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Speaker 1 (00:09):
iHeart podcasts. You can hear more Gold one I four
point three podcasts, playlist and listen live on the free
iHeart app Got anything good? Hey, this is the Christian
O'Connell show podcast. All right, So last writing on the
show was talking about these questions at my eighteen year
(00:31):
old daughter. She came about her home from university and
she had these three questions from me, and we spent
about two hours going over them, and one of them
was a great one is this one? But we haven't
done yet. What's something that someone told you that change
the trajectory, good word that of your life. You know,
someone can say something. Sometimes it might even be not intentionally.
(00:52):
You might overhear something or see something on TV and
some might say something in an interview, or someone just
gives you some advice and actually does actually all to
the path of your life. For me, when I was eighteen,
I was obsessed with getting into radio and I'd done
a college radio show and I had what was called
what you had to Put Together and You're still doing
it called a demo tape. This actually was a cassette
and it was like two minutes of your best bits
(01:15):
and one of the greatest days of my life. I've
got a letter on down a post in my local
radio station. I loved Power FM, fifty thousand volts of
music power across the South Coast, and I was assessed
with this radio station. I was like, that's what, that's
my dream job. It's a weird DJ for Power FM.
The letter said I'd been selected to come in from
an interview by the program controllers eighteen years wow. And
(01:38):
I had to go to my landline, the house, call
the receptionist and book an interview in a week's time.
Could barely sleeve for a week's time. Anyway, I go
in there and this lovely guy, Chris Carnegie, the reason
why I can still remember his full name, Chris Carnegie Carnage,
gave me some great advice. He said, look, you're eighteen.
I could put you on air right now, but you'd
(02:00):
have no life experience to talk about that. We got
people like you at the weekend and they're good, but
they're so boring. You are a storyteller, and I told
the store at the end of the demo, he said,
you need to go and live life to have the
stories and then come back in the radio. Don't get
into radio now will it will alter your how good
you can be because you need to go and do
(02:20):
go and do some dead end jobs, to go to
college and get drunk and then figure it out and
then get back into it. So I was gutted. It
meant basically he was saying, get out my office's many
years later, go and sweep some roads or something. Don't
get on the radio. But anyway, Chris Carnegie literally did.
I did go and do that, and I was the
(02:40):
better for it. You know. I went to university and
then graduated with a huge debt and worked in tellysales
and lots of various jobs for years, and it was
so much better for me when I did manage to
get my way back into radio. So yeah, it literally
change everything for me. Inadvertently he wasn't giving me what
he wants at the time, but actually sometimes in life
you think you're ready, but you're not ready, and it
(03:01):
wasn't what I needed. What I needed to hear was
go away and live life and then come back to it.
You'll be better for it.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
How many years was it between that and then seven?
Speaker 1 (03:10):
Seven? Wow? Seven? And also during that seven years, it
just felt impossible like that was the closest I'll ever
get to working in the radio station. And I remember
meeting my now wife and I was like, you know,
I want to work in radio. You know I'm working
sounds so much. She goes, what are you doing about it?
I went, She's no, one's going to knock on the
door the way you wait it is that they're going to
knock on the door begging you, begging your time, test
(03:32):
your time right out. She said, you've got to get
after it, and so she also altered the course of
it as well. Patsy, what's it for you?
Speaker 3 (03:38):
Yeah, it's funny. Mine's kind of similar in that what
sort of spurs you on can be what you really
don't want to hear. And mine throughout my life it's
happened probably four or five times, is when someone has
said to me you'll never do that, or you can't
do that, or girls don't do that. And that started
with my career's teacher at school who when I went
(04:00):
to him and said, I want to do this radio course.
I want to be a news reader, and they only
took like twelve across the country, right, and he's said, oh, yeah, no,
you're not going to get into that you know, you
need to do an arts degree. I said, I don't
want to do it.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
You agree, So we said that because you're a girl.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Yeah, he said, well you know girls, girls are on
the on the radio. And that just just lit a fire,
a massive inferno in my guts.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Thank god you took it that way though, and use
it as a fuel. Oh I had to. She could
have killed what would have been a great, great loss
to the industry.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
No, I wasn't going to listen to that. And whenever
one said, anyone says to me, you're not going to
do that or you can't do that, I somehow have
to prove them wrong. So I'll make it my mission
to actually not only do it, but do it doubly
as good. So thank you to him, because yeah, he
spurred me on, and I thought, well, I'm going to
show you because I know I can do it, and
(04:53):
I'm going to do it. So watch me do it.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
And I did, and you're still doing it, and I'm
still doing it. You hope to God that they're not
putting off women from entering radio now.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Surely not in this state now. I mean that's a
long time ago. That was like nearly forty years ago.
I'd like to think it's different.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Now, what do you go all she's allowed to have wisdom,
you know, four years on now there's men just saying
that she nothing changes.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
You will bow down, Yeah, you will.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
Listen. She didn't mention that guy's name because he's dead.
He is actually no, no, she buried him. She buried
him and all those others that doubted her. Now we
ain't seen you Monday, mate. You've had a good couple
of weeks.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
But it is over come to me in forty years
will I will?
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Yeah, then she'll have a chat with you. All right,
we're find out from Rio's next what's the answer to you? Then?
Someone who said she gave you some advice that actually
changed the path of your life? A Christian O'Connell show podcast, Rio,
what's a piece of advice someone gave to you that
changed the path of your life.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
I remember a very specific phase when I was probably
about fourteen or fifteen, And maybe this won't come as
a surprise to you, but it was a phase what
I was becoming increasingly arrogant, obnoxious, rude. I remember picking.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Five, she can't imagine you like, thank you God. I
remember think It's a phase we all go through, though,
isn't it. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
I remember at the dinner table, like deliberately picking arguments
with mum just to sort of, I don't know, just
to get a rise out of her, and just to
sort of, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
My daughters are still in that phase eighteen and twenty. Yeah, yeah, constantly,
constantly just picking fights or trying to sort of gold
me into flipping out.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Yes, yeah, just leading you into this beare baiting, yes, exactly.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Oh this is another thing men do. We're learning about
this university, paying for the university.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
And I remember at one point Mum saying I don't
like I don't like the person you're becoming at the moment,
but it's from your mum, and you don't take it seriously.
I had this English teacher I really admired, mister Stockbridge,
who i'd had in year seven nine and then eleven,
and I remember after class he just pulled me aside
and in a very Australian way, he just goes, you're
a smart kid, you don't need to be a wanker.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
Oh wow, And it.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Just coming from someone who you respect and isn't your parents.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
I remember it, but what a care attitude readjustment because
you could have said nothing, but what a great thing
to just cut through the bus and go, don't go
down this path. You're better than that. Yeah, did you
take it at that point?
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Yes, because it really sideswiped me and being from someone
that isn't your parents and someone you really you know,
out of that inner circle.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Yeah, I went, oh my am I? Am I a waker?
Speaker 2 (07:27):
And then I remember thinking, yeah, I'm a bit of
a waker?
Speaker 1 (07:30):
So did you change? Did you change? Then? Definitely?
Speaker 2 (07:32):
And it still kind of hangs with me now sometimes
think am I being a but on a.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Post it note by your computer? Gentleman? Now that work?
That's a great one. I love the answer. The Christian
O'Connell Show podcast
iHeart podcasts. You can hear more Gold one I four
point three podcasts, playlist and listen live on the free
iHeart app Got anything good? Hey, this is the Christian
O'Connell show podcast. All right, So last writing on the
show was talking about these questions at my eighteen year
(00:31):
old daughter. She came about her home from university and
she had these three questions from me, and we spent
about two hours going over them, and one of them
was a great one is this one? But we haven't
done yet. What's something that someone told you that change
the trajectory, good word that of your life. You know,
someone can say something. Sometimes it might even be not intentionally.
(00:52):
You might overhear something or see something on TV and
some might say something in an interview, or someone just
gives you some advice and actually does actually all to
the path of your life. For me, when I was eighteen,
I was obsessed with getting into radio and I'd done
a college radio show and I had what was called
what you had to Put Together and You're still doing
it called a demo tape. This actually was a cassette
and it was like two minutes of your best bits
(01:15):
and one of the greatest days of my life. I've
got a letter on down a post in my local
radio station. I loved Power FM, fifty thousand volts of
music power across the South Coast, and I was assessed
with this radio station. I was like, that's what, that's
my dream job. It's a weird DJ for Power FM.
The letter said I'd been selected to come in from
an interview by the program controllers eighteen years wow. And
(01:38):
I had to go to my landline, the house, call
the receptionist and book an interview in a week's time.
Could barely sleeve for a week's time. Anyway, I go
in there and this lovely guy, Chris Carnegie, the reason
why I can still remember his full name, Chris Carnegie Carnage,
gave me some great advice. He said, look, you're eighteen.
I could put you on air right now, but you'd
(02:00):
have no life experience to talk about that. We got
people like you at the weekend and they're good, but
they're so boring. You are a storyteller, and I told
the store at the end of the demo, he said,
you need to go and live life to have the
stories and then come back in the radio. Don't get
into radio now will it will alter your how good
you can be because you need to go and do
(02:20):
go and do some dead end jobs, to go to
college and get drunk and then figure it out and
then get back into it. So I was gutted. It
meant basically he was saying, get out my office's many
years later, go and sweep some roads or something. Don't
get on the radio. But anyway, Chris Carnegie literally did.
I did go and do that, and I was the
(02:40):
better for it. You know. I went to university and
then graduated with a huge debt and worked in tellysales
and lots of various jobs for years, and it was
so much better for me when I did manage to
get my way back into radio. So yeah, it literally
change everything for me. Inadvertently he wasn't giving me what
he wants at the time, but actually sometimes in life
you think you're ready, but you're not ready, and it
(03:01):
wasn't what I needed. What I needed to hear was
go away and live life and then come back to it.
You'll be better for it.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
How many years was it between that and then seven?
Speaker 1 (03:10):
Seven? Wow? Seven? And also during that seven years, it
just felt impossible like that was the closest I'll ever
get to working in the radio station. And I remember
meeting my now wife and I was like, you know,
I want to work in radio. You know I'm working
sounds so much. She goes, what are you doing about it?
I went, She's no, one's going to knock on the
door the way you wait it is that they're going to
knock on the door begging you, begging your time, test
(03:32):
your time right out. She said, you've got to get
after it, and so she also altered the course of
it as well. Patsy, what's it for you?
Speaker 3 (03:38):
Yeah, it's funny. Mine's kind of similar in that what
sort of spurs you on can be what you really
don't want to hear. And mine throughout my life it's
happened probably four or five times, is when someone has
said to me you'll never do that, or you can't
do that, or girls don't do that. And that started
with my career's teacher at school who when I went
(04:00):
to him and said, I want to do this radio course.
I want to be a news reader, and they only
took like twelve across the country, right, and he's said, oh, yeah, no,
you're not going to get into that you know, you
need to do an arts degree. I said, I don't
want to do it.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
You agree, So we said that because you're a girl.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Yeah, he said, well you know girls, girls are on
the on the radio. And that just just lit a fire,
a massive inferno in my guts.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Thank god you took it that way though, and use
it as a fuel. Oh I had to. She could
have killed what would have been a great, great loss
to the industry.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
No, I wasn't going to listen to that. And whenever
one said, anyone says to me, you're not going to
do that or you can't do that, I somehow have
to prove them wrong. So I'll make it my mission
to actually not only do it, but do it doubly
as good. So thank you to him, because yeah, he
spurred me on, and I thought, well, I'm going to
show you because I know I can do it, and
(04:53):
I'm going to do it. So watch me do it.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
And I did, and you're still doing it, and I'm
still doing it. You hope to God that they're not
putting off women from entering radio now.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Surely not in this state now. I mean that's a
long time ago. That was like nearly forty years ago.
I'd like to think it's different.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Now, what do you go all she's allowed to have wisdom,
you know, four years on now there's men just saying
that she nothing changes.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
You will bow down, Yeah, you will.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
Listen. She didn't mention that guy's name because he's dead.
He is actually no, no, she buried him. She buried
him and all those others that doubted her. Now we
ain't seen you Monday, mate. You've had a good couple
of weeks.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
But it is over come to me in forty years
will I will?
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Yeah, then she'll have a chat with you. All right,
we're find out from Rio's next what's the answer to you? Then?
Someone who said she gave you some advice that actually
changed the path of your life? A Christian O'Connell show podcast, Rio,
what's a piece of advice someone gave to you that
changed the path of your life.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
I remember a very specific phase when I was probably
about fourteen or fifteen, And maybe this won't come as
a surprise to you, but it was a phase what
I was becoming increasingly arrogant, obnoxious, rude. I remember picking.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Five, she can't imagine you like, thank you God. I
remember think It's a phase we all go through, though,
isn't it. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
I remember at the dinner table, like deliberately picking arguments
with mum just to sort of, I don't know, just
to get a rise out of her, and just to
sort of, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
My daughters are still in that phase eighteen and twenty. Yeah, yeah, constantly,
constantly just picking fights or trying to sort of gold
me into flipping out.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Yes, yeah, just leading you into this beare baiting, yes, exactly.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Oh this is another thing men do. We're learning about
this university, paying for the university.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
And I remember at one point Mum saying I don't
like I don't like the person you're becoming at the moment,
but it's from your mum, and you don't take it seriously.
I had this English teacher I really admired, mister Stockbridge,
who i'd had in year seven nine and then eleven,
and I remember after class he just pulled me aside
and in a very Australian way, he just goes, you're
a smart kid, you don't need to be a wanker.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
Oh wow, And it.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Just coming from someone who you respect and isn't your parents.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
I remember it, but what a care attitude readjustment because
you could have said nothing, but what a great thing
to just cut through the bus and go, don't go
down this path. You're better than that. Yeah, did you
take it at that point?
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Yes, because it really sideswiped me and being from someone
that isn't your parents and someone you really you know,
out of that inner circle.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Yeah, I went, oh my am I? Am I a waker?
Speaker 2 (07:27):
And then I remember thinking, yeah, I'm a bit of
a waker?
Speaker 1 (07:30):
So did you change? Did you change? Then? Definitely?
Speaker 2 (07:32):
And it still kind of hangs with me now sometimes
think am I being a but on a.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Post it note by your computer? Gentleman? Now that work?
That's a great one. I love the answer. The Christian
O'Connell Show podcast
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