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August 3, 2023 12 mins

Do You Remember The Exact Moment Your Children Changed Forever?

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Robin Terrill Kip on Brisbane's Kiss three.

Speaker 2 (00:05):
Robin is broadcasting life from Scotland, where she's finally been
reunited with her boys after they've been traveling through Europe
for the last couple of months. I think I've got
some audio here, Robin, and this is just after you've
had your hug and cry. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (00:19):
Actually it's in the taxi and I just wanted I
mean I was, I was fishing for compliments. Basically, are
you happy to see your mama so excited?

Speaker 4 (00:27):
Why are you so excited? Just because I love my mother.

Speaker 1 (00:30):
So much and the paycheck cuts my expenses down drastically.
What about you, lou I'm over the moon.

Speaker 5 (00:41):
It's been a very very long time.

Speaker 1 (00:44):
Have you had a good time?

Speaker 6 (00:45):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (00:46):
Best time ever? Okay, and now you're going to have
what an even better time.

Speaker 2 (00:52):
I don't feel like they're trying to be ironic when
they're like, I'm over the moon, it's thrilled to see you.

Speaker 1 (01:00):
One I was like, oh gosh, Rady, I'll get Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:04):
My boys are eighteen, twenty one and twenty three, and
that was the eighteen and twenty one year old and
we went to a pub to meet up with all
the people who are going to be at the wedding,
and I had to leave them to come back and
broadcast because it's like ten thirty at night here currently
on Thursday night, and at the pub something happened and
I'm not I kind of I'm still not sure how

(01:25):
I feel about it. And I always knew that when
my boys left, and part of the reason why I
facilitated them to go is that they needed to not
grow up, but they needed to get away from me
and find out that the world is this amazing place.
I think with COVID and just our circumstances with their
dad and stepdad dying, that their world had got really small.

(01:45):
And so I was saying, go out, have big adventures,
and of course, if you've been listening for a while,
they have. They've run with the bulls, you know, they've
got drunk and slept on the beach at a Beeza
because they couldn't find accommodation, like They've done all the
things you should do when.

Speaker 1 (01:58):
You know you're out there living a life.

Speaker 3 (02:00):
But it's I didn't realize just how much one of
them's changed, and I probably should have, and that is
my youngest who's eighteen eighteen and a half pipes. We
had this moment in the pub where he was carrying
this big, heavy jacket and he wanted to take it
off and put it somewhere, and I said to him, oh, look,

(02:22):
just wait till we get upstairs into the function room,
because that'll be ours and you can just put it
with everyone else's stuff. And I said it about three
or four times, and he didn't listen to me on
any of those occasions. And then he went and tried
to put it in a public place under a table,
and we were going upstairs.

Speaker 1 (02:38):
And I was like, dude, just pick up the jack
like I was saying it like this.

Speaker 3 (02:42):
I was going pick up the jacket and take it upstairs,
and he spun at me.

Speaker 1 (02:47):
And just went, don't speak to me like that.

Speaker 3 (02:50):
I was like, oh, okay, you're an adult now, and
you don't want me to treat you as your mother.

Speaker 1 (02:58):
You want me to look at you in a different light.

Speaker 3 (03:00):
And I'm trying to work out whether I would have
spoken to the other two like that. I think I
would have, because I would have been frustrated as their mother,
saying something four times when I logically had the answer yes.
But I think for him, you know, he finished school
last year. He's now really going through that ride of passage.

Speaker 1 (03:18):
And I mean, do you think who's right or wrong there? Well,
I don't know if there is a right or wrong.

Speaker 2 (03:24):
I mean, obviously that's his moment, you know, And I
don't know if you I can remember the moment that
I first spoke to my dad as a man and
just sort of said, like, our relationships different from now,
you know.

Speaker 1 (03:37):
What I mean, what happened? How did that happen?

Speaker 6 (03:40):
Well?

Speaker 2 (03:40):
Actually, I mean that was back when you know, people
used to smack their kids. My dad was laying into me.
I was probably about thirteen, but I was a big kid.
I was his height already at thirteen, and he was
smacking me in the backyard for something. And I grabbed
him by the by his T shirt and I lifted
him in the air and pushed him against the fence
and I went, there's no more smacking in this house.

Speaker 1 (04:04):
And I put him that to your dad, did your
dad do?

Speaker 2 (04:07):
I put him down and he went okay, and that
was it. That was the last time he and I
were ever physical because it changed I was I was
too big a boy to be hit anymore.

Speaker 3 (04:17):
So, Okay, have you ever had that moment with your mum?

Speaker 2 (04:21):
No?

Speaker 3 (04:22):
No, because I think this is a problem with single parents,
and all single parents.

Speaker 1 (04:28):
Will absolutely agree with this.

Speaker 3 (04:29):
You are both mum and dad often, so maybe actually
what he's done is just put that line in the sand.
And you know, if his dad was alive, he would
probably have happened in a probably more physical or a
different way.

Speaker 1 (04:43):
Okay, so I've been told, Yeah, you've been told. I've
been told.

Speaker 3 (04:48):
So, so now does that I mean, I'm always going
to be his mum. See, this is the thing I'm
conflicted with because I'm like, yeah, but you're still my
son and I want to be your mum always.

Speaker 1 (04:56):
But maybe now I.

Speaker 3 (04:57):
Just have to see you more as a man and
try and navigate it like that. I mean, part of
me is kind of a bit sad and bit teary,
but the other part is really proud, like.

Speaker 2 (05:07):
Yay, yeah he's going and.

Speaker 1 (05:09):
You know what, he's responsible for his own jacket. Now
is the jacket that's his problem. It's not your problem.

Speaker 3 (05:14):
Yeah, okay, yeah, that's the other thing too, right, Just
mind mind your own damn business.

Speaker 7 (05:20):
Mom, What is he going?

Speaker 5 (05:21):
Right?

Speaker 7 (05:22):
How many Jackets.

Speaker 1 (05:23):
Does it take to attain manhood?

Speaker 2 (05:24):
Yeah, j to lose before mum loses her mind and
go right, that's it, you're back under the wings thirty
six fives out number ifever you want to get involved
with the show. Robin was just telling us she's in Scotland,
arrived there for the wedding. I've seen the boys for
the first time in a couple of months, and Piper,
your youngest has changed. Robin is a young man.

Speaker 1 (05:44):
Yeah, we just had this moment.

Speaker 3 (05:45):
I mean I've only seen them for like an hour
and a half before I had to come back to
the Airbnb and talk to you guys. But there was
a moment where I spoke to him. I got annoyed
at him about a stupid Jackets. It's always the stupid things,
isn't it. But the way I spoke to him and
he spun round at me and said, don't speak to
me like that.

Speaker 1 (06:01):
You know, it's really important.

Speaker 2 (06:02):
Oh you know what I reckon was really good though,
is that he didn't It's not like he flew off
the handle and swore or said f off mum or
anything like that.

Speaker 1 (06:09):
Like he said.

Speaker 2 (06:10):
He really just drew and drew a line, so don't
speak to me like that. They're like, yeah, that's it,
that's it. Now you got to you got to respect,
you've got to dream like a man from now on.

Speaker 3 (06:17):
And I went back, like I kind of and I
wasn't upset or anything, and I went, oh, okay, and
then and then I went back to it.

Speaker 1 (06:23):
I said, I'm really sorry. You know, I don't because.

Speaker 3 (06:26):
That's disrespectful and I don't want to be. But I think,
as you just said, I think something far bigger has
just occurred, and I'm not sure how I feel.

Speaker 1 (06:35):
Do you remember the moment that things changed?

Speaker 2 (06:37):
Thirteen one oh sixty fives number Lauren out at Eaton's Hill.
What was the moment? Lauren?

Speaker 4 (06:43):
Well, my daughter is quite a bit younger than Robin's buoys.
But my daughter, who's now ten, two years ago to
the eight and I have a habit of buying these
really beautiful expensive dresses from a a Brisbone based company,
and they're very expensive. And he's got a wardrobe fool.
And I said to her, you know, how about you

(07:06):
put on that beautiful dress blah blah, And she said
to me, Mum, that's your style, that's not mine.

Speaker 2 (07:14):
You had the moment at eight, Yeah, can I.

Speaker 1 (07:20):
Become your daughter?

Speaker 2 (07:26):
Sixty five's out votes Rob and Terry kiff Kiss He
is ninety seven three. Rob was just telling us about
her youngest son, Pipe, who has been overseas and has
grown up in this last couple of months, and basically
said to you, I'm not a little boy anymore. It's
time for me to make my own decisions.

Speaker 5 (07:39):
Because he's been the most independent one, hasn't he. Robbie
went away from his two brothers wos having on his own.

Speaker 2 (07:44):
Yeah, and I.

Speaker 3 (07:45):
Think he has got a lot to prove out of
this whole experience. And I think the fight that they
had a couple of weeks ago because the other tour
twenty one and twenty three was about him being respected
by them.

Speaker 1 (07:55):
I think that's what it came down to.

Speaker 3 (07:56):
Although what goes on tour stays on tour, and they
certainly aren't telling me too much about that. But yeah,
I just I'm really, I'm really going to have to
go away and think about it, because yes, I sent
them away, and yes I wanted them to grow up.

Speaker 1 (08:09):
But didn't wud have quite happened? Katie out of the switch.

Speaker 2 (08:16):
When was the moment was it? Was it your moment
or your kid's moment.

Speaker 7 (08:20):
No, it was my moment with my mom. My mom's
only sixteen years older than me. But we were driving
in the car and I was nineteen at the time,
and obviously I was not taking her advice the way
she wanted me to. And I pulled the car off
the side of the road and I said, Mum, your
opinion matters to me, but it's not the deciding factor anymore.

Speaker 1 (08:46):
You're so articulate, I'm so painful.

Speaker 2 (08:50):
Teenagers write that down to get your opinion matters, but it's.

Speaker 7 (08:55):
Not the matters to me. But it's not the deciding
factor anymore.

Speaker 4 (09:00):
That's brilliant.

Speaker 1 (09:00):
And what did she say? What did she say to.

Speaker 7 (09:02):
That she didn't take it?

Speaker 4 (09:05):
Well, it doesn't matter how to say it.

Speaker 1 (09:08):
It doesn't matter how particulate you are. It's technically my
way on the Highway from a Pea player.

Speaker 2 (09:13):
Ranada out of Flagstone and it says you've got four boys, RANAA.

Speaker 8 (09:18):
I have. My boys are twenty nine, twenty three, nineteen,
and twenty one, so three of them are very similar
in age to Robin. So I've followed Robin's journey with
her boys because mine are very similar in age, and
I get where she's coming from. But my advice to
her is, as mothers and boys, we try that little

(09:39):
bit hard to have a closer connection because boys will
naturally for closer connection to their fathers.

Speaker 6 (09:44):
So mothers always go that little bit harder to try
to be closer to their boys, and I did that
with my boys. Over mother then, you know, make sure
you brush your teeth to make sure you get enough sleep,
and you know, they get to an age where they
don't want you to do that anymore. But I think
the thing is you've got to not sweat over the
small things because then when the big things come up,

(10:07):
they will come to you more more easily for the
things that really matter. And that that came home to
me when two of my boys, at both one point
both said to me, you know, you don't think we
listen to what you say, but we do, and when
we need to know something, we take in everything you've
said to us. So you know, you don't think it's

(10:28):
going in, but it actually is nice. And I think
the more you over mother, the less they listen.

Speaker 2 (10:33):
Oh that is good advice over mothering.

Speaker 1 (10:36):
The term over mothering there, Rob, I don't know actually.

Speaker 3 (10:42):
To be Pharaoh sitting here and thinking, when do I
over mother? I mean, obviously, if you just heard me
interviewing them, I'm begging them to be nice to me.

Speaker 1 (10:49):
Is that over mothering? Probably?

Speaker 2 (10:52):
Yeah, maybe you're forgetting about the jacket on the hook.
So then that when it's a real problem, like it's
you know, like a relationship or a job, they come
to you.

Speaker 3 (11:00):
Yeah, or when they've run out of money, which will
probably be in about ten minutes time.

Speaker 1 (11:06):
Let's me out of Woodridge. What's your story, Maya.

Speaker 5 (11:10):
Oh, it's fucking Ridge. But yeah. My son was twenty
two at the time, and he'd gone out for a
New Year's Eve celebration with all his mates into the
nightclubs in the city. And as a mother, you know,
come twelve o'clock I rang my children to wish them
a happy New Year. When I rang his phone, a

(11:31):
bouncer at the nightclub and said with oh hello Mum,
And I said, oh, is that Sam? And they said no,
this isn't the bouncer at whatever nightclub it was. He's
lost his phone.

Speaker 2 (11:41):
Here.

Speaker 5 (11:41):
I've got a whole heap of them here at the
front door, and I said, oh, I just wanted to
wish him happy New Year. I said, do you reckon?
The DJ could announce that mum on, which they did,
and then consequently I'll got a phone called mum, there
you are, Saraf have to go to me.

Speaker 2 (12:03):
I've still got That's what matters.

Speaker 7 (12:05):
It's in voluntary and kids on Brisbane's Kiss ninety seventy three.

Speaker 4 (12:12):
Yeah,
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