🍺 PUB TEST: Should This Woman Give Her Friend's Dog Back Or Keep It?

"I adopted my friend April's dog over a year ago when she moved in with her boyfriend, who didn't want pets. She gave me all rights. The dog became my WORLD. She saved me from depression.

But recently, April asked for the dog back since her boyfriend was now okay with it. I refused, explaining that the dog was settled and happy with me. Furious, April accused me of "stealing her dog" and threatened to end our friendship. When I didn't budge, she escalated—sending angry texts, then reaching out to my relatives with lies to try to ruin our relationship. And still...I can't give her away. She is my baby."

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Jersey and Amanda gem Nation.

Speaker 2 (00:03):
I saw this on Reddit, a woman saying I adopted
my friend April's dog a year ago. She moved in
with a boyfriend who didn't want pets. She gave me
all the rights, whatever that means. The dog became my
world and she saved me from depression. Recently, April asked
for the dog back because her boyfriend was now okay
with it. I refused, explaining the dog was settled and
happy with me. April has accused me of stealing her

(00:26):
dog and threatened to end our friendship. She's reached out
to my relatives with lies. She's trying to ruin our relationship,
like not giving the dog away. She's my baby. There
was mixed response underneath this.

Speaker 3 (00:36):
What do people say?

Speaker 4 (00:37):
What people are saying? Anyone who's going to give away
a dog doesn't never deserve a dog.

Speaker 2 (00:41):
Yes, someone else has said, look, why don't you buy
yourself another puppy, another dog, and give this one back
to April. Because she's saying here, I'm reading between the lines.
She's saying she gave me full adoptive rites. Maybe that's
how this woman has seen it. Maybe that's wasn't April's intention.

Speaker 3 (00:58):
How long did she have the dog for here?

Speaker 4 (01:00):
Oh?

Speaker 2 (01:02):
Some are saying the dog still matters to April, give
the dog back. Others are saying, no, your friend abandoned
the dog. You adopted it. Yep, in your mind, it's
your dog. Now keep the dog. Forget April, return the dog,
get a new puppy you know who. If you want
solace and a dog, do it that way did.

Speaker 3 (01:20):
Your own dog. Maybe they should put the dog in
a circle and they on each side who the dog
goes to first.

Speaker 2 (01:27):
Like in those crazy Kramer versus Kramer adoption movies.

Speaker 3 (01:30):
I don't think that was incredible.

Speaker 4 (01:31):
I wasn't mistaken that kid, do you know what I mean? Yeah? Well,
Jacinda exactly.

Speaker 2 (01:37):
A producer was saying that they was living in a
flat for a little while.

Speaker 4 (01:41):
It was temporary. Her parents live on a farm.

Speaker 2 (01:43):
They gave the cat to the mum because they had.

Speaker 4 (01:47):
A mice problem. Cat's been very good.

Speaker 2 (01:49):
The mother has bonded enormously with the cat. But just
send us kids now want the cat back. They've moved
into it, back into a place. They want their cat back,
and the mother's saying, no, I want it.

Speaker 3 (01:58):
My sister moved over to Dubai and she left her
cat Rufous for us to mind, and I didn't mind it.

Speaker 1 (02:04):
I like the cat.

Speaker 3 (02:05):
And then she subsequently came back and I said, you
want your cat.

Speaker 4 (02:09):
Bag and said you settled.

Speaker 3 (02:11):
Here, and then we had Rufus for another eighteen years.

Speaker 4 (02:13):
Would you have given the cat bag? Yeah, yeah, I
would have.

Speaker 2 (02:16):
But if she had said I'm going away and you
psychologically think this cat's mine, now.

Speaker 3 (02:21):
I never thought that.

Speaker 4 (02:22):
But because no one cat the cat that's just exists
in the world. Well, that's what we're asking this morning.
It's intriguing, is it keeping the pet?

Speaker 3 (02:31):
Yeah?

Speaker 4 (02:32):
Does it pass the pub test?

Speaker 1 (02:34):
Any woman who puts a man before her dog isn't
worth it. I am a feeling. I got my sister's
dog because she did exactly that, and I kept the
pub four about five or six years.

Speaker 5 (02:45):
I don't think she said the puppy, She's show us
the boyfriend puppy.

Speaker 4 (02:50):
Learn that.

Speaker 5 (02:51):
I think it's just a bit said that she's letting
her boyfriend have so much control over her, like.

Speaker 1 (02:57):
You can't have the dog, you can have the dog? No?
And what might not love? Yes, it does if the
original owner was still paying for the dog's food and
vet bills and everything it needs. But then yes, it
goes back. But if it was less and said here
and the new owner was feeding it, like paying for
the food and vet bills of that, well that's that

(03:19):
person's dog now, end of story.

Speaker 5 (03:22):
I think it's a really hard one. I think it's
got to be taken on a case by case basis.
But I actually think we've got to think about the
poor animal who bonds with the human and has no
say in it. So maybe we should think about what's
going on with the animal and how they're coping.

Speaker 2 (03:37):
So should they do what you said earlier, Brendan, where
they stand at opposite ends of a room, maybe with
both of them with sausages around their neck, and see
which one the dog goes for.

Speaker 3 (03:46):
I think that's a show on ESPN.