ASK UNCUT: "My boyfriend's ex keeps paying to renew their Snapchat Streak... should I be worried?"

Every week, Britt & Laura take on your deepest, darkest dilemmas and unpack them (and HOPEFULLY come up with an answer for you). 

Sadie joins us to ask about a clingy ex who keeps paying to renew the Snapchat streak she had with Sadie's current boyfriend.  

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:10):
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Speaker 2 (00:17):
All right, it is time for ask on Cut now.
This is something we do every single week on our
podcast Life Uncut podcast is where you guys write in
and call up with your problems. We do our best
to answer them and we have a range of problems
like from the big, the dark, the heavy, to like
the light and funny. Today's one is about a clingy X.
We have Sadie on the line. Sadie, you're having a

(00:38):
problem with your partner's clinging X.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
Is that right?

Speaker 3 (00:41):
That's right. We're having an issue with a snapchat streak
that she doesn't want to let go of.

Speaker 2 (00:45):
So what's just to be clear, what's a snapchat streak?
It's like that you communicate x amount of days in
a row or something.

Speaker 3 (00:52):
Yeah, so when you send a photo to each other
each day, you then can get a number. So say
you've got number three, Well, then you've been snapchatting each
other for three days, gotcha?

Speaker 1 (01:00):
So how many days have they been snapchatting each other for?
And also how long ago did they break up? Probably
more importantly two years ago.

Speaker 3 (01:08):
And this streak was like six hundred and eighty days.

Speaker 1 (01:11):
Okay, but that doesn't make any sense. Have they been
just doing this the whole time that they've been broken
up they've still been snapchatting? Or is it a case
that they did it in the past and she's just
kept this streak alive. I don't understand how it works.

Speaker 3 (01:21):
I assume they've broken up, not how to streak, and
then restarted it when they kind of became friendly again.

Speaker 2 (01:27):
And this is.

Speaker 3 (01:27):
Your current partners and his ex yep, this is my
current partner's ex partner.

Speaker 1 (01:33):
This is so weird. Obviously you can't control what she does.
But have you talked to your boyfriend about it?

Speaker 3 (01:38):
What did he say? So, we've just moved into our
new home. We've moved out of the home they owned together,
and the general kind of idea was, once we move
out house is settled, where I'm just going to distance
myself kind of get rid of the streak, which he did,
and she decided to restore it, which I had no
idea he would do.

Speaker 2 (01:56):
So does that mean that he's also still engaging or
can it be one way?

Speaker 3 (02:00):
So?

Speaker 2 (02:00):
Is she just messaging him and he's not responding or
is he snapping back?

Speaker 3 (02:04):
So he wasn't replying to any of the snaps, and
when the streak has died, she's paid to restore the streak.
It's then diet for the second time, and then she's
again restored it again just with him not like him,
not snapschotting her, and she just keeps paying to restore it.

Speaker 1 (02:19):
You know what I mean. It sounds very weird, and
obviously she has something going on that she maybe hasn't
resolved or isn't over.

Speaker 2 (02:25):
But it doesn't like but it.

Speaker 1 (02:26):
Does sound like your partner's doing all the right things.
It sounds like he's not engaging, he's not replying, So
there is no way that you're going to be able
to control what she does.

Speaker 2 (02:34):
Yeah, but you can control him opening them like he does.
Just because she's sending them doesn't mean he has to
open them and have a look at them and have
that connection I.

Speaker 1 (02:41):
Opening them though, or is he just like this is weird?
What's he doing?

Speaker 3 (02:45):
I think he's opening them and then just leaving them.
But then she messaged both of us saying, you know,
wasn't fair, that that wasn't a conversation, had that he
wanted to delete the streak and stuff and that.

Speaker 2 (02:59):
You had me hookline and sinker for his convo. This
is she's she's crazy, she looks crazy. He needs to
block her.

Speaker 3 (03:05):
Is his repartner too, So I'm kind of like, how
would your partner feel it now?

Speaker 2 (03:10):
He needs to just block her, Like you can't be
holding onto your past like that, you've sold houses, moved on,
You're moving with new people like you are so far
moved on. If she's that unhinged that she's messed like,
it's almost embarrassing in childhood, like to message you and
be like, you should have told me if you wanted
to break our snapchat streak. That is the weirdest thing
I've ever heard on the show.

Speaker 3 (03:29):
I'm actually made both of us and kind of had
to dig at both of us saying that we're disrespectful
and you know, like I thought we were all friends
kind of thing. And it's kind of like, just leave
us alone, let us move on, like, you know, just
like let us be.

Speaker 1 (03:42):
I find this so confusing. I feel like everyone who's
listening to this now is gonna be like, what, I'm
too old for this. I don't understand it. I've never
had such Laura. Everyone's too old for this. This isn't
an age limit thing. She feels like really childish behavior.

Speaker 2 (03:55):
I would be telling him to. I mean, this is
up to him, and it's on him. He needs to
disengage from her, Like by opening them, he's encouraging it.

Speaker 1 (04:04):
Like whether he's respecting to see that he's seen it,
she knows it.

Speaker 2 (04:08):
It's a funnel to him. It's still that that connection
in this little, like secret, little tunnel that she's got
to him. It's the last form of connection he needs
to if he respects and values you. In my opinion,
he just needs to end that. Like he can block her,
he can unfriend her, he can do whatever. But like,
just so you know, it's weird.

Speaker 3 (04:27):
It's a control thing on her side of things, I think,
And I'm just like, you need to cut that last
Heather off.

Speaker 2 (04:32):
I mean, snapchat you kissing, Just get a snapchat back
if you guys like get engaged or something.

Speaker 1 (04:39):
Oh my god, let us know how it goes. But
I do think it's a pretty clear and easy one.
I do think that your partner has to take a
little bit of responsibility and make it very clear that
the streak is no more.

Speaker 3 (04:49):
No more streaks, no more streaks no more.

Speaker 2 (04:51):
Thanks Sadie, Thanks so much.