ASK UNCUT: "How do I let my best friend know she won't be the godmother of my child?"

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Samantha joins this week to chat about the pact she made with her best friend - they were both going to be godparents to each other's children. Samantha's friend kept her side of the bargain, but now Samantha is pregnant and she thinks she'll have to break her promise. 

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Speaker 1 (00:10):
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Speaker 2 (00:17):
It is time for Ask Uncut. We do it every
week on our podcast, Life Uncut Podcast. We do it
every week here as well. You guys call up with
the biggest predicaments. We do our best to help you.
And we've got a caller Samantha today, that has a
problem that we have never experienced before. Laura, we have
never dealt with this Ask Guncut before in the history
of Life on Cut podcast.

Speaker 1 (00:38):
Samantha really tease that, welcome to the show.

Speaker 3 (00:43):
What's what's going on, guys, I'm so nervous. I've got
a bit of a best friend drama. So we made
this pact like forever ago, where we both agreed that
we would be the godparent to our unborn children at
this time.

Speaker 4 (01:02):
Okay, however, she's had a beautiful baby girl, and I
am the parent to that child. However, I've just announced
with my friends and family that I am now pregnant,
thank you. So I'm about four months or like sixteen

(01:23):
weeks and my husband is like really set on his
sister being the godparent.

Speaker 1 (01:33):
Can you not have two godparents? Like, do you want
your friend or do you not want your friend anymore?
Is that?

Speaker 3 (01:37):
Well, like there's like all this stuff to go with it,
Like his family is actually religious, so like a godparent
is like really serious. I guess I've just come to realize,
like it is a religious thing, Like apparently like this
person is supposed to teach my child about God.

Speaker 2 (01:55):
Yeah, I guess it's how you raise your child, like
if you're going to raise them, you know, in a
religious environment, and it's that serious to your husband and
your family. I still think you could probably have two
if you want. It's just that your friend end one
will just it's just saying to her, like, hey, you're
going to be the most important person, but do not
teach it anything. And then your husband's sister is going

(02:16):
to take the role really seriously because it I am
not religious, and I think the role has different things,
Like it's evolved. So when you're not religious, a godparent
just becomes that person that you're literally like you're the
person I trust to it, literally like look after them,
be there for them, help me with them, Like I'm
telling you you're so important to us. Whereas it does
have a different meaning if you're religious.

Speaker 1 (02:35):
I mean, with that factor, I do think you could
have a really honest conversation with your friend and be like,
I want it to be you. But when we made
these promises, I didn't expect that I was going to
be marrying into a family that took the religious side
of it really seriously, you know, and especially because like
the traditional role of a godparent is to like be
responsible for the religious and spiritual upbringing of that kid.

(02:57):
So I kind of feel like you can get out
of this one.

Speaker 3 (03:00):
I do have like this other worry about, like a
godparent something was to ever happen to you, I.

Speaker 1 (03:06):
Think it's possible for them to be the same to
people like as in, like, I think it's possible for
someone to choose a godparent and also be like, well,
if I passed away, I would want you to take
care of my kids. But that's absolutely not just the
expected norm, and legally that's not the norm you have
to if something happened to you and you didn't have
a will or whatever, your godparents don't have right of
claim just because they've got parents. So I think with

(03:29):
that in mind, do you want it, like, would you
want your friend to be the person to take care
of your kids, or would you want your husband's sister
to take care of your kids? Because that's a whole
different conversation as it is.

Speaker 3 (03:39):
Yeah, and that's like the conversation I guess with my
partner because that's like another thing in my head. I
think I would want them to go to the grandparents.

Speaker 2 (03:48):
Right, Well, you just put that in your will, you
just get Yeah, that's a whole different thing.

Speaker 1 (03:52):
Write a will, tell the grandparents and they get the kids.

Speaker 4 (03:55):
That's easy.

Speaker 3 (03:56):
Also. The other thing too, is like I don't know
whether it's a boy or a girl yet, so like
I think that would determine my choice as well.

Speaker 1 (04:05):
Why is that when they're both both your friends? One's
a girl and then the Auntie's a girl.

Speaker 3 (04:09):
Yes, but Auntie has boys?

Speaker 2 (04:11):
Got you?

Speaker 1 (04:12):
Got you?

Speaker 2 (04:15):
I mean this is very convoluted, so you're in a pickle,
and I think that only you.

Speaker 1 (04:18):
Are going to be able to sort this one out
for yourself.

Speaker 3 (04:20):
No, I really just like the idea that like telling
them both. I think, yeah, I'm keeping both camps happy.

Speaker 1 (04:27):
Also because if you're going to do godparents and there's
two of them, why does your husband get to pick both?
Does he get to pick his sister, and then also
pick a guy, like, surely you can just have two
godparents and they're both women.

Speaker 3 (04:37):
Maybe we like pull like a whole like feminist thing
on him.

Speaker 1 (04:41):
Good, I'm here for it.

Speaker 2 (04:42):
Feminist thing, yes, queen, you get that.

Speaker 1 (04:45):
Well, just for getting on here today, you have scored
yourself a pair of Sony's new earbuds and you get
to take a home. I know you can put them
in when you're birthing.

Speaker 3 (04:54):
Yeah, I'll listen to some meditation. I'm kind of nervous
about it all.

Speaker 1 (04:59):
All right, good luck. We're superstarke for your hope that
you figure out your your godparent dilemma. Thanks for calling, love,
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