I think it infiltrates almost get a conversation takes over. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
that's one of those things, isn't it? Like and the
more you focus on it, the bigger it gets.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Yeah, And I've been really really wrestling with it and
trying to work out why I'm so challenged by it
and what i want to do with it. And I've
had a couple of conversations over the last few days
and the same word keeps coming up. And I was
talking with my best friend about it, and she just
(07:27):
had a little chuckle when I suggested that I'd been
encouraged to surrender. And as we talked about it, I
shared my emotions and I was really emotional about it
because I'm like, I don't feel like I'm trying to
control things, So what does it mean to surrender? Like,
what does it mean to let go when I feel
(07:50):
like I've got no control anyway?
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Are you about to go? Or mel Robbins let them
on me? Is that where this is going?
Speaker 2 (07:56):
Yes and no. It just an acknowledgement that to surrender
means being open to feeling whatever needs to be felt.
So part of the reason we struggle with things is
because the wrestle is in not accepting that right now
I feel sad, or right now I actually feel really angry,
right now, rests I feel hurt, because there's this part
(08:19):
of me that has this written script that if I
feel X, Y and Z, that makes me a bad person,
and therefore I can't allow myself to feel that, because
if I don't feel that, and I don't acknowledge that
I'm feeling that, then I'm an okay person. Right. But
the reality is we're all got good and bad in us.
We've all got contradicting parts of us. And funnily enough,
(08:43):
I came home. My best friend had given me this
beautiful box of affirmation cards and I literally, from time
to time just pick it up and I pull one out,
and the one I pulled out if it wasn't enough,
the universe is telling.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
Me to let go.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Let go. Today, I will not make myself crazy by
trying to force or make something happen. Instead, I choose
to step back, let go and attached with love. What
I need flows to be graciously and for my highest good.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
And I love the fact that JR. Our producer has
put some beautiful, meditative woo woo music underneath that I'm
mocking it, but it's actually it's right. And I don't
even like mel Robins let them the book that much, either,
But this idea is so valuable in terms of bringing
peace into our lives. They are them, they'll do what
(09:32):
they do, and whenever you try to resist the feelings
that you're having around it, just an acceptance and willing
to say, Okay, yeah that hurts. No, I don't like it,
and it's their life. They get to choose that if
they want. It's a pathway to peace.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
It just made me think about how many times we
get ourselves so tied up in knots because we're trying
to control the situation. We're trying to make sense of it,
when the reality is sometimes there is no sense to
what we're experiencing based on other people's behavior, or other
people's feelings or the way they perceive things. We actually
(10:07):
can't make sense of it because we're not them, but
we tie ourselves in knots trying to make sense of it.
And I think that that's where I'm at, just trying
to make sense of something that makes no sense at all,
and yet at the end of the day, it may
never make sense to me, and finding a way to
surrender and let go is clearly my path moving forward.
(10:30):
I'm not sure if I'm there yet, but I really appreciate.
I really appreciate beautiful people in my life who are
willing to sit in hard places with me and even
tell me the hard truths, because it's those people who
are willing to see all of me that enables me
to move forward and rise above the challenges that we experience.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Really appreciate you sharing that. It's a lot that you're carrying,
and it's hard to talk about it publicly, but I
think that there's value in it and you take home
message they're good people working on yourself. I just feel
like you need more zen mornings down on the beach
with some music, with some music. All right. Up next,
the things that I've gotten right or wrong, and how
(11:15):
we can all take those lessons to be better tomorrow. Okay, Kylie,
here we go. It's my older better tomorrow. The stuff
that I've gotten right or wrong? And how I don't
think you.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Can say that, say what right or wrong? Because there
isn't a right or wrong.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
Oh there's there's adaptive and less adaptive.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
There's I just think it's really important.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
But let's talk about the things that I did were
adaptive and the things that I do are less adaptive.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
I just think it's important important that there's not I
don't want people thinking that there's this list of right
ways of doing things and there's a list of wrong ways.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
All right, well I had a crack. I had a
crack this week. Okay, all right, go for it. So,
I mean, when it comes to older bit tomorrow, I
like to share big stories. But one of the challenges,
and I have talked about this on the podcast previously,
one of the challenges with the work that I do
is that sometimes I have to travel a lot, and
my calendar has been back to back to back to back.
(12:14):
I mean, it's just been it's been bonkers. I haven't
been home for more than two nights a week for
about three weeks, and I've still got another week or
two of it to go on top of that. With
all of my travel, I'm trying to finish this book
because oh, big news on the Boys book. I thought
I had until the end of November. That the publishers
told me I've got en tti the end of September.
(12:35):
The book's going to be finished in the next couple
of weeks. But I'm trying to write and travel and
speak and do all of it at once. And when
I'm coming home. I'm even working on weekends, Like I'm
working literally seven days a week from sun up until
well after sundown. It's absolutely nuts. And so I'm trying
to be the parenting expert, and I'm more than that.
Let's forget about being a parenting expert for a sec.
(12:57):
That's the day job that's also encroaching into everything else.
I'm actually trying to be a dad and a husband,
and I just it's really really hard. So I have
basically been you've been single parenting. I've been doing well.
Maybe that's probably unfair to single parents who really are
doing it on their own, but I certainly have not
been around. It's been really really hard. And in spite
(13:17):
of that, I just had one of those moments the
other day where our granddaughter was hanging out with us
because our daughter, her mum, was engaged with something else,
and we were driving somewhere. The baby was in the car.
She'd fallen asleep.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
I know where you're going, yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
Yeah yeah, And I wasn't in the car when you
came to pick me up, So the baby was asleep
when I got into the car. About half an hour
up the road, as we were getting close to home.
She woke up and the first word out of her
mouth was this amazed, delighted pop Like she saw me
and she was like oh.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
We turned around and her eyes weren't even fully open,
like she was like delirious.
Speaker 1 (14:00):
But the point that I want to make here is
that when you aren't with the kids, you don't get
to have those moments to a child lover spelt time,
and we've got to recognizing the guilt that comes and
the horrible feeling that comes from being so busy and
working all the time. We've got to do our best
to make ourselves available for them because when we do that,
(14:23):
we get to have those moments where they open their
eyes seious and they are delighted.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
So but here's the crazy thing. In the beginning, there
was no contest. I was one hundred percent, hands down
the absolute favorite. Yeah, she would choose me over you
any day you are gone a lot. She gets the
line's share of my time and attention, but the time
that she spends with you is quality and as a result,
(14:50):
there's no longer this favoritism, Like she will go to
you just as much as she'll come to me.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
She gets the best of me. Let me extend that
into our own kids because we're still raising Oh we've
got we've got one that just had her eighteenth the
other day. So we've still got two kids under eighteen
at home. Both of them are having some ups and
downs at the moment. And I sat down with them
the other day and I just said, I'm gone a lot.
It doesn't feel fair, and it's not fair like you
guys deserve to have a dad who's around more. But
(15:16):
here's a thing on such and such a date, all
the travel stops and in term four for me, historically,
I don't travel very much. There are very few bookings
in term four. As a general rule, there are still some,
but I'm not gone for extended periods. And I just said,
you're going to get the very best of me once
we hit term four. You're absolutely getting the best of me.
And here's how we're going to make it work out.
(15:38):
And I watched their faces just slide up as I
were like, yeah, I get my dad back. And it's
one of those things where I'm sort of going, oh,
do I need to reevaluate all of my life choices?
But that's why I'll do better tomorrow. It's about time
kids spell love t IM this weekend, spend time with
the kids, put the phone down, put away as many
(15:58):
of your responsibilities as you can can save them for
another day, and just invest in that relationship. It's just
so crucial.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
Well, I'm looking forward to a nice long walk along
the beach on Father's Day because that's that's that's booked in. Yeah,
we're doing that.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
I've just realized I've just got to finish the book.
I don't even know if I can take Father's Day off.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
Are you not going to take your own advice?
Speaker 1 (16:19):
What advice?
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Kids spelled love t I m E.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
Okay, so we'll go for a walk on Father's Day.
We can do that. I was just kidding. I was
just kidding. I was just kidding. We need to wrap
it up there before you're giving me the look. Well,
let's wrap it up. We're out of time. Anyway, have
a great weekend, have a great Father's Day. Hopefully it'll
be memorable and delightful and full of lots of l
O V E and T I M E in your home.
Speaker 2 (16:41):
And no T E A r S T T E
A r s.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
We don't want any of those. Definitely not the happy
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Speaker 2 (17:00):
Do I you mhm
Hello, Welcome to the Happy Families Podcast, Real parenting solutions
every day. It's Australia's most downloaded parenting podcast. A lot
to covet today, Swift Ease, you'll be excited. Well, you're
already in other news, but what it's like to be
the parent of a child who is a swifty. When
Taylor Swift announceds she's getting married Roadblocks, we got so
much correspondence about our recent Roadblocks episode Roadblocks is in court.
(00:28):
I'm going to fill you in on why that is.
Let's just say that it seems that based on the allegations,
all of my concerns, all of our concerns, have been justified.
We've got to talk about K pop Demon Hunters. It
is the biggest thing on Netflix. It's going crazy in theaters.
That's coming up, plus a couple of heartwarming stories because today,
as we do every Friday, we're stepping into I'll do
Better Tomorrow, the bit where we pause, reflect on the week,
(00:52):
hopefully feel some gratitude for getting some things right, or
acknowledge our near missus and try again tomorrow. All that
and more coming up in Just a Sex Stay with us. Gooday,
and welcome to the Friday edition of the Happy Families
podcast Real Parenting Solutions every single day. It's Australia's most
(01:14):
downloaded parenting podcast. Kylie, we're kicking things off today with
a whole lot of news.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Oh.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
You know what I didn't mention in the intro.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
One of our babies turned eighteen.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Oh, I didn't mention either.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
We have successfully brought four adults into the world. Yes, survise.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
I just want to make it about me for a second.
Father's Days on Sunday.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Oh, I believe that Trump's.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
The most important day of the year other than our
eighteen year old, our baby, our fourth baby turning eighteen.
Pretty cool, Pretty cool.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
The idea that you can experience so much joy watching
your children navigate adulthood. I don't think I ever believed it.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Like it's a highlight, isn't it.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
It really is like watching these kids navigate life as
adults and navigating their adult relationships with each other as siblings.
It's such a joy point for me. I absolutely, it
just melts my heart.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Yeah, yeah, it's beautiful. So more heart melting stuff shortly. First,
some news. I need to get to the news. I
have mentioned Father's Day on Sunday, I think that's very important.
Can I just emphasize again this Sunday Father's Day, special
day on the calendar, hopefully, hopefully.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
What are you expecting?
Speaker 1 (02:32):
First? Do you know what I really like the Father's Day?
We haven't even talked about this yet. I love cuddles
in bed with the kids and with you, of course,
maybe some nice food and just some fun times. I
feel like Father's Day should be walk along the beach,
or throw a frisbee, kick a ball, just hanging out
with the kids. I can't think of anything I'd rather
do than hang out with you and the kids. It's
(02:53):
my dream scenario.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Can we manage I think we might be able to
manage that possible?
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Okay, Taylor Swift is in the news. Well, she said, yes,
Taylor Swift and Travis Kelsey are officially engaged. I think
that it would be wonderful to end up with the
right person, and there's no doubt their loved ones are
on board too.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
We are so thrilled to say that Travis Kelsey's dad
and Taylor's at future father in law ed a beautiful man. Congratulations,
so wonderful young lady.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
She's very good for him. They just compliment each other
so well.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
So I don't know why, but did she not get
an engagement ring like ages ago? This doesn't feel like
news to me.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Well, I mean it's been news for about I don't know,
a week and a half, two weeks took years. We
should have covered on the pod. No, No, not years ago, No,
definitely not. No, this is big And I've been reading
a couple of articles lately that there's a whole lot
of people who are pretty addicting that marriage rates are
going to rise because Taylor Swift just getting married. She's
(04:05):
making married to popular again. Funny the stuff that people
get hold of. What we do need to talk about, though,
is Roadblocks. What was it about? A week ago? Week
and a half ago, we did a podcast episode where
we got stuck into what Hindenburg Research had to say
about Roadblocks last year and how serious that situation is. Well,
Roadblocks is now under legal fire for allegedly not protecting
(04:26):
its youngest and most vulnerable users. Could have predicted it,
we kind of picked it. Basically, here's the way Roadblocks works,
free online platform where users go and create games and
bring people in to play the games that they've created
according to their data, and we don't know how much
of this we can believe, but their data suggests that
(04:47):
it has seventy million players globally big audience. That's more
than what is it. It's nearly three Australias seventy million
online players. Forty two percent of them are under thirteen.
So when you've got nearly half of your seventy million
players under the age of thirteen, that could be a
(05:08):
recipe for disaster if you don't have appropriate protections in place.
There are now multiple lawsuits accusing Roadblocks of and I
quote here will full neglect in terms of protecting their
child audience from bad actors who may want to access them.
What of the lawsuits says and again this is a
quote that Roadblocks has kept making decisions that prioritize growth
(05:31):
and keeps investors happy over actually protecting the kids and
users on their platform. Sounds like something we might have
sell on the podcast ourselves. Lousy parental controls, predatory mechanics.
It's only gotten worse and the lawsuits against the platform
are racking up. We will keep an eye on that
and keep you up to date with what's going on there.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
In other news, it's time.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
The world or US pubstimes.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
But you will be much more than that.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
I tried a K Pop demon Hunter's bagel at breakfast
the other.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Day and major eleven year old daughter's day. Yeah, she
was so excited.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Yeah, I reckon the bagel tasted as good as what
the movie probably is to watch three out of two.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
So I've actually had a couple of friends post on
their feeds about how good it actually is when they've
pulled out all of the lessons that you could learn.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
You're going to take our kids to sit because oh,
I'm not going. We are so slack here, we are
parenting experts. We won't do it all right, I'll do
better tomorrow, Kyle, we I'll do bet it tomorrow. You're
up first.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
So I've actually been really really struggling with a handful
of personal challenges right now, and it is overshadowing everything
that I do, and it probably overshadows nearly every conversation
I have.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
And I would go further than saying it's overshadowing those conversations.
I think it infiltrates almost get a conversation takes over. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
that's one of those things, isn't it? Like and the
more you focus on it, the bigger it gets.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Yeah, And I've been really really wrestling with it and
trying to work out why I'm so challenged by it
and what i want to do with it. And I've
had a couple of conversations over the last few days
and the same word keeps coming up. And I was
talking with my best friend about it, and she just
(07:27):
had a little chuckle when I suggested that I'd been
encouraged to surrender. And as we talked about it, I
shared my emotions and I was really emotional about it
because I'm like, I don't feel like I'm trying to
control things, So what does it mean to surrender? Like,
what does it mean to let go when I feel
(07:50):
like I've got no control anyway?
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Are you about to go? Or mel Robbins let them
on me? Is that where this is going?
Speaker 2 (07:56):
Yes and no. It just an acknowledgement that to surrender
means being open to feeling whatever needs to be felt.
So part of the reason we struggle with things is
because the wrestle is in not accepting that right now
I feel sad, or right now I actually feel really angry,
right now, rests I feel hurt, because there's this part
(08:19):
of me that has this written script that if I
feel X, Y and Z, that makes me a bad person,
and therefore I can't allow myself to feel that, because
if I don't feel that, and I don't acknowledge that
I'm feeling that, then I'm an okay person. Right. But
the reality is we're all got good and bad in us.
We've all got contradicting parts of us. And funnily enough,
(08:43):
I came home. My best friend had given me this
beautiful box of affirmation cards and I literally, from time
to time just pick it up and I pull one out,
and the one I pulled out if it wasn't enough,
the universe is telling.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
Me to let go.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Let go. Today, I will not make myself crazy by
trying to force or make something happen. Instead, I choose
to step back, let go and attached with love. What
I need flows to be graciously and for my highest good.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
And I love the fact that JR. Our producer has
put some beautiful, meditative woo woo music underneath that I'm
mocking it, but it's actually it's right. And I don't
even like mel Robins let them the book that much, either,
But this idea is so valuable in terms of bringing
peace into our lives. They are them, they'll do what
(09:32):
they do, and whenever you try to resist the feelings
that you're having around it, just an acceptance and willing
to say, Okay, yeah that hurts. No, I don't like it,
and it's their life. They get to choose that if
they want. It's a pathway to peace.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
It just made me think about how many times we
get ourselves so tied up in knots because we're trying
to control the situation. We're trying to make sense of it,
when the reality is sometimes there is no sense to
what we're experiencing based on other people's behavior, or other
people's feelings or the way they perceive things. We actually
(10:07):
can't make sense of it because we're not them, but
we tie ourselves in knots trying to make sense of it.
And I think that that's where I'm at, just trying
to make sense of something that makes no sense at all,
and yet at the end of the day, it may
never make sense to me, and finding a way to
surrender and let go is clearly my path moving forward.
(10:30):
I'm not sure if I'm there yet, but I really appreciate.
I really appreciate beautiful people in my life who are
willing to sit in hard places with me and even
tell me the hard truths, because it's those people who
are willing to see all of me that enables me
to move forward and rise above the challenges that we experience.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Really appreciate you sharing that. It's a lot that you're carrying,
and it's hard to talk about it publicly, but I
think that there's value in it and you take home
message they're good people working on yourself. I just feel
like you need more zen mornings down on the beach
with some music, with some music. All right. Up next,
the things that I've gotten right or wrong, and how
(11:15):
we can all take those lessons to be better tomorrow. Okay, Kylie,
here we go. It's my older better tomorrow. The stuff
that I've gotten right or wrong? And how I don't
think you.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Can say that, say what right or wrong? Because there
isn't a right or wrong.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
Oh there's there's adaptive and less adaptive.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
There's I just think it's really important.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
But let's talk about the things that I did were
adaptive and the things that I do are less adaptive.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
I just think it's important important that there's not I
don't want people thinking that there's this list of right
ways of doing things and there's a list of wrong ways.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
All right, well I had a crack. I had a
crack this week. Okay, all right, go for it. So,
I mean, when it comes to older bit tomorrow, I
like to share big stories. But one of the challenges,
and I have talked about this on the podcast previously,
one of the challenges with the work that I do
is that sometimes I have to travel a lot, and
my calendar has been back to back to back to back.
(12:14):
I mean, it's just been it's been bonkers. I haven't
been home for more than two nights a week for
about three weeks, and I've still got another week or
two of it to go on top of that. With
all of my travel, I'm trying to finish this book
because oh, big news on the Boys book. I thought
I had until the end of November. That the publishers
told me I've got en tti the end of September.
(12:35):
The book's going to be finished in the next couple
of weeks. But I'm trying to write and travel and
speak and do all of it at once. And when
I'm coming home. I'm even working on weekends, Like I'm
working literally seven days a week from sun up until
well after sundown. It's absolutely nuts. And so I'm trying
to be the parenting expert, and I'm more than that.
Let's forget about being a parenting expert for a sec.
(12:57):
That's the day job that's also encroaching into everything else.
I'm actually trying to be a dad and a husband,
and I just it's really really hard. So I have
basically been you've been single parenting. I've been doing well.
Maybe that's probably unfair to single parents who really are
doing it on their own, but I certainly have not
been around. It's been really really hard. And in spite
(13:17):
of that, I just had one of those moments the
other day where our granddaughter was hanging out with us
because our daughter, her mum, was engaged with something else,
and we were driving somewhere. The baby was in the car.
She'd fallen asleep.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
I know where you're going, yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
Yeah yeah, And I wasn't in the car when you
came to pick me up, So the baby was asleep
when I got into the car. About half an hour
up the road, as we were getting close to home.
She woke up and the first word out of her
mouth was this amazed, delighted pop Like she saw me
and she was like oh.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
We turned around and her eyes weren't even fully open,
like she was like delirious.
Speaker 1 (14:00):
But the point that I want to make here is
that when you aren't with the kids, you don't get
to have those moments to a child lover spelt time,
and we've got to recognizing the guilt that comes and
the horrible feeling that comes from being so busy and
working all the time. We've got to do our best
to make ourselves available for them because when we do that,
(14:23):
we get to have those moments where they open their
eyes seious and they are delighted.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
So but here's the crazy thing. In the beginning, there
was no contest. I was one hundred percent, hands down
the absolute favorite. Yeah, she would choose me over you
any day you are gone a lot. She gets the
line's share of my time and attention, but the time
that she spends with you is quality and as a result,
(14:50):
there's no longer this favoritism, Like she will go to
you just as much as she'll come to me.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
She gets the best of me. Let me extend that
into our own kids because we're still raising Oh we've
got we've got one that just had her eighteenth the
other day. So we've still got two kids under eighteen
at home. Both of them are having some ups and
downs at the moment. And I sat down with them
the other day and I just said, I'm gone a lot.
It doesn't feel fair, and it's not fair like you
guys deserve to have a dad who's around more. But
(15:16):
here's a thing on such and such a date, all
the travel stops and in term four for me, historically,
I don't travel very much. There are very few bookings
in term four. As a general rule, there are still some,
but I'm not gone for extended periods. And I just said,
you're going to get the very best of me once
we hit term four. You're absolutely getting the best of me.
And here's how we're going to make it work out.
(15:38):
And I watched their faces just slide up as I
were like, yeah, I get my dad back. And it's
one of those things where I'm sort of going, oh,
do I need to reevaluate all of my life choices?
But that's why I'll do better tomorrow. It's about time
kids spell love t IM this weekend, spend time with
the kids, put the phone down, put away as many
(15:58):
of your responsibilities as you can can save them for
another day, and just invest in that relationship. It's just
so crucial.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
Well, I'm looking forward to a nice long walk along
the beach on Father's Day because that's that's that's booked in. Yeah,
we're doing that.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
I've just realized I've just got to finish the book.
I don't even know if I can take Father's Day off.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
Are you not going to take your own advice?
Speaker 1 (16:19):
What advice?
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Kids spelled love t I m E.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
Okay, so we'll go for a walk on Father's Day.
We can do that. I was just kidding. I was
just kidding. I was just kidding. We need to wrap
it up there before you're giving me the look. Well,
let's wrap it up. We're out of time. Anyway, have
a great weekend, have a great Father's Day. Hopefully it'll
be memorable and delightful and full of lots of l
O V E and T I M E in your home.
Speaker 2 (16:41):
And no T E A r S T T E
A r s.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
We don't want any of those. Definitely not the happy
Families podcast is produced by Justin Roland from Bridge Media.
Mimhammond's provides admin, research and additional support, and if you'd
like more info to make your family happy, visit us
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Speaker 2 (17:00):
Do I you mhm
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