Robin Opens Up About Her Expectations for Men in a Relationship

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
You're listening to the Robin and Kid podcast. I, as
you all know, I have found love and I'm so
happy in my life right now. And yes, thanks a
little bit to you, Kip Whiteman. I stopped, you know,
standing on my high horse and got back with my
boyfriend and we're having a great time together. But I
did do like eighteen months of online dating, and it

(00:21):
was brutal. And one of the things that I learned
is that a lot of men genuinely don't understand what
is expected of them when it comes to women. Because
I will proudly say that I love for a man
to take care of me, but that does not mean financially,
I make my own money and I don't need to

(00:43):
have a bloke take that sort of responsibility for me.
So I've always struggled to articulate exactly what taking care
of memes. Yes, and I've run this past a couple
of other single women, and we all agree that this
is perfect.

Speaker 2 (01:01):
Women. The one thing we cannot do for ourselves is
have a masculine safe home to land in. So providership
is often assumed as financial providership, and that's one way
that a man can provide sure but a lot of
women make their own money now, so it's like, well,
we don't really need your money. It's nice, it's nice
to have, but I can make my own as well.

(01:24):
But what I do need is for you to provide
me emotional safety. What I do need is to feel
like you're on my team. What I do need is
to feel your devotion and like that is providership. Like
to me, as the modern independent woman who makes my
own money, that's how my man can provide for me.
And if he can't do that, then I don't feel
a strong use for relationship in my life. But because

(01:47):
he can, I have a home in him.

Speaker 3 (01:53):
You know what I reckon. The thing that stood out
to me there was I need to feel like he's
on my team because that's one of the things that
i've sort of, I guess I've learned over the years
is that's what my partners really want from me is
for me to, particularly if they're complaining about someone or something,
to not sort of try and fix it, but just
to go, oh, yeah, that's yeah, that's you're right, they're wrong,

(02:14):
you know what I mean, just just be on their team.

Speaker 1 (02:17):
And it's interesting, as I now have three young men
who I am their go to often when they have
relationship issues, which I feel very privileged about. And also
I'm getting much better at articulating with Olivia and my boyfriend.
It's like, in this moment, I just need to tell
you that I'm feeling all these feelings and you don't
need to do anything about it other than listen. And

(02:38):
I've also learned in this that when I've said that,
and when I say to my boys, just say that
to their girlfriends and they follow through, it actually makes
everyone happy because you don't feel the responsibility of having
to make it better because it's a situation emotionally that
you don't know what to do. We actually do know
what to do, but we need to verbally process it

(02:58):
with the people who love us the most.

Speaker 3 (03:00):
It's a nice way to do it though, as well,
to give it the premise just to go, hey, just
so you know, yeah, I do that all the time.
I'm just going to talk now. You don't need to yeah.

Speaker 1 (03:07):
And to be good and the best thing you could
do is just hug me at the end and say
I understand, yeah, even if you don't.

Speaker 2 (03:15):
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