August 26, 2024 • 5 mins
"Plutonic parenting" is on the rise globally. It combines the concept of "platonic" relationships and parenting.
Is this the way forward for individuals who haven’t conceived in the traditional romantic setting?
Gabi presents the concept while discussing its perks and flaws.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Your podcast camera wrapped. Platonic parenting. Platonic parenting is a thing.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
It's a new thing. Platonic.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
What does that mean safe?
Speaker 2 (00:11):
A platonic relationship is like a friendship, so well he
have platonic relationships, yes, and a platonic.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
I think specifically, a platonic friendship is a non sexual relationship,
right right? What was the word? I was looking for intimate?
But you've got hard.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
I mean.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
I undersaid what it is.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
That's what it is. That's it. Gabbie's right with a
description of our relationship. Unless there's something I don't know
what's happening in this show.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Platonic parenting is a new thing where there's a lot
of people out there who are struggling to find the
perfect match, but they don't want to go through life
with our kids. So if there's like a match service
this is happening in the UK where you can get
matched with someone who you can platonically have a baby with,
So you'd go into a co parenting situation knowingly, and
(01:14):
it's actually kind of cool because they match you on
your values well values, and there's the silly things like
what you want your baby to look like, which I
think is neither here nor there. But your values, your morals,
your religion, your political views, all those things come into
play and they match you with another person and then
(01:35):
they say the most successful platonic relationships where people develop
trust and get to know each other over six months
before they move ahead with having a child together. And
then they advise you get a plan similar to what
divorced couples do with the co parenting relationship. Huh, where
you actually you put in writing that sits with the lawyers.
(01:59):
What you in vision will be the decisions in the
future for the children, what school they'll go to, where
you'll live, how you will divide custody, how you'll divide timely.
It's normally a long term plan of eighteen years of
what you see happening. So if there's any questions in future,
you can go back to the plan. And that's what
the judge would do if you were to go to court.
(02:19):
So like they try to tick off all the boxes.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
It's got so much going for it in that when
a lot of at a certain age, a lot of
people are looking more for the qualities in a romantic
partner that they want in a parent in a truth
not in a perod you're looking.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
For another parent.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
You're not looking for a relationship like a.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
You're looking for both. So I absolutely get you.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Were you remove the romantic partner, you go right, this
person ticks you know, all these boxes as far as right,
the go, the right colored eyes.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
Yep, they seem intelligent.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
They've got, you know, a degree in engineering, blah blah blah.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
And they agree that they'll go to this school.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
And yeah, but I just won that in relationships to succeed,
you need to go through.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
The hard times.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
But you're not going to be together.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
And this is a thing though, So when you are
together and you go through the hard times and that
makes you a more resilient couple, or it doesn't always
work out and you decide to separate, and intelligent people
will make sure the priorities of your kids are priority
number one and they work.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
As a team but a part.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
But then go on, look go into the family law
court and look at the other end of the scale,
look at.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
The worst case scenarios where people end up so.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Far ahead and the disdain for one another or by
one party to another overrides.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
The priority that should be the kids. I feel like.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Because you're not in a relationship together. It makes it
too easy to get to that point because you haven't
had to push through, because you haven't made that life
commitment to the other person.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
I don't know, I reckon it's harder to get to
that point. I think it's easier to get to get
to that point when you've been in a relationship with someone,
you've gone through the hard times, but then you're so
hurt by that person. The betrayal and the pain is
what causes you to then not put the child first
because you're so hurt by it. Do you know what
I have you even never had that, maybe you wouldn't
(04:12):
have that level of bitterness towards the other person.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
I guess I'm just saying doing the hard things can
only help you.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
You know, as far as having the ultimate success.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Is concerned, Well, the only other option is to get
an anonymous sperm donor if you are a female, or
or an anonymous egg donor and surrogate for the other.
But then you're not coparated do your single parenting.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
So there's no bloody solution in this financial crisis. Co
parenting the way forward, really, But.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
What is the point in having a parenting is hard enough,
right the last thing you do is to remove the
fun part from the process.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
With other people.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
But how are you going to de stress other people.
You're not with this person. I don't know you have
a relationship with this person. You could have relationships with
other people. It's a convenient when they're in the house.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
You still have somebody in the house. You've got a
babysitter every second weekend. Mate, Yeah, you got all the
free time. There is really no perfect scenario here. Good
brain storm everybody, however you're doing it. Take care of
those kids. It's still the old fashioned good luck. I
thought you're an old fashioned girl. Your podcast camera wrapped
Your podcast camera wrapped. Platonic parenting. Platonic parenting is a thing.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
It's a new thing. Platonic.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
What does that mean safe?
Speaker 2 (00:11):
A platonic relationship is like a friendship, so well he
have platonic relationships, yes, and a platonic.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
I think specifically, a platonic friendship is a non sexual relationship,
right right? What was the word? I was looking for intimate?
But you've got hard.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
I mean.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
I undersaid what it is.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
That's what it is. That's it. Gabbie's right with a
description of our relationship. Unless there's something I don't know
what's happening in this show.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Platonic parenting is a new thing where there's a lot
of people out there who are struggling to find the
perfect match, but they don't want to go through life
with our kids. So if there's like a match service
this is happening in the UK where you can get
matched with someone who you can platonically have a baby with,
So you'd go into a co parenting situation knowingly, and
(01:14):
it's actually kind of cool because they match you on
your values well values, and there's the silly things like
what you want your baby to look like, which I
think is neither here nor there. But your values, your morals,
your religion, your political views, all those things come into
play and they match you with another person and then
(01:35):
they say the most successful platonic relationships where people develop
trust and get to know each other over six months
before they move ahead with having a child together. And
then they advise you get a plan similar to what
divorced couples do with the co parenting relationship. Huh, where
you actually you put in writing that sits with the lawyers.
(01:59):
What you in vision will be the decisions in the
future for the children, what school they'll go to, where
you'll live, how you will divide custody, how you'll divide timely.
It's normally a long term plan of eighteen years of
what you see happening. So if there's any questions in future,
you can go back to the plan. And that's what
the judge would do if you were to go to court.
(02:19):
So like they try to tick off all the boxes.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
It's got so much going for it in that when
a lot of at a certain age, a lot of
people are looking more for the qualities in a romantic
partner that they want in a parent in a truth
not in a perod you're looking.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
For another parent.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
You're not looking for a relationship like a.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
You're looking for both. So I absolutely get you.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Were you remove the romantic partner, you go right, this
person ticks you know, all these boxes as far as right,
the go, the right colored eyes.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
Yep, they seem intelligent.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
They've got, you know, a degree in engineering, blah blah blah.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
And they agree that they'll go to this school.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
And yeah, but I just won that in relationships to succeed,
you need to go through.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
The hard times.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
But you're not going to be together.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
And this is a thing though, So when you are
together and you go through the hard times and that
makes you a more resilient couple, or it doesn't always
work out and you decide to separate, and intelligent people
will make sure the priorities of your kids are priority
number one and they work.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
As a team but a part.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
But then go on, look go into the family law
court and look at the other end of the scale,
look at.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
The worst case scenarios where people end up so.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Far ahead and the disdain for one another or by
one party to another overrides.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
The priority that should be the kids. I feel like.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Because you're not in a relationship together. It makes it
too easy to get to that point because you haven't
had to push through, because you haven't made that life
commitment to the other person.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
I don't know, I reckon it's harder to get to
that point. I think it's easier to get to get
to that point when you've been in a relationship with someone,
you've gone through the hard times, but then you're so
hurt by that person. The betrayal and the pain is
what causes you to then not put the child first
because you're so hurt by it. Do you know what
I have you even never had that, maybe you wouldn't
(04:12):
have that level of bitterness towards the other person.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
I guess I'm just saying doing the hard things can
only help you.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
You know, as far as having the ultimate success.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Is concerned, Well, the only other option is to get
an anonymous sperm donor if you are a female, or
or an anonymous egg donor and surrogate for the other.
But then you're not coparated do your single parenting.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
So there's no bloody solution in this financial crisis. Co
parenting the way forward, really, But.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
What is the point in having a parenting is hard enough,
right the last thing you do is to remove the
fun part from the process.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
With other people.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
But how are you going to de stress other people.
You're not with this person. I don't know you have
a relationship with this person. You could have relationships with
other people. It's a convenient when they're in the house.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
You still have somebody in the house. You've got a
babysitter every second weekend. Mate, Yeah, you got all the
free time. There is really no perfect scenario here. Good
brain storm everybody, however you're doing it. Take care of
those kids. It's still the old fashioned good luck. I
thought you're an old fashioned girl. Your podcast camera wrapped
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