October 16, 2025 • 8 mins
After Barra revealed yesterday that his family had to say goodbye to their pug Lilly, Lisa and Russell took your calls on how you dealt with the loss of a pet.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Barrow, who joined us yesterday as he does every Wednesday
for dad Chat, and it was an emotional one for
bar yesterday because.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
They had to make the sad decision to say goodbye
to their last pug, Lily this week. She had a
neurological condition that her legs wouldn't work, so he was
not left any choice. It was time that Lily had
to go over the rainbow bridge, as they say. And
we got a lot of reaction because one of the
things that Barrow was talking about was how do you
(00:28):
deal with this situation with your kids, because he felt
guilt because one of his kids didn't get the chance
to say and I don't think he should feel any
guilt there. It's not Barra's fault. Sometimes you don't get
to say you don't get to round everyone up to
say goodbye. But we did get a good text from
someone who didn't leave their name, but they said we
(00:49):
recently lost our pug who was sixteen. What made it
most difficult was that I had to tell a now
adult childhood mental health issues that our pug had died.
So we got through it by letting her take full
control from going to see him just after he died
to the burial. Everything was done to her requests and
that seemed to work the best for them in that situation.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
So that's, you know, that's their their strategy. Maybe maybe
you've been in the same situation and you have yours.
I mean, have you gone through the loss of a pet?
How did you deal with it? Were kids involved? How
did you break the news to the kids? How did
you make them just understand that it's part of life
and death. We'd love your input. We've got to Joe
on the line from Curenbine. Joe, good morning. You've had
(01:36):
this experience. You've lost a pet. How did you deal
with it?
Speaker 3 (01:40):
It was terribly awful. We took him to the vet
and they were very beautiful. The whole the whole thing
was quite heartbreaking. But we took him home and our
little miniaturetion now is that Tilly was able to cope.
I guess better. She We sat with her for a while.
She sniffed him and nudged him. That with him, Yeah
(02:04):
and yeah. We actually had him cremated. So when I
took him out to the car for the people to
take him away, she hopped in the back of the
car and walked around and had a fine little sniff
and walked straight back to me. And yeah, she seemed
to crepe really well with it after that. She she
didn't she didn't look for him a lot around the house.
(02:26):
So I think that that was an important part of
it too, was helping her cope with his loss.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Yeah, and she's interesting. My mum had a very similar
situation Joe Reese, well about a year ago now, her
older dog died and she had a new puppy, and
she the new puppy went and had had a sniff
and you know, sort of hung around for maybe a
few minutes and then went away and was okay. So
(02:52):
they deal with it in their way as well. And
that is another thing to consider. The other animals in
the house. They've all together for who knows how long.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
It affects everybody and every living thing.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
Yeah, it does. It's been four years and I'm still checking,
I know, Joe.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
And I'm seeing the photo that you've sent us, and
it Yeah.
Speaker 4 (03:14):
Thanks Jill.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
He's still going strong so yet.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Thanks for sharing.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Thanks for sharing, Joe. We really appreciate it.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
We've got Jamie and Jamie.
Speaker 5 (03:22):
Jamie, good morning all.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
How are we good? How are you mate, I'm.
Speaker 5 (03:27):
Not too bad. Yeah, I had the best mate seen years. Yeah,
after three years ago and he passed away. I've been
at work, got seven o'clock at night. My first question
was where's truly, and I reckon he's outside. Got to
the back door. He was standing about a meter away.
He looked at me and he.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Dropped, Oh, Jamie, he's probably waiting for you to get home.
Speaker 5 (03:50):
Yep. So yeah, picked him up, took him inside, rang
the oldest daughter. He wasn't home at the time. She
got home, and we're all more like it was one
of the closest things we've ever lost, twelve a member.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Of the family, especially after all that time.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (04:10):
Yeah. And then twelve months later he's little partner, Billy,
she passed away and it was the same thing. Yeah.
I got I'm about far thirty and the girls were
all Billy's outside. She can't walk.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
She did the same thing.
Speaker 5 (04:23):
Yes, So I went outside. I picked her up for
her and thought, sat her on my lap, said everything
was all right, and she went away. She's Jamie.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
They wait for you, Jamie.
Speaker 5 (04:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
It does break your heart, but I do think there's
something rather, you know, maybe better about that. Than having
to do all that sort of thing, just.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
The chance to say goodbye.
Speaker 5 (04:47):
Not that absolutely, and then the word part, we're out
of their lives. Leader, we still had one of their pops, Yeah, Bady,
And because she had always grown up around dogs, she
started freaking. Oh, the best thing was to give her up.
I gave it to me oldest daughter who has the
(05:07):
little dogs as well. Yeah, and bet it was the
best thing.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
Drive you're still in the family.
Speaker 5 (05:16):
Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Vets, of course are amazing and I've had wonderful experience
when I've had to say good buttt my animals with vets.
But also it's wonderful now days that you can get
someone to come to your house and you know, when
when you have to make that decision to have your
dog put to sleep, they can come and do it
at home. And that's you know that, that's a really
nice option.
Speaker 5 (05:37):
That's what they've done with their two blue wheelers around
and that was beautiful as well.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
And then they take care of the you know, when
you're not in your right state to be taken care
of what has to be taken care of. Yes, So
there are so many options available to us now to
give our pets, the you know, the ending that they deserve.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Thank you. Yeah, we really appreciate that, mate. Kylie is
on the phone from cooling up morning, Kylie.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
Oh, good morning.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
But unfortunately it's something that's part of all our lives,
isn't it at some point.
Speaker 4 (06:16):
Exactly, So I've got to try and do this without
their singing fears. And it's been three years. Yeah, we
had two, but our last one was an Alaskan Malamut,
big fifty kilo boy who chatted and loved everyone. And
one of the benefits of being able to use, like
you guys are saying, being able to go a vet,
(06:37):
was that the fact that I had time to take
him to his favorite shop, which was City Farmers. He
loved her and at the heart, you know, they all
got to stay goodbye. My family got to stay goodbye.
We got to take him for a final walk through
the park and he got to woo woo everyone. Yeah,
(06:58):
and that's beautiful. They they absolutely loved him. They were
volunteers that they had to sign out the front saying
this is lit because we're currently losing a good friend,
you know. But it also goes on to what you said,
at least about other pets. And the one thing we
didn't think about was our neighbor. Our dog used to chatting.
(07:22):
We were to his dog. They never ever saw each other.
And I went to go and just say to my neighbor, hey,
I just wanted to let you know, and he went,
oh my god, Kylie, I didn't. Marco has been pining
at the fence for the last few days and we
couldn't understand why. And I just said, oh my god,
(07:46):
because they never met.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
Yeah, but they can hear each other and they can
smell each other each other.
Speaker 4 (07:51):
Yeah, you know. Unfortunately, it's just one of those things
that we can't always say goodbye, but making sure we
give them love and attention and humans as well. And
like for us this, we've never been able to have children.
So our pets were our dog was everything. And I
(08:13):
can't replace I can't replace them.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Like we said, they are our best times and then
they are our worst times, and we all say I'm
never getting another one, and then of course we do.
But Kylie, thank you for sharing that.
Speaker 5 (08:26):
I know.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
It's tough.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
It doesn't it doesn't go away overnight, and it is tough.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
It doesn't
Barrow, who joined us yesterday as he does every Wednesday
for dad Chat, and it was an emotional one for
bar yesterday because.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
They had to make the sad decision to say goodbye
to their last pug, Lily this week. She had a
neurological condition that her legs wouldn't work, so he was
not left any choice. It was time that Lily had
to go over the rainbow bridge, as they say. And
we got a lot of reaction because one of the
things that Barrow was talking about was how do you
(00:28):
deal with this situation with your kids, because he felt
guilt because one of his kids didn't get the chance
to say and I don't think he should feel any
guilt there. It's not Barra's fault. Sometimes you don't get
to say you don't get to round everyone up to
say goodbye. But we did get a good text from
someone who didn't leave their name, but they said we
(00:49):
recently lost our pug who was sixteen. What made it
most difficult was that I had to tell a now
adult childhood mental health issues that our pug had died.
So we got through it by letting her take full
control from going to see him just after he died
to the burial. Everything was done to her requests and
that seemed to work the best for them in that situation.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
So that's, you know, that's their their strategy. Maybe maybe
you've been in the same situation and you have yours.
I mean, have you gone through the loss of a pet?
How did you deal with it? Were kids involved? How
did you break the news to the kids? How did
you make them just understand that it's part of life
and death. We'd love your input. We've got to Joe
on the line from Curenbine. Joe, good morning. You've had
(01:36):
this experience. You've lost a pet. How did you deal
with it?
Speaker 3 (01:40):
It was terribly awful. We took him to the vet
and they were very beautiful. The whole the whole thing
was quite heartbreaking. But we took him home and our
little miniaturetion now is that Tilly was able to cope.
I guess better. She We sat with her for a while.
She sniffed him and nudged him. That with him, Yeah
(02:04):
and yeah. We actually had him cremated. So when I
took him out to the car for the people to
take him away, she hopped in the back of the
car and walked around and had a fine little sniff
and walked straight back to me. And yeah, she seemed
to crepe really well with it after that. She she
didn't she didn't look for him a lot around the house.
(02:26):
So I think that that was an important part of
it too, was helping her cope with his loss.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Yeah, and she's interesting. My mum had a very similar
situation Joe Reese, well about a year ago now, her
older dog died and she had a new puppy, and
she the new puppy went and had had a sniff
and you know, sort of hung around for maybe a
few minutes and then went away and was okay. So
(02:52):
they deal with it in their way as well. And
that is another thing to consider. The other animals in
the house. They've all together for who knows how long.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
It affects everybody and every living thing.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
Yeah, it does. It's been four years and I'm still checking,
I know, Joe.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
And I'm seeing the photo that you've sent us, and
it Yeah.
Speaker 4 (03:14):
Thanks Jill.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
He's still going strong so yet.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Thanks for sharing.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Thanks for sharing, Joe. We really appreciate it.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
We've got Jamie and Jamie.
Speaker 5 (03:22):
Jamie, good morning all.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
How are we good? How are you mate, I'm.
Speaker 5 (03:27):
Not too bad. Yeah, I had the best mate seen years. Yeah,
after three years ago and he passed away. I've been
at work, got seven o'clock at night. My first question
was where's truly, and I reckon he's outside. Got to
the back door. He was standing about a meter away.
He looked at me and he.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Dropped, Oh, Jamie, he's probably waiting for you to get home.
Speaker 5 (03:50):
Yep. So yeah, picked him up, took him inside, rang
the oldest daughter. He wasn't home at the time. She
got home, and we're all more like it was one
of the closest things we've ever lost, twelve a member.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Of the family, especially after all that time.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (04:10):
Yeah. And then twelve months later he's little partner, Billy,
she passed away and it was the same thing. Yeah.
I got I'm about far thirty and the girls were
all Billy's outside. She can't walk.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
She did the same thing.
Speaker 5 (04:23):
Yes, So I went outside. I picked her up for
her and thought, sat her on my lap, said everything
was all right, and she went away. She's Jamie.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
They wait for you, Jamie.
Speaker 5 (04:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
It does break your heart, but I do think there's
something rather, you know, maybe better about that. Than having
to do all that sort of thing, just.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
The chance to say goodbye.
Speaker 5 (04:47):
Not that absolutely, and then the word part, we're out
of their lives. Leader, we still had one of their pops, Yeah, Bady,
And because she had always grown up around dogs, she
started freaking. Oh, the best thing was to give her up.
I gave it to me oldest daughter who has the
(05:07):
little dogs as well. Yeah, and bet it was the
best thing.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
Drive you're still in the family.
Speaker 5 (05:16):
Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Vets, of course are amazing and I've had wonderful experience
when I've had to say good buttt my animals with vets.
But also it's wonderful now days that you can get
someone to come to your house and you know, when
when you have to make that decision to have your
dog put to sleep, they can come and do it
at home. And that's you know that, that's a really
nice option.
Speaker 5 (05:37):
That's what they've done with their two blue wheelers around
and that was beautiful as well.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
And then they take care of the you know, when
you're not in your right state to be taken care
of what has to be taken care of. Yes, So
there are so many options available to us now to
give our pets, the you know, the ending that they deserve.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Thank you. Yeah, we really appreciate that, mate. Kylie is
on the phone from cooling up morning, Kylie.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
Oh, good morning.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
But unfortunately it's something that's part of all our lives,
isn't it at some point.
Speaker 4 (06:16):
Exactly, So I've got to try and do this without
their singing fears. And it's been three years. Yeah, we
had two, but our last one was an Alaskan Malamut,
big fifty kilo boy who chatted and loved everyone. And
one of the benefits of being able to use, like
you guys are saying, being able to go a vet,
(06:37):
was that the fact that I had time to take
him to his favorite shop, which was City Farmers. He
loved her and at the heart, you know, they all
got to stay goodbye. My family got to stay goodbye.
We got to take him for a final walk through
the park and he got to woo woo everyone. Yeah,
(06:58):
and that's beautiful. They they absolutely loved him. They were
volunteers that they had to sign out the front saying
this is lit because we're currently losing a good friend,
you know. But it also goes on to what you said,
at least about other pets. And the one thing we
didn't think about was our neighbor. Our dog used to chatting.
(07:22):
We were to his dog. They never ever saw each other.
And I went to go and just say to my neighbor, hey,
I just wanted to let you know, and he went,
oh my god, Kylie, I didn't. Marco has been pining
at the fence for the last few days and we
couldn't understand why. And I just said, oh my god,
(07:46):
because they never met.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
Yeah, but they can hear each other and they can
smell each other each other.
Speaker 4 (07:51):
Yeah, you know. Unfortunately, it's just one of those things
that we can't always say goodbye, but making sure we
give them love and attention and humans as well. And
like for us this, we've never been able to have children.
So our pets were our dog was everything. And I
(08:13):
can't replace I can't replace them.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Like we said, they are our best times and then
they are our worst times, and we all say I'm
never getting another one, and then of course we do.
But Kylie, thank you for sharing that.
Speaker 5 (08:26):
I know.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
It's tough.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
It doesn't it doesn't go away overnight, and it is tough.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
It doesn't
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