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Hayley Pearson's Tips To Keep Your Relationship Alive!

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Speaker 1 (00:10):
My Heart podcasts here more Mix one or two point
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Speaker 2 (00:17):
But right now, oh, this is my wedding song.

Speaker 3 (00:20):
Perfect my wedding song.

Speaker 2 (00:22):
Okay, this is a perfect song because I want to
talk about things to keep your relationship alive. When you've
been together with someone for a long time, you got
to keep you got to keep working at it. I've
been married for In December, it will be eighteen years.

Speaker 3 (00:38):
Wake me sound old. That is a long time.

Speaker 2 (00:40):
It doesn't feel like that though, thanks, And I think
that I don't know, I'd like when you're with someone
for a long time, you still got to keep that spark.

Speaker 3 (00:48):
You still got to get.

Speaker 2 (00:49):
Excited when they text you, and things like that, right, butterflies.

Speaker 3 (00:53):
I've only been married for two years.

Speaker 2 (00:54):
Okay, So these are the things that work in my
relationship that I think that I need for us to
feel like we're connected. The first one would be touch.

Speaker 1 (01:05):
Now.

Speaker 2 (01:05):
I don't know if you're like me, but every time
Elia's like bends down to do like the dishwasher or
she picks something up the.

Speaker 3 (01:11):
Floor, you get it. You gotta tap it, you get it.

Speaker 2 (01:13):
You have to and if he doesn't, I know that
we're having a fight. Like if I bend down to
do anything and I don't get a tap on the bum,
I know he's annoyed at me about something.

Speaker 3 (01:24):
Does it always happens every time?

Speaker 1 (01:25):
Does it always have to be a touch on the
bum or can it just be like a you know,
like you walking down the street and you hold hands
for a second or you put your arm.

Speaker 2 (01:33):
So yeah, touch is important, really, Like even just like
last night, he was snoring, so I put my hand
over his mouth, like I actually did. That's nice, right,
Touch is important. Always touch compliments. So I don't know,
you go through stages in your life where you might
not be as confident in yourself anymore, whether it's like

(01:56):
physically or emotionally or whatever it is. It's nice to
get a compliment from your partner when you go, oh,
he still thinks I'm hot.

Speaker 3 (02:02):
That's really nice.

Speaker 1 (02:04):
I feel like it's very easy if you're with someone
for a long time to go into the routine, yeah,
how are you, how's your date, what's been going on,
and then like they're your discussions as opposed to throwing
in the things that when you're when you're courting them.

Speaker 3 (02:18):
You say a lot of nice a lot of nice things.

Speaker 2 (02:20):
It's so true, and you've got to remember that because
it makes you feel really good.

Speaker 3 (02:23):
What type of compliments you dish out?

Speaker 2 (02:25):
Just nice? I like, like, I know he likes to
receive things when I know he's done something. Not physically
with him. He's more like if he's done something great
in work or in I don't know, whatever is. He's
chose this amazing light thing on the weekend, a big lamp,
and I was like, oh my god.

Speaker 3 (02:41):
Well done. You had the best lamps.

Speaker 2 (02:43):
Yeah, you're really good at that, And I know he
likes it. I like your bum looks good.

Speaker 3 (02:48):
Cool things that makes me feel nice. Whatever gets you there.

Speaker 2 (02:50):
The third thing is gratitude, And I think this is
probably one where when you have kids, I don't know,
if you're like me, it can be tricky and you
can start having a competition of who's more tired, who's
doing more stuff around the house. You kind of get
so in your moment where you're so tired and angry
with them everything that you kind of, yeah, you kind

(03:11):
of get a bit resentful. So you've got to be
gratt You've got to be great thankful for what they
do and always thank them and vice versa. I reckon
outwardly thankful.

Speaker 3 (03:21):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (03:21):
And one other thing for me is just like still
laughing and joking about the same things you've been joking
about is for like twenty years, Like the stupid things,
the stupid things that you laughed at, like when you
first got together with Liza twelve years ago. Oh, you
knew each other when you were kids. Laughing about those
things is really important when you're laughing with your part
and you're like, well.

Speaker 3 (03:39):
This is nice. I still love you so much. What's
a stupid thing that you laugh at?

Speaker 2 (03:44):
We just have a weird thing. Okay, So every time
we speak on the phone. This is even I can't
believe want to say this. Every time we speak on
the phone, we say okay, love you bye, and then
we both wait in silence, and sometimes it can go
for five minutes. Sometimes it can go for thirty seconds,
and then we go, okay, yep, I'm still here. I
still love you.

Speaker 3 (04:03):
Hi, We're still there.

Speaker 2 (04:04):
Like we just hang on the phone like we like
with the sight we've hung up, but then we don't,
and it's like a.

Speaker 3 (04:08):
Just in convenient though you're very busy. It's really annoying.

Speaker 2 (04:11):
Yeah, especially what I forget that he's still there anyway.
They're just my little tippies after being together with my
husband for a while. I'd love to know your tips.

Speaker 1 (04:18):
Thurday one, I, two three give us a ring with
the quirky the better the things you do to keep
the spark alive in your relationship.

Speaker 3 (04:25):
Help us all out.