ASK UNCUT: "My ex keeps blocking and unblocking me, just to tell me he misses me?"

Every week, Britt & Laura take on your deepest, darkest dilemmas and unpack them (and HOPEFULLY come up with an answer for you). 

Tahlia joins us this week to chat about an ex who keeps blocking and unblocking her whenever he feels like, to tell her he misses her. Annoying. 

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Speaker 1 (00:08):
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Speaker 1 (00:22):
We do this every week on our podcast Life Uncut
podcast where we help you with your biggest problems. And
today we have Tylia on the phone, who's having a
bit of a problem with a lover or.

Speaker 2 (00:32):
An ex lover.

Speaker 1 (00:32):
Should I say Hi Tyler?

Speaker 2 (00:34):
Hi, Tyler?

Speaker 1 (00:35):
Hey, what's the situation?

Speaker 3 (00:38):
So my ex kids blocking me and unblocking me. The
last time I was in Bali on a girl trip
with my friends for my birthday. I've been blocked for
about nine months this time probably the longest stay. And
he unblocked me, sent me a message. We spoke for
two days. FaceTime said he missed me and worke up
blocked again?

Speaker 2 (00:58):
Who did not breaking up in this situation?

Speaker 3 (01:01):
He did, so he broke up with you, then he.

Speaker 2 (01:03):
Blocked you, and now he just unblocks you and reblocks
you and messages you sporadically. Yeah, just oh nice?

Speaker 1 (01:10):
Is your question like? Is this has this confused you?

Speaker 2 (01:13):
Now? Like?

Speaker 1 (01:13):
Does he like me?

Speaker 2 (01:14):
What do I do, like, what's what?

Speaker 1 (01:16):
How's it made you feel?

Speaker 3 (01:17):
Yeah, when we first broke up, it was a lot
of on and off blocking, back and forth.

Speaker 1 (01:22):
And then it's just nine months, so it's a lot ridiculous, you.

Speaker 3 (01:26):
Know, because just now that he came out of nowhere,
we spoke so nicely for two days, had a nice FaceTime,
and then I don't know what I did to get
blocked together, Kylie, you'd be doing it.

Speaker 2 (01:36):
Yeah, you did nothing to get blocked, and you have
done nothing to receive like the hot and cold back
and forth. It is so much more of a reflection
of where he's at, and that is like he's lonely,
he wants attention. It sounds like it's a validation thing
as well. Maybe and he probably knew you were in Bali.
He probably saw that you were having the time of
your life, so then he felt a little bit jealous. Though.

(01:58):
He'd reach out and then he was like oh no, no, no,
I'm good and then blocked again, Like you need to
if he messages you ignore him.

Speaker 3 (02:04):
Does he block you on?

Speaker 1 (02:05):
Like everything you blocked on Instagram?

Speaker 3 (02:06):
And fine, everything I'm blocked on.

Speaker 1 (02:08):
G I'm sorry that I'm not laughing at you. I'm
also not laughing with you, So okay, here's what you
need to do. It's purely a control attention thing, like
he has had the control from day one, since he
broke up with you. He controls if you have contact,
what you can see, when you can see it. I

(02:29):
would just block him so that the next time he
goes to contact you, he literally can't, and he will
be the controls taken away from him. He'll have such
a shock and like, you cannot waste another moment thinking
about this idiot. And I hope no matter what happens
in the future, you don't ever get back with him.
Me too, Like, I don't know if that's brutal, but no,
it's not brutal.

Speaker 2 (02:48):
I also think, like, I mean, even if he did
turn around in a month's time and was like I've
changed my mind and I love you again and I
want to be with you, do you really want to
be with someone who after nine months he has been
like hot and cold and blocking you and unblocking you
and like treating you in a disposable way, Like I
just I think that, I mean, I wouldn't be giving
it another chance, and I wouldn't be giving him the
opportunity to try and weasel his way back in again.

Speaker 3 (03:11):
Yeah, yeah, definitely only poor thing.

Speaker 1 (03:13):
But you're better than that. I even have to know
you to know you better than that.

Speaker 3 (03:16):
He's a weezy.

Speaker 2 (03:18):
We actually don't know this guy. He could actually be fine.
I have one question, though, why do you reply? Why? Like?
What is it about him? When he unblocks you and
messages you like? Why are you facetiming what's going on?

Speaker 3 (03:31):
I just got one of those ones that has a
bit of a hold over me.

Speaker 2 (03:34):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (03:34):
Everyone I've dated since just hasn't quite compared, unfortunately, and
I think because we had quite a messy breakup, hence
the Gmail blocking. I kind of just want to read
these good books again. I don't want him to think
I'm the crazy one.

Speaker 1 (03:48):
No, don't. I mean, I really hate this. I hate
that you're still thinking about it and trying to get back.

Speaker 2 (03:53):
In his book.

Speaker 1 (03:54):
You know.

Speaker 2 (03:54):
Now, I'm curious as to what you said on Gmail.

Speaker 3 (03:58):
A hundred messages?

Speaker 2 (03:59):
What abuse did you send him in like the absolute
depths of crazy.

Speaker 1 (04:04):
I'm assuming that he blocked you on Instagram and your phone,
so then you email correct, which is okay because there's
nothing worse than like really desperately wanting to get some
closure and you're not being able to get it, so like,
I'm on your side for that, but you need to
let dead dogs lie. You need to move on. He's
in your past and you need to find whatever else
is out there for you. It's not going to come

(04:25):
to you while you were hanging on to this twats.

Speaker 3 (04:30):
Nothing is crossed, blocked, uncrossed.

Speaker 2 (04:34):
Your fingers and go on blocking.

Speaker 3 (04:38):
Thanks Taarlia