May 6, 2025 • 5 mins
A listener has called in with a dilemma.. his wife has packed on weight since they were married. Is he in any position to say anything to her?
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
If you've got problems, they've got answers.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
This is Hailey and maxss DM dilemma.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
Yeah, you can DM us anytime. We love getting a DM.
So saucier the better.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
So we yeah, we love being ow to help. Yes,
we do our best. We just argue with each other.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
But then the people have Adelaide swoop in on Thurtay one,
O two three and really come to the rescue.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
We've got a DM this.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Week from Aaron in Panorama, and it is a topic
that I know Haley and I are going to argue about.
I'm gonna argue with us Adelaide. Aaron is on the line, Aaron,
what is your dilemma?
Speaker 4 (00:37):
So hard wonder to say, But I've Li and my
wife with been together for two years, happily married. But
you see the thing is, my wife's got these crazy
eating habits at night. So now I'm finding we'll be
watching TV Netflix and suddenly she's ordering ubery. It was fine,
it was fine about six months ago, but now it's
like these late night eating habits. Kind of notice she's
(00:59):
been putting on weight. I don't know how to this,
and in fact it's kind of I don't know, guys,
it's kind of snowball now. So like she's she's put
on quite a considerable of weight. And I mean, I
haven't said anything, but I think when she's like trying
on things and dresses and stuff, she can tell I
don't even have to do anything in my body language.
She can see that. Like I'm obviously looking at her
(01:21):
a different way.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
Aaron, what are you saying? Are saying life's put on
a lot of weight, but.
Speaker 4 (01:27):
And like I'm just losing attraction for her. I still
you know, we've been you know, good mates and everything,
but it's just like you know, the romantic romantic side
of it.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Is just tough.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
Yeah, because yeah it's physical, right, and.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
So you fell in love with yeah, but did you
fall in love with them just because of the way
they look?
Speaker 2 (01:46):
But it's a factor. Hang on, are you saying.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
Because she's put on a little bit of weight, which
a lot of people do, and a lot of people
can't help her.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
And he's saying she put on a lot of weight
and he's less attracted to her.
Speaker 4 (01:56):
Now, this is really not what I've sign up for.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Oh, I truly when we.
Speaker 4 (02:03):
First got together, you know this was not in the
marriage contract. You know that, like you know that that
was going to change.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Can I say, if it was in the marriage contract,
I would have been her friend and said, don't you
dare marry this guy? Because it's not about that she's
put on a bit of weight. It Can IDA say
as a woman, she knows she's put on weight. She's
probably feeling a bit crap about herself for you to
come on radio and talk about her like that, and how.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
You know, I don't think it's going to work. I
don't know if I'm a tractor anymore. He's so horrible.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Really, he's coming to us for help because he's in
this position that a lot of people have been in before,
and he's saying, I fell in love with my wife.
I still like my wife. Like she's just put on
a put words in his mouth fish. She's just put
on a lot of weight from the person that I married.
And I can understand how that might be, Like, Oh, well, but.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Do you understand we all change.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
We're all going to age.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
You're going to be ugly one day.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
There's a difference between aging and ordering uber eats every
night and putting on twenty thirty killers.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Oh my god, I'm not saying.
Speaker 4 (03:03):
It like the food as well. It's not like she's
ordering you know, like sushi or something, you know, like
Hungry Jack. You know, three nights a week. It's a
bit of March now, guys.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
So if from nothing else, from Aaron's perspective, it's it
would be healthy for her to have the change back
to what she was before, because it's good for her livelihood.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
I would like you.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
To say that maybe she's put on a bit of
way and maybe she's not feeling as good about herself.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Not like I'm not attracted to her anymore.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
You just stop painting him as the bad guy. He
hasn't come on here and said I hate my wife.
You're saying, oh, you guys, help me out. I love
my wife, but I'm less attracted to her.
Speaker 4 (03:38):
Oh but I just don't really want to get get
that way in the bedroom now because you know, like it, Yeah,
it just wasn't.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Like it, Haley, what happened to unconditional love?
Speaker 1 (03:48):
No, but you can understand how when you are meeting
someone for the first time with a relationship hopefully in mind,
like when you're meeting Jimmy, there is an element of
being attracted to what they look like.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Yeah, but that's not why I'm with him. I don't
love someone because of what they look like. But I
love someone because their personality.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
It helped you for that. I don't find I'm not.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
Attracted to anybody because of the way they look.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
What I'm not, don't.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
I think I can see that people are good looking
or whatever, but I'm not attracted to anyone unless I
know their personality, because that's what matters.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
That's what matters. So like j or Brad Pitt or people.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
They're good looking, but that's not why I would love someone.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
I love them for who they are.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Yeah, but when you were first meeting this person, you
can see my point, When you were first meeting this person,
and there's an element of attraction the way they look.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Yeah, of course you want to be attracted to them.
And at about physical attraction.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Aaron was attracted in a way to her looks as
well as her personality when they got and now she's
got rid of half of that.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
She's changed the way she looked, what she fell. Can
we put this out to adelaide?
Speaker 3 (04:51):
Whatever you do, Aaron, my opinion is you cannot say
to her that you are not attracted to her.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
That is awful.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
She will hate herself if anything. You say, let's get
healthy together, Let's do something together.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
How are you feeling?
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Ask her the reason why she's eating so much. Maybe
she's really sad. Let's put it out to our listeners.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Yeah, let's do it. Thirday one O two three. Give
us a ring. Do you agree with Haley this is
a complete no go. She can do whatever she wants.
Or do you agree with I suppose Aaron and me that. Look,
there does come a time where, if for nothing else,
it's good for your health to lose a.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Bit of weight. I see that.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
Yeah, third A and one O two three help us out.
We desperately need to help Aaron with this.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
DM Delen
If you've got problems, they've got answers.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
This is Hailey and maxss DM dilemma.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
Yeah, you can DM us anytime. We love getting a DM.
So saucier the better.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
So we yeah, we love being ow to help. Yes,
we do our best. We just argue with each other.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
But then the people have Adelaide swoop in on Thurtay one,
O two three and really come to the rescue.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
We've got a DM this.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Week from Aaron in Panorama, and it is a topic
that I know Haley and I are going to argue about.
I'm gonna argue with us Adelaide. Aaron is on the line, Aaron,
what is your dilemma?
Speaker 4 (00:37):
So hard wonder to say, But I've Li and my
wife with been together for two years, happily married. But
you see the thing is, my wife's got these crazy
eating habits at night. So now I'm finding we'll be
watching TV Netflix and suddenly she's ordering ubery. It was fine,
it was fine about six months ago, but now it's
like these late night eating habits. Kind of notice she's
(00:59):
been putting on weight. I don't know how to this,
and in fact it's kind of I don't know, guys,
it's kind of snowball now. So like she's she's put
on quite a considerable of weight. And I mean, I
haven't said anything, but I think when she's like trying
on things and dresses and stuff, she can tell I
don't even have to do anything in my body language.
She can see that. Like I'm obviously looking at her
(01:21):
a different way.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
Aaron, what are you saying? Are saying life's put on
a lot of weight, but.
Speaker 4 (01:27):
And like I'm just losing attraction for her. I still
you know, we've been you know, good mates and everything,
but it's just like you know, the romantic romantic side
of it.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Is just tough.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
Yeah, because yeah it's physical, right, and.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
So you fell in love with yeah, but did you
fall in love with them just because of the way
they look?
Speaker 2 (01:46):
But it's a factor. Hang on, are you saying.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
Because she's put on a little bit of weight, which
a lot of people do, and a lot of people
can't help her.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
And he's saying she put on a lot of weight
and he's less attracted to her.
Speaker 4 (01:56):
Now, this is really not what I've sign up for.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Oh, I truly when we.
Speaker 4 (02:03):
First got together, you know this was not in the
marriage contract. You know that, like you know that that
was going to change.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Can I say, if it was in the marriage contract,
I would have been her friend and said, don't you
dare marry this guy? Because it's not about that she's
put on a bit of weight. It Can IDA say
as a woman, she knows she's put on weight. She's
probably feeling a bit crap about herself for you to
come on radio and talk about her like that, and how.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
You know, I don't think it's going to work. I
don't know if I'm a tractor anymore. He's so horrible.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Really, he's coming to us for help because he's in
this position that a lot of people have been in before,
and he's saying, I fell in love with my wife.
I still like my wife. Like she's just put on
a put words in his mouth fish. She's just put
on a lot of weight from the person that I married.
And I can understand how that might be, Like, Oh, well, but.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Do you understand we all change.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
We're all going to age.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
You're going to be ugly one day.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
There's a difference between aging and ordering uber eats every
night and putting on twenty thirty killers.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Oh my god, I'm not saying.
Speaker 4 (03:03):
It like the food as well. It's not like she's
ordering you know, like sushi or something, you know, like
Hungry Jack. You know, three nights a week. It's a
bit of March now, guys.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
So if from nothing else, from Aaron's perspective, it's it
would be healthy for her to have the change back
to what she was before, because it's good for her livelihood.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
I would like you.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
To say that maybe she's put on a bit of
way and maybe she's not feeling as good about herself.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Not like I'm not attracted to her anymore.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
You just stop painting him as the bad guy. He
hasn't come on here and said I hate my wife.
You're saying, oh, you guys, help me out. I love
my wife, but I'm less attracted to her.
Speaker 4 (03:38):
Oh but I just don't really want to get get
that way in the bedroom now because you know, like it, Yeah,
it just wasn't.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Like it, Haley, what happened to unconditional love?
Speaker 1 (03:48):
No, but you can understand how when you are meeting
someone for the first time with a relationship hopefully in mind,
like when you're meeting Jimmy, there is an element of
being attracted to what they look like.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Yeah, but that's not why I'm with him. I don't
love someone because of what they look like. But I
love someone because their personality.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
It helped you for that. I don't find I'm not.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
Attracted to anybody because of the way they look.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
What I'm not, don't.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
I think I can see that people are good looking
or whatever, but I'm not attracted to anyone unless I
know their personality, because that's what matters.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
That's what matters. So like j or Brad Pitt or people.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
They're good looking, but that's not why I would love someone.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
I love them for who they are.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Yeah, but when you were first meeting this person, you
can see my point, When you were first meeting this person,
and there's an element of attraction the way they look.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Yeah, of course you want to be attracted to them.
And at about physical attraction.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Aaron was attracted in a way to her looks as
well as her personality when they got and now she's
got rid of half of that.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
She's changed the way she looked, what she fell. Can
we put this out to adelaide?
Speaker 3 (04:51):
Whatever you do, Aaron, my opinion is you cannot say
to her that you are not attracted to her.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
That is awful.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
She will hate herself if anything. You say, let's get
healthy together, Let's do something together.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
How are you feeling?
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Ask her the reason why she's eating so much. Maybe
she's really sad. Let's put it out to our listeners.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Yeah, let's do it. Thirday one O two three. Give
us a ring. Do you agree with Haley this is
a complete no go. She can do whatever she wants.
Or do you agree with I suppose Aaron and me that. Look,
there does come a time where, if for nothing else,
it's good for your health to lose a.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Bit of weight. I see that.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
Yeah, third A and one O two three help us out.
We desperately need to help Aaron with this.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
DM Delen
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