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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Let's talk about maps, baby, Let's talk about trash tea,
Let's talk about all the good things and the bad
things marriage can.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Let's talk about maths. Okay, I'm just going to give
you a little hint as to what happened behind the
scenes here because I have worn these boys that we're
going to talk about intimacy, and they both started to
freak out. So we just played two songs and I said,
I need you to answer the question what does intimacy
mean to you? And then I left Yes. So whatever
(00:29):
unfolds over the next five minutes, I am so fascinated
to hear because I walk back in and Kip goes, no, Corey,
you tell as much of that as you feel comfortable with.
Comfortable that is where we are at this moment. Let
me bring you into context for maths. So last night,
(00:50):
sex expert Alessandro gave the brides a challenge as part.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Of Intimacy Week. I've set a brand new task, the
Ultimate Fantasy Innate, helping the brides of the experiment feel
empowered and show their partner what it is they desire
in a relationship in order to form a stronger connection.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
So let me say to you, that the brides took
a very different approach. So there was Marana who recreated
the Titanic painting scene, you know when Rose is sitting
on the on the bench and Jack paints her and
she's half naked, and that was that was very successful.
Speaker 3 (01:27):
That's cool.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Like a number of brides went lingerie shopping and then
went into sex shops to get toys.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
Did you watch any of that?
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Quary? And then there was Ree who recreated her wedding
dance because she didn't want it to just be about sex.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
I think my biggest takeaway from a workshop with Alessandra
is just a reminder that like intimacy isn't always just
about sex, It's about so many other things.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
And to make you boys feel better before we get
into this question for you is some of the grooms
were very intimidated and some of them really weren't sure
what was.
Speaker 4 (02:06):
Expected slow burner in these kinds of situations, and Sierra
is quite long.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
This is supposed to be sensual massage, message.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Supposed to be a message, and it wasn't going hard enough.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
No, he was like slapping the oil off. Sorry, how
do you get that wrong? Well naked, it was intimidated.
And so this is the thing when you say the
word intimacy and I do. One of the great things
about watching maps is you can see how different men
and women think and how that it can just go
(02:42):
so terribly wrong because you're not communicating effectively. So I
want to know from you guys.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
I'll go first because I can take care of this quick.
I just wet there's no time. That's sentence intimacy.
Speaker 4 (03:02):
Wow, does a candle boat?
Speaker 3 (03:05):
I mean, I'll tell, I mean, I'll tell my bit before.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
It's what happens. Yes, it is what happens.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
No, but we have, like you know, because of you know,
we've got Siena who's eight months today tomorrow and uh,
you know, it's we do have to lock in time.
That's like intimacy doesn't come naturally anymore. We have to go, hey, listen,
let's go to bed early tomorrow and have time. We
have got a little candle and things like that, so
we do have to have a little bit more ritualistic.
Speaker 4 (03:36):
How long is that candle last? A good couple of years,
the smallest candle, and it's just still so much left
in it.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Okay, so just let me clarified for you. Intimacy is
about the physical connection and the act and doing that together.
And is that what Naomi likes to that's her version
of intimacy.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
Well, what she's missed, she was telling me the other day.
And something that I'm trying to is in the morning
because we just don't have time because I'm out of
the bed for for either work or kids, and so
just every now and then, if no one's away, if
we're up and it's six o'clock and the kids aren't awake,
then just to cuddle. That's what she that's what she's
missing the most.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
I think I love you know that.
Speaker 4 (04:16):
Yes, Well I'm similar, like with the last part, So
like intimacy, it's I've always been awkward. I was always
an awkward person with all of it. Like just yeah,
I never was a you know, before Tea, I never
really liked the holding hands, kissing. I hate I just
I don't.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Know, justcause it makes you feel uncomfortable.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
Yeah, I was just a really awkward person. And then
having kids, you know, we obviously got everything was a
lot better. Like before the kids. Tea and I, you know,
she probably changed a lot with me with the intimacy
things and did she.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Just tell you what she needed?
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Yeah, just stuff she liked. I'd start doing it and
it became more natural. And then having kids, I guess, you know,
I probably stopped doing a lot of the things. You know,
and Teacans don't ever really ask for like small intimacy
things and you know, just to feel, you know, that
sort of stuff.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
So she likes the connection and she through things other than.
Speaker 4 (05:11):
Just saying in the bedle like small things like cuddles
and you know, just small intimacy things. And honestly, I
watched last night and it actually made me realize, like
I've been ship Like to be honest.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Really it's terrible.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
How are you going to do something different? You've got
Valentine's Day on Friday.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
Yeah, So it just like it honestly made me realize, like,
should I have been like really slack and you know,
not really showing much at all of what you know
Teagan likes and it's not a lot, but you know,
I just really haven't really put much evidence. So I
love it was it was weird. It was honestly weird
watching last night, Holy Ship.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
This is I'm like, wow, And so you are now
not just going to say that you're going to follow
it through.
Speaker 4 (05:55):
I want to, like, you know, because I you know,
I wish I realized it. I have realized it, but
I know really put much effort into your thought. You know,
I guess that I need to do more, have more
of an effort, or try more.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
So many people listening to this, honestly, this is the
moment that the light bulb goes off and says, I
can do better. Do it, do it, do it. You'll
be so much happier. And I want to report back
on how you did it.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
Take videos, whatever you need to do.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
We want to probably report Robin.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
I want to know who he's doing properly.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
No
Let's talk about maps, baby, Let's talk about trash tea,
Let's talk about all the good things and the bad
things marriage can.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Let's talk about maths. Okay, I'm just going to give
you a little hint as to what happened behind the
scenes here because I have worn these boys that we're
going to talk about intimacy, and they both started to
freak out. So we just played two songs and I said,
I need you to answer the question what does intimacy
mean to you? And then I left Yes. So whatever
(00:29):
unfolds over the next five minutes, I am so fascinated
to hear because I walk back in and Kip goes, no, Corey,
you tell as much of that as you feel comfortable with.
Comfortable that is where we are at this moment. Let
me bring you into context for maths. So last night,
(00:50):
sex expert Alessandro gave the brides a challenge as part.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Of Intimacy Week. I've set a brand new task, the
Ultimate Fantasy Innate, helping the brides of the experiment feel
empowered and show their partner what it is they desire
in a relationship in order to form a stronger connection.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
So let me say to you, that the brides took
a very different approach. So there was Marana who recreated
the Titanic painting scene, you know when Rose is sitting
on the on the bench and Jack paints her and
she's half naked, and that was that was very successful.
Speaker 3 (01:27):
That's cool.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Like a number of brides went lingerie shopping and then
went into sex shops to get toys.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
Did you watch any of that?
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Quary? And then there was Ree who recreated her wedding
dance because she didn't want it to just be about sex.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
I think my biggest takeaway from a workshop with Alessandra
is just a reminder that like intimacy isn't always just
about sex, It's about so many other things.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
And to make you boys feel better before we get
into this question for you is some of the grooms
were very intimidated and some of them really weren't sure
what was.
Speaker 4 (02:06):
Expected slow burner in these kinds of situations, and Sierra
is quite long.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
This is supposed to be sensual massage, message.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Supposed to be a message, and it wasn't going hard enough.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
No, he was like slapping the oil off. Sorry, how
do you get that wrong? Well naked, it was intimidated.
And so this is the thing when you say the
word intimacy and I do. One of the great things
about watching maps is you can see how different men
and women think and how that it can just go
(02:42):
so terribly wrong because you're not communicating effectively. So I
want to know from you guys.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
I'll go first because I can take care of this quick.
I just wet there's no time. That's sentence intimacy.
Speaker 4 (03:02):
Wow, does a candle boat?
Speaker 3 (03:05):
I mean, I'll tell, I mean, I'll tell my bit before.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
It's what happens. Yes, it is what happens.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
No, but we have, like you know, because of you know,
we've got Siena who's eight months today tomorrow and uh,
you know, it's we do have to lock in time.
That's like intimacy doesn't come naturally anymore. We have to go, hey, listen,
let's go to bed early tomorrow and have time. We
have got a little candle and things like that, so
we do have to have a little bit more ritualistic.
Speaker 4 (03:36):
How long is that candle last? A good couple of years,
the smallest candle, and it's just still so much left
in it.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Okay, so just let me clarified for you. Intimacy is
about the physical connection and the act and doing that together.
And is that what Naomi likes to that's her version
of intimacy.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
Well, what she's missed, she was telling me the other day.
And something that I'm trying to is in the morning
because we just don't have time because I'm out of
the bed for for either work or kids, and so
just every now and then, if no one's away, if
we're up and it's six o'clock and the kids aren't awake,
then just to cuddle. That's what she that's what she's
missing the most.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
I think I love you know that.
Speaker 4 (04:16):
Yes, Well I'm similar, like with the last part, So
like intimacy, it's I've always been awkward. I was always
an awkward person with all of it. Like just yeah,
I never was a you know, before Tea, I never
really liked the holding hands, kissing. I hate I just
I don't.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Know, justcause it makes you feel uncomfortable.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
Yeah, I was just a really awkward person. And then
having kids, you know, we obviously got everything was a
lot better. Like before the kids. Tea and I, you know,
she probably changed a lot with me with the intimacy
things and did she.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Just tell you what she needed?
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Yeah, just stuff she liked. I'd start doing it and
it became more natural. And then having kids, I guess, you know,
I probably stopped doing a lot of the things. You know,
and Teacans don't ever really ask for like small intimacy
things and you know, just to feel, you know, that
sort of stuff.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
So she likes the connection and she through things other than.
Speaker 4 (05:11):
Just saying in the bedle like small things like cuddles
and you know, just small intimacy things. And honestly, I
watched last night and it actually made me realize, like
I've been ship Like to be honest.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Really it's terrible.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
How are you going to do something different? You've got
Valentine's Day on Friday.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
Yeah, So it just like it honestly made me realize, like,
should I have been like really slack and you know,
not really showing much at all of what you know
Teagan likes and it's not a lot, but you know,
I just really haven't really put much evidence. So I
love it was it was weird. It was honestly weird
watching last night, Holy Ship.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
This is I'm like, wow, And so you are now
not just going to say that you're going to follow
it through.
Speaker 4 (05:55):
I want to, like, you know, because I you know,
I wish I realized it. I have realized it, but
I know really put much effort into your thought. You know,
I guess that I need to do more, have more
of an effort, or try more.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
So many people listening to this, honestly, this is the
moment that the light bulb goes off and says, I
can do better. Do it, do it, do it. You'll
be so much happier. And I want to report back
on how you did it.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
Take videos, whatever you need to do.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
We want to probably report Robin.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
I want to know who he's doing properly.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
No
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