Is Honesty The Best Policy In Relationships?

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Speaker 1 (00:12):
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Speaker 2 (00:17):
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Speaker 1 (00:21):
Robin and Kidd Now with Correos the podcast. So there's
been a lot of talk about Angelina Jolie and Brad
Pitt over the last couple of months because finally, after
nearly ten years of bitter feuding, they have finalized their divorce.
And one of the people who has come out in
the chat about this couple is Jennifer Aniston. Of course,

(00:42):
was married to Brad Pitt for five years back in
the early two thousands. Ye her best friend Courtney Cox
from Friends Right, and she has revealed something that no
one ever really knew at the time of their divorce.
There was speculation that Brad and Angelina had fallen in
love on the set of Mister and Missus Smith.

Speaker 3 (01:01):
It seems so obvious if you saw that movie with
their connection and they were, you know, their husband and
wife on it, and you're like, Okay, you get it.
You make that movie together, You've fallen in love.

Speaker 1 (01:09):
And they have admitted, both of them that they did
have feelings for each other. But what has been revealed
by Courtney, who is Jennifer's best friend is that it
wasn't an affair that broke up that relationship. It was
that Brad Pitt was brutally honest with Jennifer Aniston and said,
I've started to have feelings for someone else.

Speaker 2 (01:32):
That's the Jennifer Anderson that was.

Speaker 1 (01:34):
To his wife.

Speaker 3 (01:36):
Okay, so.

Speaker 1 (01:39):
Fair. I didn't do anything, yes, but there is chemistry
and as you said, if you watch the film, you
can clearly see that I have feelings for this woman.
My question at the.

Speaker 3 (01:50):
Time is the most beautiful wman on the poscast for options.

Speaker 1 (01:54):
So my question to you is if your partners came
back to you today and said, I've got feelings for
someone at work, what.

Speaker 2 (02:06):
Would you do? Yeah? To me, that just means like
I got feelings. The way you get feelings is if
you hang out, you do all that stuff. Like they
did a movie together. Yeah, so they hung out a lot.

Speaker 1 (02:19):
So yeah, would you leave the relationship?

Speaker 3 (02:22):
Would you call it quicks?

Speaker 1 (02:24):
Oh?

Speaker 2 (02:24):
Yeah, because then it's just like, well, you love someone else.

Speaker 3 (02:28):
So it's done.

Speaker 1 (02:30):
Even though there was no physical touching and there was
this he's saying, I've started to.

Speaker 2 (02:35):
Have to mean, just let you know, And that's where
we are. So there's really no point.

Speaker 1 (02:42):
You would get up and walk away.

Speaker 2 (02:44):
Well, what's the point in trying. If you've got films
of someone.

Speaker 3 (02:47):
Else reckon, you can pull up from there. I think
I disagree. I think I could go. I could say, listen,
what did I hang on?

Speaker 4 (02:53):
What did you do?

Speaker 3 (02:54):
What have you done? Physically? Nothing? Okay, but but you've
got feelings. Okay, Well let's just get him out of
your life.

Speaker 1 (03:02):
So quit your job.

Speaker 2 (03:03):
Yeah, yeah, quit your job.

Speaker 3 (03:05):
Work somewhere else, obviously, but we can, we can out
of this.

Speaker 2 (03:10):
If they didn't quit their job, well, no, you don't
want them hanging out with them all the time.

Speaker 3 (03:13):
No, that's not okay, that's what I think. Yeah, yeah, okay,
So let me ask you about that department or something.

Speaker 1 (03:18):
I'm not trying to bring up old wounds, but I'm
going to bring up old womans. Your first marriage, you
were cheated on?

Speaker 3 (03:24):
Yes, if your first.

Speaker 1 (03:25):
Wife had said that to.

Speaker 3 (03:26):
You, yeap, No, I think because I remember, actually I
do remember her having a She got a friend, a
male friend, and this is not the person that she
had the affair with. And they did have a full on.
They spent a lot of time together. They had a
real connection and I remember him, even him getting drunk
one time and going, hey, or just want to let

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you know, I'll never do anything. And I was like, yeah,
that's cool. But in my mind's like, why are you're
telling me this? There's a line crossing?

Speaker 2 (03:54):
Yeah, that's what I mean, But I.

Speaker 3 (03:56):
Didn't you know, I guess that was a warning sign.
But I didn't have a problem with that because when
nothing's happened, you guys are enjoying each other's company and
that's cool.

Speaker 1 (04:04):
Oh so this brings me to the next point, because
Courtney Cox went on to say, I don't think he
started a physical affair, but I think he was attracted
to her. There was a connection, and he was honest
about that with Jen. Most of the time when people
are attracted to other people, they don't tell. At least
he was honest about it. Yeah, now that is my question.

Speaker 2 (04:26):
But then I've getting divorce and then he ended up
marrying her.

Speaker 1 (04:29):
And then they ended up in a really bitter and
nasty divorce. Yes, yes, but maybe the question here is
is honesty in a relationship the best policy?

Speaker 4 (04:42):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (04:42):
Always?

Speaker 4 (04:43):
Is it?

Speaker 2 (04:43):
Always?

Speaker 1 (04:44):
Is it always the best policy?

Speaker 5 (04:46):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (04:46):
My goodness? Thirteen one oh six five you can be
totally anonymous. Yes, please, I want to hear when someone
has been really honest.

Speaker 2 (04:55):
Yep.

Speaker 1 (04:55):
Did it work in your favor or did it work
against you?

Speaker 2 (04:58):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (04:59):
Well you're like you should have lied to me about that.
One thirteen one oh.

Speaker 1 (05:01):
Six five is our number, Meghan of Clayfield, What do
you reckon? Yes?

Speaker 5 (05:06):
It is, Honestly it is. I've been in both situations
and well sort of. In November, I just broke up
with my partner and it wasn't because of anybody else.
I just didn't I'm not in love with him anymore
and I didn't want to. Yeah, so I was brutally
honest and said to him I don't love you anymore.

(05:28):
I care for you as a friend, but I'm not
in love with you. It's best when you deserve better. Yeah,
leg has a train, I said, compared to my ex
husband who cheated on me and that was a horrible split.
This we're still friends, we still talk, we're still amicable.

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There's it's so much better to be brutally honest and much.

Speaker 3 (05:55):
Better, much kinder, just to say I'm not in love
with you anymore, rather than cheating and doing all the
other stuff.

Speaker 1 (06:00):
Yeah, Okay, I love the anonymouses.

Speaker 3 (06:03):
Oh, yes, he's going to be a good.

Speaker 1 (06:04):
Story attached tello my friend.

Speaker 4 (06:08):
Hello.

Speaker 1 (06:11):
Is honesty always the best policy?

Speaker 4 (06:14):
One? N Yes. So I have been a relationship for
a long time, sixteen years, and early on in the relationship,
I look, I had a lot of issues that I
needed to work through from previous relationships, and then I
did develop feelings for somebody else. I wrote to my

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partner about it. I just didn't distance myself from that person,
and we worked very hard on it. I worked. I
did a lot of work on myself and you know
the reasons why I had issues with relationships in the past,
and well managed to work through it. And we've been

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together first sixteen years. Wow, that was fourteen years ago.

Speaker 3 (07:02):
Oh so you can.

Speaker 1 (07:03):
You can't pull out of it.

Speaker 3 (07:04):
If you had that conversation and say, listen, nothing happened
but emostly but you you actually were able to fall
back in love.

Speaker 4 (07:11):
Yeah. Absolutely, and we have been fantastic every since.

Speaker 1 (07:16):
Can I ask you, does he ever bring it up?

Speaker 4 (07:19):
No?

Speaker 1 (07:20):
Right, So he literally drew a line in the sand,
jumped over it, and that was it.

Speaker 4 (07:28):
We said, you've got to like if we're going to
work through this. We need to be all win, and
that was both of us. I knew I had a
lot of stuff to work on, so I did that
separately and then we worked on our relationship together and then, Yeah,
it hasn't been an issue since then, it hasn't come up.

Speaker 1 (07:45):
Have you forgiven yourself?

Speaker 4 (07:47):
Yeah? Yeah, I would never do that again. And I'm
a different person now fourteen years ago.

Speaker 3 (07:54):
And what about old mate that you caught the feelings for?
Are you working seeing him anymore?

Speaker 2 (07:58):
No situation, Yeah, is possible.