April 15, 2025 • 7 mins
Hayley weighs in on what she thinks she would do if put in the same situation.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Okay, we have lots of fun on this show. We
love coming to work because we know we're gonna laugh
pretty much for three hours.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Adelaie's number one for fun. I've seen the.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Billboard we have and I love hanging out with you
and it's all great. But sometimes you've got to talk
about things that aren't fun but are really important. And
I thought this is something that we have to bring
up because I know as a mom, I've been on
group text with my mum girlfriends since about midweek last
week talking about this particular story that's broken in Adelaide.
(00:27):
This is the story that you may have seen on
the news or you may have heard it on the
radio of the Adelaide mum whose thirteen year old daughter
was being severely bullied at school, and so she the
reason it made news is because she went into the
classroom and she, like most mums would absolutely went bunter
at your brother. She confronted the.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Bully, went in there calm, and then escalated.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Yeah and yeah, I'm with her on this. Have a
listened to the audio. Now we're going to talk about
(01:23):
what led to this moment in just a second. But Max,
as someone who doesn't have kids. Yet, how does that
make you feel?
Speaker 2 (01:29):
That's over the top for me. I don't have kids,
and they're already banging on this to you right now,
going Max, if you have kids, you'd get it. That
is an over the top reaction in modern society to anything.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
I think logically, yes, and this mum has admitted that.
But there's something that happens when you become a mom
and you've held this child in you for nine months,
You've raised this beautiful thing. You love your kids more
than anything on this earth, and if someone is bullying
them and telling them that their life isn't worth living,
you will do anything. I am a really nice person,
(02:02):
but if someone hurt my kids, I actually don't trust
myself what I would do.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
I am the king of confrontation. I'm very much if
you have a problem, let's talk about it. Let's go
right now, we'll talk about it. To it. And she
went to do it, and she went to talk, and
she went to sort it out. But then it just
went to the monster.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
Comes out, the monster comes out you and maybe see
I reckon. My husband would be like you, maybe it
is a more male thing. He'd be more considered in
his approach but as a mum, you feel this weird, innate,
kind of animal instinct to protect your cub.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
I get it. But she threatened to kill a twelve
year old.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
I know, but this is the thing. So if to
stop someone from bullying your child, I know it's not
the right thing, but you almost need to have a threat.
If you keep bullying my child, I will insert threat right.
And also, you know, when you're in this moment, I
don't know if you can even relate to it, but
when you have so much anger in you and this
protective instinct that you just literally raw, you will say anything.
(03:01):
And I would be scared of myself, if even physically,
of what I would do, and I know my parents
would be the same if it was if it was
of me. Let's just have a listen now to what
led to this outburst. And I just want to say,
I'm not saying what she has said is right. She
also but I understand how she got to this point.
(03:21):
Have a listened.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Our daughter was believed immensely probably not over twelve months.
There's actually a group of them. So it first started
off with a comment made to her to say, hey,
have you had plastic surgery? Bell because it looks like
it hasn't worked and you're an ugly so and so.
Now I am getting a lot of flak from people saying, we'll,
why didn't imput your daughter arout? Well, she is very strong.
(03:45):
She has stated to me, Look, Mom, I'm going to
give up. My best shot is here. I'm going to try.
And when your daughter gives you that, it gives me
a bit of hope that she can get through it.
But within probably a day or two, she would come
home and say, Mum, it started again. It happened again.
We've gone through every single channel and it's just it's
(04:08):
literally just destroyed us. Now, what happened is that planted
a little bit of a seed in her brain and
she stopped eating for a long period of time. I
would find Muldy sandwiches in her bag and I would
see my thirteen year old be the story and she
would go from a beautiful thirteen year old girl to nothing.
(04:29):
It's like she was empty and she had nothing lest Okay.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
So hearing that audio is just horrific.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
As a parent, you.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
Can't even imagine if you haven't been in that position,
And sadly, it is happening all the time. And I mean,
I have a thirteen year old boy, so I have
a lot of friends with thirteen year old girls as well.
And unfortunately we didn't have this because we didn't have
the internet, Like we didn't have Twitter and Snapchat and whatever, Twitter, Facebook,
you know when we you are growing up. But now
(05:01):
this is what happens. They don't just get bullied face
to face. They get home and there's horrific messages, especially
on Snapchat because the message is delete. And I know,
like I have friends that have children, daughters that have
been bullied, and I know this is going to make
me sound really bad, but I'm going to be honest
here because I think this is what we are. We're
an honest We're honest. When this happened, I love my
(05:27):
friend's kids like they are my own, and I feel
like I would go in there and want to protect
that child from being bullied. When this happened, I actually googled,
got on Instagram and got this little bully's face so
I could see what she looks like really, and so
if I saw her at the school and she was
doing it again, I actually don't trust myself. What if
I wouldn't say I would say something. I feel like
(05:47):
I would because I love my kids. Friends like, oh
it's it really touches you to hear that raw emotion
in that mum's voice, because if that was your child,
I think we'd all do the same thing. Yeah, so
we'd love to know. And this is the worst part, Max,
is what do you do in this situation. You go
(06:07):
to the school, the wellness person might you know, okay,
well we'll deal with it. You go to the mum
of the bully. They might be a bit defensive but
also trying to deal with it, but it still doesn't
stop it from happening.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
This was the problem that the Adelaide mum that we
have been listening to had. She said she exhausted all
the options. The school was no good. They see out
a counselor that was no good. She's what do I do?
Do I go to police?
Speaker 1 (06:29):
You're just lost, And that's why she went to the bully.
To the bully's face, you just want to shake them
stop hurting my child. So we'd love to know. I
know this is a serious topic, but I think it's
really important because I thought if we talk about it,
hopefully we can all share ideas of how we can
help this situation for other parents.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Thirty one oh two three give us a ring have
How have you dealt with your child being bullied? Did
you deal with the bully? Did you deal with the school?
Help us out with this, Adelaide Mom, if she's listening
thirty one h two straight, We need your opinion
Okay, we have lots of fun on this show. We
love coming to work because we know we're gonna laugh
pretty much for three hours.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Adelaie's number one for fun. I've seen the.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Billboard we have and I love hanging out with you
and it's all great. But sometimes you've got to talk
about things that aren't fun but are really important. And
I thought this is something that we have to bring
up because I know as a mom, I've been on
group text with my mum girlfriends since about midweek last
week talking about this particular story that's broken in Adelaide.
(00:27):
This is the story that you may have seen on
the news or you may have heard it on the
radio of the Adelaide mum whose thirteen year old daughter
was being severely bullied at school, and so she the
reason it made news is because she went into the
classroom and she, like most mums would absolutely went bunter
at your brother. She confronted the.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Bully, went in there calm, and then escalated.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Yeah and yeah, I'm with her on this. Have a
listened to the audio. Now we're going to talk about
(01:23):
what led to this moment in just a second. But Max,
as someone who doesn't have kids. Yet, how does that
make you feel?
Speaker 2 (01:29):
That's over the top for me. I don't have kids,
and they're already banging on this to you right now,
going Max, if you have kids, you'd get it. That
is an over the top reaction in modern society to anything.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
I think logically, yes, and this mum has admitted that.
But there's something that happens when you become a mom
and you've held this child in you for nine months,
You've raised this beautiful thing. You love your kids more
than anything on this earth, and if someone is bullying
them and telling them that their life isn't worth living,
you will do anything. I am a really nice person,
(02:02):
but if someone hurt my kids, I actually don't trust
myself what I would do.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
I am the king of confrontation. I'm very much if
you have a problem, let's talk about it. Let's go
right now, we'll talk about it. To it. And she
went to do it, and she went to talk, and
she went to sort it out. But then it just
went to the monster.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
Comes out, the monster comes out you and maybe see
I reckon. My husband would be like you, maybe it
is a more male thing. He'd be more considered in
his approach but as a mum, you feel this weird, innate,
kind of animal instinct to protect your cub.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
I get it. But she threatened to kill a twelve
year old.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
I know, but this is the thing. So if to
stop someone from bullying your child, I know it's not
the right thing, but you almost need to have a threat.
If you keep bullying my child, I will insert threat right.
And also, you know, when you're in this moment, I
don't know if you can even relate to it, but
when you have so much anger in you and this
protective instinct that you just literally raw, you will say anything.
(03:01):
And I would be scared of myself, if even physically,
of what I would do, and I know my parents
would be the same if it was if it was
of me. Let's just have a listen now to what
led to this outburst. And I just want to say,
I'm not saying what she has said is right. She
also but I understand how she got to this point.
(03:21):
Have a listened.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Our daughter was believed immensely probably not over twelve months.
There's actually a group of them. So it first started
off with a comment made to her to say, hey,
have you had plastic surgery? Bell because it looks like
it hasn't worked and you're an ugly so and so.
Now I am getting a lot of flak from people saying, we'll,
why didn't imput your daughter arout? Well, she is very strong.
(03:45):
She has stated to me, Look, Mom, I'm going to
give up. My best shot is here. I'm going to try.
And when your daughter gives you that, it gives me
a bit of hope that she can get through it.
But within probably a day or two, she would come
home and say, Mum, it started again. It happened again.
We've gone through every single channel and it's just it's
(04:08):
literally just destroyed us. Now, what happened is that planted
a little bit of a seed in her brain and
she stopped eating for a long period of time. I
would find Muldy sandwiches in her bag and I would
see my thirteen year old be the story and she
would go from a beautiful thirteen year old girl to nothing.
(04:29):
It's like she was empty and she had nothing lest Okay.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
So hearing that audio is just horrific.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
As a parent, you.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
Can't even imagine if you haven't been in that position,
And sadly, it is happening all the time. And I mean,
I have a thirteen year old boy, so I have
a lot of friends with thirteen year old girls as well.
And unfortunately we didn't have this because we didn't have
the internet, Like we didn't have Twitter and Snapchat and whatever, Twitter, Facebook,
you know when we you are growing up. But now
(05:01):
this is what happens. They don't just get bullied face
to face. They get home and there's horrific messages, especially
on Snapchat because the message is delete. And I know,
like I have friends that have children, daughters that have
been bullied, and I know this is going to make
me sound really bad, but I'm going to be honest
here because I think this is what we are. We're
an honest We're honest. When this happened, I love my
(05:27):
friend's kids like they are my own, and I feel
like I would go in there and want to protect
that child from being bullied. When this happened, I actually googled,
got on Instagram and got this little bully's face so
I could see what she looks like really, and so
if I saw her at the school and she was
doing it again, I actually don't trust myself. What if
I wouldn't say I would say something. I feel like
(05:47):
I would because I love my kids. Friends like, oh
it's it really touches you to hear that raw emotion
in that mum's voice, because if that was your child,
I think we'd all do the same thing. Yeah, so
we'd love to know. And this is the worst part, Max,
is what do you do in this situation. You go
(06:07):
to the school, the wellness person might you know, okay,
well we'll deal with it. You go to the mum
of the bully. They might be a bit defensive but
also trying to deal with it, but it still doesn't
stop it from happening.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
This was the problem that the Adelaide mum that we
have been listening to had. She said she exhausted all
the options. The school was no good. They see out
a counselor that was no good. She's what do I do?
Do I go to police?
Speaker 1 (06:29):
You're just lost, And that's why she went to the bully.
To the bully's face, you just want to shake them
stop hurting my child. So we'd love to know. I
know this is a serious topic, but I think it's
really important because I thought if we talk about it,
hopefully we can all share ideas of how we can
help this situation for other parents.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Thirty one oh two three give us a ring have
How have you dealt with your child being bullied? Did
you deal with the bully? Did you deal with the school?
Help us out with this, Adelaide Mom, if she's listening
thirty one h two straight, We need your opinion
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