An Entire Secret Family: Counsellor Heidi Reaches Out To Distraught Listener

An Entire Secret Family: Counsellor Heidi Reaches Out To Distraught Listener

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Speaker 1 (00:12):
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Speaker 2 (00:20):
Sammy fan out she was not the only girl of
the world. Her partner had an entire other family.

Speaker 1 (00:26):
For fifteen years. It's so mate, children and the way,
and she discovered it because she wanted to name her
last child and he wouldn't let her because he wanted
to keep both families on the kids' names the same,
so he didn't stuff it up us. So many people
are reacting on our text line. Chantelle has written, I'm

(00:46):
with Robin. I'm having a physical reaction to her story.
I want to kick her husband in the face water douchebag.
But physical violence aside, which none of us are.

Speaker 3 (00:55):
Going to do.

Speaker 1 (00:56):
We actually really want to help Sammy. I feel so
passionately about supporting this woman. So the one way we
can is with our resident counselor, Heidi summer Ball from
Heidi's Counseling Services dot Com. Heidi, did you just hear
all that I did?

Speaker 3 (01:13):
Poor Sammy? What a horrific story.

Speaker 1 (01:16):
So what can you do?

Speaker 3 (01:18):
Well, Look, the first thing I'll say is I'm so
glad that she reached out and she has told this
story because what that indicates to me is that she's
ready to start to detox this. She obviously was in
shock her children were abandoned and really betrayed by their dad,
and so I feel as though she's probably gone into

(01:38):
a full mama bear, lockdown, batten down the hatches sort
of protective mode. And that's tied into why she has
kept this secret. But you know, she's carrying this around
at the base of therapy and probably at the base
of what you guys are doing there with her confessions
for cash. Once we speak it, we don't store it.

(02:00):
And I don't want Sammy storing this story. And I
really want to help her work through it if she's
open to it.

Speaker 1 (02:08):
So you can help her, like if she wants to
come and see you, you will give her all the
time she needs to be able to do that.

Speaker 3 (02:15):
I absolutely will. I mean I don't. I'd need to
talk to her a little bit more. But one of
my fears in this is that she's carrying around the
embarrassment and the shame of this happening to her. Often
what I hear in these sorts of stories is, you know, well,
how could I have been so vullable? I should have known.
It's almost like they can victim shame themselves and because

(02:37):
of that embarrassment, they they don't share it with anybody.
But it's not it's not her that should be embarrassed.

Speaker 2 (02:46):
You know, there's not one part of that story that
I thought, Oh, she's done something wrong. It's just phenomenal.
What a pig this blokes.

Speaker 1 (02:55):
We've just got Sammy back up. Hey Sammy, Hi, how
are you good? Mate? I know it must be so
overwhelming with all of this, but Heidi's offering to help you.
Do you want that help?

Speaker 3 (03:08):
Yeah? I think of this thing that we look into
and how.

Speaker 2 (03:13):
You need to have more conversations about it because we
haven't stopped talking about it since, like off like, it's
just such an incredible story and it's just so shameful
what's happened.

Speaker 1 (03:25):
To you, to you, Sammy, it's so shameful what he's
done to you. So we'll we'll let you got you go.
Thank you so much. I know it's been a lot,
and we'll give you Heidie's number and when you're ready.
I can absolutely vouch for this woman. She has helped
me personally and so many other people, and I'm sure
that she can help you too.

Speaker 3 (03:46):
Thank you, Thank you so much. I really appreciate it.

Speaker 2 (03:49):
Thanks Sammy, thank you. Hey, Heidi, before we let you go,
is there a technical term for this bloke beyond a hole?

Speaker 3 (03:56):
I don't think it's anything we can say before nine
pm at night, right, right.

Speaker 2 (04:01):
It was more of the fact he came back and
just thought it was Yeah, when he came back into
the house after he'd been found out two weeks later,
he came back into the house and said, oh, where
are my Thiet like it was all going to be fine,
and it's the worst gas lighting ever.

Speaker 3 (04:13):
Absolutely extraordinary. And I mean I hear stories all day
every day, and this is right up there. It's we
can't understand it because it's so far from the normal
frame of reality that we it's kind of honestly impossible
to understand. And you know, Sammy just sounds even then,
she sounds so vulnerable and wobbly, and you know it's, yeah,

(04:37):
you can hear it in a voice. He really needs
some support.

Speaker 2 (04:40):
Yeah, well hopefully you can give it to her.

Speaker 3 (04:42):
Thank you HARDI okay, thanks guys, And honestly.

Speaker 2 (04:46):
We'll try and give Sammy all the privacy she deserves.
But you'd be up to date if we can.

Speaker 3 (04:50):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (04:50):
Absolutely. Now we step out, but let me just say
Heidi's Counseling Services dot com. She's awesome and we need
to help this woman to do