Someone has called in to ask Hayley & Max about her dilemma. She has won a substantial amount of money from the lottery and has been quietly spending without her husband's knowledge.
Is she in the wrong for keeping it a secret?
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Speaker 2 (00:17):
Mix one or two point three.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
Hailey Max in the morning time for this.
Speaker 4 (00:22):
If you've got problems, They've got answers.
Speaker 5 (00:26):
This is Haley and maxis.
Speaker 6 (00:28):
D M dilemma.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Sometimes we have answers. Sometimes we need the people of
Adelaide to give us the answers. On thirty and one,
O two three, listen in because this is a good one.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
Jackie is on the line.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Can you please tell all of Adelaide what your DM
dilemma is?
Speaker 5 (00:43):
Okay, So I think I'm doing the right thing and
protecting myself, but I would love your help because I
do sometimes think I might be going to hell. So sorry,
it's a really cool story. So not that long ago,
just under three months ago, I won Lotto.
Speaker 3 (01:04):
Hey, good work. Yeah, I know, so I won.
Speaker 5 (01:08):
It was just under six hundred thousand, really good and
it was like the best moment of my life. And
I've just been living my best life, buying things that I,
you know, have never been able to buy before. But
my partner didn't know that I want.
Speaker 6 (01:26):
Your partner doesn't know why.
Speaker 5 (01:28):
Well, so The thing is like, he cheated on me
at the end of last year and we only just
kind of got back together, and I was thinking, well,
if he finds out and then, you know, we break up,
then I have to give him half before I'm just
going to see how things go for a little while
and keep it in the bank. But I've been kind
(01:49):
of like chipping away to it, and now that has
been this long, I'm like, should I just not tell him,
I just have my little safety cash or should I
tell him.
Speaker 6 (02:00):
I don't think you're going to hell at all.
Speaker 7 (02:02):
I think you're protecting yourself. He's done a bad thing
to you, so you don't trust him.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
But the flip side of Jackie, if he did that
to you, how would you.
Speaker 5 (02:09):
Feel, Um, yeah, we would break up. And that's what's
scaring me. That's what because like everything's really really good.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
Yeah, it comes back down to how much you want
this to work. Then obviously he did a bad thing,
he cheated on you, but you've got to the point
where you've decided, well, we're going to have another crack,
So there's some level of forgiveness there.
Speaker 5 (02:28):
How much do you want to counting on you to
side with me?
Speaker 1 (02:32):
I'm just trying to know up for the cheating bloke.
But I'm just trying to play both sides here.
Speaker 6 (02:37):
Does anyone else know? Any of your friends?
Speaker 5 (02:39):
Yeah, my best friend and my sister know.
Speaker 6 (02:41):
So is there a chance that is going to get
back to him?
Speaker 7 (02:43):
That would that's.
Speaker 5 (02:45):
Because they're living off moments, the living their best life.
Speaker 3 (02:50):
Do you know what?
Speaker 7 (02:50):
I would have a little runaway find a lot of
people have this given his history. Keep it in our
separate account, spend it as you wish, and then if
it does work out, you're still a little bit.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
Of money left over.
Speaker 7 (03:00):
You can put it towards something exciting that the both
of you count, the house or something not like I'm.
Speaker 5 (03:05):
Not like spending it on him like I when he
because he works away, so when he comes back, I
like take him out for nice meals and I just say,
you know, I got a bonus at work and blah
blah blah. So it's not like I'm keeping it all
to myself. I just haven't told him, you know, other
than the sixty dollar dinner, we've got five hundred and
(03:25):
something thousand in the bank.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Is it manifest in other ways?
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Like are you coming home with very expensive clothes or
you know, a great thing.
Speaker 5 (03:36):
He doesn't know what expensive clothes look like. So I
just say I got a haul from Sheene and he
believes it.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
I spun the wheel on Tim and I lucked out. Yeah,
you just go. My friend brought me these girls.
Speaker 6 (03:49):
We have a lot whole bunch of lies that we
can say when.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
I like, if you've decided to get back with this person,
you've decided to make it work and put everything into
making it work. You've got to come clean. Otherwise you're
the one betraying In the next step. Do you know
what I mean?
Speaker 3 (04:05):
You have to he's done the dirty on hair in
after cheating be all in.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
I wonder if there's a middle ground where you can say, yeah,
I won the lotto and I won one hundred and
fifty thousand dollars or something.
Speaker 5 (04:16):
Yeah, I thought of that. I did think of that,
But I was like, then that's just like a web
of lies that I'll get caught up in.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
You're already in it, Jackie. This is full web at
the moment.
Speaker 6 (04:28):
Put it out to our beautiful listeners.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
What would you do?
Speaker 2 (04:30):
We'll take your calls. Next with Haley Max on Mix
one or two, point three Mix one or two point three,
it's Haileu Max.
Speaker 7 (04:36):
In the morning, Jackie called us with a DM dilemma.
Speaker 6 (04:38):
She won i' what think six hundred thousand dollars in the.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
Lotto year Jackie. Unbelievable.
Speaker 7 (04:43):
But she's in a bit of a predicament because she
has a boyfriend. The boyfriend cheated on her at the
end of last year, and she's now just won this money,
and she's like, oh, I don't think I'm going to
tell him.
Speaker 6 (04:54):
I don't trust him right now.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
Together they're working through together.
Speaker 7 (04:57):
But I get why she doesn't want to tell him
because he broke her trust.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
Has it happened to you? Have you kept something from
your partner?
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Maddie Indoor Park, your toddlers broke two TVs.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
So we claimed them on insurance, which that was all fine.
We put one on the wall. Hubbies like I needed
to have a quick shower.
Speaker 6 (05:15):
I'll be back.
Speaker 4 (05:15):
I'll put the other one on the wall. As he did,
the two kids pushed the box onto the floor, jumped
from the couch onto the box, and then as we
put the TV on the wall, we pulled this film
off and it was all smashed and broken and I
told my hubby that it came broken, so he calls
insurance company really mad, and we've got another TV. And
I still haven't told him that I kicked.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
And I know this is a true story because.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
He said to me, he goes, if the kids break
another TV, we're having no more TVs in this whole
entire house. And I couldn't live like that, So I
didn't tell him.
Speaker 6 (05:48):
So you said it came like that.
Speaker 4 (05:50):
Yeah, because he's he's such a goody goody. He would
never ring if he knew that our kids did it.
He thinks it came broken. It's their fault, all right.
Speaker 6 (06:00):
We do have an anonymous on the phone. What is
your story?
Speaker 8 (06:04):
So I actually completely understand the lady caught up about
lying to a partner with the lotto. I think that
a large thumb and realistically like the cheating only happened
pretty recent in my opinion, I do hard money from
my partner too, just because it's a safety blank kid.
I've got two kids. We have gone our separate ways
(06:25):
and come back together. And he loves money and he
loves spending, and I'm a very I like to stay
for the future, not just by things that we don't
necessarily need.
Speaker 6 (06:34):
It's called a runaway fun Max.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Yeah, I've not heard of these.
Speaker 7 (06:39):
Yeah, it's a weird thing that I'm not saying it's right,
but some women do. Because some people stay in relationships
when they're very unhappy because they don't aren't financially.
Speaker 8 (06:49):
Yeah, they're kind of fortunately exactly and.
Speaker 7 (06:51):
Unfortunately it's a female thing generally, and so they leave
they have a little fun.
Speaker 6 (06:56):
It's so sad.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
Why would you want to be in a relationship with.
Speaker 7 (06:58):
Because sometimes because you go, well, if we split up,
I don't have enough money to survive on my own, Yeah,
in an unhappy relationship.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
So what you're going to live your whole life like that?
Speaker 8 (07:07):
Not necessarily. For instance, like just when a tax of
time came in, I actually told him I got some,
but I actually kept half of it aside. And he
does benefit from it, like the lady was saying as well,
she obviously buys things for him and does things, but
he just doesn't know where it's come from exactly. And
so my opinion is either hide it completely and don't
tell him, or tell him you've gotten a certain amount
(07:30):
and keep the rest just in case.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
No bit of you Anonymous that goes if the shoe
was on the other foot here, I would lose all
trust in this man that I'm trying to build.
Speaker 8 (07:39):
An obviously a little bit, but like it's hard when
they're the one that has betrayed, Like he has left me,
and I've been on my own for a year raising
two kids, so like, I don't trust that he's going
to do that again, and I'm going to have to
work hard to get myself back into the position that
I am today. So I completely understand where she's coming from.
I mean, six hundred thousand, there's a lot of money, yeah,
(08:00):
and I'm only doing that with like small amounts, like
you know, So.
Speaker 7 (08:03):
Thank you for being brave enough to share that with us.
Speaker 6 (08:06):
I think that's actually quite relatable. So thank you.
Speaker 8 (08:08):
That's okay, thank you for having me on
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