Has Robin Bailey Given Up On Love?

Has Robin Bailey Given Up On Love?

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Eight seventeen. So since you started sharing about your dating role,
I've had a couple of glimmers of hope. There was
little moments we thought here we go. We sort of
go about six weeks in and then.

Speaker 2 (00:09):
Yeah, so if you if you haven't been following along
at home, I started in January. I decided I'd put
myself on a couple of dating apps, that I was
ready to put myself out there. Matt, some really nice
people like I don't adhere to the idea that there
are only losers on dating apps, but I do think
you do have to kiss a lot of toads before
you meet the handsome prince. Yes, and I knew that

(00:31):
going into it. Now. Of course, I dated one guy
who called drill Man, who was lovely but just wasn't
going to prioritize a relationship as much as I wanted
it to. So that ended after eight weeks.

Speaker 1 (00:41):
I had to be clear he owned a drill and
it was handwork.

Speaker 2 (00:44):
Yeah, that's too. It was very helpful taking down my
chandeliers as I'm trying to move. It's then I met
a guy called mister Scorpio who was quite similar to
me in lots of ways. But he felt that I
was too emotional and that there was too much going
on with my life, with my children, going overseas and

(01:05):
trying to move a house. It was just too much
for him, so he broke it up with me. I
got dumped, still still smarts me a little.

Speaker 1 (01:11):
That's Is that why you hate the Lewis Capaldi song.

Speaker 2 (01:14):
Yes, if someone dumps you, you're not standing there going
wishing them well. I only wish you the No, you're
a liar, Lewis, You're a lyar.

Speaker 1 (01:22):
You're a liar okay anyway.

Speaker 2 (01:24):
So that's why I an adverse reaction to that song.
So I've been on lots of dating apps while I
was overseas with my mum. I decided I'd given another
push and then I just see what was out there
and i'd get really game, and I put my photos
back up, mostly Hinge and Bumbalo, the two that I've
been using, and I got in undated and I thought, wow,
this is Amazingat about twenty four to thirty six hours in,

(01:47):
I realized at least half of them were robots, right,
and that like that. It's so infuriating people create fake accounts.
It's just it's soul destroying. It really is. But that
wasn't the kicker. The kicker was that the guys that
I was talking to, And as I said, there are
some really nice fellas out there, but they were getting weird.

(02:10):
Like one guy. I'd post it because if you're following
on my social media, you know I was posting photos
of being with my mum and doing stuff. He clearly
was googling in on my photos and was going in
and telling me things like, oh, you had lipstick on
your teeth.

Speaker 1 (02:28):
I had to.

Speaker 2 (02:28):
Go back through like half a dozen photos and like
push him out so much. I'm like, what I'm looking
for life.

Speaker 1 (02:37):
He's a man who could pick out my faults from
a distance.

Speaker 2 (02:40):
He was actually the final story, to be honest, I
just went, who what? And then all these people that
then when I took my I've deleted all the apps,
I'm off everything. You cannot find me, and I'm sorry
for those people that I was chatting to. But I
literally just lost my mind and went, I can't do this.

Speaker 1 (02:57):
So you've ghosted people?

Speaker 2 (02:58):
Now, no, well I've leader I'm no longer like I'm
not chatting and then disappearing. I'm gone. But so then
very clever intuitive men decide to slip into my dms,
and if you were listening yesterday, you would have heard
that I've had a crim I've had a DP. I've
had some guy telling me that, you know, oh, whoops,

(03:18):
I just saw that. Maybe you know you're not really
happy about most men, but I'm different. Do you know
how many people have said that on my DMS in
the last twenty four hours? Are telling me that they
are different?

Speaker 1 (03:33):
But what if you are different? He's the problem. If
you are different and you tell you you're different, and
you're telling the truth, how do you know?

Speaker 2 (03:39):
What do you mean? See? Like?

Speaker 1 (03:40):
What if someone actually is different? Are they're telling you
you're different?

Speaker 2 (03:43):
Dude? You haven't dated for a while, I haven't. Okay. Please,
if you have to tell someone that you're that, how
about you just engage with them as a human like rather,
This is my criticism of all online dating. It is
a job interview until it's not. And my decision now
is if and when I am to meet the next

(04:04):
great love of my life, which is yes, what I'm after,
it will be in the wild. Because chemistry means something
having a physical attraction to someone where you lock eyes
and go I don't know who you are, but I
need to know more is going to win over someone
saying I'm different? Now? Dare me?

Speaker 1 (04:23):
Dare I say it? Because the last time it was
a disaster. Should we have another dating party? Because we
tried that and it didn't go great.

Speaker 2 (04:31):
It didn't go great for anyone?

Speaker 1 (04:32):
No, okay, but have we ruined that out? Yeah?

Speaker 2 (04:34):
I think I just need to get out, do the
things that I love to do and run or swim
into someone that I might like.

Speaker 1 (04:40):
Yeah, and look. And the next week you're off to
England for a week or so and in a pile
of contacted you bastical prevos experience. Could you help them
sit up a sting because you get all the weirdos
coming straight at you. Really do. It's quite agreement. It's
such a magnet.

Speaker 2 (04:51):
Anything like it.