February 26, 2023 • 9 mins
In this edition of Tinder Tales we want to know if someone being unemployed is a deal breaker.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Look the online dating worlds. It's strange and unusual place.
I would know you because I'm.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
All over it, and it's fascinating to you, guys, because
you're living vicariously through me.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
Which this is generally one of my favorite bits of
the week, because you know, as similar to why people
watch things like The Real Housewives Beverly Hills, you feel
so much better about your life.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
I'll take that as a compliment.
Speaker 4 (00:25):
I think I think she meant.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Because I would be so scared to date now because
it's just so different to what dating was when most
of us were growing up.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Well, look a bit of a change in the tail
this morning, guys.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
There's less scandalous and less saucy material because, as you know,
I am still on an airbit and I can't do
any tingdering when I'm on a beir bit.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
The reason is because of the noise that the bed makes.
I'll just play a little bit. This is This is
me rolling around on the bed. It sounds like Ricky
Mark wearing leather pants. It's just an annoying sound. Do
you know the best bit about that?
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Now I can just shut my eyes and picture you recording.
Speaker 4 (00:59):
That the guys are going to love this big account.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
So I want to talk about what people are looking
for with their Tinder matches, because you know, sure there's
a lot of things. People say they're adventurous, which is
always a red flag to men, like what does that?
What does adventurous mean?
Speaker 5 (01:13):
Well, you want to go.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Hiking, you don't want to go outside?
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Well, yeah, that's normally the start of an adventure.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
And there's people that say, you know, I own my
own car, own my house. I mean, that's impressed me much.
You know, I twain I don't care if you're own
your own house or car. Really, yeah, doesn't want.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Me put it in my profile. Yeah, weird people.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
But having said that, Shane, you don't have a car,
you're catching the bus at the moment I would have
thought it someone else that he had a car would
have been really advantageous right about now.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
But what I want to talk about is there, Look,
it wasn't that long ago that I moved away and
lost a job.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Another radio station. They're lost and I was looking for work,
so I was unemployed at the time. I was on
Tinder and look, a lot of people.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Ask you, you know, you chat, you say, hey, how are
you going to do that flirty kind of the flirty
text messages first, like, hey, how's.
Speaker 4 (01:59):
Your not going winky face?
Speaker 1 (02:01):
I never really? Yeah, no winky.
Speaker 3 (02:03):
You can't do something on a major you can't do
in real life.
Speaker 6 (02:06):
Can you not wink?
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Well, yeah, I can wink? What do you mean can
I wink? Can you not wink?
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Only in one eye?
Speaker 1 (02:13):
I can't in the other?
Speaker 4 (02:15):
Sorry? Okay?
Speaker 2 (02:16):
And so I was unemployed at the time, and a
lot of people ask me, Look, so what are you
currently doing for a job. Everyone's very interesting in what
you do for a living, which I guess kind of
makes sense.
Speaker 4 (02:25):
I mean, it's like a large part of your life.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
So I had to say, look, I don't have a
job at the moment. I'm looking for work.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
And look, the amount of matches that decreased from that
comment were a lot, Like a lot.
Speaker 4 (02:36):
Of people could start blanking you.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Yeah, because I didn't have a job at the moment,
and I was just terrified. And by the way, for
those people that didn't hook up with me looking, but
here's a question too, because I find this fascinated. Look,
it wouldn't bother me if someone was unemployed didn't have
a job. I mean that doesn't bother me at all.
Would that sway your decision on matching with someone or
(03:01):
dating someone if they were unemployed?
Speaker 1 (03:03):
No?
Speaker 3 (03:04):
Well, no, absolutely not no, No. I mean, who knows
if you're dating somebody that might have children, she might
not be working, she might be at home looking after
the kids. That's a damned job, but it's not an
official one, right, Who cares? Then you don't know what
their circumstances are.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
I am so with you on that. It doesn't all.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
You know, it's hard to find work and you can't
have work all the time, and eventually they'll find work.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
I know so many good friends of mine who have
been laid off or who have moved on, or who
have made the decision, especially the last couple of years,
to step away because they were so unhappy or it
was toxic or whatever, and it's taken them a while
to get back into the workforce. Like, why shouldn't they
Why wouldn't you date them? They're awesome?
Speaker 4 (03:40):
Totally agree with you, Max, I have a slight disagreement. Sure,
I agree with a lot of your provisos.
Speaker 6 (03:49):
There do you, though, But I think it depends what
age this person is and if oh my god, age.
Speaker 4 (03:56):
If you're an eighteen year old and you don't have
a job, you're an eighteen or doesn't have a job.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
Finished the next sentence you're about to say, quickly, so
when eighteen did what? Okay, let's work out.
Speaker 4 (04:04):
There a lot more eighteen year olds who are unemployed
than five yrolds.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
A run and bring it on, say eighteen to what
twenty twenty one, twenty two? When does the age bracket
your life?
Speaker 4 (04:14):
Let me say I didn't say not alloyed, not allowed to.
Speaker 6 (04:18):
I said, there's probably a reason, as you've just pointed out,
some people have reasons when they're like thirty five or
whatever that they're unemployed.
Speaker 4 (04:23):
But I want to like, why why are you unemployed? Right,
I'm not saying I never want to see you.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
Oh you are?
Speaker 4 (04:29):
So it could be I got fired last week, which
which you are, or so then it's children, which is
a fair reason.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
So what's an unfair reason if someone is thirty years
of age and doesn't have a job.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
I'm more interested.
Speaker 6 (04:42):
I'm more interested in how they are living a life
unemployed at thirty something years of age.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
It could be sucking on the daddy's trust on Booby
who knows.
Speaker 6 (04:51):
Then that is something that you ask and it's just like,
what do you how are you living?
Speaker 1 (04:56):
I love this? I love it where mummy, daddy pop?
Speaker 3 (04:59):
The question would you date somebody? Would you date somebody
if they're unemployed and you sit off there's eighteen, yeah,
there were no worries. But if there's thirty, it's just clarify.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
I don't want to date in eighteen year old?
Speaker 3 (05:11):
Yeah yeah, come on, then so what just because they're older,
you're less likely to date them.
Speaker 4 (05:17):
If if you if you were closes questions.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
And if you're on an app, would you bother or
you just go oh thirty unemployed swipe?
Speaker 7 (05:24):
No?
Speaker 4 (05:25):
Ways, absolutely not. But I'd want to know why they're unemployed.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Oh god's judge, judge?
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Okay, well this is the question I'm asking. It's good
to have two different points of opinion. Even though maxism
are allowed.
Speaker 6 (05:35):
To be unemployed, I get it. I'm not would you
date somebody who's everyone? Who someone who's unemployed at my age?
If they didn't have a good reason for being unemployed
and they're just bumming around our home, then I don't know.
I think probably not. Okay, all right, you need a
bit of drive, you need to be motivated.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Sure, all right, Well let's all right, let's hear from
you A three hundred one oh two three.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Here's the question. Would you date somebody live who's only employed?
Speaker 4 (06:01):
How do you live? Unemployed?
Speaker 6 (06:02):
Need money?
Speaker 3 (06:03):
People can be unemployed even though they have incredible drive
and are motivated. Just putting that out.
Speaker 6 (06:07):
Yeah, but like, how do you go on a date?
You can't pay for dinner? You don't have any money?
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Yeah, sugar, daddy ever here to pay for it? I
got a job, now, I got a job. All right,
So let's hear from you. Let me say, you know,
it's going to divide adelaide. Some people agree, some people won't.
Speaker 4 (06:21):
Let's hear your opinions.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Would you date someone who's unemployed?
Speaker 3 (06:24):
Let's go to lean from Prospect Leanne, would you date
someone that was unemployed?
Speaker 5 (06:29):
I certainly would, because it may not be in there,
like it's not their foot that they're unemployed. Like I
was working for the same company for nearly six seventeen
years and they made me redundant, and it took me
a whole year to find employment because no one wanted
to employ me because I'm in my early sixties.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Yeah, ages and it doesn't matter it does it? You
can do everything, no, everything in that year exactly.
Speaker 5 (06:57):
You know, you try so hard, but you know there's
a lot of them just want, you know, someone that
looks good or someone that's much younger, so you know
it's out of their control. There's a lot of people
out there that would love to be working, but I'm
not working because it's been really hard to find a job.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
Aleander, you end up getting a gig.
Speaker 5 (07:18):
I did, thank you very much.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Yes, well, i'd bet you they're damn lucky to have land,
So thanks for calling.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
All right, A three welcome, Yeah, A three hundred three.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
Let's go to John from Tonando. All right, would you
date someone who was unemployed?
Speaker 8 (07:32):
John, that's a good question. Yes I would if I
knew them for a very long time. But absolutely not
an attender profile.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Really, so you're hanging up absolutely not.
Speaker 8 (07:44):
Why because it's your natural instinct to go to a
security and if somebody doesn't have a job, they're putting
it out there on there. We don't have time. If
you've got so many other people to look at, you're
not going to the relationship on a backbook?
Speaker 4 (07:58):
All right, John, I like it.
Speaker 6 (08:01):
John's logging in the shop window and going, that's not
the cut of meat that I'm after.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Time, all right, Amy of halett Cove. Would you date
someone unemployed if you saw that on Tinder?
Speaker 7 (08:10):
I actually was someone who wouldn't have I would have said, no,
I need the security and I want someone that's got
the same sort of work ethic and me, which sounds
really horrible to say that. Then I met someone online.
I didn't know he was unemployed until I then actually
physically met him, but the connection was already there. We
(08:32):
saw that, we started dating. Yes, I agree that actually
going out on dates was a bit difficult because he
was on a very minimal income. That we worked around that,
and then I encouraged him to do some extra training
and now he earns more than I do.
Speaker 6 (08:46):
Yeah, go, doesn't this prove the point? But she encouraged
him to go and get a job like the bloke
that she fell in love with. She encouraged to go
and get employment.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
No, no, no, it proves the point that didn't judge
a person by a line that they have on Tinder profile.
Maybe go, yeah, this is what we're doing, and then
fall in love and then have a guy. It doesn't matter.
It doesn't matter if they've got a job.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
Yeah, I mean, you take it how you want to
take it, I guess Amy.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Thank you so much work for you, and we both
think you've proven out by her life.
Speaker 4 (09:19):
Thanks Amy,
Look the online dating worlds. It's strange and unusual place.
I would know you because I'm.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
All over it, and it's fascinating to you, guys, because
you're living vicariously through me.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
Which this is generally one of my favorite bits of
the week, because you know, as similar to why people
watch things like The Real Housewives Beverly Hills, you feel
so much better about your life.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
I'll take that as a compliment.
Speaker 4 (00:25):
I think I think she meant.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Because I would be so scared to date now because
it's just so different to what dating was when most
of us were growing up.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Well, look a bit of a change in the tail
this morning, guys.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
There's less scandalous and less saucy material because, as you know,
I am still on an airbit and I can't do
any tingdering when I'm on a beir bit.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
The reason is because of the noise that the bed makes.
I'll just play a little bit. This is This is
me rolling around on the bed. It sounds like Ricky
Mark wearing leather pants. It's just an annoying sound. Do
you know the best bit about that?
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Now I can just shut my eyes and picture you recording.
Speaker 4 (00:59):
That the guys are going to love this big account.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
So I want to talk about what people are looking
for with their Tinder matches, because you know, sure there's
a lot of things. People say they're adventurous, which is
always a red flag to men, like what does that?
What does adventurous mean?
Speaker 5 (01:13):
Well, you want to go.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Hiking, you don't want to go outside?
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Well, yeah, that's normally the start of an adventure.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
And there's people that say, you know, I own my
own car, own my house. I mean, that's impressed me much.
You know, I twain I don't care if you're own
your own house or car. Really, yeah, doesn't want.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Me put it in my profile. Yeah, weird people.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
But having said that, Shane, you don't have a car,
you're catching the bus at the moment I would have
thought it someone else that he had a car would
have been really advantageous right about now.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
But what I want to talk about is there, Look,
it wasn't that long ago that I moved away and
lost a job.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Another radio station. They're lost and I was looking for work,
so I was unemployed at the time. I was on
Tinder and look, a lot of people.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Ask you, you know, you chat, you say, hey, how are
you going to do that flirty kind of the flirty
text messages first, like, hey, how's.
Speaker 4 (01:59):
Your not going winky face?
Speaker 1 (02:01):
I never really? Yeah, no winky.
Speaker 3 (02:03):
You can't do something on a major you can't do
in real life.
Speaker 6 (02:06):
Can you not wink?
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Well, yeah, I can wink? What do you mean can
I wink? Can you not wink?
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Only in one eye?
Speaker 1 (02:13):
I can't in the other?
Speaker 4 (02:15):
Sorry? Okay?
Speaker 2 (02:16):
And so I was unemployed at the time, and a
lot of people ask me, Look, so what are you
currently doing for a job. Everyone's very interesting in what
you do for a living, which I guess kind of
makes sense.
Speaker 4 (02:25):
I mean, it's like a large part of your life.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
So I had to say, look, I don't have a
job at the moment. I'm looking for work.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
And look, the amount of matches that decreased from that
comment were a lot, Like a lot.
Speaker 4 (02:36):
Of people could start blanking you.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Yeah, because I didn't have a job at the moment,
and I was just terrified. And by the way, for
those people that didn't hook up with me looking, but
here's a question too, because I find this fascinated. Look,
it wouldn't bother me if someone was unemployed didn't have
a job. I mean that doesn't bother me at all.
Would that sway your decision on matching with someone or
(03:01):
dating someone if they were unemployed?
Speaker 1 (03:03):
No?
Speaker 3 (03:04):
Well, no, absolutely not no, No. I mean, who knows
if you're dating somebody that might have children, she might
not be working, she might be at home looking after
the kids. That's a damned job, but it's not an
official one, right, Who cares? Then you don't know what
their circumstances are.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
I am so with you on that. It doesn't all.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
You know, it's hard to find work and you can't
have work all the time, and eventually they'll find work.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
I know so many good friends of mine who have
been laid off or who have moved on, or who
have made the decision, especially the last couple of years,
to step away because they were so unhappy or it
was toxic or whatever, and it's taken them a while
to get back into the workforce. Like, why shouldn't they
Why wouldn't you date them? They're awesome?
Speaker 4 (03:40):
Totally agree with you, Max, I have a slight disagreement. Sure,
I agree with a lot of your provisos.
Speaker 6 (03:49):
There do you, though, But I think it depends what
age this person is and if oh my god, age.
Speaker 4 (03:56):
If you're an eighteen year old and you don't have
a job, you're an eighteen or doesn't have a job.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
Finished the next sentence you're about to say, quickly, so
when eighteen did what? Okay, let's work out.
Speaker 4 (04:04):
There a lot more eighteen year olds who are unemployed
than five yrolds.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
A run and bring it on, say eighteen to what
twenty twenty one, twenty two? When does the age bracket
your life?
Speaker 4 (04:14):
Let me say I didn't say not alloyed, not allowed to.
Speaker 6 (04:18):
I said, there's probably a reason, as you've just pointed out,
some people have reasons when they're like thirty five or
whatever that they're unemployed.
Speaker 4 (04:23):
But I want to like, why why are you unemployed? Right,
I'm not saying I never want to see you.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
Oh you are?
Speaker 4 (04:29):
So it could be I got fired last week, which
which you are, or so then it's children, which is
a fair reason.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
So what's an unfair reason if someone is thirty years
of age and doesn't have a job.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
I'm more interested.
Speaker 6 (04:42):
I'm more interested in how they are living a life
unemployed at thirty something years of age.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
It could be sucking on the daddy's trust on Booby
who knows.
Speaker 6 (04:51):
Then that is something that you ask and it's just like,
what do you how are you living?
Speaker 1 (04:56):
I love this? I love it where mummy, daddy pop?
Speaker 3 (04:59):
The question would you date somebody? Would you date somebody
if they're unemployed and you sit off there's eighteen, yeah,
there were no worries. But if there's thirty, it's just clarify.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
I don't want to date in eighteen year old?
Speaker 3 (05:11):
Yeah yeah, come on, then so what just because they're older,
you're less likely to date them.
Speaker 4 (05:17):
If if you if you were closes questions.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
And if you're on an app, would you bother or
you just go oh thirty unemployed swipe?
Speaker 7 (05:24):
No?
Speaker 4 (05:25):
Ways, absolutely not. But I'd want to know why they're unemployed.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Oh god's judge, judge?
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Okay, well this is the question I'm asking. It's good
to have two different points of opinion. Even though maxism
are allowed.
Speaker 6 (05:35):
To be unemployed, I get it. I'm not would you
date somebody who's everyone? Who someone who's unemployed at my age?
If they didn't have a good reason for being unemployed
and they're just bumming around our home, then I don't know.
I think probably not. Okay, all right, you need a
bit of drive, you need to be motivated.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Sure, all right, Well let's all right, let's hear from
you A three hundred one oh two three.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Here's the question. Would you date somebody live who's only employed?
Speaker 4 (06:01):
How do you live? Unemployed?
Speaker 6 (06:02):
Need money?
Speaker 3 (06:03):
People can be unemployed even though they have incredible drive
and are motivated. Just putting that out.
Speaker 6 (06:07):
Yeah, but like, how do you go on a date?
You can't pay for dinner? You don't have any money?
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Yeah, sugar, daddy ever here to pay for it? I
got a job, now, I got a job. All right,
So let's hear from you. Let me say, you know,
it's going to divide adelaide. Some people agree, some people won't.
Speaker 4 (06:21):
Let's hear your opinions.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Would you date someone who's unemployed?
Speaker 3 (06:24):
Let's go to lean from Prospect Leanne, would you date
someone that was unemployed?
Speaker 5 (06:29):
I certainly would, because it may not be in there,
like it's not their foot that they're unemployed. Like I
was working for the same company for nearly six seventeen
years and they made me redundant, and it took me
a whole year to find employment because no one wanted
to employ me because I'm in my early sixties.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Yeah, ages and it doesn't matter it does it? You
can do everything, no, everything in that year exactly.
Speaker 5 (06:57):
You know, you try so hard, but you know there's
a lot of them just want, you know, someone that
looks good or someone that's much younger, so you know
it's out of their control. There's a lot of people
out there that would love to be working, but I'm
not working because it's been really hard to find a job.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
Aleander, you end up getting a gig.
Speaker 5 (07:18):
I did, thank you very much.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Yes, well, i'd bet you they're damn lucky to have land,
So thanks for calling.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
All right, A three welcome, Yeah, A three hundred three.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
Let's go to John from Tonando. All right, would you
date someone who was unemployed?
Speaker 8 (07:32):
John, that's a good question. Yes I would if I
knew them for a very long time. But absolutely not
an attender profile.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Really, so you're hanging up absolutely not.
Speaker 8 (07:44):
Why because it's your natural instinct to go to a
security and if somebody doesn't have a job, they're putting
it out there on there. We don't have time. If
you've got so many other people to look at, you're
not going to the relationship on a backbook?
Speaker 4 (07:58):
All right, John, I like it.
Speaker 6 (08:01):
John's logging in the shop window and going, that's not
the cut of meat that I'm after.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Time, all right, Amy of halett Cove. Would you date
someone unemployed if you saw that on Tinder?
Speaker 7 (08:10):
I actually was someone who wouldn't have I would have said, no,
I need the security and I want someone that's got
the same sort of work ethic and me, which sounds
really horrible to say that. Then I met someone online.
I didn't know he was unemployed until I then actually
physically met him, but the connection was already there. We
(08:32):
saw that, we started dating. Yes, I agree that actually
going out on dates was a bit difficult because he
was on a very minimal income. That we worked around that,
and then I encouraged him to do some extra training
and now he earns more than I do.
Speaker 6 (08:46):
Yeah, go, doesn't this prove the point? But she encouraged
him to go and get a job like the bloke
that she fell in love with. She encouraged to go
and get employment.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
No, no, no, it proves the point that didn't judge
a person by a line that they have on Tinder profile.
Maybe go, yeah, this is what we're doing, and then
fall in love and then have a guy. It doesn't matter.
It doesn't matter if they've got a job.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
Yeah, I mean, you take it how you want to
take it, I guess Amy.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Thank you so much work for you, and we both
think you've proven out by her life.
Speaker 4 (09:19):
Thanks Amy,
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Joyce Sapp, 76; Bryan Herrera, 16; and Laurance Webb, 32—three Miami residents whose lives were stolen in brutal, unsolved homicides. Cold Case Files: Miami follows award‑winning radio host and City of Miami Police reserve officer Enrique Santos as he partners with the department’s Cold Case Homicide Unit, determined family members, and the advocates who spend their lives fighting for justice for the victims who can no longer fight for themselves.