April 13, 2025 • 6 mins
Listener Melissa from Aberfoyle Park has called the show to give an insight into her mind and actions as a self-professed high school bully.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, this is something both Max and I really
passionate about. Is Earlier this week, we spoke about the
Adelaide mum of a thirteen year old girl who was
being severely bullied. She walked inside the classroom and confronted
her daughter's bully. You would have seen the footage online,
heard her on the radio. It's quite confronting. She screamed
(00:20):
at the bully. Everyone's talking about it. And I explained,
as a mom, you have a monster inside you that
comes out to protect your child. So I totally understand
where she came from.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
I didn't get it because I was like, wow, that
is just a crazy reaction for anyone to have in
any scenario. But I don't have kids. My opinion doesn't
really matter. I just thought it was like, it's pretty aggressive,
but I had. You had a whole lot of people
saying I do anything for me.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Yeah, And everyone's jumping online and having their opinion, and
we're absolutely reading that. Someone that jumped on our Facebook
page and was brave enough to do this. Her name's
Melissa in Abberfall Park, and she explained that she was
the bully in school.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Melissa joins us on the line Melissa tell us his story.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
In the early two days when I started high school,
I actually turned into a bully. I was a horrible
human being back then. So I'm one hundred percent with
this mother. I believe the school favored me more than
anyone I'd started on or picked on or beat up.
A fact. I was living in a extremely abusive home environment,
like my mother was a horrible person, and school was
(01:22):
my only environment that I could control. And it's taken
so many years of in a searching and help and
therapy for me to come to realize that school was
my only control and I just chose to lash out
at them instead of whom I should have.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Well, thank you so much for being brave and writing
this on our Facebook and sharing this story for you.
If you could go back in time, would you have
wanted a mother to come in and yell in your
face to tell you to stop.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
Yes, wow, it would have made a difference very much. So.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
So not enough was done.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
No, not enough was done. Most of my suspensions were internals,
so I was still at the school. I was excluded once,
meaning I was only away for about six weeks at
a learning school to try to help control my temper
and everything like that, and I was like, straight back in,
I've actually driven a girl out of school before, and
(02:17):
fortunately I've actually ran into her mum, and I was
able to apologize very sincerely, because I feel like anytime
I think about it, I cringe. I feel so horrible.
These people did not deserve that from me in any way,
shape or form.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
What did you used to do, Melissa, You say you
were the bully. Were you a verbal bully? Or were
you bigger than the other girls?
Speaker 3 (02:37):
No, anyone could get it. I was verbal, I was physical.
It didn't matter.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
What was your goal. Were you jealous of these other girls?
Is that why you put them down?
Speaker 3 (02:46):
It just wasn't girls, mate, it was boys as well.
I took my home life out on everyone at that school.
Teachers included students, males, females. There was only one certain
type of student that I would never pick on, and
that was the special kids. I've never picked on the
special kids. I just want to say that I do
have a height. So the special kids in the special class,
(03:07):
they were okay. I wouldn't say anything or do anything
to them, But anyone else was free range for me,
just because I was so angry.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Oh, that's so sad. I'm so sorry.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
I think it was a bit of jealousy because I
know a lot of these people had much better lives
than I did. They had a mom and dad that
cared about them and everything and whatnot. Look, I know
our family dynamics are different, but for me, it was
a very negative experience for a family.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Well, did you have a moment where, either during school
or after school where you realized that you had to
change your ways and you've become the person right now
where you you know, are sorry for all of that.
What was that moment?
Speaker 3 (03:47):
It was when my favorite teacher kicked me out of school.
Her name's Tanya Wilson. So if you managed to listen, Hannah,
you're amazing. You actually saved my life in a lot
of ways. I was a horrible person and go through
a lot of mental problems and no one really cared
unless it was just to keep their name out of
the dirt. No one ever really tried to help me.
(04:09):
It was horrible.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
So I guess you need to get to the bottom
of why people are doing what they're doing too, because yeah,
there's a reason.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
More often than not, there's reasons behind it. Please I'm
not excusing their behavior. There is no excuse for what
they're like. But more often than not, they've just come
from horrible backgrounds and their only control is school, and
that's where they unleash their anger.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Now, how did you change yourself? Saying as something you've
been through a bit of reforming. How if anyone out
there is listening and might be going through the same
sort of thing, what can they do?
Speaker 3 (04:43):
I ended up homeless. I didn't have friends, I have
no family, I've got no one from high school. But
I have nothing but horrible memories from back then. And
all I can say to the people that I heard
is I'm really sorry. I really am. And if I
ever see us or he's run into me, if you
want to have a goal with meat, that's fine, that's okay.
I deserve it. I will stand there and take it,
(05:04):
and I will apologize for it because I was horrible.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
Melissa, thank you so much for being so brave. Do
you know what you should do as a mom of
kids of school age kids? You should go round to
schools and share your story and help people.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
It is so powerful impact.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Melissa, Well, I would like to because like bullies just
they still hide in the shadows even after they've changed. Yeah,
because even though a lot don't change, there are a
small group of us that do, because of course we
Guilt's horrible. I feel so bad anytime I run into
someone from school. I don't know if they should walk
up to them and apologize. It's just Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
I think it's powerful when you do apologize, because not
everyone remembers when they've been teased in school, and so
for you to say sorry, I think that you're the
bigger person for saying sorry. So I think that's a
good thing.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
I think it's a good thing too. But at the
same time, I completely understand that they want nothing to
do with me. Oh was horrible.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Wow, Melissa, thank you so much for sharing your story.
What a fantastic insight to the other side of the fence.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Oh not a problem anytime, anytime.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
Thank you, Melissa. I have a beautiful day.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
Do you two stay cool.
All right, this is something both Max and I really
passionate about. Is Earlier this week, we spoke about the
Adelaide mum of a thirteen year old girl who was
being severely bullied. She walked inside the classroom and confronted
her daughter's bully. You would have seen the footage online,
heard her on the radio. It's quite confronting. She screamed
(00:20):
at the bully. Everyone's talking about it. And I explained,
as a mom, you have a monster inside you that
comes out to protect your child. So I totally understand
where she came from.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
I didn't get it because I was like, wow, that
is just a crazy reaction for anyone to have in
any scenario. But I don't have kids. My opinion doesn't
really matter. I just thought it was like, it's pretty aggressive,
but I had. You had a whole lot of people
saying I do anything for me.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Yeah, And everyone's jumping online and having their opinion, and
we're absolutely reading that. Someone that jumped on our Facebook
page and was brave enough to do this. Her name's
Melissa in Abberfall Park, and she explained that she was
the bully in school.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Melissa joins us on the line Melissa tell us his story.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
In the early two days when I started high school,
I actually turned into a bully. I was a horrible
human being back then. So I'm one hundred percent with
this mother. I believe the school favored me more than
anyone I'd started on or picked on or beat up.
A fact. I was living in a extremely abusive home environment,
like my mother was a horrible person, and school was
(01:22):
my only environment that I could control. And it's taken
so many years of in a searching and help and
therapy for me to come to realize that school was
my only control and I just chose to lash out
at them instead of whom I should have.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Well, thank you so much for being brave and writing
this on our Facebook and sharing this story for you.
If you could go back in time, would you have
wanted a mother to come in and yell in your
face to tell you to stop.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
Yes, wow, it would have made a difference very much. So.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
So not enough was done.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
No, not enough was done. Most of my suspensions were internals,
so I was still at the school. I was excluded once,
meaning I was only away for about six weeks at
a learning school to try to help control my temper
and everything like that, and I was like, straight back in,
I've actually driven a girl out of school before, and
(02:17):
fortunately I've actually ran into her mum, and I was
able to apologize very sincerely, because I feel like anytime
I think about it, I cringe. I feel so horrible.
These people did not deserve that from me in any way,
shape or form.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
What did you used to do, Melissa, You say you
were the bully. Were you a verbal bully? Or were
you bigger than the other girls?
Speaker 3 (02:37):
No, anyone could get it. I was verbal, I was physical.
It didn't matter.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
What was your goal. Were you jealous of these other girls?
Is that why you put them down?
Speaker 3 (02:46):
It just wasn't girls, mate, it was boys as well.
I took my home life out on everyone at that school.
Teachers included students, males, females. There was only one certain
type of student that I would never pick on, and
that was the special kids. I've never picked on the
special kids. I just want to say that I do
have a height. So the special kids in the special class,
(03:07):
they were okay. I wouldn't say anything or do anything
to them, But anyone else was free range for me,
just because I was so angry.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Oh, that's so sad. I'm so sorry.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
I think it was a bit of jealousy because I
know a lot of these people had much better lives
than I did. They had a mom and dad that
cared about them and everything and whatnot. Look, I know
our family dynamics are different, but for me, it was
a very negative experience for a family.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Well, did you have a moment where, either during school
or after school where you realized that you had to
change your ways and you've become the person right now
where you you know, are sorry for all of that.
What was that moment?
Speaker 3 (03:47):
It was when my favorite teacher kicked me out of school.
Her name's Tanya Wilson. So if you managed to listen, Hannah,
you're amazing. You actually saved my life in a lot
of ways. I was a horrible person and go through
a lot of mental problems and no one really cared
unless it was just to keep their name out of
the dirt. No one ever really tried to help me.
(04:09):
It was horrible.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
So I guess you need to get to the bottom
of why people are doing what they're doing too, because yeah,
there's a reason.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
More often than not, there's reasons behind it. Please I'm
not excusing their behavior. There is no excuse for what
they're like. But more often than not, they've just come
from horrible backgrounds and their only control is school, and
that's where they unleash their anger.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Now, how did you change yourself? Saying as something you've
been through a bit of reforming. How if anyone out
there is listening and might be going through the same
sort of thing, what can they do?
Speaker 3 (04:43):
I ended up homeless. I didn't have friends, I have
no family, I've got no one from high school. But
I have nothing but horrible memories from back then. And
all I can say to the people that I heard
is I'm really sorry. I really am. And if I
ever see us or he's run into me, if you
want to have a goal with meat, that's fine, that's okay.
I deserve it. I will stand there and take it,
(05:04):
and I will apologize for it because I was horrible.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
Melissa, thank you so much for being so brave. Do
you know what you should do as a mom of
kids of school age kids? You should go round to
schools and share your story and help people.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
It is so powerful impact.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
Melissa, Well, I would like to because like bullies just
they still hide in the shadows even after they've changed. Yeah,
because even though a lot don't change, there are a
small group of us that do, because of course we
Guilt's horrible. I feel so bad anytime I run into
someone from school. I don't know if they should walk
up to them and apologize. It's just Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
I think it's powerful when you do apologize, because not
everyone remembers when they've been teased in school, and so
for you to say sorry, I think that you're the
bigger person for saying sorry. So I think that's a
good thing.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
I think it's a good thing too. But at the
same time, I completely understand that they want nothing to
do with me. Oh was horrible.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Wow, Melissa, thank you so much for sharing your story.
What a fantastic insight to the other side of the fence.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Oh not a problem anytime, anytime.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
Thank you, Melissa. I have a beautiful day.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
Do you two stay cool.
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